You Don’t Earn Being a Good Man (Part 2)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
You Don't Earn Being A Good Man (Part 2) We’re talking about what actually happens in a man’s life when he believes one story versus the other, how seeing yourself as good or broken shapes your reactions, your relationships, and the way you show up in the world.” SECTION 1 — Identity Split (Good Man vs. Bad Man) When a man sees himself as GOOD: More present and grounded. Slower reactions. Empathy increases. Honest about emotions. Healthy boundaries. Accountability without collapse. Less numbing, more connection. Confidence without performing. When a man sees himself...
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You Don’t Earn Being a Good Man
Authentic Men's Group podcast
You Don’t Earn Being a Good Man: Reclaiming the Identity You Were Born With Authentic Men’s Group (AMG) Podcast Blog Every man wonders quietly, “Am I actually a good man?” Most men won’t say it out loud—but the question sits underneath their decisions, their relationships, their mistakes, and the way they carry themselves through life. For many, goodness feels fragile… like one wrong move can erase everything. Like your identity is something you perform into rather than something true about you. Most of us grew up earning approval, not building identity. This episode is about...
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How to Approach The Enneagram with Dr. Ev
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Episode Title: How To Appraoch The Enneagram? Introduction In this episode, we sit down with Ev, a coach and long-time student of the Enneagram who has spent years helping men uncover who they really are beneath the roles, habits, and masks they wear. The Enneagram isn’t about putting you in a box — it’s about showing you the box you’ve been living in and how to get out. Ev shares how the Enneagram has shaped his own journey, giving him language for the patterns that once ran on autopilot. This episode kicks off a conversation that many men in Authentic Men’s Group (AMG) will...
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How to Practice Self-Compassion with Enneagram Types 5-9
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Using Self-Compassion With The Enneagram (Part 2) Last time, we explored Enneagram types One through Four—seeing how each carries its own beauty, struggle, and path toward compassion. Today, we pick up where we left off. So often, we hear messages about what we should fix or change. But the real invitation of the Enneagram is to see the truth of how we’re wired and to treat that truth with kindness. It’s not about boxing you in—it’s about showing you the patterns you’ve been living out, and then inviting you back home to your truest self. As Ian Morgan Cron reminds us, “The...
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How to Practice Self-Compassion with Enneagram Types 1-4
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Using Self-Compassion With The Enneagram We often hear messages about what we need to fix or change. But what if the real invitation is to see and celebrate the unique way we’re wired? What if our greatest strength is learning how to show up with kindness to the exact story we’re living? The Enneagram isn’t about putting you in a box—it’s about helping you see the unique beauty of your wiring and how to live it out with grace. Ian Morgan Cron says, “The Enneagram doesn’t tell you who you are; it tells you who you think you have to be.” And in doing so, it also gently...
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Why Beating Yourself Up Isn’t Making You Better
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Why Beating Yourself Up Isn’t Making You Better Rewiring the Inner Critic For most of us men, we were raised on self-esteem, (either resourceful input, or non-resourceful input) Be confident. Stand tall. Don’t screw up. Win at all costs. That’s self-esteem culture. It’s about feeling good about yourself when you’re doing well — when you’re successful, strong, admired, competent, and on your game. But the second you fall short? That’s when self-esteem gets shaky. You feel like less of a man. This is where self-compassion comes in — and most of us weren’t taught this...
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Shame - The Silent Weight Most Men Carry
Authentic Men's Group podcast
7 Common Signs You’re Feeling Shame as a Man Most men don’t like to look in the mirror—not the one in the bathroom, but the one that shows us what’s going on inside. We’re raised with messages like: You can’t change the past. Just move on. Don’t dwell. And on the surface, that sounds like wisdom. But underneath, it keeps a lot of us from practicing self-reflection… because we’re not just afraid of guilt. We’re afraid of shame. See, guilt says, “I did something wrong.” Shame says, “There’s something wrong with me.” One leads to responsibility and growth. The other...
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Boundaries vs. Requests In Our Circles of Relationships
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Using Boundaries in Every Circle of Relationship Healthy relationships are built on respect, understanding, and trust. At the core of maintaining these elements are boundaries—clear lines we draw to protect our well-being. The Circle of Relationships model by Brian Frizzell offers a helpful visual to identify the depth and nature of our connections. When we combine this with a clear understanding of boundaries and requests, we gain powerful insight into how to handle different types of relationships with clarity and self-respect. Recap: Setting a boundary is knowing, checking, and...
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How To Say No (Boundaries vs. Requests)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
What the Heck is a Boundary? A boundary isn’t just a rule—it’s a way to identify, communicate, and maintain the environment you need to be the person you want to be. Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people. They’re about controlling your space and how you respond to what happens in it. 🏡 Fence Analogy: Think of a boundary like a fence around your house. You’ve got a walkway up to the front door—that’s how you do relationships with me. That’s the space I’ve clearly defined where I invite people into my life. Now, let’s say someone jumps my fence,...
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Cracking The Coping Code
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Cracking The Coping Code Do you wish you could quit your unhealthy coping mechanisms or bad habits? Many of us find ourselves trapped in cycles of behavior that don't serve us well. Whether it's substance abuse, avoidance, negative self-talk, excessive screen time, emotional eating, isolation, procrastination, overworking, or aggression, porn, these coping mechanisms are familiar yet unhelpful tools we often use to self-soothe. It's crucial to remember that resorting to these habits doesn't make us bad people; it's merely our way of attempting to regulate our distressing emotions. Think...
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Circle 2 - Sensitivity (Feel)These are the Emotions that reinforce our identity. This is How we feel.
What would emotions from the outside-in look like vs. emotions from inside-out look like?
- Outside-in: Feeling Angry about our behavior and then thinking we shouldn’t do that. Trying to attack the behavior with will-power. It gave us some structure as far as social expectation.
- Inside-out: when we feel something, acknowledge and recognize how we are feeling and not the sum of our emotions. Looking to see what information we can learn more about ourselves because we know there is something to learn from our emotions.
How to process feelings proactively:
Don’t Judge our emotions Good or Bad. Just like we don’t judge our physical pain. If I touch a stove and it hurts do I get mad at my hand for feeling pain??
Use emotions as data not direction. Bad days give us good data.
Express emotions proactively using the acronym NEED:
Name what you feel. Recognize and write what you are feeling.
Explain the reason you feel this way through allowing and accepting feelings. (What caused the feelings to begin with?)
Be thorough in examining what has caused the current emotions. When these two steps are accomplished, you are more than halfway there because you are now aware and can do something about your feelings.
Examine an attitude or action you can change relating to what you feel.
Once you know the feeling and what caused it, there can be a conscious decision to alter a mood, change a motive or make a move to revise the condition that caused the feeling in the first place. Such a revision can be effective because now we can choose to see circumstances in a different light. For example, forgiveness can replace resentment simply by a choice.
Deal with feelings personally before relationally. Do this through a kind and loving lens. Give expression when we invite others into our vulnerable emotional state.