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172: Desperately Seeking Whelm

SayTheThings's podcast

Release Date: 04/24/2025

173: Whelm Was Just the Beginning show art 173: Whelm Was Just the Beginning

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If you're the one who remembers every birthday, every school form, and every detail of everyone’s life—you might be over-functioning. In this episode, I’m getting real about the hidden emotional and mental load so many women carry, especially in midlife. I share how this pattern forms, why we cling to it, and the high cost it has on our health, relationships, and joy. If you're ready to stop drowning in invisible responsibilities and start reclaiming your energy, this episode is for you.

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172: Desperately Seeking Whelm show art 172: Desperately Seeking Whelm

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I’m asking a simple question today: when was the last time you felt plain, old “whelmed”—not over, not under, just steady? Growing up as latch‑key kids taught many of us that love was earned through being good, easy, and hyper‑capable, so we learned to outrun every need in the room. Now the hustle is our baseline, but it’s costing our sanity and stunting our kids’ growth. In this episode I trace how that survival strategy became a lifestyle and share the boundary‑setting, self‑check‑ins, and unapologetic rest I’m practicing to reset the dial to “enough.”

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171: Living on the Edge: Stress, Burnout, and Choosing Grace show art 171: Living on the Edge: Stress, Burnout, and Choosing Grace

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Have you noticed how quickly we snap these days — in traffic, in line, or over something as small as an umbrella at a track meet? In this episode, I unpack why so many of us feel constantly on edge, and how stress, overstimulation, and emotional burnout might be driving more of our reactions than we realize. I’ll share a recent confrontation that left my hands shaking — and the questions it raised about how we treat each other, and ourselves. If you’re craving a little more calm in your everyday life, this one’s for you.  

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170: Are You Really in a Rush? Choose Presence show art 170: Are You Really in a Rush? Choose Presence

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This episode is inspired by an encounter at a grocery store where I almost missed a meaninful connection because of my unconscious "habit of hurry," despite having no real time pressure. This experience led me to get curious about how many of us live in a constant state of rush, creating false urgency that affects us physically and emotionally while preventing us from fully experiencing moments that matter. I offer practical strategies to break this habit, including mindful pauses, questioning our rush instinct, and remembering that our inherent worth isn't tied to productivity or efficiency. ...

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169: Tame the Noise: Reclaim Emotional Peace show art 169: Tame the Noise: Reclaim Emotional Peace

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We are being emotionally manipulated by media and algorithms designed to keep us engaged through fear, outrage, and anxiety. I've discovered that my actual day-to-day life barely changes regardless of national politics. The 'news' we consume today isn't really news—it's opinions delivered by personalities who feel like friends but don't even know our names. In this episode, I share practical strategies to break free from this cycle of information addiction. Your real life is happening right here, not on screens or in national narratives.

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168: Say Goodbye to the Dreams That No Longer Serve You show art 168: Say Goodbye to the Dreams That No Longer Serve You

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In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of letting go of past dreams that no longer serve us. We explore those persistent inner soundtracks - the "shoulds" and negative self-talk that keep us trapped in an unlived life. I challenge you to pause, reflect, and say goodbye to the dreams and thoughts that are holding you back, making space for the joy and potential of who you are right now.

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167: Putting a Voice to Your Unlived Life show art 167: Putting a Voice to Your Unlived Life

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I missed last week's episode because I welcomed a foster puppy into our home, which unexpectedly gave me time to sit, read, and reflect on our "unlived lives" - those desires we've silenced for too long. During this forced pause, I realized how much of what remains unlived in our lives can remain dormant simply because we don't speak up about what truly matters to us. Honest conversations - even when they don't change external circumstances - transform us internally and help put us on the right trajectory toward living our full lives. This week, I challenge you to say just one thing you've...

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166: What's Your Relationship With Your UnLived Life show art 166: What's Your Relationship With Your UnLived Life

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Today we’re diving into something deeply personal—our unlived life. It’s not just about the big dreams we’ve abandoned; it’s the potential we’ve yet to step into, the hobbies we never explored, the desires we’ve been told were impractical. I’ve been there—living small, holding back, and thinking I needed absolute clarity before taking action. But what if action itself brings clarity? What if simply writing down a dream makes it 40% more likely to happen, and telling someone makes it 80% more likely? This episode is an invitation to stop waiting and start living. So, what’s...

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165: What's Your Relationship With Boundaries show art 165: What's Your Relationship With Boundaries

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Boundaries are essential for a healthy life, yet they can be challenging to set and enforce. In this episode, I share a personal story about navigating boundaries with my teenage son and the emotional weight of following through on consequences. We also explore how boundaries go beyond just saying no—they protect our time, energy, and well-being. If even Wonder Woman had limits, why do we expect ourselves to do it all? Let’s rethink boundaries, not as walls, but as bridges to a healthier, more intentional life.

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164: What's Your Relationship With Energy show art 164: What's Your Relationship With Energy

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Are you wearing metaphorical “big red shoes,” pushing yourself into roles and routines that don’t actually serve you? In this episode of Say the Things, we explore our relationship with energy—how we use it, how we waste it, and how we can align with our natural rhythms instead of forcing ourselves into schedules that don’t fit. From mental and emotional energy to physical stamina, I challenge you to become a curious observer of when you feel your best and when you’re just pushing through. Maybe the real wisdom isn’t in doing more—it’s in honoring your own rhythm.

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I’m asking a simple question today: when was the last time you felt plain, old “whelmed”—not over, not under, just steady? Growing up as latch‑key kids taught many of us that love was earned through being good, easy, and hyper‑capable, so we learned to outrun every need in the room. Now the hustle is our baseline, but it’s costing our sanity and stunting our kids’ growth. In this episode I trace how that survival strategy became a lifestyle and share the boundary‑setting, self‑check‑ins, and unapologetic rest I’m practicing to reset the dial to “enough.”

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