Finding Your Purpose: A Guide to Building Confidence đ§
Release Date: 11/03/2026
Finding Your Purpose: A Guide to Building Confidence đ§
THE MEN'S SELF HELP PODCAST
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info_outlineDiscover how to find your purpose and improve your mental health in this personal episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. Dr. John shares a story from his life that highlights the struggles of building confidence and overcoming anxiety. Starting with losing a job at 25 to life lessons from childhood at Glenwood, this episode offers emotional wellness guidance and self improvement tips to help men thrive
See the Glenwood Creed mentioned in the show here.
Along the way, you'll hear about purpose, self-worth, delayed gratification, Choice Theory, the voices we carry from our past, and what it means to build a life of significance and worth.
You'll also hear from Dustin, a 28-year-old listener who has started wondering whether his relationship with alcohol may be becoming a problem. Dr. John talks about some of the early signs worth paying attention to and why you don't need to wait for your life to fall apart before asking for help.
The question running through all of it is simple:
What are you striving for â and is it taking you toward the man you want to become?
In This Episode
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How old messages about ourselves can follow us into adulthood
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Why success and purpose aren't necessarily the same thing
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The psychology of striving
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William Glasser's Choice Theory and the role of personal choice
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Why delayed gratification still matters
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Listening to the signals telling you something in your life needs attention
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When it may be time to take a closer look at your relationship with alcohol
Recommended Reading
Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom â William Glasser
Resources for Alcohol Use
If Dustin's question sounded familiar, you don't have to figure everything out by yourself. Consider talking with your physician, a licensed mental health professional, or an addiction counselor.
Free Thought Court Worksheet
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Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.