How Covert Narcissists Weaponise Divorce (And What You Can Do About It) Episode 186
Release Date: 02/26/2025
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info_outlineHave you just realized your ex might be a covert narcissist? Thought your separation was amicable,only to find yourself blindsided by manipulation and deceit? In this episode, we break down the six key signs of a covert narcissist during divorce, property settlement or coparenting. From playing the victim to using the legal system against you, we’ll help you spot the red flags and protect yourself.
Listen to This Episode If You:
✅ Are going through a divorce or property settlement and feel like something is off.
❓ Want to understand the subtle tactics of a covert narcissist.
💰 Need to protect your financial assets from manipulation.
⚖️ Are dealing with custody battles and want to safeguard your children.
📜 Suspect your ex is using legal loopholes to control or deceive you.
Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional.
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Introduction to Covert Narcissism in Divorce
01:23 Understanding Covert Narcissists
02:31 Recognizing the Victim Role
05:24 Manipulation Tactics in Divorce
13:26 Custody Battles and Child Manipulation
17:53 Legal Manipulation and Delays
20:03 Mediation Challenges with Narcissists
22:33 Legal Advice and Second Opinions
22:56 Mediation with a Covert Narcissist
23:10 Document Everything
23:49 Investigate Property Claims
24:07 Handling Unreasonable Negotiations
25:15 Free Resources for Mediation
28:02 False Allegations and Manipulation
35:37 Expecting Amicable Pretenses
42:06 Final Thoughts and Advice
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
🔹 The Victim Role: How covert narcissists gain sympathy while making you feel like the problem.
🔹 Financial Manipulation: Hidden assets, delaying tactics, and emotional blackmail.
🔹 Custody Battles & Control: The sneaky ways they use your children against you.
🔹 Legal Abuse & False Allegations: How they use the court system to exhaust and intimidate you.
🔹 How to Protect Yourself: Strategies to recognize manipulation and safeguard your rights.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
🔗 Support Services
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Lifeline – 13 11 14 (Australia)
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1-800-RESPECT – Domestic Violence Support
🎙 Recommended Episodes:
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The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce – Learn the tactics they use and how to counter them.https://youtu.be/OrRvd9XzuIg?si=KDYG1a0Fh8xXBn7q
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8 Ways to Protect Yourself from DARVO – Recognize and defend against manipulation.https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=54TMNNtK_H5r2QGj
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Can You Mediate with a Narcissist? – Practical advice for handling negotiations. https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=iY_J7pz-uA6ChOwc
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Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional.