loader from loading.io

EP 18: Is Gentle Parenting Making Our Kids Soft? and Would You End a 20-Year Friendship Over a Man?

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Release Date: 02/24/2025

EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags show art EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Hey y’all, it’s Carla! My birthday’s coming up, and let’s just say I’ve been in my feelings. In this episode I shared how I’ve been mourning parts of my younger self and wishing I could go back and change a few things. Dex reminded me that aging isn’t just loss — it’s also growth and new beginnings, and honestly, I needed to hear that. We also unpacked a wild episode of Dear Future Wifey where a pastor’s wife said she used to iron her man’s clothes so he could go see his side chick. Yes, you read that right. She said it was her calling from God to support him — and...

info_outline EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness? show art EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Hey friend, it’s Dex, and we’re back with another episode of So What Now? — where the convos are deep, the laughs are loud, and the side-eyes are always earned. This week, we kicked things off with a little life catch-up. I ran a Hyrox race (yes, me — running, sweating, questioning my life choices), while Carla was out here being the hostess with the mostess for Easter. Deviled eggs were served, auntie gossip was flowing — it was fabulous.  Then we got into that trending Traci Ellis Ross interview. Traci said, “I grieve the things that I thought would be and that are not.”...

info_outline EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds show art EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Hey friends, it’s Carla and this week’s episode of So What Now was a whole mix of “wait, what?” and “absolutely not.” We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And listen
 her response didn’t move me. At all. I said what I said, and I still feel the same way. Then we got into this Florida city trying to roll out a 4-day school week, which sounds cool until you realize... parents still work 5. So who’s watching the kids on that fifth day? Make it make sense. Policies like this just make parenting even...

info_outline EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla’s in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes! show art EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla’s in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

We made it to 25 episodes, y’all! Our little podcast baby is all grown up, and to celebrate, Carla and I decided to do something fun (and slightly chaotic): 25 questions to help you get to know us on a whole new level. No rules, barely any filters—just vibes, hot takes, and some lowkey oversharing. Carla went in on cancel culture, mental health, and the whole open relationship thing 👀. I opened up about monogamy, childhood stuff, and a few things I’ve been too scared to try (yet). It’s been a wild ride getting here, and whether you’ve been with us from day one or just hopped...

info_outline EP 24: The Parenting Debate EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Hey Friend!  Quick update: Carla’s allergies are finally under control, and I’m feeling better too—my back’s on the mend, so no more grandpa groans when I bend over. Small wins, y’all.  Now, onto the episode. We dive into a topic that’s real for any of us with kids who split time between two homes—should children have their own bedroom at the non-custodial parent’s house? Carla, with her money grows on trees mentality, thinks it’s a must. Like, we all have the luxury of giving each kid their own room, right? But I’m out here saying, a kid can still feel welcome...

info_outline EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can’t Win show art EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can’t Win

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Hey Friend! First of all, let me just say Ozempic had me in a chokehold, and for what? We kicked off this episode talking about the shortcuts we’ve tried on the road to health and how most of them left us worse off than when we started. And yes, I fully admit I was out here thinking a shot would do what discipline and patience are supposed to. đŸ˜© Meanwhile, Ruthie’s out here running half marathons like a champ, and our pastor had the nerve to call us out mid-sermon about our lifestyle choices. Rude but also accurate. Then we slid right into mom territory because whew, the judgment...

info_outline EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies? show art EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

First of all, we are old. Like, what is happening?! My allergies are out here fighting for their life, and Dex’s back is giving up on her. If y’all have any remedies for allergies that don’t involve me living in a bubble, let me know because I am struggling.   But let’s get into it—this week, we had a very heated debate over Ayesha Howard and Anthony Howard. Listen, I just have questions—like, is it okay to still be making major mistakes at 38 when choosing who to have a baby with? Because at some point, shouldn’t we be making better decisions? Meanwhile, Dex is over here...

info_outline EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious show art EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Alright y’all, this week’s episode is a rollercoaster. First up, Carla has big feelings about Casey Anthony’s latest rebrand as a legal advocate. Yea, you read that right. And let’s just say, she has some thoughts. Then, we get into Gayle King going to space with Jeff Bezos’ wife. Carla thinks it’s cool. Me? Absolutely not. Why are rich people so obsessed with space? It’s not like you can actually get out and explore. Somebody make it make sense. And speaking of nonsense, Omarion is out here saying he doesn’t take women on dates—he takes them on gatherings. You know I’m...

info_outline EP20: Why You’re Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS show art EP20: Why You’re Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Ooooh, friend, buckle up ‘cause this episode is packed with Aha! moments and truths that'll hit you straight in the chest. We had our second-ever guest, the fabulous Coach Netra, a lifestyle and nutrition coach who’s all about women’s health. And you KNOW we had a ton of questions for her. Now, who remembers when we could hit the gym for just a week in our 20s and come out snatched? Yeah, baby
 those days are long gone. I’m over here tryna figure out why I crave chocolate around my cycle, and Carla’s out here wondering if it’s okay to keep breaking her water fast with a 7-Eleven...

info_outline EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild show art EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Hey Friend! Its me, ! Whew, this episode was a ride! is officially a Cowboy Carter ticket holder (Beyhive, stand up!), and I’ve been auditing my top five closest people—we’ll see who makes it and who’s getting cut real quick. Our Woman of the Week is the one and only Joy Reid—because duh, she’s amazing and I really want her to win. And shameless plug, I’d LOVE to work with her!!! Meanwhile, Dex, who was supposed to be focused on creating this episodes outline, went down a whole Neyo rabbit hole (thank you, Shaderoom), and now we’re deep-diving into polyamory, parenting, and...

info_outline
 
More Episodes

In this episode of So What Now, hosts Carla and Dex dive into a thought-provoking discussion on parenting. They explore whether "gentle parenting" methods are truly benefiting children or inadvertently preventing them from learning valuable life lessons. Reflecting on their own upbringings, they share how their experiences with discipline and independence shaped their views. The conversation shifts gears as they unpack the evolution of "girl code." Carla and Dex examine whether the rules of girl code change as we get older. Would you end a 20 year friendship over a man? The fun escalates as they play a rapid-fire round of girl code questions, bringing plenty of laughs and hilarious moments. Tune in for an insightful, yet light-hearted, look at modern parenting and friendship dynamics!

 

CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

CARLA WILMARIS | DEX

đŸ“±INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/

đŸ“±TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/

 

Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show.
⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page
⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars
⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most

Your support keeps this going—and we read every word.

Our Sponsors
This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and Idea to Launch Productions.
Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen.

Ready to Start Your Podcast?
Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days.
→ Take the course now
→ Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support

Need Advice? Want to Sound Off?
Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to:
📧 [email protected]

We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.