EP 62: Rebuilding After Divorce — Finding Yourself Again with Heidi Bee

In this empowering episode of That’s Where I’m At, host Laura sits down with Heidi Bee, the Divorce Comeback Coach, to explore the emotional journey of rebuilding life after divorce.

Heidi Bee is a certified and trauma-informed divorce coach and somatic breathwork facilitator. Through her 3-month Comeback Course & Coaching Community, she helps women navigate their “new normal” by providing the roadmap, resources, and relationships needed to move forward with confidence. She’s also the host of the Divorce Comeback Coach podcast, where she shares truth-telling conversations and practical guidance to help women take their next best step toward the life they deserve and desire.

In this heartfelt conversation, Laura and Heidi open up about:

• The feelings of isolation, grief, and identity loss that often follow divorce — especially after long-term or toxic relationships.
  
  
• The importance of self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and rebuilding community during recovery.
  
  
• How embracing vulnerability and self-compassion can lead to powerful transformation and growth.
  
  

Together, they remind listeners that while the road to healing may be difficult, it is also filled with opportunities for renewal, empowerment, and rediscovery of one’s true self.

 

Key Topics & Timestamps

Heidi’s Divorce Story and the “Divorce Ditch” (00:03:06) Heidi shares her personal experience of feeling lost and stuck after divorce, describing it as the “divorce ditch.”

Coping Mechanisms and Avoidance (00:06:41) Heidi describes unhealthy coping mechanisms she used to avoid pain, such as overworking and numbing behaviors.

Shame, Stigma, and the Need for Conversation (00:08:28) Exploring the shame and societal stigma around divorce, and the importance of open conversations.

Coaching, Dreaming, and Finding Your Voice (00:17:28) Laura and Heidi discuss the role of coaching in helping women dream again and reclaim their voices.

Relationship with Uncertainty and Healing (00:25:45) Learning to manage uncertainty, calm the nervous system, and develop new tools for emotional regulation.

Attracting Healthy Relationships Through Self-Love (00:31:37) Heidi shares how self-love and authenticity attract healthier relationships, both romantic and platonic.

Protecting Emotional Energy and Reclaiming Space (00:40:48) Heidi emphasizes protecting your emotional landscape and reclaiming energy from unhealthy attachments.

Making a “Shit List” and Tracking Emotional Impact (00:44:52) Using a list to remember the negative impacts of an ex and tracking emotional responses to avoid repeating pain.

 

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

Heidi, 'I didn’t want to admit I was depressed, but I was grieving and resisting it.'

Heidi, 'I woke up one day thinking, I don’t even know who I am anymore.'

Laura, 'You deserve to trust your gut again. Spoiler alert: you were never the problem.'

Laura, 'I started my podcast and realized no one ever let me talk.'

Heidi, 'Recovery is self-discovery, and I forgot to continue to decide who I was going to be.'

Heidi, 'It’s more about trusting yourself, trusting that no matter what happens, you can handle it.'

Heidi, 'I want people to know you don’t have to be afraid of not knowing who you are. All that is, is uncertainty.'

Heidi, 'The more I let go of things that no longer serve me, the more I have space to receive what is.'

RESOURCES:

• COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura
• SELF WORTH RESET MINI COURSE: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/minicourse
• YOU’RE NOT CRAZY ebook: GET IT HERE
• MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
• FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

Connect with Heidi

• WEBSITE:  https://divorcecomebackcoach.com/   
• INSTAGRAM: @DivorceComebackCoach
• TIK TOK: @DivorceComebackCoach
• Freebies & More: https://linktr.ee/DivorceComebackCoach
• Divorce Comeback Coach Podcast - Spotify / Apple

“The more you let go of what’s gone, the more space you create for what’s meant for you.”

 

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