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309. How To Be Awesome When Someone Says Something Hurtful

How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast

Release Date: 12/19/2024

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How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast

It’s back to school and back to routines and for me that means a new season of podcasting and starting this one off with how to maximize our time while our kids are in school.   Insane to say but I now have a high schooler and in my many years of having school age children I’ve learned so much about how to use this time to have time for yourself, get the things done that you need to, catch up with people that you love, fitness & nutrition, take care of appointments and errands… without wasting any time.    My goal of this podcast is to give you a really helpful...

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How To Be Awesome At Not Having FOMO   This is one huge deep dive into FOMO.   The fear of missing out and why I think it can quietly steal your peace, confidence and joy if you don’t have a plan for how to think about it.    Lots of things I talk about on this podcast, I’m currently also working on becoming awesome at the thing.    This is one of those things that I’ve got down.  I don’t have FOMO ever and I don’t get my feelings hurt if I wasn’t invited somewhere.    Not that either of these things are bad feelings - I don't actually...

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We just officially passed the 1 million download mark on this podcast and I’m so crazy grateful for it.    What an incredible time to be alive and have so many ways to connect with people that you would never connect with otherwise.    To celebrate- I wanted to share things I know for sure.  Some of the lessons and thoughts that feel like the most valuable right now from books and interviews and conversations with really interesting people.    We were renewing our passports yesterday and I asked the girl helping us how her day was going and she looked at...

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What if disappearing for 30 days felt like a rocket ship toward the goals you’ve been thinking about… the habits you’ve wanted to build, the changes you’ve wanted to make.  In this episode, I’m showing you how to hit pause on your normal life, go all in on what actually moves the needle, and come out with results that would’ve taken years.. or never happened at all. This episode is about changing up your routine and getting quiet for a certain period of time so that you can be laser focused on doing things differently.  It will mean passing up things you normally do and...

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I feel like there is this shift in what used to be the habits and routines of “extreme biohackers” or “health gurus” and now those same things have become part of a lifestyle that people are adapting to make it their new healthy normal.    What we eat, how we move, what we focus on, how we approach health & supplements & body recovery, having a low stress lifestyle - all of it.    This is - my opinion - the best ever cultural shift… because it makes us all healthier, happier in our day to day because we feel great and we will live longer and age better....

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If you spend 18 minutes a day — focused on learning or practicing a skill, you will become better than 95% of the population at that skill.   That’s the 100 hour rule.  It’s about consistency and this concept of small daily progress that compounds over time.   Jesse Itzler popularized this concept and it shows that you can become great at anything you’re willing to put 100 hours towards.     You don’t need more time. You need more intention.   In this episode I’m pulling out so many of the highlighted sections from...

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We took Parker and the girls and a few buddies to Dave and Busters a few weeks ago and there was this small thing that happened that has been a huge perspective shift in my life. it's worth a podcast episode.   I was telling Craig on the way there that I've kept all our past Dave and Buster's card organized in the Ziploc baggie in my purse so we have so many cards we have endless game credits we won't have to buy any cards it's literally gonna be the easiest trip to Dave & Buster's ever. So we get there and we're at that scanning machine and one by one each of the 10 cards I had been...

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The craziest thing that I’ve learned over the last year of reading and re-reading aging and longevity books is that much of what we think is natural aging is actually neglect.     My goal in this episode is to reframe what we assume or are told is “natural aging” or “just getting older” and show all the small things that we might be neglecting over time.   This whole concept is so empowering!!  Rather than feeling like we aren’t in control of how we age, we realize that we are actually in control of so much of it.    Focusing on all the tiny things we...

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In this episode, I’m sharing the best tips for maximizing your budget when it comes to party planning - especially kids parties.   I have this way of doing it that’s efficient and organized and easy to decide what’s worth paying for and what’s better to do yourself.    I’m sharing specific examples from the Party I just threw for Parker because I think it will give you lots and lots of ideas for the parties you plan in the future.   This one was a baseball and ice cream theme so I definitely needed ice cream cones.  I got two quotes for companies to scoop...

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I just learned these two BEST strategies for responding when 
 
Notice I said respond not react because we know the longer we can space out the action or comment and our reaction the more control we have. 
 
These two strategies will teach you HOW TO RESPOND when someone belittles you or says something disrespectful. 
 
And then best part is, you leave the situation having handled it with confidence and control - and you haven’t lowered your standards for yourself - like the other person likely did. 
 
These are skills that you have to think about BEFORE you’re in the situation so when the situation happens, you’re ready!! 
 
 
I learned these 2 strategies from Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and an expert on communication.
  1. Have them repeat it 
  2. Ask them if this is their intention with this 
When someone is belittling to you or says something hurtful- make them repeat it.
They are trying to get a reaction out of you. 
When you ask them to repeat it - they don’t get that reaction/ that response time. 
It takes the fire out of it and flips it on them. 
They don’t want to say it again - the spotlight is on them!  

THEN ask question of intent.
Did you say that to hurt me?
Puts a mirror on them.
 
You don’t have to respond or react at all!!!  It handles it!! 
You don’t have to figure out how to respond to something you dont want to respond to. 
 
Did you say that to offend me?
Usually it’s no no no I didn’t mean to!! 
I’m just kidding - you don’t need to be so sensitive etc.
 
You’re not going to believe how good this is!!! 
 
Two skills that you have to think about BEFORE you’re in the situation so when the situation happens, you’re ready!! 
 
Listen - some of these comments could come from good people with good intentions.  But it doesn’t always translate this way.  It’s your job to respond in a confident way without it rattling you or making you depressed.
 
Because we know people opinions have so much more to do with them, than us. 
 
And know!!! Don’t lower your standard of yourself because someone else lowered their standard of themselves.
 
Next time this happens to you, you’ll be ready to handle it in the most awesome way possible!