EP 66: Consciously Awake: Lisa's Journey Out of Toxic Love
Release Date: 12/10/2025
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info_outlineIn this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura interviews Lisa Hawkins — a Dating & Relationship Coach who empowers men and women to thrive in their relationships. With over 30 years of experience, Lisa has dedicated her life to understanding the intricacies of human connection and what truly makes relationships flourish. Her personal journey, marked by challenges, growth, and deep spiritual awareness, has given her a profound understanding of the obstacles individuals face in their search for love, healing, and self-discovery.
Lisa shares her story of overcoming generational trauma, abuse, and the difficult process of recovering after an abusive marriage. The conversation explores the struggle of recognizing and trusting your instincts, the impact of societal conditioning, and the non-linear nature of healing. Lisa also offers practical guidance on self-awareness, journaling, and cultivating self-love. Together, she and Laura highlight the importance of compassion, patience, and honoring your unique path. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own journeys and seek support as they reclaim their lives.
Key Topics & Timestamps
Lisa’s Background and Unconscious Family Conditioning (00:02:33) Lisa shares her upbringing in a toxic, unconscious family and how it led to abusive relationships.
Experiences of Oppression and Lack of Boundaries (00:03:42) Lisa describes being raised to be agreeable, lacking boundaries, and early experiences of abuse.
Immediate Regret After Marriage (00:06:52) Lisa recalls knowing she made a mistake hours after marrying, but feeling trapped by religion.
Life in an Abusive Marriage (00:07:32) Lisa details her ten-year marriage, cycles of leaving and returning, and escalation of abuse.
Barriers to Leaving Abusive Relationships (00:09:09) Lisa and Laura discuss why leaving abuse is complex, including privilege and safety concerns.
The Long Healing Journey (00:14:12) Lisa shares that her healing has spanned 30 years, involving unraveling trauma and conditioning.
Visible Healing and Personal Growth (00:16:15) Laura and Lisa reflect on how healing manifests outwardly and the unseen hard work behind it.
Reacting vs. Responding and the Limits of Clichés (00:19:10) Discussion on the difference between reacting and responding, and why healing isn’t as simple as memes suggest.
Being vs. Doing in Healing (00:23:23) Lisa emphasizes the importance of being present and authentic in the healing process.
Journaling and Pattern Recognition (00:26:04) Lisa recommends journaling to track feelings and patterns, aiding in rebuilding self-trust.
Lisa’s Podcast and Coaching Work (00:28:54) Lisa introduces her podcast "Conscious Insights" and describes her coaching clientele.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode
Lisa, 'That was the pivoting point in my life where I hit absolute bottom. There was absolutely nothing left of me.'
Lisa, 'Some part of me, the fighter in me, came up and said, I’m not going to let this define me, and I will overcome it.'
Lisa, 'Sometimes the emotions are more than what our bodies and brain and nervous system can take, and we become numb because that’s the only way we can survive.'
Lisa, 'There was a lot of conditioning that I wasn’t aware of when I started the journey that was given to me from generations that I’ve had to unravel.'
Lisa, 'There are times when I’m still learning to trust my gut, and I’ve been doing this for a long time.'
RESOURCES:
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COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura
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YOU’RE NOT CRAZY ebook: GET IT HERE
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MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
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JOIN THE NICE GUY RECOVERY COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/nice-guy-recovery-community-1517
Connect with Lisa
- www.consciouslyawakecounseling.com
- https://consciouslyawakecounseling.com/about-me/
- Lisa Hawkins Dating & Relationship Coach - https://www.facebook.com/ConsciouslyAwakeCoun
- Consciously Awake Counseling https://www.instagram.com/consciouslyawakecounseling/
- Amazon KDP Ebook The Awakening by Lisa Hawkins : https://a.co/d/cQAua5o
- Conscious Insights Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4YZ3Dl30yDsNfMuHBvtkgK?si=db73a25f188b4a6b
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