The Grief Men Are Never Taught to Talk About with Coach Martize
Release Date: 01/23/2026
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“Grief does not disappear when you ignore it. It just gets heavier when you carry it alone.”
In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, opens an honest conversation about men, grief, and emotional pain.
After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full-body experience that affects thoughts, emotions, and the nervous system. And while grief impacts everyone, many men are taught early that strength means silence.
This episode challenges the belief that “big boys don’t cry” and explores what really happens when men are never given space to feel, talk, or be witnessed in their grief.
Sharon is joined by Coach Martize of The Frazier Group, who brings his personal story and professional experience into the conversation. Together, they unpack how emotional suppression is learned, why avoidance is not weakness but survival, and how outdated beliefs keep people stuck long after the loss.
This episode is not about fixing grief.
It is about creating space for it.
Because pain does not need to be handled.
It needs to be held.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
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Why emotional pain is often avoided, not because of weakness, but because of conditioning
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How men are taught to survive instead of feel
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The difference between strength and emotional suppression
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Where beliefs about toughness and vulnerability come from
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Why grief needs space, not silence
Questions to Sit With After Listening
You do not need to answer these quickly.
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Where did I learn that showing emotion was unsafe?
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What feelings have I been pushing down instead of listening to?
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How has “being strong” shaped the way I grieve?
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Where do I need space instead of advice?
Homework for You
Write this at the top of a page:
“What I was taught about emotions.”
Now finish the sentence honestly.
No fixing.
No explaining.
Just notice what comes up.
That awareness matters.
Resources + Next Steps
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