270 Boring Means Stable: Learning to Love Ordinary Days

Boring Means Stable: Learning to Love Ordinary Days

In this honest, meandering, and heart-centered solo episode, Patricia Young (she/her) opens up about feeling “not enough,” while navigating overwhelm, managing PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. From decluttering and kayaking to the quiet comfort of boring days and the challenges of social invitations, Patricia invites listeners into the gentle, nonlinear process of living authentically as an AuDHDer. With humor and tenderness, she explores aging, family connection, holidays, and what it means to find peace amid imperfection.

WHAT YOU’LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

· ·  Warm check-in and reflection on recording after a long pause.

·  Questioning whether to focus on educational autism content vs. personal lived experiences.

·  Feeling conflicted about being “self-centered” but recognizing that stories are teaching.

·  Update on absence of neighborhood drama and emotional regulation progress.

·  Learning to accept being perceived and misunderstood without spiraling into shame.

·  The liberating philosophy of the “We Do Not Care Club” — embracing authenticity and dropping people-pleasing.

·  Honest reflections on living in a chronic state of “not enoughness.”

·  Managing overwhelm, task initiation struggles, and executive dysfunction.

·  The surprising victory of small tasks — like finally writing and depositing a check.

·  Adjusting OCD medication and rediscovering emotional depth and aliveness.

·  The tension between stability, boredom, and gratitude.

·  Recognizing that neurotypical spaces often feel flat or alienating, while “your people” bring out your voice.

·  The resistance around novelty and social invitations, even for enjoyable experiences.

·  The humor and vulnerability of sharing internal dialogue with accepting friends.

·  ADHD-fueled hobby cycles, clutter, and the emotional complexity of decluttering as an ND person.

·  Reflections on attachment to objects, trauma, and “don’t touch my stuff” energy.

·  Navigating change, potential regret, and the push-pull between freedom and familiarity.

·  Anticipating the kids moving in—balancing excitement, companionship, and uncertainty.

·  Thoughts on the holidays, overstimulation, and why Thanksgiving feels grounding and joyful.

·  PDA flare-ups, avoidance of even beneficial demands, and compassion for executive fatigue.

SOUND BITES

·  “I’ve really been in this era of not enough. Whatever I do just doesn’t feel like enough.”

·  “People are going to have their own thoughts and judgments about us — and we can’t control that.”

·  “I’m just trying to appreciate boring days, because boring means stable.”

·  “Even when it’s something that will help me, if it feels like a demand, my brain just says no.”

·  “You are not for everybody, and everyone is not for you.”

SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT’S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED

You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren’t built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are.

TOPICS COVERED (please adjust for addition of introduction)

00:00 Navigating Personal Updates and Autism Awareness

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

Patricia’s website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

LINKS 

We Do Not Care Club

IG-justbeingmelani

www.wedonotcareclub.com

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