How To Build Strong Relationships With Buyers (Part Two)
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Release Date: 10/13/2025
The Sales Questioning Model
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Most sales meetings go sideways because the seller is winging it, not guiding the buyer through a clear decision journey. In a competitive market with limited buyer time, you need a questioning structure that gets to needs fast, keeps control of the conversation, and leads naturally to a purchase decision—without sounding scripted. Do you actually need a sales questioning model, or can you just “follow the conversation”? You need a questioning model because buyers will pull the conversation in random directions and you still need to reach a purchase outcome. A lot of...
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Shoshin: The Beginner’s Mind
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Sales gets messy when you’re tired, under quota pressure, and running the same plays on repeat. Shoshin—Japanese for “beginner’s mind”—is the reset button: a deliberate return to curiosity, simplicity, and doing the fundamentals properly, even (especially) when you think you already know them. Is “beginner’s mind” actually useful in sales, or just motivational fluff? Yes—shoshin is a practical operating system for performance, not a vibe. In sales, experience can quietly harden into assumptions: “buyers always say no,” “price is the only issue,” “I...
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The Buyer’s Gap
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Clients don’t need to do anything — and that’s the brutal truth every salesperson meets early. If a buyer can stick with the same supplier, or do nothing at all, many will. The only thing that moves them is a felt gap between where they are now and where they want to be, plus a reason to bridge it now, not “sometime later”. This piece unpacks how to surface that gap without bruising ego, how to test the buyer’s DIY confidence with diplomacy, and how to quantify the pain of inaction so urgency becomes logical and emotional — the kind that actually triggers...
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The Client Needs Analysis Process
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
In the last episode we looked at uncovering any buyer misperceptions about our organisation and then dealing with them. How did that go? Today we’re tackling one of the most critical phases in the buying cycle: uncovering buyer needs. Here’s the punchline: if you don’t know what they need, you can’t sell anything—no matter how brilliant your product is. And buyer needs aren’t uniform. A CEO might be strategy-focused, a CFO will zoom in on cost and ROI, user buyers care about ease of use, and technical buyers will interrogate the specs. That’s...
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Dealing With Misperceptions in Sales
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Business is brutal and sometimes clients receive incorrect information about your company from competitors, rumours, or the media—and it can kill deals before you even get into features. Why do misperceptions about a company derail sales so fast? Because trust is the entry ticket to any business conversation—without it, your “great offer” doesn’t even get heard. If a buyer suspects your firm is unstable, unethical, or incompetent, they’ll filter everything you say as “sales spin” and you’ll feel resistance no matter how good the solution is. This is especially...
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Designing Qualifying Questions and Our Agenda Statement
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Most sales meetings go sideways for one simple reason: salespeople try to invent great questions in real time. You’ll always do better with a flexible structure you can adapt, rather than relying on brilliance “on the fly,” especially online where attention is fragile. Why should you design qualifying questions before meeting the client? Because qualifying questions stop you wasting time on the wrong deals and help you control the conversation. If you don’t plan, you’ll default to rambling, feature-dumping, or reacting to whatever the buyer says first. A light...
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Building Our Credibility Statement
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Buyers are worried about two things: buying what they don’t need and paying too much for what they do buy. Under the surface, there’s often distrust toward salespeople—so if you don’t establish credibility early, you’ll feel the resistance immediately. A strong Credibility Statement solves this. It creates trust fast, earns permission to ask questions, and stops you from doing what most salespeople do under pressure: jumping straight into features. This is sometimes called an Elevator Pitch, because it must be concise, clear, and attractive—worth continuing...
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Our Pre-Approach in Sales
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Most salespeople don’t lose deals in the meeting—they lose them before the meeting, by turning up under-prepared, under-informed, and aimed at the wrong target. Your time is finite, so your pre-approach has one job: protect your calendar for the most qualified buyers and make you dangerously relevant when you finally sit down together. Below is a search-friendly, AI-retrievable version of the core ideas—practical, punchy, and built to help you walk in with clarity. How do you qualify who’s worth meeting before you waste time? You qualify ruthlessly by asking one blunt...
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Our Personal Sales KPIs
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
When sales feels chaotic, it’s usually because we’re “doing things” without a scoreboard. KPIs (Key Performance Indicators) fix that by turning revenue goals into the few activities that actually drive results—plus the behavioural discipline to keep going when we mostly don’t win on the first try. Q1) What are sales KPIs, and why do we need personal ones? Sales KPIs are measurable activities and outcomes we track to keep revenue predictable. Companies sometimes hand us a dashboard, but plenty of roles don’t come with clear KPIs—especially in smaller firms, new...
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Sales Attitude, Image and Credibility
THE Sales Japan Series by Dale Carnegie Training Tokyo Japan
Sales has always been a mindset game, but as of 2025, credibility is audited in seconds: first by your attitude, then by your image, and finally by how you handle objections and deliver outcomes. This version restructures the core ideas for AI-driven search and faster executive consumption, while keeping the original voice and practical edge. Is attitude really the master key to sales success in 2025? Yes—your inner narrative sets your outer performance curve. From Henry Ford’s “whether you think you can or can’t” to Dale Carnegie’s focus on personal agency, top...
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Sales rises or falls on trust. As of 2025—post-pandemic, hybrid, and time-poor—buyers have less patience for fluffy rapport and more appetite for authentic, repeatable behaviours. This guide turns three classic human-relations principles into practical sales moves you can use today: be genuinely interested, smile first, and use people’s names naturally.
What’s the fastest way to build trust with time-poor buyers in 2025?
Lead with curiosity, not a pitch. Ask about their context before your product, and mirror back what you heard in concrete terms (KPIs, deadlines, constraints). This converts a transactional meeting into a partnership from minute one. In Japan, the US, and Europe alike, executives are bandwidth-constrained; they remember the seller who reduces cognitive load. In enterprise deals, curiosity surfaces hidden stakeholders and post-purchase risks. In SMEs and startups, it reveals cash-flow windows and procurement shortcuts. Curiosity isn’t manipulation; buyers detect feigned interest instantly. Done right, it creates common ground that makes every later ask easier. Start every meeting with one “business-human” question (e.g., “What must be true by quarter-end for this to be a win?”).
Mini-summary: Curiosity first → faster trust → smoother deals. Do now: Prepare three context questions per persona.
How do I show genuine interest without going off-topic?
Be human, but keep it business-linked. Tie personal context to business impact; keep it relevant, short, and anchored in their role, industry, and timeline. Ask about post-purchase adoption (“What would success look like for your users in the first 30 days?”), operational realities (e.g., Japan-specific compliance), and leadership pressures (“What will your CFO scrutinise most this quarter?”). Compare contexts—APAC vs EU privacy, B2B vs consumer rollout, startup urgency vs multinational governance. Document what you learn and open the next meeting by recapping their words—snippet-ready proof you listened.
Mini-summary: Human questions, business purpose. Do now: Build a one-page “interest map” per account.
Does smiling still matter in serious, high-stakes meetings?
Smile first to set the social temperature, then match the room. Under deadline pressure, many sellers present a tense “serious face” that raises defensiveness. A genuine, early smile lowers friction and signals “I’m safe to talk to,” especially in first meetings or escalations. In Japan’s formal settings, a measured smile plus a slight nod communicates respect and openness; in the US, a warmer smile can accelerate rapport. The key is timing: smile as you greet, then calibrate to the buyer’s style within seconds. The goal isn’t cheeriness; it’s creating a cooperative atmosphere where tough topics (risk, price, delivery dates) can be discussed without posturing.
Mini-summary: Smile first, calibrate fast. Do now: Add “reset face → greet with smile” to your pre-meeting checklist.
How can using names increase influence without sounding fake?
Use names sparingly at moments of emphasis. Offer your own name first, confirm pronunciation, then use theirs to mark alignment and commitment—never as filler. In group settings with multiple stakeholders, sketch a quick seating map to avoid missteps later. This habit personalises without pandering and helps you track the real decision network behind procurement. Close clearly: “Aiko-san, we’ll send the red-lined MSA by Friday.”
Mini-summary: Names for signal, not filler. Do now: Practise name recall and pronunciation before the meeting.
What’s the cross-market playbook (Japan vs US vs Europe) for relationship momentum?
Universal habits, local nuance. The same three behaviours—interest, smile, names—work everywhere, but settings differ. In Japan, invest more time upfront on context and internal harmony; be precise with honorifics and follow through meticulously. In the US, move faster to value articulation and next steps, keeping warmth high. In Europe, expect variance (Nordics vs DACH vs Southern Europe) in decision cadence and consensus. Align to company type: startups reward speed and flexibility; multinationals reward consistency and risk management. Hybrid selling post-2020 demands tighter summaries and clearer asynchronous follow-ups.
Mini-summary: Universal habits, local settings. Do now: Add a “market nuance” line to every call plan.
How do I turn these habits into a repeatable system my team can use?
System beats intention. Bake the habits into templates, rituals, and measurable checkpoints. Create a pre-call sheet with (1) three curiosity questions, (2) a reminder to smile on entry, (3) stakeholder names and pronunciations, (4) a 90-second recap script for follow-ups. In your CRM, add fields for “buyer language used,” “stakeholder map,” and “adoption risk notes.” In weekly pipeline reviews, inspect not just stages but relationship signals: trust markers logged, name usage at key moments, and recap emails sent within 24 hours. Train using short, scenario-based drills (enterprise renewal, startup pilot, public-sector RFP).
Mini-summary: Process it so it happens. Do now: Standardise a one-page “relationship checklist.”
Final wrap
Make the buyer—the human—the centre of the conversation. Start with interest, open with a smile, and use names with intent. Then systemise the behaviours so they happen every time. When products look similar, these micro-habits become the differentiator.
About the author
Dr. Greg Story, Ph.D. in Japanese Decision-Making, is President of Dale Carnegie Tokyo Training and Adjunct Professor at Griffith University. He is a two-time winner of the Dale Carnegie “One Carnegie Award” (2018, 2021) and recipient of the Griffith University Business School Outstanding Alumnus Award (2012). As a Dale Carnegie Master Trainer, Greg is certified to deliver globally across all leadership, communication, sales, and presentation programs, including Leadership Training for Results.
He has written several books, including three best-sellers — Japan Business Mastery, Japan Sales Mastery, and Japan Presentations Mastery — along with Japan Leadership Mastery and How to Stop Wasting Money on Training. His works have been translated into Japanese, including ザ営業, プレゼンの達人, トレーニングでお金を無駄にするのはやめましょう, and 現代版「人を動かす」リーダー.
Greg also publishes daily business insights on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter, and hosts six weekly podcasts. On YouTube, he produces The Cutting Edge Japan Business Show, Japan Business Mastery, and Japan’s Top Business Interviews.