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Separation Survival: 9 Tips for Navigating Shared Living Arrangements

The Divorce Course Podcast

Release Date: 01/21/2025

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In this episode we discuss the emotional, legal, and logistical hurdles of coexisting with your ex-partner whilst waiting for property settlement. We share practical strategies for setting boundaries, sorting money, protecting your safety, and planning for the next steps in your separation. Whether you’re navigating this situation temporarily or for the foreseeable future, this episode provides actionable insights to help you survive—and hopefully also thrive.

 Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.

Listen to This Episode If You:

  • 🏠 Are living with your ex-partner post-separation.

  • ❓ Need guidance on setting emotional and physical boundaries in the shared space.

  • 💡 Want tips on co-parenting and managing household finances in the short term.

  • 🛡 Are worried about coercive control or financial abuse.

  • 📚 Are preparing for the next steps in your separation or divorce journey.

 

 

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

  1. Setting Boundaries:

    • How to create physical and emotional space in a shared home.

    • Tips for minimizing conflict and maintaining privacy.

  2. Legal Considerations:

    • Can your ex legally force you out of the home?

    • When family violence orders may apply and what to do if you feel unsafe.

  3. Communication Strategies:

    • Managing discussions to avoid unnecessary conflict.

    • Protecting yourself by communicating like a judge is watching.

  4. Financial Management:

    • Dividing household expenses fairly and preparing for financial independence.

    • Understanding spousal maintenance and consent orders during separation.

  5. Co-Parenting While Living Together:

    • Creating a parenting schedule to avoid misunderstandings.

    • Protecting your time with your kids from manipulative behaviors.

  6. Emotional and Practical Self-Care:

    • Building routines to maintain mental well-being.

    • Seeking support from friends, professionals, or community groups.

  7. Preparing for the Next Steps:

    • Documenting assets and financial information.

    • Consulting a lawyer 

    • a safety plan for the future.

  8. Safety Considerations:

    • Recognizing signs of coercive control and financial abuse.

    • Creating and implementing a safety plan if the situation becomes unsafe.

 

 

Links & Resources Mentioned:

 

 

Free Resources:

 

 

Emergency Contacts:

  • WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811

  • LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid

  • Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.

  • Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.

  • Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732

  • Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

  • DV Connect Women’s Line: 1800 811 811

  • National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732

 

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:43 Legal Disclaimer and Jingle

01:44 Living Under One Roof: Challenges and Boundaries

03:32 Physical and Emotional Safety in Divorce

05:33 Communication and Legal Precautions during separation

07:39 Financial Manipulation and Consent Orders in Divorce

09:35 Spousal Maintenance and Financial Independence after separation

16:05 Co-Parenting Strategies during separation

19:26 Managing Finances During Separation

26:16 Navigating Separation Under One Roof

26:41 Handling Financial Responsibilities during divorce

28:04 Dealing with Conflict and Court Warnings in Divorce

33:42 Prioritizing Self-Care and New Routines during divorce

36:05 Preparing for Property Settlement and Children's Matters 

42:43 Safety Considerations and Creating a Safety Plan for Divorce

47:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Final Thoughts:
This episode offers both practical and emotional tips for anyone facing the challenge of living under one roof with their ex. Learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself, and plan for your future. You’re not alone—help and support are available to guide you through this difficult time.

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.