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EP 61: The Power of Sobriety & Self-Discovery with Kate Vitela

Release Date: 10/01/2025

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In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Kate, a nurse of more than 20 years and a personal development coach, to talk about sobriety, self-worth, and healing after narcissistic relationships. Together, they explore how alcohol, food, and limiting beliefs can leave women vulnerable to toxic dynamics—and how breaking free requires courage, boundaries, and a new story.

Kate shares her personal journey of getting sober, healing from toxic relationships, and reclaiming her power through coaching and self-discovery. With a focus on mental health and sobriety in her nursing career, Kate now runs a private practice helping women move past numbing behaviors and self-defeating patterns so they can step into their divine purpose.

This heartfelt conversation offers practical strategies, hope, and encouragement for women ready to rewrite their narratives, reclaim their worth, and create healthier, more authentic lives.

Key Topics & Timestamps

Alcohol, Vulnerability, and Narcissistic Relationships (00:03:14) Kate explains how heavy drinking made her vulnerable to narcissistic partners and losing her sense of self.

Drinking’s Impact on Women (00:06:33) Discussion on how alcohol affects women differently and the societal normalization of drinking.

Boundaries and Coaching Women (00:14:42) The importance of boundaries, self-sabotage, and how Kate coaches women to recognize and address these issues.

Gaslighting and Reclaiming Sanity (00:19:44) Laura and Kate discuss gaslighting in narcissistic relationships and the importance of trusting your gut.

Losing and Gaining Friends in Sobriety (00:28:48) Kate and Laura talk about losing old friends and gaining more authentic connections after getting sober.

Love Bombing, Alcohol, and the Nervous System (00:37:19) How love bombing and alcohol both create emotional highs and lows, destabilizing women in toxic relationships.

Coaching vs. Therapy: The House Painting Analogy (00:41:51) Kate explains the difference between coaching and therapy, using the analogy of missing a spot while painting.

Kate’s Coaching Practice (00:49:33) Kate describes her coaching services, approach, and how women can work with her for personal development and sobriety.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

“Nobody plans on being an alcoholic; it’s a very insidious drug that creeps up on us.” - Kate

“Give yourself permission to question your relationships when you get sober.” - Kate

“Alcohol only fuels your anxiety, and your superpower is getting really clear.” - Kate

“Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated.” - Kate

“A lot of healing has to do with just discovering our own power through sobriety.” - Kate

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Sobriety is where self-worth begins, and healing truly takes root.

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