THE MEN'S SELF HELP PODCAST

The Men’s Self-Help Podcast offers practical guidance for men navigating anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, stress, relationships, emotional health, and personal growth. Hosted by Dr. John Moore, a licensed psychotherapist and men’s mental health specialist, each episode explores real-life challenges in a straightforward, relatable, and easy-to-understand way. Using solution-focused strategies and insights from psychology, the podcast helps men—and the people who care about them—better understand their emotions, change unhelpful patterns, build confidence, and move forward with greater purpose. Whether you are struggling with overthinking, people-pleasing, boundaries, motivation, body image, loneliness, or major life changes, you will find practical ideas that can help you create meaningful and change.

Stop Musterbating Everywhere! 07/27/2026

Stop Musterbating Everywhere! Do you constantly tell yourself you should be doing better, that you must have everything figured out, or that life ought to be different? In this episode of The Men’s Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the psychology of musterbation, a concept developed by psychologist Albert Ellis and central to Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). You’ll discover how rigid self-talk can quietly fuel anxiety, guilt, anger, shame, and emotional exhaustion—and learn a practical three-step approach for challenging those destructive internal rules. You’ll also hear from Matt, a listener who isn’t sure he’s ready to marry the woman he’s been dating. Dr. John discusses the difference between outside pressure and genuine readiness, why unresolved conflict deserves attention, and how premarital counseling can help couples make one of life’s biggest decisions with greater clarity. Whether you’re struggling with perfectionism, relationships, or impossible expectations, this episode offers practical tools you can begin using today. Sponsor Today’s episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Head to to get 10% off your first month with our sponsor, BetterHelp. Therapy can be a meaningful space to reflect, grow, and create positive change in your life. Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. ABC Model for REBT Worksheet (Therapist Aid) Example Premarital Program Learn what couples typically discuss during a structured premarital counseling program, including communication, conflict resolution, finances, intimacy, family expectations, and future planning. Before You Say “I Do” by H. Norman Wright and Wes Roberts Have a Question for the Podcast? Have a question you’d like me to answer on a future episode? Send it through the Guy Counseling contact form: If your question is selected, identifying details may be changed to protect your privacy, and it may be read using a synthesized voice. Support the Show – Buy Me a Coffee! If you’re enjoying The Men’s Self-Help Podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can buy me a coffee here: Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for individualized support. Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy. /episode/index/show/guycounselingradio/id/42228900

There's Something in the Nothing 07/24/2026

There's Something in the Nothing Have you ever finally gotten a chance to relax—only to discover that you can’t handle the quiet? In Episode 47 of The Men’s Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores why stillness can feel strangely uncomfortable in a world filled with notifications, headlines, endless scrolling, and constant demands for our attention. Drawing from a personal experience in Puerto Rico, Dr. John explains how repeated stimulation can leave the nervous system stuck on alert. Even when nothing is wrong, the brain may interpret quiet as unfamiliar—and therefore suspicious. You’ll learn why the amygdala acts like a smoke alarm that sometimes struggles to distinguish a real emergency from everyday “burnt toast.” You’ll also hear about the brain’s default mode network and the important work that may occur when you stop actively doing and allow your mind to settle. The episode also explores what contemplative traditions have understood for centuries: stillness is not empty. It can create room for memories to organize, emotions to surface, ideas to connect, and clarity to emerge. Dr. John concludes with one simple challenge: place your phone in another room and spend five minutes sitting in the nothing. When the restlessness appears, don’t treat it as failure. Treat it as the repetition that helps teach your nervous system that quiet can be safe. Today’s sponsor This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. BetterHelp offers online access to licensed therapists with experience in areas such as anxiety, depression, relationships, career concerns, and other challenges. Learn more and get started at: This is an affiliate link. The Men’s Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation when listeners use it. Recommended book As an Amazon Associate, Guy Counseling may earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you. Related Reading When nothing clearly dangerous is happening, anxiety can still make uncertainty feel like a threat. Calm Anxiety explains and how avoidance, reassurance-seeking, and threat prediction can reinforce that response. From Calm Anxiety Clinic. Want to help support the show? Buy Me a coffee! Important disclaimer The Men’s Self-Help Podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for psychotherapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Dr. John Moore is not acting as your personal therapist through this podcast. Please speak with a licensed healthcare professional if you are experiencing concerns about your mental or physical health. Production note: Audio production assistance provided by Joel Oliver. Episode artwork generated with Adobe Firefly. Transition sounds provided royalty-free by Pixabay. This episode blends live-recorded audio with Dr. John Moore's own authorized voice model. /episode/index/show/guycounselingradio/id/42208150

How to Build a Morning Routine That Actually Works 07/18/2026

How to Build a Morning Routine That Actually Works Ever notice how some mornings seem to set the tone for your entire day? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores what makes a healthy morning routine actually work—and why you don't need an elaborate, social media-worthy ritual to start your day on the right foot. You'll learn why your morning routine should focus on four essential goals: waking up your body, settling your nervous system, activating your mind, and directing your attention. Along the way, John shares practical ideas you can begin using immediately, whether you have an hour, thirty minutes, or just fifteen. You'll also hear why perfection isn't the goal, how to create a routine you'll actually stick with, and what to do when life inevitably throws your schedule off track. If you've been looking for a simple, realistic approach to building better mornings, this episode offers practical strategies grounded in psychology—not hype. In this episode you'll learn: Why most morning routines fail The four jobs every healthy morning routine should accomplish How to calm your nervous system before the day begins The difference between productive habits and performative routines How to create a morning routine you can actually maintain If you enjoyed this episode, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who could use a better start to their day. Resources Mentioned Looking for a signature scent? Check out Dr. Moore's guide to . Looking for Mental Health Counseling? Check out Affiliate disclosure: The BetterHelp link above is an affiliate link. If you sign up through it, Guy Counseling may receive a commission at no additional cost to you. Production note: Audio production assistance provided by Joel Oliver. Episode artwork generated with Adobe Firefly. Transition sounds provided royalty-free by Pixabay. This episode blends live-recorded audio with Dr. John Moore's own voice model. /episode/index/show/guycounselingradio/id/42139420