The Hidden Fight Inside Every Griever
Grieve That Sh!t
🎙️ Episode Summary: In this powerful episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker opens the door on one of the most misunderstood experiences in grief: the silent battle happening inside your body. After the loss of her nephew Austin, Sharon discovered that grief isn’t just sadness. It’s a full body takeover. It’s your mind racing, your stomach twisting, your heart pounding, and your nervous system trying to protect you in ways that end up keeping you stuck. Through honest storytelling and deep reflection, Sharon explains why so many grievers stay busy, stay strong, and stay silent...
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The Things I Wish I Had Done Differently
Grieve That Sh!t
🎙️ Episode Summary: In this deeply personal episode of Grieve That Sh!t, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker opens her heart about the painful truths she learned after the death of her son, Austin. She shares the moments she wishes she had faced differently—the pretending, the resisting, and the avoiding—and how each of those choices kept her trapped in silence. Through raw honesty and reflection, Sharon reveals what she’s learned about strength, vulnerability, and what real healing actually requires. If you’ve ever felt like you had to be strong for everyone else… or that your...
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It Only Takes a Second to Change Everything
Grieve That Sh!t
In this deeply moving and unforgettable episode of Grieve That Sh!t, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker shares a story that stopped her in her tracks, a moment that changed two families’ lives forever. What began as an ordinary drive with her husband turned into a tragedy they witnessed unfold before their eyes. Through this raw, emotional experience, Sharon explores how quickly life can change, how grief shatters the illusion of time, and what it truly means to live with awareness, compassion, and love before it’s too late. This episode isn’t just about loss it’s about the fragility of...
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The Cost of Avoiding Your Grief
Grieve That Sh!t
“Avoiding the pain won’t make it go away—it only teaches it to hide.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker breaks down one of the sneakiest traps that keeps grievers stuck: avoidance. When life shatters, the natural instinct is to run from the pain, to stay busy, and to pretend you’re doing fine. But as Sharon reminds us, ignoring grief doesn’t erase it—it buries it. This episode dives deep into what happens when we try to outsmart our pain. Sharon explains why our brains convince us to avoid reminders of our person, how distraction becomes a...
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This Is Grief
Grieve That Sh!t
“Grief isn’t just sadness—it’s a full-body takeover. It’s the storm that hits when love has nowhere left to land.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker takes you back to the foundation of it all: understanding what grief actually is. For too long, we’ve been fed clichés about “moving on” or “staying strong,” while no one ever taught us how to live through the ache. Sharon unpacks the real definition of grief—the kind you feel in your bones. She shares what she wishes she’d known when her nephew Austin died, and why understanding the truth about grief...
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Loneliness – The Silent Weight of Grief
Grieve That Sh!t
“Loneliness in grief isn’t just about missing your person—it’s about missing the version of yourself you were when they were alive. Naming that loneliness is how you stop drowning in it.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker takes on one of the hardest truths of grief: loneliness. Even in a crowded room, grief makes you feel like you’re on another planet. People may surround you, but no one else can feel the exact pain you’re carrying. Sharon unpacks why grief is so isolating—why people avoid your pain, why you feel like you don’t belong...
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Grief Is the Pile of Shit They Didn’t Warn Us About
Grieve That Sh!t
“We should’ve been given hip-high boots and a damn instruction manual. Instead, we’re dropped into grief with nothing but clichés. But here’s the truth—you can face the pile, grieve it, and climb out.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker gets brutally honest about what grief really feels like: like stepping straight into a hip-high pile of shit with no warning, no boots, and no map out. Nobody prepared us for the sleepless nights, the chest-crushing pain, or the brain fog that makes you feel like you’re losing your mind. Nobody told us grief...
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What Is the Shit?
Grieve That Sh!t
“The shit is not just the loss itself—it’s the lies, the silence, the guilt, and the pressure that come with it. You didn’t create it, but you can name it. And once you name it, you can grieve it.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker breaks down what “the shit” actually means. Grief isn’t just the pain of missing your person—it’s all the lies, the silence, the pressure, and the guilt that come piled on top of the loss. From the bad advice (“time heals”) to the avoidance (people ducking you at the grocery store), Sharon calls it out....
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Why Grieve That Shit?
Grieve That Sh!t
“Grief is not polite. It’s not delicate. It doesn’t wait until you’re ready. It crashes in and takes over your whole life. So let’s stop pretending—and let’s grieve that shit.” On the very first episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker rips the mask off grief and tells the truth: grief is messy, painful, and nothing like the world says it should be. Sharon shares the moment her life split in two with the death of her nephew Austin and why she chose to call this podcast Grieve That Shit. You’ll learn why clichés like “time heals” do more harm than good, why...
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The Raw Reality of Grief
Grieve That Sh!t
Episode Summary: Welcome to Healing Starts With the Heart, the podcast where grief meets resilience. In this episode, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker gets raw and real about the unspoken chaos of grief—what it feels like in your body, why your mind can’t stop replaying the moment it all changed, and how society leaves us completely unprepared to deal with it. From the hospital diagnosis to the late-night phone call that split life into “before and after,” Sharon lays out what really happens when grief hits—and why it’s not weakness, madness, or something you just “get over.”...
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Welcome to Healing Starts With the Heart, the podcast where grief meets resilience.
In this episode, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker gets raw and real about the unspoken chaos of grief—what it feels like in your body, why your mind can’t stop replaying the moment it all changed, and how society leaves us completely unprepared to deal with it.
From the hospital diagnosis to the late-night phone call that split life into “before and after,” Sharon lays out what really happens when grief hits—and why it’s not weakness, madness, or something you just “get over.” It’s a full-body, full-heart experience that demands to be felt.
If you’ve ever wondered “What the hell is happening to me?” this episode is your answer: you’re not broken—you’re grieving.
🧠 Key Points Discussed:
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The moment everything changes: the call, the diagnosis, the hospital, the knock at the door.
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Why grief is a full-body experience—chest tightness, heavy head, shallow breath, restless nervous system, twisted stomach, sleepless nights.
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The battle between your logical mind (searching for answers) and your heart (knowing the truth).
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How grief shows up in everyday life—seeing their favorite cereal in the store, picking up the phone to call them, lying awake at night unable to breathe.
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The danger of performing instead of grieving—wearing a smile, staying busy, saying “I’m fine,” while silently falling apart.
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Why society has left us unprepared: no one showed us how to grieve, only how to hide.
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Grief isn’t just sadness—it’s anger, numbness, confusion, shutdown, and longing all at once.
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Pain is not the problem; pretending is.
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Surviving grief is not about fixing or outrunning it—it’s about one breath, one moment, one day at a time.
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Tools Sharon shares in That Grief Sht* ebook + video series:
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Why grief feels like it does in the body
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What it means to “be strong” vs. fall apart
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Allowing emotions (anger, numbness, tears) instead of suppressing them
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Answering the question: Am I crazy or am I normal?
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📓 Journal Questions for Reflection:
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What was the moment my life split into “before” and “after”?
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How does grief show up in my body right now?
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Where am I performing instead of allowing myself to feel?
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What everyday moments trigger my grief—and what do they teach me about my love?
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How have I silenced my emotions to comfort others?
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What might it look like to take grief one moment, one breath, at a time?
🩶 Conclusion:
Grief is not weakness. It’s not madness. It’s love with nowhere to go.
You were never taught how to grieve—only how to perform, suppress, and “be strong.” But pretending suffocates the heart. Healing starts when you stop performing and let yourself feel.
So if you’re exhausted from holding it all together, if your nervous system is on fire and your heart is begging to be heard—this episode is your reminder: you are not broken. You are grieving. And grieving is natural.
One moment, one breath, one day at a time—you will survive this.
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