Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: Insights from the Purple Book
Release Date: 06/04/2024
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Listen to this Episode If You:
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🌟 Want to understand the different forms of post-separation abuse.
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❓ Are looking for strategies to document and address ongoing abuse.
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📚 Need insights into the "Purple Book" and its application.
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💡 Seek education on navigating the legal system while dealing with post-separation abuse.
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🛡 Are supporting someone through their journey of post-separation abuse.
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📝 Want to learn about tools and resources available for documenting abuse.
Key Ideas in this Episode:
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📘 Introduction to the "Purple Book" and its significance.
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🔄 Overview of the post-separation power and control wheel.
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🛡 Undermining parental abilities and its impact.
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🗣 Addressing harassment and intimidation tactics.
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📉 Strategies for dealing with false accusations and discrediting as a parent.
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💵 Withholding financial support as economic abuse.
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🚸 Impact of endangering and disregarding children.
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👩👧 Disrupting the mother-child relationship and emotional manipulation.
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👊 Recognizing and addressing physical and other violence.
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📝 Importance of documenting abuse and using tools like the ARC app.
Resources mentioned in this episode
Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode:
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyfive (The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.)
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https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode135 (Unfair accusations in custody battles)
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https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode412 (Navigating Parental Trash Talk in Divorce)
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
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TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode.
Emergency Contacts:
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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