Mediation or Manipulation: How to Handle Divorce Mediation When Settlement Isn’t their Goal
Release Date: 11/26/2024
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info_outlineMediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health.
Whether it’s property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead.
If you’ve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
Listen to This Episode If You:
🌟 Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session.
❓ Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation.
💡 Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible.
🛡 Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation.
📚 Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
The Purpose of Mediation:
Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best.
Manipulative Tactics to Watch For:
Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation.
Strategies During Mediation:
Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps.
Post-Mediation Steps:
Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached.
Common Pitfalls:
“Don’t be surprised if” scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands.
Emotional Management:
How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things don’t go as planned.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place.
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Episodes Mentioned in this
8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=tDmJwHO3ch-uYhTg
Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=k7G6OfpMwPP1Hqgg
Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=54omWq46LHn_Eb6R
Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=BgdkYJrQTeokTlSK
Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 https://youtu.be/JSYc-yun-jM?si=VCefzLZb-ie-f1m9
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce
02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce
03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type
06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect
10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation
20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation
25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation
26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks
28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes
30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics
36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation
38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation
43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources
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