246 Healing Attachment Wounds: Navigating Tough Conversations with Love
Release Date: 06/04/2024
Unapologetically Sensitive
No Room for In-Between: Literal Thinking and Communication Ruptures In this raw and honest episode, Patricia (she/her) shares her ongoing challenges with neurodivergent miscommunication, community rupture, and the emotional toll of being misunderstood. From neighborhood conflicts to horse training lessons, from cancel culture to navigating friendships and travel as an autistic person, Patricia opens up about the messy, contradictory realities of life, belonging, and growth. Listeners will walk away feeling less alone in their struggles with relationships, self-advocacy, and embracing both...
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The Push-Pull of ADHD and Autism: Stretching Without Breaking In this candid conversation, Patricia Young (she/her) and B Lourenco (she/her) dive deep into the realities of living with ADHD, autism, and other forms of neurodivergence. They explore the push-pull between self-accommodation and stretching ourselves, how shame and internalized ableism impact daily life, and what it means to create realistic support systems at home, in relationships, and in the workplace. Expect raw honesty, relatable stories, and practical insights for navigating neurodivergent life. WHAT YOU’LL HEAR IN THIS...
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Rupture without Repair, and the Discomfort of Being Misunderstood In this deeply personal episode, Patricia (she/her) unpacks the fallout from a neighborhood rupture and the painful loss of community connection. Through the lens of being autistic and AuDHD, she explores rejection sensitivity, communication breakdowns, friendship trauma, and why repair isn’t always possible. She also shares how co-regulation, body doubling, Costco runs, and fierce family love provide grounding. This conversation is raw, tender, and validating for anyone who has struggled with being misunderstood...
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When ADHD Wants Adventure and Autism Just Wants a Nap Patricia (she/her) explores what it means to show up authentically as a neurodivergent person—especially when navigating the tension between wanting novelty (hello ADHD/AuDHD brains!) and craving sameness (thank you autism). She shares candid stories about celebrating her anniversary, managing low energy, social interactions, and dealing with conflict. Patricia also opens up about balancing autistic traits, ADHD novelty-seeking, PDA (persistent drive for autonomy), and honoring her sensitivity. If you’re autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, or...
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When the Dogs Stop Saying Hi: The Human Need for Connection and Belonging Patricia (she/her) explores the complexities of community, being perceived, and the challenges of navigating relationships amidst misunderstandings and cancel culture. She shares personal experiences of rupture and repair within her community, reflecting on the emotional impact of feeling excluded and the importance of acknowledging one's behavior in relationships. Patricia also highlights the simultaneous beauty of connections and celebrations, even amidst challenges, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and...
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Disempowered to Empowered: Meltdowns, Boundaries & Donuts In this heartfelt episode, Patricia (she/her) shares three powerful personal stories that highlight the challenges—and wins—that come with being a sensitive, creative, neurodivergent human. From navigating family dynamics around living arrangements, to reclaiming power after a disempowering volunteer experience, and even exploring the emotional depth behind a simple craving for an apple fritter, Patricia offers an intimate and validating glimpse into what it's like to be an AuDHDer who feels things deeply—and still...
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Friendship, Boundaries, and Other Olympic Sports for Autistic Brains Patricia gets real about friendship challenges, navigating communication mismatches, and how OCD and autistic wiring can shape our relationship expectations. She shares a behind-the-scenes peek into her new podcast project, the insecurities that surfaced while collaborating with her co-host, and how unexpected moments of validation reminded her that what she brings to the table is more than enough. HIGHLIGHTS · Patricia plans to release the podcast bi-monthly to...
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Breaking Down Internalized Ableism Summary In this conversation, Patricia explores the concept of internalized ableism, particularly among neurodivergent individuals. She discusses how societal stigma and expectations can lead to negative self-perceptions and feelings of inadequacy. Patricia shares personal experiences and insights on how internalized ableism manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, self-acceptance, and the pressure to conform to neurotypical standards. She emphasizes the importance of unlearning these hurtful beliefs and embracing one's...
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Some Challenges in Neurodivergent Communication Summary In this episode, Patricia discusses the challenges faced by AuDHDers and other neurodivergent individuals in communication, particularly regarding lack of responding to messages. She explores the concept of internalized ableism and how it affects self-perception and interactions. Patricia shares personal experiences and insights on the importance of flexibility in relationships and the need for authenticity in communication. The conversation emphasizes the struggles of neurodivergent individuals, including executive functioning...
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Coping and Prepatory Strategies for Overstimulating Situations Summary In this episode, Patricia discusses her experiences with content creation, coping strategies for overstimulation, and managing sensory sensitivities during significant life events like weddings. She shares insights on emotional preparation, adjusting to changes in family dynamics, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance to prevent burnout. Throughout the conversation, she emphasizes the importance of self-care, embracing imperfection, and recognizing the rights of individuals to rest and be themselves....
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Patricia discusses her ongoing work on attachment wounds and her recent conversation with her mother about her childhood. She emphasizes the privilege of being able to have these conversations and acknowledges that not everyone has that opportunity. Patricia also explores expectations in her relationship with Jen, highlighting the challenges of navigating attachment injuries. She shares an email from a listener expressing gratitude for her vulnerability and relatability. Patricia concludes by affirming the importance of honoring all of your feelings.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Having conversations about attachment wounds with a parent or caregiver can be a healing and transformative experience, but it is a privilege that not everyone has.
· The healing work can still happen even if you can’t do it with the person where the injuries originally happened.
· The majority of healing work is done individually, with support from coaches or therapists, and having conversations with a parent or caregiver is just a small part of the process.
· Navigating attachment and expectations in relationships can be challenging, especially for individuals with attachment injuries. It is important to communicate and share feelings with your partner (when it is safe and appropriate) to create understanding and connection.
· Sharing vulnerability and authenticity can have a profound impact on others, as it helps them feel seen, heard, and less alone in their own struggles.
· Embracing sensitivity and honoring all of our feelings, even the challenging ones, is an important part of self-care and self-acceptance.
Additional Concepts Covered
- Embracing Vulnerability: Acknowledging and exploring emotional openness in healing.
- Cultivating Empathy: Nurturing understanding and compassion in relationships.
- Navigating Childhood Wounds: Understanding the impact of past experiences on present emotions.
- Honoring Neurodiversity: Recognizing and respecting diverse cognitive perspectives.
- Fostering Emotional Resilience: Building strength in facing emotional challenges.
- Celebrating Individual Differences: Valuing unique ways of processing emotions.
- Promoting Self-Care Practices: Encouraging personalized well-being routines.
- Empowering Neurodiverse Voices: Amplifying diverse narratives in healing conversations.
- Building Emotional Intelligence: Developing awareness and regulation of emotions.
- Creating Safe Spaces: Establishing supportive environments for emotional expression.
- Exploring Trauma Healing: Engaging in the process of emotional recovery and growth.
- Supporting Coping Strategies: Assisting in developing effective ways to manage emotions.
- Advocating for Inclusivity: Promoting acceptance and understanding in emotional discussions.
- Navigating Complex Emotions: Understanding and processing intricate feelings.
- Respecting Personal Boundaries: Honoring individual needs and comfort levels.
- Amplifying Diverse Narratives: Elevating a range of experiences in emotional healing.
- Encouraging Self-Reflection: Promoting introspection and self-awareness.
- Embracing Neurodivergent Perspectives: Valuing unique viewpoints in emotional discussions.
- Promoting Emotional Wellness: Supporting holistic well-being in emotional journeys.
- Championing Self-Acceptance: Encouraging self-love and validation in emotional growth
Sound Bites
"I'm always touched and inspired by your authenticity and depth."
"I'm having feelings. Let's look at the feelings. What is the reality and do the work that I need to do."
"You have a right to all your feelings. You have a right to be loud. You have a right to be intense. You have a right to take up space."
Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction
00:00 Introduction and Update
02:00 The Healing Work and Reparenting Process
08:03 Challenges and Vulnerability in Conversations
14:06 Self-Care and Managing Attachment Injuries
29:01 Managing Change and Uncertainty
37:48 Gratitude for Vulnerability and Embracing Sensitivity
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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