ep. 76 - The Impact of Early Life on Love, Sex, Pleasure & Procreation
Release Date: 11/01/2023
The Preparation Gap: Why Birth and Parenthood Deserve More Than Wedding Planning with Nina Spears, The Baby Chick
Orgasmic Birth
Are you preparing for birth… or just planning a wedding-level event? In this powerful and eye-opening conversation, Debra Pascali-Bonaro is joined by Nina Spears, founder of Baby Chick, to explore why so many families spend hundreds of hours planning weddings—but only a fraction of that preparing for birth and postpartum. Together, they dive into what actually creates a positive, empowered, and even pleasurable birth experience—and why preparation, support, and informed choices are everything. Nina shares insights from supporting over 800 families and attending 350+ births,...
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From Conscious Conception to Natural Breech Birth with Pauline Goossens
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What if birth began long before labor ever started? In this powerful conversation, Pauline Goossen shares her conscious conception journey, the intentional preparation she and her partner made before pregnancy, and the deeply embodied birth of her breech baby. Together, Pauline and Debra explore cycle wisdom, tantra, oxytocin, privacy in labor, and the transformational power of surrender. Pauline describes pregnancy as a long luteal phase, and birth as something that is supported by the way we care for our hormones, our relationships, and our bodies over time. She also shares how her...
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Beyond Pain: Creating Safety and Trust for Ecstatic Birth
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In this episode of The Orgasmic Birth Podcast, Debra Pascali-Bonaro speaks with Joni Edelmann, a birth guide, educator, and former labor and delivery nurse who brings together science, sacredness, and decades of birth experience. Together, they explore how safety, nervous system regulation, privacy, and trust can create the conditions for ecstatic birth in any setting, including the hospital. Joni shares the story of her own births, including how her fifth birth became the first she experienced as truly not painful, but deeply intense, joyful, and transformative. She also reflects on how...
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The Creative Womb: Where birth, pleasure, loss, and healing become one story
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In this episode, Debra Pascali-Bonaro speaks with Josefina Schiller, a mother, singer, doula, translator, and host of Café Comparto Birth Café, about how birth, motherhood, sexuality, loss, and healing are deeply connected. Josefina shares two powerful home birth stories, including a 96-hour labor supported by her community in southern Spain, and reflects on how birth helped her heal ancestral and childhood wounds. Josefina also discusses the role of postpartum as a transformative period, how writing poetry became a creative outlet during mothering, and why she believes oxytocin, pleasure,...
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Pelvic Floor Health - Why Peeing (when you don't want to) after Birth Isn't Normal
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In this bold and deeply informative episode of the Orgasmic Birth Podcast, Debra Pascali-Bonaro sits down with pelvic floor expert Jana Danielson to challenge long-held myths about women’s bodies, postpartum healing, and pleasure. From incontinence to pain during sex to diminished orgasm, many women are told these experiences are “normal” after birth. Jana offers a powerful reframe: they may be common — but they are not normal, and they are not something women have to live with. Together, they explore how pelvic floor health is foundational not only for birth and recovery, but for...
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Maris Young on Reframing Birth into an Orgasmic Experience
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In this heartfelt episode, Debra Pascali-Bonaro welcomes author, mother, and doula Maris Young, whose third birth unfolded in the most surprising and beautiful way — as an orgasmic birth. After a breech birth with her second baby, Maris entered her third pregnancy with a clear intention: to reframe the sensations of birth and discover how pleasurable they could be. Through mindset work, daily practice, and integrating resources from Orgasmic Birth, Maris learned to welcome contractions as manifestations of her body’s divine power. Her story takes us from quiet, candlelit labor at...
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Deepening Intimacy, Partner Support, and Everyday Pleasure with Tarah Alexis
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In this heartfelt episode, Debra Pascali‑Bonaro sits down with birth doula and retired professional women’s football champion, Girl Scout, and chef, Tarah Alexis of Nurturing Embrace Doula Services. Tarah shares how a surprising C‑section birth, witnessing her niece and nephew arrive earthside, and a “divine appointment” with a pregnant stranger on a plane all led her to answer her calling as a doula. Together, Debra and Tarah explore how partners can move far beyond “just rubbing a back” to become active, loving participants in the birth journey. Tarah offers simple, powerful...
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Raising Shame‑Free, Pleasure‑Positive Children Begins at Birth with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
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What if preparing for birth could also prepare you for a lifetime of deeper intimacy, healing, and connection—for you and for your children? In this powerful conversation, Debra talks with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, internationally recognized sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, bestselling author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church and Shameless Parenting, and founder of Inanna Rising. Together, they explore how sexual shame shows up in pregnancy, birth, and postpartum, and how embracing pleasure can transform not just your birth, but your whole family’s story. Dr. Tina shares...
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Spicing Up Postpartum with Maranda Bower - Episode 177
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In this episode of Orgasmic Birth: The Podcast, Debra welcomes Maranda Bower, who shares her raw journey through postpartum depression, anxiety, autoimmune challenges, and triumph after four births. Maranda reveals how functional nutrition revolutionized her healing, turning depletion into energy, desire, and joy via her Postpartum Restoration Method—now training providers worldwide. Together, they unpack hormone-balancing foods, self-care rituals, and why postpartum meals foster community, pleasure, and deep emotional release. Key Takeaways: Postpartum depletion is normal—like pinkless...
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A Vibrator as a “Natural Epidural”? Thabata Devecchi on Pleasure, Intuition, and Birth Connection - Ep 176
Orgasmic Birth
In this enlightening episode of Orgasmic Birth: The Podcast, Debra meets Thabata Devecchi, a prenatal educator and founder of Feeling Moms, who shares her powerful home birth story and how pleasure practices helped her turn pain into power. Thabata reveals how self-pleasure, embodied movement, sound, and safety transformed her birth experience. She describes using a vibrator during labor to soften the peak of contractions — calling it her “natural epidural” — and shares how deep preparation, somatic awareness, and tantra shaped her pregnancy, birth, and sense of empowerment. Together,...
info_outlineDiscover the transformative power of pleasure in childbirth and parenting in this episode. Join host Debra Pascali Bonaro as she engages in a candid and enlightening conversation with Nicole Moore. Together, they explore how early life experiences can shape our perspectives on love, intimacy, and procreation, emphasizing that it's never too late to heal and rewrite our narratives. Nicole's journey, from embracing birth as a beautiful bounty to her profound work with the Birth Into Being Method, illustrates how cultivating pleasure can pave the way for an empowered pregnancy, birth, and postpartum experience, fostering a beautiful feedback loop with our children. Tune in now to gain insights on understanding your own imprints and finding the courage to assert yourself in this pivotal phase of life with Nicole Moore.
Nicole Moore is a Mother, gardener, performance artist, poet, and an outspoken, multi-passionate birth nerd. She has lived on and off-grid intentional community in the forest, by the sea, for the last 20 years, raising her kids and cultivating a deep trust in birth & life. Her mission is to help women and families know what is possible in birth, why it matters, and to help them access a blissful experience for themselves. (Along with all the associated gifts and side effects...) Nicole knows in her bones that birth can be beautiful because she is one of the ‘lucky’ ones who had incredible undisturbed birth experiences. She draws on these memories or imprints every day of her Mothering life.
Nicole's lived experience of birth as beautiful, bountiful, and full of potential as a doorway to healing - along with her 15 years of work with birth imprints (via the Birth Into Being Method) confirms her beliefs in birth as a tool of conscious evolution.
In This Episode:
- Nicole’s mission - helping women and families access a blissful experience for themselves
- Nicole draws on her own undisturbed birth experience to help others heal and create new imprints
- Birth Into Being Method - a set of processes and exercises to help understand yourself and clear inhibiting patterns from the past
- For pregnant women, it can help create an environment for birth with privacy and safety
- It also prepares for motherhood by teaching how to hold boundaries when needed
- Acknowledge what is there in your past that needs to be healed, looked at, or strengthened
- Pleasurable birth is an opportunity to optimize a baby's neurological capacity for pleasure through oxytocin exposure
- Nicole created an online course called Birth Into Being with Ease and Grace; she also has another online course called Rewrite Your Story
Key Takeaways:
- Birth is a tool for conscious evolution
- Learn to recognize old imprints and choose differently
- Make a change if your environment doesn't make you feel safe or comfortable
- We have the power to assert ourselves with family and hold boundaries around the care received
- Postpartum bliss is possible by reclaiming the need to prioritize yourself
- Birth is a doorway to healing, opening up the capacity for gifts for you and your family
Key Quotes:
"Birth is a doorway to healing, and it opens up the capacity for lots of gifts for you and your family." - Nicole Moore
“When a woman feels safe and trusting in her body, it has a really big impact on her birth outcomes.” - Nicole Moore
Connect with Nicole!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birthintobeing/
Website: https://birthintobeing.com.au/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BirthIntoBeing
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Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to Positively Prepare for birth and parenting
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