Healing Birth and Birthing Autonomy with Doulas and Community Care with Simone Toomer
Release Date: 08/06/2025
The Pleasure Shift: Motherhood, Intimacy, & Innovation with Theresa Lasbrey Peters, Bettina Zagoni, and Alejandra Lozano
Orgasmic Birth
"I wish they would be less afraid... Instead of having health care, we have health scare. The things that make the baby usually help the baby come out. And if you didn't make the baby that way, the things with someone you love during the process of having the baby can really bring you from a place of fright to a place of delight.." —Theresa Lasbrey Peters "Pleasurable birth is when we accept the pain, accept the hardship of birth, but we shift our focus to pleasure and joy and to the sacredness that we can experience." —Bettina Zagoni "These need to become like natural language— orgasmic...
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Reframing Risk, Reclaiming Joy with Sara Wickham
Orgasmic Birth
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From Trauma to Spiritual Rebirth: The Transformative Power of Pleasure with Zina Grace
Orgasmic Birth
Ep 164 Description: “The birthing process and the birthing journey is inherently a spiritual experience, and once we have divorced that spiritual aspect from child birthing, that’s when we run into a lot of issues.” —Zina Grace Sometimes, the weight of old wounds and silence around sexuality can make it seem impossible to reclaim our sense of power and connection. There’s a different way forward—one that honors our story and opens the door to healing. Zina Grace’s path weaves through deep personal loss, religious trauma, and a relentless search for meaning, leading...
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Yoni Owner’s Manual with Midwife Ibu Robin Lim
Orgasmic Birth
Ep 149 Description: “Women have the power to transform this world. If we really want to save our world and bring peace and prosperity, and harmony, we need to go the mother's way away from this male-dominated mode, which is not working. Let's save the world one orgasm at a time.” —Ibu Robin Lim Have you ever wondered about the untold stories hidden within the most intimate part of a woman's body? What secrets lie beneath the surface of our most misunderstood and often silenced anatomical landscape? The Yoni is more than just a physical space—it's a powerful narrative of...
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Second Time VBAC Mama— Self Pleasure Secrets with Tara Muckerheide
Orgasmic Birth
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Intuitive Between Worlds: Love and Orgasmic Birth with Magaly Buitrago
Orgasmic Birth
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Vibrators in Birth: How Pleasure Can Heal Your Childbirth Journey with Naoli Vinaver
Orgasmic Birth
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Breaking the Stigma: Pleasure in Childbirth
Orgasmic Birth
Ep 159 Description: The body knows sensations beyond suffering, and sometimes, liberation comes from the most unexpected tools. The is a waterproof, medical-grade silicone finger vibrator designed specifically to support comfort and pleasure during pregnancy and childbirth. Its innovative design offers five vibration settings, allowing individuals to explore pain relief and sensory empowerment during labor. Tune in as Debra explores how self-pleasure can reduce pain, boost oxytocin, enhance labor progress, support postpartum healing, and transform the birthing experience...
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Midwifing Pleasure: Holding Birth in Joy and Presence with Samara Ferrara
Orgasmic Birth
Ep 158 Description: “If something feels good and you are not harming anyone, keep doing it, because pleasure will give you health, as simple as that.” —Samara Ferrara Imagine for a moment that your body's capacity for pleasure is your greatest strength in birth. That every fear, every past pain, could be transformed into a source of profound power and release. This isn't a fantasy; it's an ancient wisdom rooted not in fear, but in profound joy, release, and presence. Samara Ferrara is a professional home birth midwife in Mexico who brings a blend of science, spirit, and sacred care...
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Ecstatic Hospital Birth with Augusta Sofija Lagauske
Orgasmic Birth
Birth Story Inspired by Podcast Ep 157 Description: "In birth, I should also trust myself more than I would trust the doctors or anybody else." —Augusta Sofija Lagauske What if birth could be powerful, calm, and even ecstatic—no matter what you’ve heard? If you’re tired of fear-based stories and want to believe in your body’s strength, this episode is for you. It’s time to rethink what’s possible in the hospital. Augusta Sofija Lagauske, a Lithuanian jeweler, shares how a tough pregnancy and a sea of doubts led her to trust her intuition and prepare for an empowering...
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"The more you stay curious, the more you grow and evolve, and that's going to bring you to your best self. So always stay curious." —Simone Toomer
Ever felt like the system doesn’t believe you know your own body—or your own birth? You prepare, you research, you show up ready to advocate for yourself… only to face doubt, resistance, and voices that try to speak louder than your own. This episode dives deep into how you can reclaim your power, lean on community, and birth on your own terms—even when the world pushes back.
Simone Toomer is a birth and postpartum doula, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, childbirth educator, sleep educator, and a fierce advocate for birthing autonomy. Drawing from her own experiences as a young Black mother navigating both hospital and home births, Simone brings raw honesty and lived wisdom to the conversation. Her work is rooted in community care, equity, and the belief that every birthing person has the right to be heard, supported, and fully informed.
Tune in to hear a candid, soul-stirring conversation about the sacred power of sister circles, the courage to challenge systemic barriers, and the beauty of birthing with confidence. Hit play now and discover what it means to heal in community, stay curious, and truly reclaim your body and birth.
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Episode Highlights:
03:03 Simone’s First Pregnancy and Birth
06:38 Navigating Resistance and Preparing for Labor
10:02 Postpartum and Becoming a Doula
14:37 Simone’s Second Pregnancy and Birth
23:26 Postpartum Anxiety
26:15 Reclaiming Birth and the Importance of Community
Connect with Simone:
Simone Toomer is a birth and postpartum doula, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), childbirth educator, sleep educator, and passionate advocate for birthing autonomy and community care. Drawing from her own experiences as a young Black mother navigating both hospital and home births, Simone empowers families with knowledge, confidence, and compassionate support. Her work centers on equity, healing, and the belief that every birthing person deserves to feel seen, heard, and fully supported throughout their journey.
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