189. Healing from Infidelity: A Conversation with Dr. Talal H. Alsaleem

In this heartfelt episode of Warriors Unmasked, Chuck Thuss sits down with Dr. Talal H. Alsaleem—founder of The Infidelity Counseling Center and creator of Systematic Affair Recovery Therapy (SART™)—to explore why infidelity happens, how it impacts both partners, and practical steps couples can take to heal and prevent future betrayal.

Through candid anecdotes and evidence-based insights, Dr. Alsaleem walks listeners through the emotional aftermath of an affair, emphasizing the importance of empathy, self-reflection, and structured therapy. He delves into the nuances of rebuilding trust, setting healthy boundaries, and cultivating resilience in relationships, sharing success stories and cautionary examples from his SART™ practice. With discussion on navigating shame, managing forgiveness, and redefining intimacy, this episode offers both individuals and couples a compassionate roadmap for recovery. 

Whether you’re healing from past wounds or seeking to fortify your partnership against future challenges, you’ll gain actionable advice, expert guidance, and renewed hope for a stronger, more authentic connection.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1. Dr. Alsaleem developed SART™ after noticing traditional therapy lacked a tailored approach to infidelity recovery.

2. Infidelity is defined as a breach of an exclusivity contract—outsourcing emotional or physical needs without partner consent.

3. Affairs stem from three main roots: relationship deficits, individual mental health or trauma, and environmental factors (culture, occupation, technology).

4. Healing doesn’t always mean staying together; it can involve repairing the relationship or supporting individual trauma recovery.

5. Prevent infidelity by building relationship maturity: screen compatibility, foster open communication, and master conflict-resolution skills.

6. Common myths—like “once a cheater, always a cheater”—oversimplify a complex issue; informed choices and structured therapy can lead to lasting healing.
   

GUEST LINKS:

• Dr. Talal. H. Alsaleem, PsyD, LMFT - https://www.talalalsaleem.com
• Instagram (@dr.talal.h.alsaleem)
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/infidelityrecoveryexpert
• https://www.survivinginfidelitycounseling.com/about-dr-talal
  
  

LINKS:

• www.thecompassionateconnection.com
• www.warriorsunmasked.com 
• Join Chuck’s Text Community: 251-418-7966

 

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 – Introduction & overview of today’s conversation on infidelity recovery
• 02:00 – Chuck welcomes Dr. Alsaleem and sets the stage for healing from affairs
• 04:00 – Dr. Alsaleem shares his clinical journey and creation of SART™
• 08:00 – Gaps in standard therapy and redefining infidelity as a contract breach
• 12:00 – Three categories of infidelity causes: relational, individual, environmental
• 16:00 – Emotional impact on betrayed partners & common psychological reactions
• 20:00 – Strategies to prevent affairs: relationship maturity, communication, compatibility
• 24:00 – Debunking myths about cheating and reframing healing outcomes
• 28:00 – Recovery rates with SART™ and definitions of “success” in infidelity therapy
• 32:00 – Overview of Dr. Alsaleem’s books and additional resources
• 36:00 – Final thoughts, encouragement to listeners, and invitation to share this episode