EP 18: Is Gentle Parenting Making Our Kids Soft? and Would You End a 20-Year Friendship Over a Man?
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Release Date: 02/24/2025
EP 40: Multitasking, Mess, and a Little Mayhem
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This week on So What Now, we unpack a viral TikTok that challenges the usual checklist for choosing a partner. Sure, faith, finances, and fitness are greatâbut what about the ability to suffer well? Life will get messy, and having someone who doesnât fall apart in the chaos might just be the most underrated trait of all. Dex keeps it real and admits sheâs not built for bedside caregivingâsheâll cut the check, but donât look for soup and soft words. And if she ever becomes the one in need? Her motto is simple: just take her out! Things take a turn when we discuss the woman who found...
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EP 39: Cakes, Confessions, and Coldplay Chaos
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Whewâyâall, weâre back! After dodging studio bookings like TSA lines, we finally made it back to High Hello Labs, and babyyy... weâve got a lot to catch up on. Dex is officially 41 (but giving 25), and Carla shares how TSA Cares and Psalmâs amazing therapy team helped him prep for his big NYC takeover. đȘđŸ Weâre talking legacyâbut not the money kindâgetting older (and finer), and how one Coldplay kiss cam moment exposed way more than expected. đ Oh, and yes, we go there: abortion debates, Shannon Sharpeâs hush-hush settlement, and what happens when a CEO gets caught...
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EP 38: Hot Takes, Bali Dreams, and Petty Truths
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey Besties Weâre back! and itâs giving unfiltered chaos (per usual). đ This weekâs episode is straight from the living room while Carla gets her hair done and Dex debates washing hers (itâs been 16 days, send help). The kids are in the background, the vibes are real, and the convos? Whew. Weâre talking: The Bali Challenge: Carla told Dex if she posts 31 Reels in August, sheâs going to Bali for free. Now sheâs on the gram like her life depends on it. Plastic surgery for men?! Abs, arms, hairlines, do what you want⊠just donât tell us about it. Do you really tell your...
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EP 37: Are You Too Comfortable? Hereâs What That Could Be Telling You
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey Bestie, Weâre back! Listen⊠jetlag and schedule conflics are real. This weekâs episode is a catch-up at the house. I just got back from Bali, had a full-blown spiritual awakening (yes, there were tears in the ocean), and maybe met the love of my life⊠but he said heâs not coming back to America soooo thatâs that. đ Dex has been going through it too. When it rains, it pours, okay? She took a little break from social because the doom scroll had her in a chokehold. She opens up about that, plus her quick lilâ Miami trip where she gave out her number⊠but did anything come...
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EP 36: Fasting, Ghosting & Pardoning â Just Another Week in America
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
On this juicy episode of So What Now, Carla kicks things off by sharing her prep for Bali â a water fast that helped her shed six pounds (and gain three right back đ ). Still, sheâs feeling herself and ready for the beach! Meanwhile, Dex crowns the Woman of the Week: a queen who ghosted her man right after he handed her a winning lotto ticket. City girls up by a million đ đŸđž Then itâs a hard pivot to politics as we unpack Trumpâs headline-grabbing pardons, including Todd & Julie Chrisley (fraud squad!), NBA YoungBoy, Kodak Black, and Lil Wayne. Carla shares what her...
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EP 35: Voicenote Devotionals, Selfie Request and The Last Straw
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Whew! Yâall⊠Iâm out here trying to date and let me just say: itâs terrible. This week I went on two dates â yes, two. One man is ready for a monogamous relationship immediately⊠and has absolutely no friends (red flag?). The other sends me unsolicited prayer voice notes every single morning and follows up with "send me a pic" all day long. Iâm exhausted, and itâs only Monday. đ Meanwhile, Dex is convinced the internet is for girls only â specifically saying men should not be in The Shade Room comments. Honestly? I donât disagree. Go build a house or something, sir. We...
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EP 34: Body Language, Dating Games & Big Beautiful Bills
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Alright yâall, in this weekâs episode we got real about body language in datingâyes, sis, that closed-off vibe might be why no oneâs stepping to you! A new study says most women think we look approachable, but we really out here serving âdonât talk to meâ energy. I put some of those body language tips to the test and letâs just say... results were mixed. Meanwhile, Carla is back in these dating streets and using ChatGPT to help cut through all the awkward small talk on Hinge and honestly, itâs working! youâll have to hear it to believe it. What are yaâll thoughts on...
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EP 33: Single Mom to CEO: Jena Mehlberg on Faith and Raising Boys
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey friendsâCarla here! This week on So What Now?, Dex and I sat down with the fierce and inspiring Jena Mehlbergâentrepreneur, mama, survivor, and all-around powerhouse in the beauty world. Jena took us on a real ride through some of the toughest chapters of her lifeâbecoming a single mom in her teens, losing a parent, navigating an emotionally abusive relationship, and the ups and downs of running her own business. And yâall, the way she speaks about resilience and faith? You feel it in your bones. She talks about the importance of existing outside yourself and not letting isolation...
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EP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably Problematic
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This weekâs episode of So What Now gets into some pretty spicy and controversial territoryâso letâs jump right in. We started things off light: I came across a study that says spending money on your best friend can actually boost your mental health. So Carla, just knowâIâm always here to support your wellness journey⊠especially if it includes buying me lunch. #SelfCare đ Carla let us know a few of her exes are trying to âspin the block,â and baby, she is not impressed. That got us thinking: would you ever take an ex back? Carlaâs a maybe, but for me? All mine are married...
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EP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real Issue
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Friend, this week was juicy and necessary. First off, I gave yâall some homeworkâyes, homework. Go listen to Atomic Habits and please, if you're struggling with your mental health, talk to a therapist. We love healing over here. Dex gave us all the feels with her recap of her Cowboy Carter trip with her daughterâbonding, BeyoncĂ©, boots and Black girl joy. In our Womanhood segment, we had to touch on B. Simone getting dragged again. This time itâs âcause she wore coochie cutters in church. The internet lost its mind. But letâs be realâwhy is she catching heat when sheâs...
info_outlineIn this episode of So What Now, hosts Carla and Dex dive into a thought-provoking discussion on parenting. They explore whether "gentle parenting" methods are truly benefiting children or inadvertently preventing them from learning valuable life lessons. Reflecting on their own upbringings, they share how their experiences with discipline and independence shaped their views. The conversation shifts gears as they unpack the evolution of "girl code." Carla and Dex examine whether the rules of girl code change as we get older. Would you end a 20 year friendship over a man? The fun escalates as they play a rapid-fire round of girl code questions, bringing plenty of laughs and hilarious moments. Tune in for an insightful, yet light-hearted, look at modern parenting and friendship dynamics!
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