Ep 186: The “Let Them” Theory... But Make It Shadow Work
Release Date: 02/17/2025
Ep 206: Why Fantasizing Your Way Through Dating is F*cking You Over
Unf*ck Your Relationships
So…I did the thing. I am officially back on the dating apps. That’s right, my loves—I’m back in the dating trenches. All the things you’re going through? I’m going through them right along with you. (I figured if I'm releasing a program about dating, it's only fair that I do it alongside you, right?) But as long as I’m here, I’m going to talk about some of the reasons why you might not be having much success with dating. First and foremost, the fact that you’ll go on one date with a man and come home already planning the wedding. It’s great to be excited when you meet...
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Ep 205: 5 Signs YOU are the Red Flag
Unf*ck Your Relationships
If you’re racking your brain trying to figure out why you can’t seem to find “the one” for you…sit down a sec. I think I might’ve solved it. So. Your relationships keep failing. You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men. You can’t find someone willing to commit. You can’t track down a secure man. Your dating woes seem to have no fucking end. Now, hear me out on this one… It sounds to me like YOU’RE the fucking problem. No, think about it—what’s the common denominator in all these relationships? Different men, different circumstances, all with the same outcome, and...
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Ep 204: Secure as F*ck: 5 Dating Don'ts Secure Women NEVER Do
Unf*ck Your Relationships
At the very beginning of this year, I went through a pretty devastating breakup. It’s been nearly seven months now, and I haven’t dated at all since then. Not just because I wasn’t going to jump right on the apps after such a difficult breakup—a girl’s gotta process, after all—but because I just didn’t have a desire to date. Now, that’s starting to change. I can feel myself on the verge of being ready to date again…which is super exciting. But it also has me thinking a lot about the way a secure woman approaches dating compared to the way insecure women approach dating, and...
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Ep 203: Behold, a Man! - A Conversation with Somatic Practitioner Jack Bohannan
Unf*ck Your Relationships
Unf*ck Your Relationship may be for the girlies (mostly) but this one? This one’s for the boys. Okay, real talk, this podcast is for everyone. (Love you all, proud of you for being here, XOXO.) But today, we are going to be having some guy talk…because we have an actual guy on the podcast. That’s right: the elusive man has appeared on Unf*ck Your Relationships. Everyone please welcome Jack Bohannan! Jack is a certified somatica relationship coach who combines the experiential approach of somatica with elements of the Ideal Parent Figure, or IPF, protocol by Daniel Brown, which is a...
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Ep 202: Wrestling for Control: A Discussion With "The Experience" Member Kellie Irene
Unf*ck Your Relationships
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again, I’ll say it every fucking time I have a guest on the podcast: I am so fucking excited to introduce you all to one of my beautiful clients, Kellie Irene! Kellie has done Awakening Her, The Experience, and my retreats, so she’s been in my world for a while. She absolutely embodies main character energy. She’s bold, courageous, vivacious…I love being around her, and I have to bring her magic into this space so you all can experience it, too. But Kellie didn’t start out this confident. And this is one of the most f*cking impressive “how it...
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Ep 201: Why You Feel Like You’re Too Much and Not Enough — At the Same Time
Unf*ck Your Relationships
“I’m too needy. I ask for too much. I’m too emotional.” “I’m not strong enough. I’m not confident enough. I’m not cruisy enough.” Too much AND not enough…all at the same time? Yes, it is possible…and no, you’re not the only one. I see this shit every day in my work. Women who feel simultaneously like they are too much, too needy, too difficult, while also feeling like they aren’t enough to be chosen and cherished. That pendulum swing? It’s no fucking joke—and until you figure out how to regulate it, you’re going to keep swinging until you’re so dizzy you...
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Ep 200: Truth or Trigger: Celebrating 200 Episodes of UFYR by Answering YOUR Relationship Questions!
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I can’t believe I’m about to say this (well, I actually can) but… WELCOME TO THE 200TH EPISODE OF UNF*CK YOUR RELATIONSHIPS! Fuuuck, has this been a JOURNEY. Most podcasts don’t even break double digits, let alone triple, let alone hit fucking 200. Can I just take a second to brag on myself? Way to go, Michelle. I’m so proud of you. And I’m proud of YOU, my loves; every single one of you that has shown up wanting to do the work. Wanting to learn. Wanting to reconnect to yourself and to others. I see you. I’m so fucking proud of you for being here. You’ve given me the gift of my...
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Ep 199: Embodiment is Essential. Here's Why
Unf*ck Your Relationships
So. Let’s review. You’re a high-achieving, self-aware woman. You’ve clocked your patterns and traced them back to their cause. You’ve been in therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve done breathwork, meditation, EFT tapping, all the things… And you haven’t made any real fucking progress. Why? Why have you done all the things, but aren’t getting “better?” Because mindset work isn’t enough. Because awareness without embodiment is just you doing mental cartwheels AROUND your trauma, not actually integrating it. Let’s talk about how to fix...
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Ep 198: Sweet Surrender: A Conversation with Embodiment Coach Chené O'Brien
Unf*ck Your Relationships
When I tell you this particular guest of mine is one of the most joyous, radiant, embodied women that I know…I hope you know that I fucking mean it. And I’m not just saying it because she’s my client. Meet Chené O’Brien: a client of mine, an embodiment coach, and the owner of the hottest f*cking accent ever. Chené’s healing journey started from a place of constant self-abandonment…but she clocked that pattern, embraced the pieces of herself that kept trying to throw her needs to the curb, and is now out here helping others connect to their own embodied wisdom. Her story brought...
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Ep 197: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships (and What to Do About It)
Unf*ck Your Relationships
It all happens so fast. One minute you’re living your best life. You’re hitting the gym. You’re journaling. You’re doing your embodiment practices. You’re going out with your friends. You’re going on solo dates. You have hobbies that you love… And then you meet someone. It is astonishing how QUICKLY I’ve seen women go from their glow-up era to “Wait, did I say the right thing? Did I mess up? Oh, he wants to hang out Friday—I’d better cancel my plans. Did that come across as too needy? Was I too much? What if he—” GIRL. TAKE A BREATH. Even when you’re a self-aware...
info_outlineHere’s what to do if you feel someone pulling away from you. Ready?
Let them.
I’m serious as f*ck. If someone starts to pull away from you, if someone wants to break up, if someone refuses to meet your standards, if someone won’t pick their shit up off the floor even when you’ve asked a hundred times…
Just let them.
The “Let Them” theory, coined by Mel Robbins, is literally that simple. People are going to do what they’re going to do whether you try to change it or not…so just let them. You’ll be amazed how much weight lifts off your shoulders.
However, as amazing as this framework is, I think there’s a piece missing—and that piece is shadow work.
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