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Time Doesn't Heal the Ache of Childlessness

IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

Release Date: 01/21/2025

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Episode Summary:
Many people believe that time will naturally heal the pain of being childless after infertility, but what if that isn’t true? In this episode of The 'So Now What?' Podcast, Lana dives into a powerful story shared by a woman in her 60s, who has spent decades hoping time would ease the ache of childlessness—only to find herself still struggling with the same feelings of disconnection and loss.

Through this heartfelt and thought-provoking conversation, Lana unpacks why the belief that "time heals all wounds" can keep you feeling stuck and disconnected from the life you deserve. She explains how our brains use defense mechanisms to protect us from disappointment but often hold us back from creating the lives we truly want.

Lana also shares her own pivotal moment of realizing that the life she was living wasn’t the one she wanted and how taking intentional steps—rather than waiting for time to heal her—changed everything.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why the idea that "time will heal" might not be enough to overcome the ache of childlessness.
  • How fear of disappointment keeps us stuck in a comfort zone that feels anything but comfortable.
  • The power of deciding to create the life you want, even when it looks nothing like the life you envisioned.
  • Real-life examples of women who moved from just "getting by" to thriving in their childless lives.

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Take the Next Step:
If you’ve been telling yourself that time will eventually heal your wounds but still feel stuck, it’s time to take action. Imagine feeling confident, joyful, and connected one year from now. The life you want is possible—if you’re ready to stop waiting and start creating it today.

Don’t let another year pass by without taking a step toward thriving. Listen to this episode and discover how to begin your journey toward a fulfilling, childless life.

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