3959 Present But Distant
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Marriage isn’t just the big moments: the wedding day, anniversaries, or vacations. A huge part of it happens in the "in-between": the daily grind, the shuffle of family life, the countless errands, work schedules, and responsibilities that fill every corner of your time. In this chaos, it's easy and dangerously common for spouses to drift apart without even noticing. You’re both so busy serving the kids, managing the household, or chasing careers that choosing to connect as a couple takes a backseat. You become like two ships passing in the day and night, present but distant. Your marriage...
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3958 Make Your Last Word Good
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Parenting is a relentless hustle. Sleepless nights blur into days of heartache, frustration, and moments when it feels like your efforts go unnoticed. In the chaos of discipline, schedules, and tears, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that you are the constant in your child’s world—their anchor and their guide. The truth is, what you say last in any interaction leaves a lasting imprint. That’s why it’s crucial: make your last word good. What does that mean? It means shifting focus from reaction to reflection. It means choosing the lasting message you want your child to take...
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3957 Dig A Little Deeper
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life doesn’t wait for you to be ready. It hits hard, fast, and often without warning. When the storms roll in, they can scar your days and steal the peace from your nights. It’s raw. It’s real. And frankly, it’s not fun. Life has never been easy for anyone who’s ever done more than just exist. If you want to stand tall—if you want to break past the pain—you have to dig a little deeper. Digging deeper means rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands and heart a little dirty, diving headfirst into the mess that life throws your way. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3956 Why Does Everything Healthy Taste So Bad?
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Healthy living rarely feels easy. We say we want to be healthier, but when faced with salads that seem like lawn clippings or bland steamed veggies, we ask ourselves: Why does everything healthy taste so bad? The frustration isn’t just about flavor; it’s a symptom of a deeper battle between what our bodies crave and what our minds resist. Your taste buds and your body are often on two different pages, and that disconnect trips up even the most committed. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . When we say “healthy,” we’re really talking...
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3955 Put Down Your Mask
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
It’s easy to hide behind a mask — the carefully crafted image of who you think you should be or what you don’t want anyone to see. Behind this disguise, you might feel safer, less vulnerable. But you cannot move forward or live the life you were meant to live with God’s divine purpose in mind if you’re trapped behind that mask. So, put down your mask. Please put down your mask. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Be bold enough to show up with your flaws, your imperfections, your raw and real self. You don’t have to be perfect to...
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3954 How Do You Shift In Real Time?
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Life isn’t a straight path. It’s a wild mix of flavors, textures, highs, lows, wins, and setbacks. You grind to reach certain milestones, but just when you think you’ve arrived, reality reminds you there’s more hustle, more growth, more shifting to do. So how do you shift in real time when life throws you curveballs? Are you the kind of person who acts like you’ve already done the hard work—like you’ve ticked the box—only to wash your hands of responsibility? Then you lean back, waiting for the next step to come to you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...
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3953 No More Words
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Have you ever paused to consider how God truly wants you to show up each day? It’s easy to walk into church on Sunday with a smile and a heart full of joy—or at least a glimpse of it. But ask yourself: how genuine is that moment? Is it real and life-giving? Or is it just a performance, a mask worn for the crowd, for appearances? God doesn’t need the mask. He sees behind it. He knows the truth that we often try to hide, even from ourselves. No more words. Jesus said it plainly in Matthew 5, in the Beatitudes—a blueprint for living “God’s way.” It’s a call to something deeper...
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3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
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Marriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart? Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences. Desire to be...
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3951 Prepare the Way
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
When your children are little, parenting feels all-consuming. Overwhelm doesn't even seem like a fitting word, yet you’re hands-on from feeding to teaching to fixing. Every day is full of immediate needs, constant crisis management, and unconditional love sprinkled throughout. It’s easy to believe that how you prepare the way means just getting them through those early years. But then, they grow. They move into adolescence, young adulthood, and beyond—and suddenly the kind of parenting required shifts. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the...
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3950 Choose What You Carry Forward
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
So much in life is left in the trenches of what we lost or what didn't make it. Success can leave scars as much as failures. But the sting is always greater when something does not go your way. Yet, that's not how your story gets to end. There is joy in the morning, and you get to choose what you carry forward. That choice isn’t because of how much you know or the wit you’ve picked up along the way—though those add richness to your journey. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s because your power lies in what you decide to hold...
info_outlineMarriage isn’t just the big moments: the wedding day, anniversaries, or vacations. A huge part of it happens in the "in-between": the daily grind, the shuffle of family life, the countless errands, work schedules, and responsibilities that fill every corner of your time. In this chaos, it's easy and dangerously common for spouses to drift apart without even noticing. You’re both so busy serving the kids, managing the household, or chasing careers that choosing to connect as a couple takes a backseat. You become like two ships passing in the day and night, present but distant.
Your marriage can’t survive on busy schedules and shared roof lines alone.
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If you don’t learn how to wrestle with the in-between—the small moments where real connection can be made—you risk becoming strangers living parallel lives.
When the noise quiets and the family leaves the room, the question becomes: who is going to be sitting next to you?
If you haven’t intentionally fought for closeness during your everyday life, you may not recognize the one beside you anymore.
You need to be intentional about drawing closer to one another.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Draw closer to one another!
So how do you draw closer in the in-between?
How do you stake your claim as partners, even when life feels chaotic, and you’re both pulled in a million directions?
Here are three non-negotiable approaches to intentionally bridge the gap.
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Be Present Without Distraction
This sounds simple, but it’s the foundation. When you’re physically together but mentally somewhere else, connection dies. Commit to carving out “device-free” moments—whether it’s 10 minutes before bed, a coffee in the morning, or a quick check-in after work—where your full attention is on one another. Listen like that time depends on it. Ask how your partner’s day truly went and resist jumping to problem-solving. Just be there, soaking in the presence of the person who’s supposed to be your closest ally. -
Own Your Role in the Rhythm of the Home
Marriage doesn’t happen in isolation from family life, but it also can’t be sacrificed on the altar of busyness. Recognize how you contribute to the daily flow and actively look for ways to share responsibility, lighten your partner’s load, or create space for couple time. It’s not just about doing tasks but about signaling that your spouse matters enough to disrupt your own busy schedule. When you step in to support the shared life, you draw closer, not just practically but emotionally. -
Create Micro-Rituals That Mean Something
Big date nights are great, but they are hard to sustain consistently. The real magic happens in simple, regular rituals that become your shared language. Maybe it’s a goodnight text every evening, a brief morning hug before the chaos begins, or sharing a weekly “high and low” where you talk about the best and worst parts of your week. These small but consistent acts become emotional anchors; they're proof that, despite the busyness, you’re actively choosing each other.
In wrestling with the in-between, you are doing the hardest and most important work of marriage.
It’s messy. It's not glamorous, but it is indispensable. If you settle for just “getting through,” you risk showing up as roommates rather than life partners. Is that what you really want?
But if you lean into the daily struggle to be present, supportive, and intentional, even in the tiniest of tiniest moments, you build a foundation strong enough to weather any storm.
When the family is gone, and only the two of you are standing in the quiet house, you’ll know exactly who is beside you—and why it matters. That’s not luck or circumstance. It’s your return on investment of wrestling intentionally with the in-between.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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