Telling Your Story: Putting your Coercive Control Experiences in Writing
Release Date: 07/29/2024
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info_outlineAre you struggling to document and present your experiences of coercive control or family violence in your paperwork or to your lawyer, mediator , police, court or counsellor? Feel like you have to KEEP telling your story and you wish there was a better way?
Whether you're preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with your lawyer, effectively communicating these experiences is crucial for your case.
In this episode, we cover simple ways to lay out your coercive control or family violence experiences in an easy to read and use format.
Lyn provides practical strategies to ensure your story is heard and understood, aligning your documentation with the Family Law Act, and presenting your case compellingly.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to This Episode If You:
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🌟 Are experiencing coercive control and need to document it for legal purposes.
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âť“ Want to understand how the Family Law Act defines and addresses coercive control.
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đź’ˇ Seek strategies for making your lived experiences clear and impactful in legal documents.
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🛡 Are preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with a lawyer.
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đź“š Need guidance on creating a comprehensive and organised record of coercive control incidents.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
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Understanding Coercive Control: What it is and how it impacts family law cases.
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Family Law Act Section 4AB: Definition of family violence and examples of coercive control.
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Documentation Strategies: Tips for documenting coercive control effectively.
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Using Legal Language: How to align your documentation with the Family Law Act.
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Creating Impactful Narratives: Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.
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Organising Evidence: Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence.
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Frequency and Patterns: Highlighting the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.
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Presenting in Mediation and Court: How to convey your case effectively in different legal settings.
Family Law Act Discussed
Episodes Mentioned that you can learn more about
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2
Here are the key highlights and important parts of the episode with timestamps:
[0:00] - Introduction
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Laura and Lynette introduce the topic of documenting coercive control for legal purposes.
[2:15] - Understanding Coercive Control
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Definition of coercive control and its impact on family law cases.
[5:30] - Family Law Act Section 4AB
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Explanation of how the Family Law Act defines coercive control and family violence.
[10:05] - Importance of Documentation
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Why documenting coercive control is crucial for your case.
[12:45] - Documentation Strategies
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Tips for effectively documenting instances of coercive control.
[15:20] - Using Legal Language
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How to align your documentation with the terminology in the Family Law Act.
[18:40] - Creating Impactful Narratives
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Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.
[22:00] - Organising Evidence
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Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence in a clear and organized manner.
[25:35] - Highlighting Frequency and Patterns
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Importance of demonstrating the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.
[29:10] - Presenting in Mediation and Court
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How to effectively communicate your case in different legal settings, including mediation and court.
[33:50] - Real-Life Examples
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Examples of how to document coercive control incidents and their impact.
[38:00] - Seeking Professional Help
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When and how to seek professional help from lawyers and other experts.
[41:30] - Resources and Further Reading
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Mention of relevant episodes and resources to assist listeners further.
[45:00] - Conclusion
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Laura and Lynette wrap up the episode with final thoughts and encouragement.
Emergency Contacts:
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.