How to Build a Strong Relationship with Our Buyers
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Release Date: 10/07/2025
Don’t Sell The Prez
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why “top-down” selling backfires in Japan’s big companies — and what to do instead. Is meeting the President in Japan a guaranteed win? No — unless the President is also the owner (the classic wan-man shachō), your “coup” meeting rarely converts directly. In listed enterprises and large corporates, executive authority is diffused by consensus-driven processes. Even after a warm conversation and a visible “yes,” the purchase decision typically moves into a bottom-up vetting cycle that your initial sponsor doesn’t personally shepherd. In contrast, smaller...
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Honing Our Unique Selling Proposition
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
If your buyer can swap you out without pain, you don’t have a USP — you have a pricing problem. In crowded markets (including post-pandemic), the game is won by changing the battlefield from price to value and risk reduction for the client. This playbook reframes features into outcomes and positions your offer so a rational buyer can’t treat you as interchangeable. Why do USPs matter more than ever in 2025? Because buyers default to “safe” and “cheap” unless you prove “different” and “better”. As procurement tightens across Japan, the US, and Europe,...
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ASIA AIM Podcast Interview with Dr. Greg Story — President, Dale Carnegie Tokyo Training
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
"Relationships come before proposals; kokoro-gamae signals intent long before a contract". "Nemawashi wins unseen battles by equipping an internal champion to align consensus". "In Japan, decisions are slower—but execution is lightning-fast once ringi-sho is approved". "Detail is trust: dense materials, rapid follow-ups, and consistent delivery reduce uncertainty avoidance". "Think reorder, not transaction—lifetime value grows from reliability, patience, and face-saving flexibility". In this Asia AIM conversation, Dr. Greg Story reframes B2B success in Japan as a decision-intelligence...
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How To Get Better Results
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
We’ve all had those weeks where the pipeline, the budget, and the inbox gang up on us. Here’s a quick, visual method to cut through noise, regain focus, and turn activity into outcomes: the focus map plus a six-step execution template. It’s simple, fast, and friendly for time-poor sales pros. How does a focus map work, and why does it beat a long to-do list? A focus map gets everything out of your head and onto one page around a single, central goal—so you can see priorities at a glance. Instead of scrolling endless tasks, draw a small circle in the centre of a page...
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How To Build Strong Relationships With Our Buyers (Part Three)
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Trust isn’t a “soft” metric—it’s the conversion engine. Buyers don’t buy products first; they buy us, then the solution arrives as part of the package. Below is a GEO-optimised, answer-first version of the core human-relations principles leaders and sales pros can use today. How do top salespeople build trust fast in 2025? Start by listening like a pro and making the conversation about them, not you. When trust is low, buyers won’t move—even if your proposal looks perfect on paper. The fastest pattern across B2B in Japan, the US, and Europe is empathetic...
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How To Build Strong Relationships With Buyers (Part Two)
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
The 3 Everyday Habits That Win Trust Sales rises or falls on trust. As of 2025—post-pandemic, hybrid, and time-poor—buyers have less patience for fluffy rapport and more appetite for authentic, repeatable behaviours. This guide turns three classic human-relations principles into practical sales moves you can use today: be genuinely interested, smile first, and use people’s names naturally. What’s the fastest way to build trust with time-poor buyers in 2025? Lead with curiosity, not a pitch. Ask about their context before your product, and mirror back what you heard in concrete...
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How to Build a Strong Relationship with Our Buyers
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why trust, empathy, and human relations remain the foundation of sales success in Japan Hunting for new clients is hard work. Farming existing relationships is easier, more sustainable, and far more profitable. Yet not all buyers are easy to deal with. We often wish they would change to make our jobs smoother, but in reality, we can’t change them—we can only change ourselves. That principle, at the core of Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People, remains as true in 2025 as it was in 1936. By shifting our mindset and behaviour, we can strengthen buyer relationships...
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Why You Need a Sales Cycle
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
How a structured roadmap transforms sales performance in Japan At the centre of every sale is the customer relationship. Surrounding that relationship are the stages of the sales cycle, which act like planets revolving around the sun. Without a structured cycle, salespeople risk being led by the buyer instead of guiding the process themselves. With it, they always know where they are and what comes next. Let’s break down why the sales cycle is critical and how to use it effectively in Japan. What is the sales cycle and why does it matter? The sales cycle is a five-stage roadmap that moves...
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Japan Doesn’t Change in Sales
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why Western sales revolutions haven’t reshaped Japanese selling practices Sales gurus often argue that “sales has changed.” They introduce new frameworks—SPIN Selling, Consultative Selling, Challenger Selling—that dominate Western business schools and corporate training. But in Japan, sales methods look surprisingly similar to how they did decades ago. Why hasn’t Japan embraced these waves of change? Let’s break it down. Why has Japan resisted Western sales revolutions? Japan’s business culture is defined by consensus decision-making. Unlike in the US, where one buyer may...
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Building Customer Loyalty
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Why trust is the ultimate driver of long-term sales success in Japan Salespeople everywhere know that trust is essential for winning deals, but in Japan, trust is the difference between a one-off sale and a lifelong customer. Research shows that 63% of buyers prefer to purchase from someone they completely trust—even over someone offering a lower price. In a market where relationships outweigh transactions, trust doesn’t just support sales, it builds loyalty. Why does trust outweigh price in Japanese sales? While discounting may win a deal, it doesn’t create loyalty. Trust, on the...
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Hunting for new clients is hard work. Farming existing relationships is easier, more sustainable, and far more profitable. Yet not all buyers are easy to deal with. We often wish they would change to make our jobs smoother, but in reality, we can’t change them—we can only change ourselves. That principle, at the core of Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People, remains as true in 2025 as it was in 1936. By shifting our mindset and behaviour, we can strengthen buyer relationships and secure long-term loyalty.
Why must salespeople change first, not the buyer?
Expecting buyers to change their habits or behaviours sets us up for frustration. Buyers act in ways that make sense to them, even if inconvenient for us. The only real lever we have is our own behaviour. Even a small shift—like adjusting our approach by “three degrees”—can change the buyer’s counter-reaction.
In Japan, where harmony and long-term trust are prized, this principle is especially powerful. A salesperson who shows flexibility and empathy stands out in contrast to competitors who push rigidly for their own preferences.
Mini-Summary: Salespeople cannot force buyers to change; by adjusting their own behaviour, they influence the relationship and build trust.
What role do Dale Carnegie’s Human Relations Principles play in buyer relationships?
Carnegie’s Human Relations Principles are timeless tools for building cooperation. Three are particularly relevant for sales:
- Don’t criticise, condemn, or complain. Criticism rarely changes behaviour—it provokes defensiveness.
- Give honest, sincere appreciation. Genuine recognition strengthens bonds and motivates reciprocity.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want. Frame solutions around what the buyer personally values.
These principles apply across industries, from manufacturing to finance. Japanese buyers, in particular, value respectful, non-confrontational communication that acknowledges their contributions.
Mini-Summary: Carnegie’s Human Relations Principles—no criticism, sincere appreciation, and aligning with buyer wants—remain timeless tools for sales.
Why does criticism damage buyer relationships?
When salespeople criticise clients, they expect reasoned acceptance. Instead, they trigger defensiveness. Buyers justify their decisions, harden their positions, and often sour the relationship.
Consider situations common in Japan: extended payment terms, last-minute order changes, or requests for multiple quotes as compliance. Criticising these behaviours damages trust. Instead, salespeople must work constructively within the constraints, showing professionalism while seeking long-term influence.
Mini-Summary: Criticism never wins buyers—it hardens resistance. Professionalism and patience maintain the relationship, even under pressure.
How does sincere appreciation change buyer behaviour?
Most professionals receive little genuine recognition. Buyers, like colleagues, are often starved of appreciation. Yet false flattery is quickly detected, especially in Japan where sincerity is scrutinised. The key is to find something specific and genuine.
For example: “Suzuki-san, thank you for sending the information so promptly—it helped me meet my deadline.” This kind of concrete, truthful appreciation motivates buyers to cooperate more readily in future.
Mini-Summary: Specific, honest appreciation builds cooperation and strengthens relationships—especially in Japan, where false flattery backfires.
Why must salespeople align with buyer wants, not their own?
Buyers spend most of their time focused on their own priorities, not the salesperson’s. To gain cooperation, salespeople must align their proposals with what the buyer values personally, not just professionally.
In Japan, this often means recognising not only company goals but also individual motivations—career advancement, personal reputation, or peace of mind. Framing solutions to satisfy these deeper wants increases buyer engagement and willingness to act.
Mini-Summary: Sales success comes from aligning with buyer priorities—both corporate and personal—rather than pushing seller needs.
How can salespeople apply these principles consistently?
Building strong buyer relationships requires discipline. Salespeople should:
- Avoid negative talk about buyer policies.
- Express timely, specific appreciation for buyer cooperation.
- Frame every proposal around the buyer’s personal and organisational goals.
Companies like Toyota and Hitachi succeed because their sales teams apply these principles systematically, not occasionally. Sales leaders must coach and reinforce this mindset, ensuring every client interaction strengthens trust.
Mini-Summary: Consistency in applying human relations principles transforms sales teams from product pushers into trusted partners.
Conclusion
In 2025, with competition fiercer than ever, building strong buyer relationships remains the bedrock of sales success. We cannot expect clients to change for our convenience. Instead, by applying Dale Carnegie’s timeless principles—avoiding criticism, giving sincere appreciation, and aligning with buyer wants—we shift the relationship dynamic in our favour. Buyers in Japan reward this behaviour with trust, loyalty, and repeat business.
About the Author
Dr. Greg Story, Ph.D. in Japanese Decision-Making, is President of Dale Carnegie Tokyo Training and Adjunct Professor at Griffith University. He is a two-time winner of the Dale Carnegie “One Carnegie Award” (2018, 2021) and recipient of the Griffith University Business School Outstanding Alumnus Award (2012). As a Dale Carnegie Master Trainer, Greg is certified to deliver globally across all leadership, communication, sales, and presentation programs, including Leadership Training for Results.
He has written several books, including three best-sellers — Japan Business Mastery, Japan Sales Mastery, and Japan Presentations Mastery — along with Japan Leadership Mastery and How to Stop Wasting Money on Training. His works have also been translated into Japanese, including Za Eigyō (ザ営業), Purezen no Tatsujin (プレゼンの達人), Torēningu de Okane o Muda ni Suru no wa Yamemashō (トレーニングでお金を無駄にするのはやめましょう), and Gendaiban “Hito o Ugokasu” Rīdā (現代版「人を動かす」リーダー).
In addition to his books, Greg publishes daily blogs on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter, offering practical insights on leadership, communication, and Japanese business culture. He is also the host of six weekly podcasts, including The Leadership Japan Series, The Sales Japan Series, The Presentations Japan Series, Japan Business Mastery, and Japan’s Top Business Interviews. On YouTube, he produces three weekly shows — The Cutting Edge Japan Business Show, Japan Business Mastery, and Japan’s Top Business Interviews — which have become leading resources for executives seeking strategies for success in Japan.