Human Reboot
In this podcast, Emma Last will be talking about how giving yourself a human reboot can be really important for managing stress, preventing work addiction, burnout and mental illness, alongside making your mental fitness and wellbeing a daily priority. You will be empowered with practical tips on how to learn to pause so you can get clear and perform at your best in your business career or life - to switch off to switch on. It will give you direction and hope in navigating challenging and changing times and will share proven flourishing formulas to help you in living life to the full. It’s time for your Human Reboot!
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Be The Best Version Of You In 2022 With Jason Todd
01/07/2022
Be The Best Version Of You In 2022 With Jason Todd
Human Reboot’s first episode of 2022 is with Jason Todd. Jason is passionate about making a difference and committed to Gandhi's vision of being the change you want to see in the world. Despite being without an abundance of qualifications, Jason managed to blaze a trail in the commercial world. Jason helped build a recruitment business that floated on the stock market for 22 million. He went on to establish and sell a further two recruitment consultancies before realising there was more to happiness and success than cash and flash cars and shiny things. In this episode he shares his story of chasing big things but never being very happy, so he looked at his life and focused on what he enjoyed doing. He changed and focused on the simple things. He shares his views on resolutions and goals being something that you’re going to commit to definitely something that you can build some passion into or a goal to give up, how to give up your signature moan, destination addiction - by putting off your happiness to a point in the future or musterbation ‘ I must have X then I’ll be happy’, and then what three words describe you at your best, to-do lists and to-be lists and seek out positive things. ABOUT JASON Jason is a Keynote Speaker and Facilitator for a group called the Art of Brilliance. Their work is based around a Doctorate in positive psychology. He gently reminds people about who they are at their best. CONNECT WITH JASON ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a Change Expert who supports people navigate through challenge and change. She is qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA Find free resources, training and more info at If you would like to find out more information on the Senior Mental Health Lead - Fully Funded Training for schools Of if you want our A4 info booklet email or to talk through in more details please call 07970484228 DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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Jumping Without A Parachute With Jayne Hume
12/23/2021
Jumping Without A Parachute With Jayne Hume
This episode is with Jayne Hume who is a business mentor and mindset coach for health and fitness professionals. She helps them to grow impactful and profitable businesses without damaging their own health, family, and relationships. She ran her own women's health clinic for over 12 years and previously had a career in project management and business development. Jayne talks about how she is a free-spirited, maverick sort of person yet how structure can set you free and allows you to work in your best energy. She started her career in Aerospace project management but around the time she was thinking of having children she came to the decision that it was no longer the right path for her. So many people said “you’re throwing it all away” but that didn't feel like the case to Jayne - she ‘jumped without a parachute’. as she calls it. She believes sometimes you need to have faith in yourself and to believe that it will work out for you even if the path is different from what you may have originally pictured. Jayne sees that parts of life aren’t wasted they are just a natural transition into something else, she talks about her more spiritual side, being brave, having real faith and belief and her tips on structure setting you free. RECOMMENDATIONSMel Robbins - https://www.audible.co.uk/search?searchAuthor=Mel+Robbins&source_code=M2M30DFT1BkSH101514005Q ABOUT JAYNE Business Mentor and Mindset Coach for Health and Fitness Professionals helping to grow impactful and profitable businesses without damaging their own health, family, and relationships. She ran her own Women's Health clinic for over 12 years and previously had a career in project management and business development. CONNECT WITH JAYNE Instagram @Jayne_Hume ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA Find free resources, training and more info at If you would like to find out more information on the Senior Mental Health Lead - Fully Funded Training for schools Of if you want our A4 info booklet email or to talk through in more details please call 07970484228 DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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From Gambling to Being The Person I Wanted To Be
12/16/2021
From Gambling to Being The Person I Wanted To Be
This episode is with Jobe Neal, who helps Coaches, Consultants, and Course Creators to build their marketing system to generate more clients and close more sales. Jobe shares how his definition of success was connected to gambling and becoming a Pro-Poker player, then how he reframed his identity of success into business and how he moved from addiction and a dark time to finding a sense of purpose. KEY LEARNS “Instead of just trying to cut something cold turkey, if you can replace it with something productive. I think that makes more logical sense as well. Like, how much harder is it to just give something up? If you aren't putting something in its place?” “I think a lot of people really focus a lot on the chemical side of addictions and stuff like that. I think that it's probably more important to look at the identity side, like how do you see yourself “So you've got your mindset, your body send your skillset, and most guys really focus more on the mindset and the skillset side of things. And we do tend to ignore the other side of the feeling side of things, which is kind of more important in a way, because how can you actually influence your thoughts without addressing how you feel about those sorts, you know, on a real sustainable long term type of way? Yeah. And then, and that is something that I've noticed a lot of men do ignore, I think, I think that women are a lot better at the body set side of things” “I found it really difficult to reach out for help when I needed it. And it was kind of more that I went more insular. And when I went into learning about things, in hindsight, I do think that there are points when I look back, that I could have reached out to maybe groups or to a coach or mentor earlier, you know, I believe massively in having that support network around you when you're an entrepreneur in business.” “Judgement creates a barrier” “it creates shame, automatically shuts us off, because no one wants to feel that way. So the only way to avoid that is to avoid the conversation. Why would you keep feeding someone opportunities to keep making you feel shameful, and I'm not saying to go out and encourage people, but all you really have to do is hold space” “How can it define you in a good way, we can try and avoid all these things. And it's hard. So I suppose you want to define yourself by good events and not define yourself by bad ones. But we're defined by everything in a way, you just have to, like, find a good frame for that, you might not be able to see it right now. Because it's kind of like you're putting your hand to your face, It's not really until you take your hand away, that you can see your whole arm. So I think it's just looking at it with perspective.” “I think that for me, it was something that I like to do to make myself feel better. But it was also part of something larger as well. I think with that whole identity thing. I think that it becomes more than just something that you're using to cope with. It's kind of more so falling into a place of comfortability.” “For me, it's like, how do I switch off my mind so I can come back and be fresh? So yeah, I find that playing pool, which sort of, for me doesn't feel like a very mind taxing thing? Yeah, yeah, exactly. And some of that, as well, I like to play chess as well, because I can just play without having to think too much. Like if I wanted to do really well, I would focus a lot more. But it's also something that I can just play.”There's always something that comes out of a bad situation as well. And I think we've only go so much I learned from the game itself that really applies to life.” “ I've had some people say that like sales calls are extremely difficult when you first start out, but for me, it wasn't difficult at all, because I'd already sort of been in that like high roller for want of a better phrase world playing with money in a way. So getting on a sales call, it wasn't confronting, because I just looked at it as a game.” “Practice makes perfect, and you can't expect to do a new sales call and be good at it straight away. You know, we need to practice these things. So the more you can do the better.” “The one that I really like is if you're overthinking, write. If you're underthinking read, and if you just if you're just thinking then do both” RECOMMENDATIONS The Unstoppable Beacon by Anthony Hammocks. ABOUT JOBE Jobe helps Coaches, Consultants and Course Creators to build their marketing system to generate more clients and close more sales. CONNECT WITH JOBE: Facebook Group: Linkedin: ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA Find free resources, training, and more info at If you would like to find out more information on the Senior Mental Health Lead - Fully Funded Training for schools Of if you want our A4 info booklet email or to talk through in more details please call 07970484228 DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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Impacting Lives Through Coaching With Tasneem Ali
12/09/2021
Impacting Lives Through Coaching With Tasneem Ali
This episode is with Tasneem Ali, she is an Authentic Leadership Coach and helps ambitious introverts get out of their own way and grow their career by creating an authentic leadership presence. Her mission is for leaders to create a ripple effect that affects their own lives but impacts the lives of those around them. Tasneem's is a high achiever and her story goes back to 4-5 years ago when she felt there was something pulling her down, she lost her excitement for her work. A few months later she realised that she had been hiding her feelings, she sought help from her GP but it wasn’t that until she realised that it wasn’t the depression that she had been diagnosed with but was that she had lost the meaning in her work. She got a coach, and this is when her life started to transform when she realised what was missing was making a true impact. Impact one life at a time. About 3 sessions in she realised that she could impact lives with her experience through coaching, which is something she has now gone on to do on a part-time basis.. How do you make your corner of the world just a little better. We talk about coaching, impacting other people's lives, finding your flow, authenticity, introversion, making your corner of the world just a little better, and putting people first. RECOMMENDATIONS ABOUT TASNEEM Tasneem is an Authentic Leadership Coach and helps ambitious introverts get out of their own way and grow their career by creating an authentic leadership presence. Tasneem works with individuals and organisations on a 1:1 basis as well as offers group coaching, training & workshops as well as talks to empower people's thinking for powerful action. CONNECT WITH TASNEEM EMAIL: [email protected] ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA Find free resources, training, and more info at If you would like to find out more information on the Senior Mental Health Lead - Fully Funded Training for schools Of if you want our A4 info booklet email or to talk through in more details please call 07970484228 DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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Why We Need A Whole School Approach To Mental Heath and Wellbeing With David Leech
12/01/2021
Why We Need A Whole School Approach To Mental Heath and Wellbeing With David Leech
David Leech is a qualified teacher of over twenty years. He worked across the education spectrum in Primary, Secondary, Maintained, and Private sectors in a range of roles from teacher to Headteacher and loved his career. So much so that he became more ‘Mr Leech’ than ‘David’. David shares his story about a period of poor mental health. This episode may be triggering some as we talk about suicidal ideation. David shares his reboot story, his tips about gratitude and kindness, and then how he has gone on to change his career to focus his energies on helping individuals and organisations develop strategies to change cultures and approaches towards mental health and wellbeing. He works with schools to help them to develop a whole-school approach to mental health and wellbeing, ensuring wellbeing is in the DNA of the school so that both teachers and pupils can flourish. He is passionate about ‘smashing the stigma’ surrounding poor mental health and changing the narrative for those suffering in silence. ABOUT DAVID David Leech is a partner at Crusaider First Aid and Mental Health & Wellbeing, an organisation offering training and coaching to adults and children in both physical and mental health. CONTACT DAVID https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-leech-431b0b1a2/ If you would like to find out more information on the Senior Mental Health Lead - Fully Funded Training ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If you would like to find out more information on the Senior Mental Health Lead - Fully Funded Training Of if you want our A4 info booklet email or to talk through in more details please call 07970484228 DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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Human Reboot Key Learns From Episodes 24-31
11/17/2021
Human Reboot Key Learns From Episodes 24-31
This episode gives some little teasers from episodes 24-31. It covers toxic relationships, money mindset, Mental health in the workplace, baby loss, depression, Transawareness, women balancing it all and we all have a story to tell. ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or to find out more about my Rapid Resilience reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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We All Sit On A Mountain Of Extraordinary Ordinary Everyday Stories
11/10/2021
We All Sit On A Mountain Of Extraordinary Ordinary Everyday Stories
This episode is with Rachel Maunder, Rachel works with people who want to learn how to craft their stories for speaking, helping them to find and craft their stories for greater engagement, and ultimately, more business. She believes we all have a story that we all sit on a mountain of extraordinary ordinary everyday stories that illustrate a point that you're wanting to make, they are every bit as valuable as those other bigger stories. She shares how she found her authentic self after comparing herself to her sister for many years and some great tips on how she flourishes in life. KEY LEARNS “I was only four years old. Because literally in those days, you started school in the term in which you were going to turn five, and I'm a June baby. So I started after Easter. So I'd only been there two or three weeks. And I was enjoying it, you know, I was the third of three children. So I was more than ready to go to school when it was my turn. But what happened was, I know this doesn't happen in schools now. But our toilet block at the primary school was out in the playground. So if you needed to go from the classroom, you would have to go out of the building on your own to the loo block and make your way back in. And so after I came out of the loo block, I looked around and there was nobody about; not even the caretaker. And I just thought, ‘I could go home. Who's going to stop me'. And off I went. And the point that I tell that story to illustrate is that as a four-year-old seeing an opportunity, I didn't give a single thought to the fact that I had four roads to cross. It was a 10-minute walk from the store to my house with four roads to cross. I didn't even think - Would my mum be at home or not, which she wasn't. I didn't think about how worried people would be or that my class teacher may or may not get into trouble for not keeping a close enough eye on me. I didn't give any of that a thought. And my point was that as we get older, particularly as women, I think we start to put all those blocks in of maybe I shouldn't because I might get run over? Or what would I do if my mum's not at home? So yeah, that's the little story that I tell and I tell loads of little things like that. They're inconsequential.“ “So it's a long time ago, I was living on the outskirts of London, working for one of the Inner-London Boroughs. I loved my job, was living in my own flat that I had recently bought. I had a very busy social life. So on the surface, everything was absolutely fine. And I was really surprised to wake up on a Monday morning, feeling, I can't get out of bed today. And I'm not somebody that's prone to that kind of feeling at all, it really took me by surprise. And I knew that therefore, it was something a bit different, but I didn't quite understand what it was. And I somehow knew intuitively that it wasn't just a day off that I needed. I needed, maybe a week or whatever. So I phoned the office and spoke to my line manager who happened to be a woman, and I don't know what the rules are now. But at the time, you could self-certify for up to eight days. I think it was and she said, Well, what do you think is wrong? I said, Well, I just feel absolutely exhausted. I don't know what it is, I just can't come in. And she was surprised because as I say, that's not something that people expect from me or that I did either. Then she took her line managers hat off for a moment and said, Rachel, I would just advise you, if you are taking time off for something that is essentially emotional or a mental health issue, that you go and see a doctor so that if anything comes back on this, you have been to a doctor and taken it seriously, which was the furthest thing from my thoughts, to be honest. But I thought okay, well, I better take her advice. So I did luckily for me, I think because I saw it as a tick box exercise really to have been to see the doctor because I thought oh, he's probably going to offer me some antidepressants or something which I absolutely do not need or want to take. But actually, what he said was what are you hoping I can do for you? So I was so taken aback by that I said, Well, I was hoping you might be able to refer me for some counseling, which is what happened. You had to wait a little while to get that counseling appointment. I was living in London at the time and working for the London Borough of Southwark, which is where the Maudsley hospital is so in a sense, it was our local hospital, but that kind of freaked me out a little bit because in the south of England, the Maudsley hospital is one of the major psychiatric units. It's literally across the road from King's College Hospital. So it's a big teaching psychiatric hospital, but it kind of freaked me out that that's where I was going for these counseling sessions. But so I went along, went to my first session, and didn't know what to expect. I had never been for anything like that before and just sat there for a while. And there was the counselor plus he had a student sitting with him, and they didn't say anything. And I thought, well, this is a bit weird. So eventually, I said, Are you expecting me to start? And he said, Are you expecting something else? Anyway, in the end, and I don't know where this came from, it was the first time it had even come into my head. But I heard myself saying yes, I am absolutely exhausted from trying to be like my sister. And that really took me aback. So my sister is two and a half years older than me, we are very, very good friends and very, very close and kind of always have been, but she was always a sweet, kind, gentle person. I was a bit more feisty, a bit more of a go-getter. A bit more outspoken. I was the sporty one, all of that stuff. And my dad used to nickname me, I don't know why as Hard Annie. He used to call me Hard Annie. And it was certainly in his eyes that I felt I fell very short of those qualities that my sister had, and everybody loved my sister. She was always nice, whereas you know, sometimes I could perhaps be a little bit awkward as a teenager because I would come out and say what I thought was cool. She never really did that. I guess she knew when to be quiet as well because it wasn't that she necessarily thought any differently from me, particularly on politics and things like that, but she knew it wasn't worth the squeeze as it were to say it. So that whole episode kind of started me on my journey to find who I was, I suppose, because what I realised through those counseling sessions was that I didn't need to be like my sister. I was fine as I was. And I understand that on an intellectual level. And of course, there is that lovely quote saying you can only be you because everybody else has taken. But you know, it's an ongoing journey.” “This is why I suppose bullying is something that can be so damaging in terms of mental health, it can stay with us and impact our confidence for many years to come. It may not be intentional, and it may depend on where our mindset is, at that time when we were a child as to whether we interpret it as something that is deemed to be bullying or not, or whether it's deemed to be just something that we are very sensitive to.” “I suppose it's this whole curiosity about why we are as we are. The first thing I wanted to study when I was doing my A’ levels was psychology. So I've always had this interest in what makes us different. I didn't in the end study psychology as such, but my first proper job, if you like, was working with juvenile offenders out of curiosity about what it is that goes on that makes a child become an offender. So there was all of that. But on the back of that, I then trained and became a counselor, and then became a coach. So always that thing of wanting to help people explore why they are as they are was there. And then as coaching came more into my life, I don't think it was any accident.” “Counselling, if you like, looks back to see why we are as we are, whereas coaching looks forward from where we are, and how we are going to get where we want to get. And when you're busy with young children in particular, actually, we haven't got time to look back and worry about why we're in this pickle that we're in, it's like, how are we going to get out of it, we went forward. And it kind of really reflected where I was in my own life in that sense. Also, of course, when you look back on the counseling thing it has more of a pathology with it. Whereas coaching is, it doesn't have that stigma, if you like, which, sadly, is still around for some people, although I think it's improving massively, but I think there is still a little bit of a stigma in some people's minds around counseling and the mental health treatments.” “I moved to work with women in the industries and professions where they're underrepresented at leadership, again, wanting women to step up and be on an equal plate with the men never about wanting, you know, men pushed sideways or anything because I could always see the balance between the masculine energy and the feminine energy, but just really wanting women to be the best they could be.” “It is your story that makes you ‘you’ and when you share your story, and this is the same for you. And for every listener to this episode, when you share your story, somebody else needs to hear it and they will make a change in their life. Because they'll identify with what you say. That change might only be a tiny, tiny little step, but who knows where that can take you, what that can trigger and where it leads to. So yeah, it is all about being that authentic. You be proud of your story because it will help somebody else. “I'm a Gemini, and therefore I can always see the other side of a situation, which mostly is a huge blessing and a huge asset, I think. But it can be a curse because sometimes my friends don't want to look at the other person's side of things when they're upset with somebody. Therefore my message would always be there's always another way of looking at a situation. So whether that's about what was going on for somebody when they said something really hurt or did something really hurt for or whether it's a situation where you feel you're up against a wall, there's always that question, How else could I see this? What else? You know, what else could I do to get myself out of this? So that I think has served me really, really well.” “The other thing is something that I used to say to my kids, particularly regarding education and job applications was keep saying yes until you get to a stage where you need to give a no because who knows what opportunities keep coming as a result of that.” “I think certain books resonate with us at certain times, don't they? It's a little bit like that saying, the right teacher appears when we're ready to learn the lesson.” RECOMMENDATIONS Focus on Why Podcast with Amy Rowlinson The Athena network. The professional speaking Association. The road less traveled by M. Scott Peck Becoming by Michelle Obama ABOUT RACHEL Rachel works with people who want to learn how to craft their stories for speaking, helping them find and craft their stories for greater engagement and ultimately more business. Originally thinking she didn’t have a story to share, Rachel gradually came to see the value in her own story and in ordinary everyday stories. An experienced coach and trainer, she has developed her unique and simple StoryCRAFT process to help others do the same. She is an active member of the PSA (Professional Speaking Association continually works to develop her own skills both as a speaker and a coach. CONNECT WITH RACHEL Details of Rachels online program Story Telling Made Simple, which follows the Storycraft process: YouTube: LinkedIn: Facebook profile: Facebook page: [email protected] ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or to find out more about my Rapid Resilience reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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Do We Want It All Or Do We Just Want The Simple Things? With Vicki Jakes
11/03/2021
Do We Want It All Or Do We Just Want The Simple Things? With Vicki Jakes
This episode is with Vicki Jakes. Vicki is an online marketing and website optimisation consultant helping small businesses sell more stuff via their websites. She shares how following her baby getting pneumonia and her having to return to her high powered job a couple of weeks after, she had a reboot moment that she often looks back on as one of the defining moments of her life. She walked away from having it all in search of the simple things in life. Many women will resonate with this episode. There are nuggets, about feminism, how we have been conditioned to want to juggle it all and how precious time is, and lots more tips. 6:49 “It all kind of came together in my early 30s. And I definitely broke down kind of mentally for a little bit. I just couldn't work out what I wanted to do. And I ended up just staying in the same world and getting therapy totally helped me to stay there. But it was one of the best things I ever did actually because I haven't really burnt out again since.” “I felt like I wanted to investigate seeing if there was something different out there. So I sort of parted ways with them after six, seven years, and it felt like a real relief, I felt a little bit institutionalised, being at the business so long, even though I could affect a lot of change culturally, it wasn't my business, being away on maternity leave as well, which meant that had felt out of the loop as many women do when they go back to the office. And after that, I never found my groove again, in my career. I went to work for a software company in Brighton, which was fun, you know, but I wasn't as senior as I had been used to being for like six, seven years, you know, I got promoted really young and you know, I'd learned an awful lot and then I kind of lost my gun and my badge if you like for a little bit.” 10:00 “I realised I loved, the family life, I really wanted that and I would do anything to create more time and something switched definitely inside of me around that time, and I thought I might try and find another business that I can work at where I could be senior again and help them grow, like I did with the first agency I mentioned, and just do something really amazing again, you know, really, really helped take them somewhere. And I started shopping around kind of doing interviews, didn't realise as I started shopping around that, that I was pregnant with my second daughter.” “The other option was just leaving and going to get a job at this other agency. And knowing that I wouldn't have maternity leave, right. And for some reason, for some reason, I went down that path. Because what I wanted to do was short-cut the opportunity to do bigger things, because as soon as I started to have kids, the amount of time that I had just became really obvious, I didn't have time to mess around” So I took a gamble. And I said to the person interviewing me that I'm pregnant, does that make any difference and went for negotiation. And you know, that they were able to offer me a really good package. Not great money, though and again, you know, not compared to the heady heights of London, but I say this as a really entitled, you know, like white person living in Brighton, because I'm sure some people would have appreciated the salary. But again, I had these big ambitions. I thought it's okay. It's a startup vibe, I'll help grow it. And you know, I'd managed to negotiate like, you know, 12 weeks of maternity leave, I thought this would be fine. Right? This will be fine. So what started was the beginning of another burnout. That didn't happen. This was a burnout, that wasn't a burnout.” “I went into this mini maternity leave, she was overdue quite a bit. So you know, kicking around for another 10 days after my due date until she came along. And then, you know, just tried to switch off a bit. I thought I couldn't really intensely switch off but it was really unfortunate. When she was seven weeks old she managed to contract pneumonia and it was so severe actually, like (the onset of it) that we got rushed to hospital. She was intubated in the emergency room, and my husband had to be at home with my daughter. It was quite traumatic, like watching, you know, a seven-week-old like being intubated. And then she was transferred in an ambulance over to Southampton and I just sat by her side during my maternity leave until she recovered and it took 11 days for her to recover. And when she opened her eyes after she'd had the tubes taken out, it was just magical, like, just absolutely magical. It was like, “welcome back”. “She was 11 weeks old when I went back to work. So I was back to work, husk of a shell of a woman, and clearly tired, right? Because that's what newborn babies do to you. And I got on with it, but I won't lie, grumpy, tired post-pregnant woman” 16:00 “As a woman at the end of maternity leave, you ask, can we afford nursery? How is our life going to change? Yeah, I just remember I was sitting in a stock room that was behind them, the main office where the developers worked was the only private place that I could go and sit and express milk because I had to express milk in the office twice a day. I was going to have to come back to the office more. I'd managed to negotiate working from home a couple of days a week, but that was going to end and I'd have to be back in the office pretty much every day. And it just sort of dawned on me as I was sat there in the office and all I can hear is like this express pump. There's no Wi-Fi, no 3g, no 4g, so I can't even look at my phone, right? And I'm just like, what, what have you done, Vicki? What have you done? This decision that you'd made to come work at a company help them build it up? Like, what were you thinking you could never help them? Like, you could never have helped them. It was just mad thinking that I could do that and have another baby.” 17:32 “You're meant to see your kids more. This is the whole reason why you did what you did. This isn't new, eight years ago, after that initial burnout going It's okay, you know, do a bit more yoga, take some time out, I started doing Pilates or take some time out for myself, I have more holidays, you can't do that now. And you can't do all the things and I had a real reboot moment. I was a 100% Reboot moment in that room. And I'm going to quit came in my head, I'm going to quit, I'm going to set my own business. This is what I'm going to do. And I'm going to do this on my own. And every single penny I make, we're going to make for me, I'm going to make my daughter's and I'm going to see my kids more than anyone has ever been able to let me do whilst I was working for someone else. Right and that is what drove me out of that office hiding my milk under my jumper so I didn't make anyone feel uncomfortable, right?” 18:53 “He said to me, we will make it work. We will make it work and I just, you know, I knew we could and I won't lie like the first year of business for me was hard, really, really hard and you know, slapped on a lot of personal debt, like trying to get through that first year. I didn't know what I wanted to do.” “We've been conditioned. You know, I think there's an element of toxic positivity. When it comes to feminism, you know, we're all like we spent all of these years in the kind of like the feminist arena of saying, career first, career first, you can have everything that men have, but like what men have, or what men have had in the corporate world for those years is the women looking after the kids or the or the nanny or whatever, right? So I think we forget that, like, we can have anything the guys have, but they've had support for a really long time. That's how they've done so well. Right? So it's a total myth, 100% myth.” 25:00 “I think from our generation, in particular, we've been pushed quite hard to try and achieve the same as men, which has not been a bad thing. I feel like it's good that we've been told, you can get there. However, it's a little bit like the hustle culture from recent years really is what we should have been asking all those years as well. Do we want it? Do we actually want to push ourselves that hard? Because there is something to say, for having a slightly quieter life, a slightly more considered life. One where you enjoy, you know, simple things, the kind of pathway that I've decided to go down. It’s a simple life that isn't full of too many people. It's not complicated. There's no drama in my life, the friends I have are very pleasant people, you know, there's, again, no drama. I'm very lucky to have that, I feel like I've spent many years cultivating it.” 30:00 “I am an addict, right? I am a workaholic, I was addicted to just sitting here and just doing non-stop work, sometimes until my eyes closed, and then I would get up and do it again. And, and then you know, I realised after a while after doing that sort of pattern, that is probably not a good idea. And I need to recharge and I'm not as young and bouncy as it once was.” 30:58 “I just did that with my socials. Basically, I've switched all notifications off any notification apart from text messages, but no one text messages me apart from my husband. So like there's a nice sort of line of comms there. And I don't follow anyone on Facebook.” 32:27 “I need these boundaries in place. Right? I have on my computer, a timer app in my browser. So once I've done half an hour on Twitter, it will shut me down. It won't let me go and read it.” 35:27 “Keep it simple. Don't complicate things. I feel like as soon as I started to pack my diary out and felt compelled to keep in touch with more than like the handful of people I know. Life got complicated and boring. Protect your time, your time is the only thing that you've got control over whether you give away or not. And you've only got so many hours right before you kind of head up to the kind of big stopwatch in the sky, right. So definitely like a kind of a rule of thumb for me in terms of how I live every day, as I look at my time and think this is how I genuinely want to spend my time. If this was 100 pounds would I do this hour would I just give it away like this? And where possible. I only spend my time doing things that I love working on my business with my family. I love reading. I love really bad TV, action movies, which really annoys my husband because he does not like guns and violence. And hanging out with my cat. You know, as simple life is definitely like one I can hardly recommend you can. When you slow down, you can just appreciate it so much more. And I'm sure like that's mindfulness.” “It's about building it and growing it, definitely now I'm in business for the process. I absolutely love it. I'm in it because of my mission, I want to help my people for sure. And you know, the fact I get to make money from that is just like a privilege and a joy. It really is. But doing it in a kind of softer calm away is also definitely something I can recommend to others.” #worklifebalance #family #business #haveitall #feminism #business RECOMMENDATIONS The Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield Thomas https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chillpreneur-Creating-Success-Freedom-Abundance-ebook/dp/B07D69Z6C2/ A Company Of One by Paul Jarvis https://www.amazon.co.uk/Company-One-Staying-Small-Business-ebook/dp/B07FQ2PFNN ABOUT VICKI Vicki Jakes is an online marketing and website optimisation consultant helping small businesses sell more stuff via their websites. Using her 20+ years of experience leading teams of developers, designers, copywriters, user-experience specialists, and testers for global clients, she knows her way around a website and what makes your users want to buy from you. She also has a passion for getting us all to want to take care of our websites and not be ashamed to send traffic to it or “forget” to share the URL when asked! CONNECT WITH VICKI people can contact me via my website: ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or to find out more about my Rapid Resilience reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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Trans People Are Just Ordinary People Who Want To Be Happy
10/26/2021
Trans People Are Just Ordinary People Who Want To Be Happy
This episodes guest is Katie Neeves she has been a professional photographer and filmmaker for 34 years, but she came out publicly as being transgender almost 3 1/2 years ago, after living for 48 years as a man. Katie formed cool to be trans to support and inspire other trans people, and also to educate others on trans issues by showing them that trans people are just ordinary people who want to be happy. KEY LEARNS 3:36 “I was assigned a sex-based purely on my primary sex characteristics based on what was between my legs. I was assigned male at birth, and I was given the name Martin Albert Neves. So that was me labelled. However, at the age of around three or four, my head and my heart started to tell me something very different to the label I was given at birth. And one of my earliest memories around the age of three or four years was of my mum catching me trying on a pair of my sister's knickers. And I remember when I tried them on it felt so right. But then she caught me. She told me to take them off. And for every day, the following week, she would pull my shorts down, and she would check to make sure I was wearing my own pants. Humiliating, but it's sowed the seed for a very long time that what I was doing was wrong, it was dirty, it was naughty. It's not what respectable people did. The thing is, however much my mum told me off or humiliated me over this, the urge and the need to cross-dress as it was then would always be with me. I don't blame her mum for that. I mean, it was the early 70s and it's just how things were then. she's a product of a generation, so I get it. You know, I understand why she reacted that way. So don't blame her at all.” 5:16 "So throughout my childhood, I used to secretly dress in my sister's clothes whenever I had the opportunity, and whenever I did it, it felt so right. But then those feelings of feeling right but very quickly replaced by feelings of guilt and shame and self-loathing. And so every time I did it, I would promise myself that I would never ever do it again. And I tried so hard to not do it again. But every time I tried the urge and the need to dress would always come back and usually with a vengeance. So this vicious cycle went right on until my mid-20s. And so by that time I trained to become a press photographer, and I was working initially on newspapers in Kent, before moving up to the Midlands when I got a job as a senior staff photographer with the Coventry New Telegraph I stayed there for five years before leaving set up my own freelance photography and video business, which are called Martin Neves photography and film see the problem of that name gave me later on." 6:26 “Because my first wife never accepted my crossdressing as it was then, we tried counselling over it several times. But it only papered over the cracks. It never really solved the problem. But also, there's another issue in that I wanted kids and she didn't.” 8:21 "I realised I had a condition called gender dysphoria. And what that is, is a great feeling of unease and stress caused by a mismatch in how I felt in my head and my heart. My gender identity, as opposed to my primary sex characteristics and the label I've been given at birth, I think about gender dysphoria, it can vary in intensity, and it very often increases over time. And that's exactly what happened to me. But at the time, I was happy as a man who needed to crossdress, and that's all it was. So I thought I treated it more like a hobby that will always be part of me. And I never in a million years thought that I would ever need to transition. So at the time, the level of gender dysphoria that I had was low enough that cross-dressing once a week linear or over longer periods was okay, that was fine. That was enough." 13:24 “About the same sort of time, my gender dysphoria increased dramatically. It went through the roof. So much so that I just didn't know what gender I was at all. I hadn't got a clue. And I was so desperate to find out. I was even typing into Google. What gender is Martin Neves? No, no, that's crazy. Because the answers only come from me. It couldn't come from anyone else, particularly Google. But I was desperate. It's what desperate people do. Perhaps Google should change their slogan to where desperate people go." 14:13 "I didn't know what gender I was at all. I hadn't got a clue. So I just had to face this on my own. So the first thing that I decided to do was to get some counselling and I found a counsellor who had experience of talking to people with gender issues. And I had four sessions with her and in hindsight, I think I should have had more sessions. Because at the end of those sessions, I wrongly concluded that I was gender fluid." 15:00 "So when a baby's born, the doctor or midwife looks between the legs of babies, and depending on what they see, they assign the baby as either a boy or girl. It is just a binary choice. That's all they've got in this country. And in other parts of the world, this is just starting to change now, but it's certainly over here. That's what we still have is just that binary choice boy or girl. The thing about sex, is that sex itself isn't binary, by nature it is very messy, it doesn't do black and white, it doesn't do binary things, it's very messy, does a whole spectrum of these things. And so sex itself isn't binary. And so it's just under 2% of the population are what's called intersex. So we think of, you know, xx and xy chromosomes, it's not as simple as that many people have an extra chromosome, you can actually have up to five problems. Hence, many people have an extra chromosome, and they're intersex.” “One of the conditions they could have, they could have a vagina, but then they can have internal testes. But obviously, when they're born, the internal testes can't be seen. So it's only the vagina that is seen. And so the baby gets assigned as female, as we go. So, but that's just about sex, but that's got nothing to do with gender. When a baby is born, it has no way of knowing what the baby's gender is - what gender is the sex of your brain. And the thing is the baby, you know, baby can't speak that anyway. And Fred isn't developed enough to know it's not until they get to about two, three or four, when they start getting a sense of their gender. So gender is basically you know, it manifests itself in how you feel in your head in your heart, and you just know, but for, for 95% of the population, their gender identity matches their sex characteristics and the label, they've been given a birth. And to those people, I say, Well, lucky them. But for about 5% of the population, there is a mismatch. And there's a problem there." "Just as sex isn't binary, gender isn't binary, either. There's a whole spectrum. And it's not linear either. So many people are what's called agender. So they don't have a gender at all. But just for simplicity purposes, for this podcast, just think of it as being linear, with 100%, male at one end and 100% female at the other end, and we're all on the spectrum somewhere. And most people who are not trans just tend to think they are 100%, male or 100% female because that's what's on the birth certificate, but they haven't really, there's only because their gender hasn't caused them any issues, because there's no mismatch, so they've never had to look at where they are on the spectrum. Whereas for people like me who are transgender, gender has caused us some issues, we've had to look at where we are on the spectrum. So for people that are roughly in the middle of the spectrum, they're non-binary, so they don't feel either male or female. And for gender fluid people, they're roughly in the middle of the spectrum, but sometimes they feel male, sometimes they feel female. And this can vary by the day, by the week, whatever. And all these things are perfectly normal, perfectly natural ways of being a human being. There's nothing wrong with human beings, but an awful lot wrong to do with the binary system and labelling system that we're all forced to adopt at that moment and the fact that the sex, the label, sex label, overrides gender in terms of the birth certificate, so like these people that have gender reveal parties, it really winds me up because it's not a gender reveal party, there's no way of telling what the baby's gender is either at birth or pre-birth, you know, from a scan, you can't tell that it's got nothing to do with all these those parties are is that my baby has or hasn't got a willing party. That's all they are. That's all they are. That's all they are. And in it places too much importance on sex rather than gender." "I was working through a self-help workbook called you and your gender identity by a gender therapist from the States called Dara Hoffmann Fox. It's a brilliant book. And it's like psychotherapy in a book really, there's a lot of work involved in going through it. And it took me about two months to work my way through it. And by the time I got to about three-quarters of the way through the book, it became obvious that I wasn't gender fluid. I was in fact a transgender woman. I realised why I thought I was gender fluid in the first place, and it was my fear of admitting to myself that I was trans that was stopping me." 21:04 "During that session, she uses techniques such as deep meditation to get you into a really relaxed state, so you can get past all your fear and access your inner truth. So I went along for that session on the 11th of January 2018, it’s a date I'll never forget. And during that session, she didn't give me any answers at all. She just asked me a series of questions. It was question after question after question after question. She was relentless. Now whether she got the questions from spirit or not, I don't know. I'm glad she asked me all those questions. And she allowed all the answers to come from me and from my inner truth. And it was such an emotional session, I cried buckets that day, I really did. And it was at the end of that session, that I admitted to myself that I am a transgender woman and that I needed to change my body. And that was the point that I really felt female. And I really felt that Martin had stepped back and Katie had taken over. So now, after all, three different approaches, I had discovered my true gender identity. So what now? What was I going to do with this new piece of information? Yeah, I had a happy home life, I had a successful business. Could I put all of that in jeopardy just for this new piece of information eating away, then, but then again, could I go back to how I was before with this new piece of information eating away at me? I didn't think I could. And the trouble is, I didn't want to be trans." 23:28 "I should point out at this stage that sexuality and gender are completely separate entities and they're not linked. So in my case, I've always been attracted to women, and I still am. It's been one of the constants in my life. It's just the labels changed for me. So So previously, I was labelled as a heterosexual man. Now I'm labelled as a lesbian. It feels absolutely no different to me. I'm just attracted to women. " 25:00 "The next dilemma I had was what to do about the name of my photography and video business when I changed my name to Katie, because it was very boldly branded after my old male name. Martin Neves photography and film, I thought, well, I could change the name to Katie Neeves photography and film when I changed my name to Katie. But the trouble is at that point it had been an established brand for 22 years, and it was and still is actually ranked second in the UK on Free index, just through customer reviews. So with all those reviews, and everything, I just, I couldn't change that. " "I was so worried about the reaction to it because I was freelance and so I didn't have any long term contracts with anybody. If my clients had a problem with my being trans, then the phone stopped ringing and I'd lose all my clients and I'd lose my income. So my whole livelihood, my reputation, everything rested on the reaction to that one video. It was a huge moment for me. So anyway, I came back and I nervously looked on Facebook, I needn't have worried because I was inundated with hundreds of messages of support, it was amazing. I felt so loved. And I didn't do any work for three whole days because I was so busy replying to all these lovely messages. And as well as having messages from friends from clients, I had messages from other trans people who'd seen it who, who said that they'd been struggling." "Coming out went from being something that I was absolutely dreading to being one of the most uplifting experiences of my life, second to the birth of my daughter but it was right up there." "Stonewalls trans Mental Health Survey of 2012 showed that 84% of trans people in the UK have attempted suicide at least once and 48% have thought about it. And she said to me if only someone like you was out there at the time that he was going through this that could have let him know that it's okay to be trans because it really is okay to be trans. And that really got me thinking I thought I've got to do some good with this. So I decided to vlog my whole journey and bring people along on the journey with me, demystifying the whole process, to educate people. I needed to show people that trans people are just ordinary people who want to be happy, but then also reach out to other trans people to let them know that it really is okay to be trans." "The waiting times just to get seen at NHS gender clinics after being referred by a GP, can be anything between three and five and a half years, not months, but years, three and a half, five and a half years, just to get the first appointment then you don't get treated at all - it is a chat, with a nurse or clinician, then some people wait up to a year for their second appointment. And that's another chat usually with either a psychotherapist or with a GP. It’s normally the third appointment when they start assessing you to give you hormone therapy. So it's a really long process. And then there's a fourth appointment where you started talking about surgery if you want to go down that route because not all trans people do want to go down that route. Because the transition is split into three main sections, there's lots of different subsections within it. And not everybody takes every step along the way. But there are three sections to it. So the first section is social transition. So that's things like changing your name, by deed poll and on your driving licence, and passport and all that kind of stuff and changing it everywhere. And then and then changing your appearance. So in your hairstyle makeup, your facial hair, you with what you wear and everything. Then just being accepted, just living full time in your desired gender so that that's the social transition that side of it. And then the next step is a hormonal transition. So that's taking hormone blockers that block the existing hormones in your body. And then cross-sex hormones that give you the hormones that match your gender. And then the third stage is the surgical transition. And then the various different surgeries that are available. Most of it is not on the NHS, most of it has to be self-funded. So for trans women in England, there's only one surgery that's available. There's two in Scotland, but only one in England. And for trans men, there are two surgeries available in both countries." 35:00 There hasn't been a day that I've got up in the morning, in those last over the last three years and thought, well I’ll pretend to be Martin today, not a single day, you just feel so right. And I've lost count of the number of people who've told me that I look so much happier now. And I'm not surprised because it's the real me. I'm just loving it. I'm just living my truth. It is just amazing. You know, a lot of people talk about gender dysphoria, but this is gender euphoria. And it really does feel euphoric. It's amazing." 37:18 "My biggest piece of advice to people is if they're planning on doing something big, whether it's in their personal life, or within the career or in any big change and they're worried about it - just acknowledge that fear, but then go for it anyway. Because I found that reality is usually a lot easier than you fear." 39:14 "I've got 1000 messages of abuse of hate recently. But that's only because I've put my head, so well above the parapet and it's just part of the job. It shouldn't be part of the job, but it is but there's a certain section of society who are very anti-trans and they don't represent the majority of people in the majority people absolutely fine." 41:48 "There is still a big issue I think particularly in secondary schools there's a lot of both transphobia and homophobia in secondary schools and so there's a lot of work that needs to be done there." "I find myself particularly in demand and things like June, which is pride month for Transgender Day of visibility, or Trans-awareness Week, all these different inclusion weeks and all these sorts of things. You know, I find myself in big demand, and I'm doing these gigs all over the place. And then as soon as those weeks or months or whatever is over then nobody wants to know anything. Well, actually, what these organisations are doing, they're ticking boxes." "It wasn't long before she called me Dad, because some of these other kids heard her. And then I remember there's one little boy. He looked at me, he put his hands on his hips and said on one side, he said, so are you her mum or her dad? So I said, I'm her dad. I'm transgender. But that's why I look like this. It was like, oh, and then it was like bees around a honey pot. So I found myself doing this impromptu trans awareness training session, age-appropriate language in a ball pit. Then they just carried on playing. And that was it." 54:00 "That's what I'd say. Just live your truth. Because if you try and live your life for other people, then that's no way to be happy. If you live your truth, then that is the easiest way to be happy. I'm okay. We will have to make sacrifices to do it. I've had to make huge sacrifices for this. And I've lost family and I've lost friends over this. You know, and it's been really hard. It's been a tough journey. But I'm so much happier doing it. And so I am living my truth and I'm absolutely loving it. I really am. " RECOMMENDATIONS You and your gender identity by Dara Hoffmann fox https://amzn.to/3bdJzLA Website: - mentoring page of Katie’s website, to other support and groups for both trans people, parents and partners of trans people ABOUT KATIE Katie Neeves has been a professional photographer and filmmaker for 34 years, but she came out publicly as being transgender after living for 48 years as a man. Katie formed Cool2BTrans to support and inspire other trans people and also to educate others on trans issues, by showing them that trans people are just ordinary people who want to be happy. She uses humour to deliver trans awareness training in an entertaining way. Katie appears regularly in the media and she’s on both ITV's and the BBC's lists of experts. CONNECT WITH KATIE Email: [email protected] My social media details are: Website: LinkedIn: Facebook: Twitter: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing...
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You're Not Alone With Lee Anderson
10/19/2021
You're Not Alone With Lee Anderson
Lee Anderson shares how he rebooted his life on two occasions, first when he came out as being gay and on a second occasion when he had a breakdown. This was the catalyst to him turning his life around and qualifying in occupational and social welfare and going on to support military personnel. He has then gone on to become a life coach and CBT practitioner and now lives in France. Although he has his own mental health illness, his life has completely transformed and he has found balance. 5:41 “You think to yourself that everyone's gonna disown you because you're doing something so bad, but you're not. And then since then, it’s never really been a big thing for me. You know, it's just been that and other aspects of who I am. It's never been an issue. I didn't really lose anybody in regards to my sexuality, if anything, I'd gained more friends. And so that was that kind of reboot of me as a person was quite big, you know, in respects of a sense of self. And a sense of self-love really as well” 10:30 “I remember the first time I said to myself, verbally, I am gay. And I was like, Oh my god, I really am gay. And it was such a huge relief. And then you move on to the next part of it. And you're like, what, who do I tell? How do I tell them? What do I say? And so you kind of break it down to its most simplest form and deal with it step by step by step. And I think the hardest person to tell was my mum. “ Have you got a girl pregnant? I was like, No. Are you in trouble? No. Are you gay? And I was like, Yeah, she was like, as long as you're happy, I don't care. And I was like, Do you realise how much I've been turning myself inside as to I tell you this and she was like, as long as you're happy, I don't care. But a few years later, she did say to me that when I left that night, she kind of she was crying because she started to then fear you know, that, that maybe I was in some kind of danger for being gay, you know, people not liking it, that she wouldn't have any grandchildren. And so she said that she felt really selfish for that. And you know, that really moved me because you don't really think about that of the other person, you're just more about telling them about what's been burdening you, and not necessarily the impact it has on them.” 15:57 “I walked down to the church and sat down at this church and just felt safe there because I was within the church boundaries. So in my brain, I'm like, I'm safe. No one can touch me. And then it must have been a few hours, and my sister drove past. And then my sister picked me up, I went back to the house, and then kind of started from there. Really, it was nice getting some help.” 27:10 “One of the things that I learned about that was in order to understand the experiences of others, you have to understand you.” “I was never really one for supervision, but I realised just how important it was to go in and go, why am I feeling this way? Why is this bothered me? What is it about this that I don't understand, and to be able to talk that through, really helped me, I think it helped me mature, you know, I think I became a bit more grown-up.” 28:45 “ And it was only after we'd finished and I was like I wish I had said a bit more because I feel as if it was really important for me to contribute those. And so when we did it again, I actually then started to contribute a bit more myself and talk about some of my experiences and other people started to open up as well because it always takes one person to just talk and that always stayed with me and I think talking about my mental health.” 32:51 “So the more I spoke about the way that I was feeling the more it was helping me and I was like why have I never done this before.” “Taking my dogs out for a walk is one of the most important things to me in regards to my mental health and just being present.“ 37:22 “I look at my dogs and think that my dogs believe that every day is a new day. And it is to them even though sometimes we're doing the same walk it's like this the first time they've been on that walk and it's the first time I've discovered that spot and the happiness and the joy that they get from that. And I'm like that's it I suppose that's eternal happiness, isn't it? You know, every day is a new day, therefore we're grateful for it, and we'll enjoy it like it's the first time ever, and that's how my dogs are. “ 44:56 “So I would think that if I unplugged the phone in by the side of my bed The idea was an electric current going through my body and they were then putting things into me through my phone through Bluetooth” 45:38 “it's often people who have psychosis are the ones that feel more threatened than we do when someone is in a psychotic state.” 50:39 “I'm quite happy and open to talk about it. Because I'm kind of over that stage. Now, you know, I still have issues with my mental health, and I always will, but I don't allow that to dictate who I am. And I manage that. So, therefore, taking the power away from that. So I know that if I'm feeling a certain way, I'll stick with it. I'll acknowledge it. I'll understand it.” “I completely shift the way that I look at stuff. And I've completely changed my mindset as in, this is who I am, it's part of me. So, therefore, let it work for me rather than against me. “ “For many, many, many, many years, I never smiled, because number one, I convinced myself that I didn't have a good smile.” “I've been 273 days sober. So that's really helped. That was always a massive crutch for me, you know, the marriage that me and alcohol had was never a linear process. Let me tell you, but now we've divorced. And yeah, we've had a very conscious uncoupling. Let me put it that way. And I've not looked back since.” 57:12 The one piece of advice that I was given I think was you're not alone. You know, that sounds really corny, but you're not, because by sharing or talking about what you're feeling can alleviate so much of that, because it's not yours anymore, because you've shared it. A problem shared is a problem halved. RECOMMENDATIONS The waffle shop with Taylor James Happy Place with Fearne Cotton ABOUT LEE ‘Lee is an experienced Life Coach with a demonstrated history of working in the professional coaching and welfare environment. He is skilled at helping people take back their power and re-evaluate who they currently are enabling them to transform into a better version of themselves’ CONNECT WITH LEE Instagram: g LinkedIn: Website: Podcast: The Struggling Mind podcast ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or to find out more about my Rapid Resilience reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. .*As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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I Chose the Silver Lining But I Didn't Chose the Cloud
10/12/2021
I Chose the Silver Lining But I Didn't Chose the Cloud
Before we start this episode, it may contain conversations that may be triggering for some listeners. It is a special episode for baby loss awareness week. This episode's guest is Rachel Allen. Rachel Allen is a business coach, accountant and runs a manufacturing business. She lives in Norfolk with her husband and two children, Rachel shares her story of when her firstborn baby girl was stillborn, how she started to view life differently. Then went on to have her two rainbow children. Before you start this episode, it may contain conversations that may be triggering for some listeners. It is a special episode sharing hope for baby loss awareness week. KEY LEARNS “ I honestly thought I was gonna get broken by this and if anyone's a classic setup for postnatal depression, that's me, but actually, I really surprised myself with how compassionate I was with myself and my husband, and he was with me. And we got through it. And if I look back on my life and say, What is the proudest thing you've done, other than my children, it was getting through that period in my life, and it completely rebooted, how I think about so many things” 6:40 “It was only when people got pregnant around me afterward. Nobody can really bear to burst that pregnancy bubble for people. And actually, do you know what? If you're lucky enough to have a completely smooth baby pregnancy and a baby at the end? Why should you have your bubble burst? Why not enjoy your pregnancy. And so that's why when I talk about it, I don't talk about it specifically to someone who's pregnant, you know, I'm not going to burst their bubble. But I do feel that we need to talk about it, because it's something that people don't think about.” “It's like when you have a miscarriage, you suddenly find all these people have had miscarriages. Yeah. And why don't we talk about it? Because it's not something embarrassing and scary. It's just horrible. And I think that's probably what it is. It's so horrible. And even now Amy would have been 16 this year. And even now, if I say to people, I lost a baby they don't know what to say to me. Yeah, they don't know what to do.” 10:34 “A dear friend of mine, she lost her son much, much older. He was in his early 20s, I think. But she said to me, I'm just having a Richard day today. And I thought, What a lovely description. It was just Today's a day where I'm not coping. Yeah. And you're allowed to have those. And, you know, I'm lucky I don't tend to have Amy days, but I'll have an Amy moment. Yeah. And that's totally allowed. And I think the biggest learning I had through this whole experience was Be gentle with yourself. Yeah, it was just the best advice that anyone gave to me.” “I was a very typical female thinking I didn't look right, you know, I'm a little bit short, and I'm extremely curvy. And I didn't embrace that at all. But afterward, I just kept looking at this body going, this body grew without me doing anything, grew a person. And the one thing I was proud of was that I was still in awe of my body, even though it didn't quite make it to the end” 14:48 “I was just in such awe of my body. And it really did help me to get this newfound respect for it. Yeah, I guess it's one of those things that when you have something traumatic and horrible happens to you, you can still stay positive, even though something horrific. And it surprised me how positive I stayed throughout the whole thing. “ 18:18 “I then took that as an honour as her mother. That's all I had left to give it felt like that's what I gave to her. And I think you know, having had that experience having had her it's completely shaped my life. You know I am the mother of three children and I love them all. “ “One of the biggest lessons I've learned from it is the ability to look for the silver lining. And I have a little phrase now, which is you can choose the silver lining. And it doesn't mean that you chose the cloud. Because clouds come all the time, things happen. And people feel guilty about choosing the silver lining and celebrating it and going with it. And yet, it feels like they've chosen the cloud. And I'm very adamant that no, choosing the silver lining, it's actually just a way of coping and of moving forward. And of being positive and proactive in your life. We don't get any say in the clouds, the clouds happen. In this case, I lost my child. “ 26:42 I was like, right, okay, so I need to do yoga in the morning. So I was getting up 20 minutes earlier, so I could do the yoga, and I need to do this bath. So I'd go to bed later because I've had a bath. And they were just things on my to-do list that if I fitted them in, I didn't enjoy them because I was trying to slot them in around everything else. So I think you're right boundaries are self-care” “Be gentle with yourself is the biggest one because I've discovered recently that working for myself is actually a really bad thing. Because I'm a terrible taskmaster to myself, I expect things from me that I do now not expect from my staff” RECOMMENDATIONS Get Rich Lucky Bitch by Denise Duffield Thomas Podcast - Unlocking us with Brene Brown ABOUT RACHEL Rachel is a business coach, qualified accountant, and business owner herself and she is on a mission to help female entrepreneurs to understand and speak the language of money fluently. Her unique combination of coaching, teaching, and mentoring will help you to get on top of your accounts, to address those mind monkeys that can really hold you back and prepare you to grow your business up to and way beyond the VAT threshold. CONNECT WITH RACHEL ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training, and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or to find out more about my Rapid Resilience reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. .*As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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World Mental Health Day 2021 -The legal, Moral And Business Case For Getting Wellbeing In The Workplace Right
10/09/2021
World Mental Health Day 2021 -The legal, Moral And Business Case For Getting Wellbeing In The Workplace Right
Tom Oxley is a TEDx speaker who runs bamboo mental health, a consultancy that advises some big names, he reviews employers providing evidence-based strategies and training. And he believes any employer can support any employee on mental health, they just need to be shown how. This episode between the two of us who both work in this field is full of absolute gems! 5:20 I didn't always know it was such a big reboot. But one was when I went through a redundancy process, at the place where I worked. So global financial services company, the axe in such places, swings every so often, and people, hundreds of people lose or leave their jobs. And I'd survived this particular swing of the axe, and I went back to my desk. And you can imagine, sort of dirty grey Formica desk, because all kinds of bits and bobs on it, and the same old computer that took me ages to log on to every morning. And I was shaking. And I thought to myself, have I just had a very near miss, and I'm having a bit of a kind of adrenaline rush at the end edge of that. Is this the kind of feeling of cortisol running around my system? And then I thought to myself, no, it's not that I've just missed something. It's just that what if this grubby grey desk is it? What if I'm pushing PowerPoint presentations around for a living? What if that is it for my career? That was terrifying. And in that moment of terror, I said to myself, right? If that axe is wielded, again, that redundancy, opportunity comes around again. I'm taking it. “ “So the exploring bit before you actually jump, yeah, is really positive. And then the jumping back is terrifying again. But I found my feet. And I started working with time to change, started reviewing employers on how they support people on mental health. And it was a charity rate, but it was very fulfilling work and helped me understand that I could get my esteem back.” “There was a bit of noise around mental health, but not a lot outside of the charity sector, in the workplace. And so I thought to myself, while I might be sitting on a business idea. , so to wind it all the way back, my slowly traumatic moment turned into a reboot that has shaped my career for which I am now very, very grateful.” 12:13 “I try and imagine myself going through the HR procedures, typically absence, grievance, disciplinary, flex, health and safety, occupational health type stuff. So I know my way around that policy set. And then perhaps the most significant thing I do is I interview people who've been unwell, with stress, anxiety, depression, probably mild to moderate, whilst working for that organisation. And that is where the gold lives. Because somebody who's been through a period of poor mental health will be able to tell you what the manager’s reaction was. How was the information? Did the training they've done make any difference to them? What they liked from the HR policies and procedures. Was the occupational health team any good? Did the employee assistance programme stack up? They can give you a real cross-section of that lived employee experience, and that's a huge value.” 13:55 “At the end of it, we've got stakeholder view. And we've got the stories from people, you've got the statistics of how many people this affects and we've got a review of the HR stuff. And that data is quite a powerful recipe, to playback to an organisation and go, this is where I think you are, this is where I think you could be, this is what you need to do.” 18:17 “There are lots of things in what you just said there. So if you're in a situation where life is giving you a bit of kicking, because it's not all about work, in fact, far from it, it just shows up for work commonly. Life has given you a bit of a kicking. And it's difficult to talk to your manager, it's difficult to run the HR process, it's difficult to have an adjustment. And then from a company point of view, it's difficult to approve things because they've got this arbitrary policy that you can only apply once in a year. And it just makes life difficult. You've just described a situation and maybe three or four people signing off an adjustment for somebody just to help them do their job. I mean that that's crazy. Flipping that, you have good managers, you can talk easily. It's an easy policy. It's an easy process, and they go yes, do you know what? We see you, we hear you, we value you. We're going to back you up, and you will never, you will never forget that. And not only do you have less time off, because it's not a kind of problem to come back. You actually add to the loyalty. You create allies in the organisation you show everybody. You're not just tell them that wellbeing is important. You show them at the points when it matters most.” “People that I've interviewed have said things like my manager was so critical and so difficult with me. I went home and I started to contemplate suicide. They also said My manager was so good with me and backed me up, that I went home and I stopped contemplating suicide, it really can make that much difference.” 20:15 “If you are a manager, and you put your human hat on, the difference you can make to someone and the difference in terms of costs, you can save a business, because you're not having to re-recruit someone, and you know, to refill those shoes, and then get them up to speed and productive in that role. It might be that someone's not productive for three months, for example, because they're having personal issues, or they're not able to work full time. But actually, when you kind of look at it from a different perspective, how long would it take for them to leave, advertise a job, recruit the person, find the right person, bring them in, train them, and get them to productivity, you're probably talking nine to twelve months.” 21:49 if you start to extrapolate that onto the salary of the person, then you know, you, you start to see the numbers add up, make no mistake, there is a legal case for getting this right. There is a moral case for getting this right. And there is a business financial case for getting this right. And they all lead to the same destination. If you support your people on mental health, it will cost you less full stop.” 26:51 “The Health and Safety Executive have been doing this and actually asking organisations to do some of this for years. Yeah, every organisation of more than five people needs to have some kind of consultation, or stress risk assessment to help understand the hotspots and the problems in the company. And the cold spots where it's going well, and understand how to manage those across different departments and things like that” “If people aren't thinking about that, and having conversations about it, and just simply asking their people what it's like, then they're missing out on a lot of fantastic information about culture, performance, and indeed, operational changes that could make it more efficient. A better place or a better product, that kind of thing. This idea of psychological safety is not just about protecting your assets from people screwing up, it's about getting the good stuff out of people who've got brilliant ideas as well. And that is a very positive and inclusive and, and hopeful way to look at all this.” 29:27 “Out of difficult traumatic times, comes new learning and growth and ideas of how we can do things differently.” 32:41 “One of the symptoms of stress is that we work harder, and we actually increase our energy towards the situation. And as a result of that energy increase, we sometimes notice less about ourselves and our own behaviour. So this is a bit clumsy, but one of the symptoms of stress is that you don't recognise your own stress.” “If I were to run an open training session in an organisation, I'd probably find 80 to 90% of the attendees would be female. But if mandatory sessions, you do get a good response from the fellas, and they do correspond with it in a really good way. In factory environments, they actually quite like it. But they're not, they're not going to step across the threshold easily. So we've got to communicate it, we've got to communicate it in the right way. And we've also got to start repeatedly communicating it without over-shoving it down people's throats.” “it's not just about some trainer coming in, and they can deliver the best session in the world, then if their managers never spoke about it? Or if the manager starts going cuckoo or something like that?” 37:40 “I'm the CEO, and I don't really take a break away from my office, I don't go for a walk, I don't step away from my desk. It's almost like we're creating sometimes as leaders, very subtle pressures that we don't necessarily want to have within our organisation. But by leading in that way and doing those things. We create unhealthy pressures for other people and unhealthy expectations because that's what they think they have to do to be successful.” 42:07 “Silly example, I was an interim director, and during my time there I noticed that they'd run out of peppermint tea in that staff kitchen so I said “Can I order some more peppermint tea back this chap said no, they were only there for wellbeing week” 43:55 “It takes multiple roles at multiple levels to get this right. It includes the CEO turning up for his or her staff, includes HR bringing essential expertise, managers, knowing the signs to look for and how to have a safe conversation”. Unknown Speaker 47:48 I think that leadership is the driver of, you know, the emotional, cultural response to people. And it's huge. That really guides our decisions.” “And I can read about mental health statistics, or I could read about David Hockney painting in Normandy. And that allows me to go into the introverted version of myself because I have one of those as well as the presenter. Yeah, version of myself. And that downtime, that timeout from the performance. I can literally feel my adrenaline, my cortisol, and my diaphragm, and my just stuff just kind of sinking. Yeah, but that's really important.” 53:34 “Good for you for recognising that because actually, the super stimulated brain is not in a space where it's ready for logical learning type information. Because by its nature, we're super stimulated, we're probably somewhere in the kind of limbic emotional response to something or supercharged that we've got other priorities, the brain, and the body have other priorities at that time. I like the fact that you now access this and you brought it in and you recognise it and there's space for your this kind of time and activity” 57:51 I'll give you a little sneaky share. You're better off without booze. You asked for a mantra that was mine. When I stopped drinking, I can't even remember four years ago, something like that. And my life is better in every single way. I'm less anxious, and less agitated, I've got more money, everything works in the body in like a really lovely way. And I have to say that was the best decision I ever made.” 1:03:04 “I think that's the huge power of coaching. And letting that into your life when you're ready is a very, is a wonderful thing. And as with all sorts of successful kinds of therapeutic treatment, saying that, the importance of kind of your desire to change, and believing in the possibility of change, and having hope that you can” RECOMMENDATIONS Unlocking Us with Brene Brown Lost Connections by Johan Hari https://amzn.to/3iNOHdD Losing our minds -What mental illness really is and what it isn’t by Lucy Foulkes ABOUT TOM Tom Oxley is a TEDx speaker and runs Bamboo Mental Health - a bijou consultancy that advises some big names. He reviews employers, providing evidence-based strategies and training. And he believes any employer can support any employee on mental health - they just need to be shown how. Tom has consulted for Mind, Time to Change and Mindful Employer. He lives in Norfolk and likes camping, eating and sea swimming. CONNECT WITH TOM [email protected] LinkedIn ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or to find out more about my Rapid Resilience reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. .*As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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25- Money Mindset and Magic With Sarupa Shah
10/05/2021
25- Money Mindset and Magic With Sarupa Shah
Sarupa Shah is a mentor, teacher, trainer, and speaker, whose role and magic is to show you how to find your inner star to discover who you truly are when it comes to spirituality and life. Sarupa breaks the rules and definitely doesn't fit into any boxes. She likes to question why and do things differently, she has a spiritual perspective yet she talks about money mindset with true magic. 5:00 “I'm not doing it for the money, people would say it was all a story that was basically they were using in a way that sounded so justified like they couldn't like it was the biggest defense that they had. And it was making them basically push their dream further and further away or locked away or hidden in a box somewhere. Because basically they'rere freaking out about ‘ Can I be paid to do something that I love?’ ‘Can I have the lifestyle that I want ?’ Can I still do all the good things in the world?” “I had my own stuff around money You know, it doesn't make you greedy, you know, is it wrong? There are starving people, less well off. You should just be happy with your lot. We make up all this stuff to squash who we are. Squash our ambition and stopping us from going out and doing good in the world. Because clearly, you know, if you want to go and build schools in Africa or somewhere or you know, and empower people to create their own lives. Money is pretty helpful. You know, it's not the only thing but it's pretty helpful to be able to, you know, buy the bricks, for example to bright buy the books, buy the pens, you know, pay the teachers, but yeah, so I've been doing that and it's just the thing about helping people put their sole purpose front and centre of their life. I just get so excited by it. I 8.17 It was almost like the skies broke. And all I could see was I'm a fraud. Everything I've wanted to do with a great big fat lie. I'm nowhere near good enough. And for me, there were the other stories I added in that the universe was punishing me for crimes in a past life you know, this whole time the thing is I've got bad karma. “It was only when I was in the Sunday Times talking about mindfulness that which was a few years later that she accepted that this was my proper job” “ I would turn my house into a hotel so everything would be cleaned, so that was a whole day's work, everything just sparkling then they'd come for their one and a half-hour session often six or seven hours later they were still there because they had one more thing and I was too worried because they were paying me. They paid me 60 quid and I had to give them everything they wanted and it was just a disaster for me." 12:35 “Then my partner he basically nearly died when we got back. because he got diagnosed with Type One Diabetes. We didn't know he had it. It was just one of those things. The day before we were going to fly back to Spain. I said I've got to find an ambulance, something is really wrong with you. And then our world changed or his world changed. But what I did, which is what a lot of us, who are people pleasers and don't address it - Is to take over, I gave up me. And it was instant.” “ My unconscious was repeating I don't matter and it wasn't authentic to the work I was doing because I'm damn good at what I do, you know ridiculously good at helping other people, but it was beginning to eat away at me as well thinking if people can see what my lifestyle is like or how I'm staring at the ceiling at the dead of night. But I felt like it was that old feeling that I had when I came into my business of this is some kind of punishment, penance. I've got to suffer it you know, we kind of suffer in silence and suffer quietly, which isn't just a British thing to do." 15:00 "We looked up the word suffer and it means to undergo, but it's been almost totally misexplained and misunderstood and judged as some kind of endurance of pain and punishment, you just have to undergo something like we're just undergoing a procedure we're undergoing a moment of growth, we're undergoing an initiation and that takes the emotional sting out of it." “I had this idea of if I'm doing money work and helping people with their sole purpose and being very spiritual, I've just got to let everybody know that I'm really really perfect “ 17:20 "That's actually what makes a good mentor or a coach is people who say I've walked that path I've been there" 20:00 "Suddenly, you know, where you feel like you've been shot in the stomach, and it just feels really like that. So that was kind of where you start to think something's got to change. And I put up with it for a long time. And I remember saying to my mentor, and she was like you, you've not even mentioned it, and you've allowed yourself to sit in that, you know, we sit in the crap that we feel, for way longer than we need to even if it's run out of its sell-by date. So it's gone stale. And we're still sitting in that same crap." 22:00 "Your health begins to suffer. Because you don't sleep, your diet suffers. We know all of these things, we know the signs, and we'd help and tell other people, we'd support them. But it takes, I don't know, why it takes so much longer for us to look in the mirror and be honest about what's going on and say this is the support I need. Where can I get it from? These are the things I need to do that will support me. My clues always are when I start to stop meditating. And when I start telling people what to do. So the Do as I say not as I do starts to kick in. So I've now learned what my signs are to know that something's going on that I need to address it, before it becomes that point of a huge, reboot. We can have many reboots, which I think are exciting. And yeah, they can be nerve-wracking and stressful and all those things, but it's when you have the kind of major reboot because you've had almost like a major life breakdown." 25:00 "My logical mind is like get back to your laptop, you've got work to do Missy. But I'm actually allowing that space for percolation. That reboot has been phenomenal” "And I said no, I've changed my mind because I'd realised and i was becoming a slave to the smallness and not the fun. So we'd go out we'd have a lovely dinner out and then, later on, I look at my phone, smartphones, we weren't that into looking at our phone every five minutes 10 years ago, as we are now they'd be sales coming through there'd be inquiries or people saying I want to work with you. It's literally when we change our energy when we change that frenetic hold of this is how it's got to be." 29:23 “Wherever you're SAT, sofa, chair, bed, whatever it is right. Get up. Because if you think about if somebody poured dust on you, you’d dust yourself off, right? Or if you'd been somewhere dusty, you dust yourself off so we need to get up and dust ourselves off. So you move your energy quite literally to create a different perspective.” 30:00 What we do in those places of feeling stuck is we're looking for that we can only see the, either the big end or the big action, and it mobilises us. So one action, if it means, if, for example, you're writing a book, write a paragraph, don't say I'm going to write 1000 words, write a paragraph, and walk away. And 50% of the time, you'll decide you want to write more and 50% of the time you'll walk away and it doesn't matter." 34:08 "Finding your inner magic really is about daydreaming, allowing it to emerge, it's about that thing that you want to do. And that doesn't mean you have to go and do it tomorrow. You know, the reason we don't is because we panic. We've got to do it tomorrow, but it's about taking those steps, but it's about spending the time dreaming. It's about spending the time connecting to who you are." 35:00 "We've got to get into much more playful energy to find our magic. And then to actually start connecting to our intuition and developing that. And for me, intuition is always heart wisdom, it is not gut wisdom, you know, and this is where I think a lot of people find it really hard going, Yeah, but my gut’s really good, yeah, but your hearts even better. You know, like, for years, I followed my gut, so I get it. But when I started following my heart, it's a completely different frequency. It's like, painting by numbers, and then painting freehand. Suddenly, a whole different kind of world opens up for you." 38:14 "I completely agree and and and I think there's a social media definition of vulnerability and a real true vulnerability, the energy of vulnerability, the strength when it's used, even unconsciously as a marketing tool, which it has become on social media to show you know the story of I was eating pizza out of a dustbin somebody else's take it you know, leftovers and pulled my life around. And the next day I had a million-pound launch or a million-dollar launch, kind of, you know, that kind of BS like blah, blah, blah, bored, bored, bored." 45:00 "I like to keep myself on my toes so I never know what I'm gonna do. Am I gonna have a nap after this? Am I gonna go make lunch? I'm gonna go and get a takeaway? you know it's like keeping myself on my toes a little bit " "The second we make it wrong because oh my god that person over there said that they stopped work at three o'clock on a Friday. And bla bla bla bla bla bla bla and I can't because I've got a client at six, so there's something wrong with me and if I know it isn't there's nothing wrong. I don't make things wrong and I also make diary dates for myself in in the diary which I think is so important so for things like meditation, doing my affirmations now I can do them spontaneously, but there are times when I might not feel the desire to do them spontaneously and then then I think I'll get to it and then it's 10.30-11 at night." 48:33 “You can rearrange your lifestyle so it's really about that and then not making things wrong and allowing yourself to change. You know, we're not concrete posts." 56:51 "They're quite two huge things, and getting the husband and the mini and then paying for the operation. But there'll be lots of other little mini ones, you know, that we almost brushed away, where things have just fallen into place, you know, like I had a thought and there is you know, and then I say to everybody get a journal that becomes your evidence bank that you need to read when you are having the Oh no’s about life? Or that it's not working? Or there's something so wrong with me, why can't I make it work? " 1.00 There is this thing of I'm a woman, therefore, I'm really intuitive. Actually, men are too, it's equal. There are no men or women divided on any of this. It happens to be a feminine energy gift. That doesn't mean that it's only for women, it's just a polarity of energy. Yeah, it's got nothing to do with the sexes, but we do need to stop holding that story of it's a feminine thing. it's for women only." “Everything is a journey. Nothing is a destination in life. But like I was saying earlier if we reached if we knew we're at the pinnacle of everything now like we'd reach the destination for our life, you know, what would be the point of anything else beyond this moment. So it's a journey, allow yourself to go and develop, learn, grow, you know, be mentored, join a workshop, join a development circle, whatever it is, that floats your boat, allow yourself to do those things and stop viewing growth a sign of weakness or failure. You know, growth is actually just a sign of growth, isn't it no more, no less." ABOUT SARUPA Sarupa is a mentor, teacher, trainer & speaker whose role & magic is to show you how to find your inner star - to discover who you truly are. With the tools she gives you you will journey to create the life, yourself and what you came to be. CONNECT WITH SARUPA Go to for her life changing wisdom or find her on Instagram @sarupa ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or find out more about my Rapid Resilience Reboot book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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024 As Humans We Have This Wonderful Thing Called Denial With Karen Ratcliffe
09/28/2021
024 As Humans We Have This Wonderful Thing Called Denial With Karen Ratcliffe
Karen Ratcliffe is a survivor of toxic abuse, first as a child and then as a young adult. I eventually learned that to survive I had to pick myself up and trust in myself. As an adult, I understood that you repeat what you know, and to move forward you have to unlearn and reset. At seventeen, I was sent out into the world naïve and afraid. Now I look back and know that my purpose was to help women to move from unhealthy to healthy relationships KEY LEARNS 3:51 We hear so many stories of, you know, domestic abuse between adults, and you know, their journey. And it's very rare. I feel that we ever hear the story of those who, as children living in a toxic abuse family. One of the things that I would say is as a child, I didn't see it. At the beginning as abuse, I thought it was normal. I was ejected from the home, I had no idea where I was going, I had no idea what I was going to do. I felt totally bereft. But what I did know was, I had got strong, I'd got strength in me, I'd got something in me that was going to make me survive. And I was not to doubt myself, and that I had to go forward and make her life. And luckily, someone who I knew somebody else that was willing to put me up on their sofa. So I suppose I was one of the first sofas surfers What I learned from that point was that just as I was learning, I couldn't change other people, I was the only person who could help me. And that was a rocky journey. And it was not easy. We as humans have this wonderful thing called denial. 9:43 I had nobody in the world. I'd had boyfriends. But, again, this was not what you would call a strong relationship or a caring relationship. There was an element of control there. Only I wasn't aware of it at the time. But we didn't go out and have fun. That was a lot of just staying in. And when you're alone, you want somebody to care about you. And again, I suppose what I could say is there's a whole other story there. So when you are totally alone, and you've only yourself to rely on, you do some inner depth work. And I learned to connect with my inner child, my counselor, had introduced me to me. And I began to realise that there were different parts of me and that I was complicated. And there were different needs in me. But I didn't understand how it's going to meet all of those needs, or how I was going to help myself. 20:23 it was about safety planning, it was about keeping them safe, I love some of the stuff that's been in the new domestic violence act that's just come out, I think it could have gone further. But until those people come out and stop being hidden, okay, none of that is going to matter or work. And I think that society is afraid of domestic abuse, I think we're afraid because there are two things, I think, I think, there is a fear because any abusive behaviour could also be directed towards you, if you try to help somebody, and I think number two, we're afraid because then we may have to be introspective into our own lives and look at our own relationships. And the one thing I've learned on my journey is that that connection, that honesty, that trust is something that it requires such hard work 24:47 I am silent for 10 minutes. I feel energised after it, I feel oxygenated. And I can usually just return to work and feel that I'm more in control and more calm. And that means I get better work done. 27:40 My tip is to be honest with yourself, love yourself, care for yourself, when you're looking after yourself, you will find it so much easier to look after and care for other people. 29:06 For a lot of women, that story is still relevant today. And so that helped me to put some of my life into context, when I read the book because it was about saying, I can fight back, I can be more than this. And those words that had been driven into my brain, those labels, those beliefs that I had taken on, which were not my beliefs, and a lot of as a carry in beliefs that are not our own. And that's why I say about being honest with yourself. You know, we have choices, we can be whoever we want to be, but what we have to do is learn to undo a lot. RECOMMENDATIONS Woman on the edge of time by Marge Piercey . https://amzn.to/3ibzm6d Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte https://amzn.to/3o947MV Emma Stroud and clowning around https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/clowning-around-podcast/id1499174238 ABOUT KAREN Karen is aware that often people will move back to where they came from and remain hidden and she wants to encourage everybody in society to become more aware of abusive relationships, to try to understand what to do, who to contact, and how to approach somebody. CONNECT WITH KAREN Website: Facebook: Linkedin: Instagram: Twitter: email : [email protected] ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Click on my Link tree to find details of my up and coming courses and coaching such as the rapid resilience reboot and other free resources If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or personally book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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023 -Reboot Key Learns From Episodes 12-22 With Emma Last
09/21/2021
023 -Reboot Key Learns From Episodes 12-22 With Emma Last
This Episode is with me Emma Last. I talk about my reflections and key learnings over the last 10 or so episodes. I give a summary of each episode, thank my guests for their reboot stories, and invite you to contact me to find out more about my methodology - if you want to know more about what it means to reboot and the key steps that help people to reboot quickly and effectively. I help high achievers to deal with any stresses to grow their mental fitness and resilience and help them to adapt to challenges and change and continue to perform at their best without burning out. Timings of each Reboot Key Learn 1:02 -Episode 12 Summary of "Let’s play bigger Ladies" with Emma Clayton 5:05 -Episode 13 Summary of "My 2020, Our Stories of strength and resilience" with Jo Howarth 7.56 -Episode 14 Summary of "How laughing for 10 minutes a day is my secret weapon" with Pete Cann 9.45 -Episode 15 Summary of "One in 20 women suffer from my hormone disorder PMDD" with Becky Holmes 14.00 Episode 16 Summary of "Rejection gave me the redirection to find my strengths" with Valerie Fischer 17:00 Episode 17 Summary of "From Domestic Abuse to Freedom in love, Freedom in money and Freedom in mind" with Anna Davidson 20:32 Episode 18 Summary of "Why you should be a Human leader" with Gary Parsons 24.48 Episode 19 Summary of "Everybody is deserving of good things", including me with Collette Stevenson 27:41 Episode 20 Summary of "How introverts can flourish without pretending" with Joanna Rawbone 30:38 Episode 21 Summary of "EMDR was game-changing for my PTSD and anxiety" with Bernii Mac 33.35 Episode 22 Summary of "No matter what your diversity everyone deserves to belong" with Becky Kekula ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training and more info at If would like to find out how you can reboot to improve your wellbeing and results in your business or life book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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No Matter What Your Diversity Everyone Deserves To Belong
09/14/2021
No Matter What Your Diversity Everyone Deserves To Belong
Becky Kekula is a TEDx international motivational speaker and advocate for inclusion. She also serves as a Disability Equality Index Director at Disability:IN: the leading nonprofit resource for business disability inclusion worldwide. Becky is a person with dwarfism and thus identifies as having a physical disability. She has an amazing story of how she got her first job behind the scenes in the entertainment industry, trying to change what we see in the media because that affects how people like her are treated in society. She is passionate about educating people about the importance of inclusion and kindness. She has spoken at over 300 venues, schools, nonprofit organisations, corporations, about the importance of being more inclusive of people like her, so those that come after her won't have as hard of a time fitting into society. KEY LEARNS 2:37 “I decided to move to another job in television casting at a television studio because I thought I could make an impact on how people with disabilities are represented on television. Unfortunately, the industry is still very slow when it comes to being inclusive of disability and they tend to hire people who don't have the lived experience of disability to play disability. And then those people get big awards like Emmys and Oscars because it's a big thing that they're playing disability and they should be applauded for it, rather than seeking out the actual people who have the disability and lived experience that can authentically portray those types of roles.” “I was working for two people. One person did not want me to be there. One person did and it was really hard that whole year. I was working there trying to make an impact, trying to share my experience and my passion for making TV more inclusive.” “ I had to make a really tough decision. Do I want to continue working in an industry that keeps letting me down? Or do I want to go and move home to my family, who loves me unconditionally, and will support me?” “ I thought that people didn't want to hear from me, because I didn't reach a certain level of success in my career. But they wanted to hear about what it was like to be in my shoes, trying to transition to the workforce from college. It didn't matter what level of my career I was in, my sister asked me if I could be a speaker at her school. She's a middle school teacher. So I continued to practice sharing my story. And then finally, after about seven months of sharing my story for free, someone asked me, what's your rate? And then I continued to seek out opportunities paid and unpaid because I really feel that every experience is important. And it really helped build me up knowing that people enjoyed hearing my story. And my success didn't depend on how I was treated in Los Angeles and the roles that I had there.” 7:54 “From scratch, they were able to put in some requests for accommodations. So going from the middle floor of the house to the basement, they were able to put a railing that was lower than the regular railing on the staircase, so I would have something to hold on to while I was going up and down from the basement. And then in the bathroom. They made sure that the light switch was lower enough so I could turn it on and off instead of having knob handles on doors in the house. It was important to have handle handles so that I could get an easier grasp of them. My parents had a crazy idea of Putting in an intercom system. So in my room, the intercom for me was lower. But a storm blew it out a few years later, so we didn't get much use out of it. And then, for a lot of other things, we would just have stools in the house if I needed to reach something. But in my younger years, they would just be there to assist. I think a lot of people like me feel empowered to want to try something on their own. So it's really important to ask someone if they need assistance, rather than just trying to do it for them in any type of setting. And they'll let you know if they need assistance with something.” 10:55 “In my early career, I really didn't ask for anything, because I was just so afraid of not getting the job or not being able to stay at a job because it would be too much to ask for things. But when I got to the job in New York City, they did ask me right away. I think also the trend of ergonomic assessors coming to workplaces has become a more common thing. So when I was getting my desk set up, they asked me what I needed. And I did ask for a step stool for my desk. And then we got a step stool for the bathroom that I was going to be accessing. And they did have a few kitchens on the floor where we worked. But they got a stool that I could use in the kitchen that I was closest to. But then a few months later, the Head of Administration had a dream or just woke up in the middle of the night and thought, what if Becky wanted to use the other kitchens on the floor? What if she had a meeting on the other side of the building? Shouldn't we still have a stepstool there too? So they went and got those additional stepstools, I think it's nice to have people think above and beyond and I didn't think of it on my own. I just thought I'll take whatever accommodations they're willing to give me. Or if I'm going to use the kitchen, I'll just use the one that has the step stool. But I love when people go above and beyond and just make it available.“ 13:08 “Fast forward to several years later, I was invited to do another TED Talk, where I talked about this fear people have of disability gets in the way of how they treat people with disabilities. They're so fearful that their lives are going to turn into chaos, that one may perceive if they don't have the lived experience of disability up until this point in time. And then that fear gets projected on people with disabilities. So they feel bad for us, which then doesn't allow us to have a chance to participate in the environments that they spend time in. Because they're blocking us out. They're missing out on talent, and the meaning of connection, connecting to people who may not look like you. But there's a lot that we all have inside that we could have in common.” “I currently work for an organisation that supports businesses with disability inclusion, really tying back to when I struggled to get my first job out of college, we find candidates with disabilities who have college degrees or are in grad school, are currently in college, and match them with corporations who are ready, willing and able to hire, they just want to find the talent. So they know going into it, that this talent pool has disability all around it, and they're willing to give them a chance. And I specifically run an index that companies take, it's a self-assessment, and it measures how they're doing across their enterprise, when it comes to disability inclusion, really making sure disability is part of their diversity effort. Because often, people may say, diversity is ethnicity or gender, and they may not think of the other areas of diversity. But we want to intentionally include disability in every conversation so that nobody's left behind.” 17:55 “The end goal of everything- everyone deserves to belong. And we don't want the unemployment rate to be so drastically different between those with disabilities and those without, because employment allows for people to feel that sense of independence and feel empowered to make a difference and gives them a purpose”. 19:27 “People forget that over 70% of disabilities are not apparent, meaning you can't see them. And mental health is definitely a part of that equation, even though it's often talked about separately, mental health is a disability.” “For me as a person with dwarfism, I'm one of 30,000 people in the US who have dwarfism, but there are 400 types of dwarfism. So we all come in different shapes and sizes, just like everyone in the world and when we go out in public especially in major cities, where there are a lot of people, we have a chance of coming across a lot of strangers with all different socio-economic backgrounds and experiences, we are reminded that we're different when we go out in public every day. And it can be daunting, and it can tear away at your insides because you're not being accepted into everyday life. And there's a huge connection between the little people community and mental health." “And I will say even during my reboot story I was really struggling because you start doubting yourself when others are doubting you. And you don't know what that means for your future. And then with any area of diversity, I think it's just the idea that people are reminded that they're different. And those who remind you that you're different have something going on inside. Otherwise, they wouldn't remind you that you're different. So it's a spiral effect. But if you let someone's opinions or comments get to you, it will tear you down.” 21:46 “I would say try your best to not let other people's assumptions of what you are not capable of getting in the way of what you think you're capable of, and what value you have to bring to the world. Because we all were brought here for a reason, and have the potential to do great things, even if others try to tear us down in the process.” 25:57 “I truly believe anything's possible. And people may laugh, sometimes they are sure. But I'm willing to challenge anyone, anytime someone tells me that it isn't.” RECOMMENDATIONS The little people of America website The National Centre for disability journalism ABOUT BECKY Becky Curran Kekula was born with achondroplasia, the most common type of short-limbed dwarfism. She stands 4 feet tall. Both her parents and older sister are “average” height. Her parents always taught her about keeping a positive outlook, no matter how harsh the outside world may be. She grew up participating in sports such as sailing, skiing, soccer, and swimming amongst her “average height peers. When people ask if she likes being a little person, she always has the same answer. “ I never want to change but I want the way the outside world reacts to my difference to change” Becky is a TEDx international motivational speaker and advocates for inclusion. She also serves as a disability Equality Index director at disability:IN: the leading nonprofit resource for business disability inclusion worldwide. As a motivational speaker and Equality, diversity, and inclusion specialist, she advocates for inclusion everywhere. Becky strives to teach acceptance whilst educating and motivating all people to establish goals and work hard to accomplish them. CONNECT WITH BECKY http://www.beckymotivates.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Find free resources, training, and details of my programmes If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or personally book a free call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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EMDR Was Game Changing For My PTSD And Anxiety With Bernii Mac
09/07/2021
EMDR Was Game Changing For My PTSD And Anxiety With Bernii Mac
Bernice MacDonald, aka Bernii Mac, is in the music industry. She is a singer-songwriter and now guides new musical artists through the music industry authentically. She tells her story of how she went from a 15-year-old starting out in the music industry, falling into an abusive relationship that led to her making poor decisions for her, to her living with generalised anxiety disorder and to a PTSD diagnosis. Berni talks about her journey, the work she has done on herself and the amazing results and recovery she has found from EMDR ( Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing Therapy). It is uplifting but may be difficult to listen to for some KEY LEARNS 6:00 “I was making bad decisions and bad choices based on how I felt about myself, I just didn’t have an awareness of it. So I think I was lucky that I have a very stable family and very stable friends that I really trusted. I think when you have a really, really great upbringing, you can always go back to that as ground zero, as it were. At one point, I had quite a lot of mental illness, I guess, in the sense that I really didn’t know who I could trust. But I also, realised at one point in my journey that I really needed counseling, I needed outside help, I needed someone that wasn’t connected to my family, who was really going to listen to what I had to say, and give me an outside perspective that was not emotionally attached. And of course, therapists and counsellors, and anyone along those lines have this amazing training that they’ve gone through. And actually, in terms of overcoming the trauma, I had an amazing therapy called EMDR. light therapy, which I actually now want to train in because it was so good.” 7:38 “I had CBT and I’ve had regular counselling, I’ve even had healings, I’ve had everything. And they played their part. There’s definitely value to them. But I think for me because I did have such a lot of trauma, It was the EMDR therapy that really was game-changing. And the reason it was game-changing is that what it does is it quite literally clears the trauma from your brain so that you have space to grow as a human being.” 10:00 “I went into the session feeling quite anxious, as you mentioned I have anxiety, which is true. I went in there feeling a little bit on edge. And what she said to me was to really connect to that feeling. So rather than run away from that feeling, connect to it, and just be comfortable with it.” 12:14 “She asked “How powerful is your feeling? So it might have been an eight on a scale of one to 10. Then we’d do a round of about a minute of light therapy, the beats in the ears and connecting to the feeling. Then she’d ask “What’s your feeling now?” It might be a six and then we’d try and bring it down to zero. And then this is the fascinating part. She asks you in advance to find three care characters that you can go to, to help you within this scenario. Honestly, when I was looking into this, I was going, this is bonkers, this is not going to work but it was amazing. So Michelle Obama was my nurturing figure, Johnny Cash was my protective figure. And Buddha was my wise figure. And these are things that you plan out before you go in.” 15:00 “It might be someone else’s voice, a parental figure, or an ex-boyfriend or an ex-partner, you know, telling us that we’re not good enough, or whatever it is. And I think you realise that you have a lot more control over your own mind than what you think, especially when you do feel traumatised, it is a massive relief and for me it was worth going through the bonkers experience to get to where I am now which is so much better to where I was” “As I said, I was gaslighted. In my early 20s, I went to victim support at that point, and they were absolutely useless. I’m not gonna lie. My particular people weren’t very helpful. And so I didn’t really have any therapy at all for 15 years. And I was living with this horrible experience that got me into quite a lot of difficult situations, because I didn’t address the problem. And I didn’t have anyone around me, who understood how I was feeling, who was telling me to address the problem, you know, so I was just kind of silently living with this issue. And so it really wasn’t until I was in my late 30s, that I really went and had counselling, and they said, You’ve got complex PTSD. So it was really, you know, 15 odd years later, that I addressed it. And, and that sucks. Like, that’s a long time to be living with something, you know, and that’s definitely a hard pill to swallow. But on the positive side, at least, I’ve recovered now.” 19:18 “I’ve realised that the way to switch off is literally to switch all of my technology off, to read a book, to go for a walk, to hang out with friends and to completely turn my brain away from anything work-related, which means that when I go out with my friends, we don’t talk about anything to do with music. I have to have a lot of self-discipline when it comes to that, especially when I hear a song on the radio, and I’m listening to the production and listening to the lyrics. I naturally analyse music now, as so many of us musicians do. But I have to be very, very disciplined with myself and say ‘no’, I’m just listening to that now as a consumer rather than as someone who works in the music industry.” 22.28 “I do have a grounding exercise, where you basically just, imagine that your feet are the roots of a tree. You have roots coming out of your feet, which is a bit gross when you think about it, but get that bit out of your mind. And It is shooting right down to the core of the Earth, and locking you into the core of the Earth. So you’re being physically grounded and pulled to the earth. And it’s best if you do this in bare feet, or with socks on rather than shoes. And then you just start to become very aware of everything around you. So you come out of your head and you start to look around. And ask yourself – what can you see? Can you see a person? Can you see a plant? Can you see your window? Can you see your door? a musical instrument? anything that’s around and then you start to become aware of sounds? So what can you hear? Can you hear cars? Can you hear music? Can you hear your kids in the background? You know, it’s just stuff like that- it’s becoming aware of your senses? What can you smell? And that really brings you back into the now, because it’s getting you out of your head and back into your present place. And I use that one a lot.” “I will not engage in any kind of demanding messages from work or from anyone until I’ve got up. I’ve had my lemon water. And I’ve taken my dogs for a walk. And that’s how I protect my mental health is by giving myself that space because for so long, I’d wake up, I’d switch the phone off my alarm. And then on the iPhone or any phone probably it’s just got all the messages that you’ve received during the night. I don’t know what people are doing in the morning, but people are up super early and they’re messaging you and then you get sucked instantly into their world and they’re what they need you to do. So for me, it’s been really important to actually care for myself, care to make sure that I’ve got time in the morning for myself. So that’s one thing I live by. And I also try not to eat too late at night. And that affects my mental health as well because it means I get a better night’s sleep.” RECOMMENDATIONS The Motivation Manifesto: 9 Declarations to Claim Your Personal Power by Brendon Burchard High-Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way by Brendon Burchard ABOUT BERNI Bernice MacDonald aka Bernii Mac is the founder of heart lead Artist mentoring agency Bernii Mac Agency and the brand new membership community/resource -Becoming The Artist, which focuses on empowering and guiding the new musical artist through the music industry authentically. Bernii is a strong advocate for mental health awareness, self-care, and personal empowerment within the music industry. CONNECT WITH BERNI IG@berniimacmentoring email [email protected] ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST If would like to find out how you can improve your well-being and results in your business or personally book a call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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020 - How Introverts Can Flourish Without Pretending With Joanna Rawbone
08/31/2021
020 - How Introverts Can Flourish Without Pretending With Joanna Rawbone
Joanna Rawbone talks about how she enables introverts to flourish without pretending because for too many decades, she had been pretending to be something she was not in order to fit in and get on and it took her into burnout. So she is on a mission to shift the extraversion bias in business and education because it's in their everyday practices and processes. She found she was an introvert by having completed a Myers Briggs profile and she explains this in detail within this episode. Joanna shares how 20 years ago she was working as an Associate Trainer, she already knew she was an introvert, but she didn't know what to do with that difference. In the training field so many of her colleagues had huge personalities, huge extroverts, and she felt that this was what she thought she needed to be to fit in and to be recognised in her field. But on holiday in France and all of a sudden, she turned to my husband and said, I can't do this anymore, she couldn’t keep pretending in her work, she couldn’t be something she immediately made moves to leave the organisation and she goes on to tell us her story of introvert burnout and how she rebooted her life. She shares how she replenishes her energy and how she boosts her battery as she calls it. Joanna is now being labeled as a corporate disrupter, due to her challenging yet supporting them on their Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion policies in respect of this aspect of neurodiversity. KEY LEARNS “My reboot was getting connected again, with somebody who valued what I did in the way I did it. They valued me for who I was, not for who I'd been pretending to be, not for who I could be if I bent myself out of shape. So that taught me a huge lesson. My reboot for me meant coming back to myself, reconnecting with who I really am in order to go on and do bigger and better work going forward.” 8:45 “Whilst that was so great for understanding myself, what it didn't do was tell me how to really play to my strengths with that profile, what it did was highlight how I was different. So it gave me some tools to how to be more extroverted, how to be more like other people, and it took me a couple of more decades to realise actually, that the real knack here is to know my strengths as an introvert to claim them and then play to them without apology. And many people, many of the clients I'm working with now aren't finding out that they're an introvert until their 40s and 50s. And that moment of absolute joy, when they realise that there's nothing wrong with them is just phenomenal to observe because many of us have spent years if not decades, being told to be different, be more this be more that, in other words, be more extroverted, push yourself forward, speak up more, you know, you've got to be more like this, you've got to do more of that. And that leaves most of us feeling that we’re not enough being ourselves, because it's only by being something else that we're valued”. 10:49 “Introverts tend to have this- think say think communication process. So if you ask an introvert a question, typically, what they will do is they will literally kind of go up into their heads, and we spend a lot of time in our heads and really think about what our answer is to this particular question. And that takes time. And quite often, we don't get to the say, part of our process, because in our fast-paced business world, the conversation has moved on. So the perception people have about an introvert is that we're too quiet, that we don't have an opinion, that we don't have anything to say that, you know, sometimes worse than that, that we're stuck up or arrogant or you know, just loners. But actually, it's about understanding that our communication process is different.” “What needs to happen is you need to understand the communication process of introverts better because as an extrovert, their communication tends to be, say things say, so you ask them a question, you get an immediate answer. It may not be what they actually mean. Often, it's like a stream of consciousness and they'll make sense of it as they go. And often speaking it out helps them understand what they're thinking. So exactly the opposite from the introvert.” “Introverts need time to recharge. So if we go back to Young's original definition, introverts are already overstimulated mentally and introvert means we let you know we literally look inwards for our energy, whereas extrovert means they look outwards for their energy. So we're already overstimulated and don't need additional stimulation. Extroverts require external stimulation in order to recharge their batteries. So they need social interaction, active experiences and change, whereas they're the very things that can drain me, drain my mental batteries really quickly.” 14:58 “Many introverts, not all because there are six different types of introverts to start with. And you know, so none of us is the same anyway. So six pure types and many combinations. Many introverts have more of a reflector theorist learning style. So I do a lot of work with professional services. And it's not unusual when we do the, you know, learning styles questionnaire, for instance, for most of them to come out strongest on reflector, theorist, whereas extroverts tend to be more pragmatist, activists. So there is, you know, there is a kind of parallel there, and it's not an absolute match. But again, if people prefer to sit back and observe before they have a go with that reflective learning style, chances are again, it's worth just thinking about whether they are more, you know, identify as an introvert.” 16:14 “The biggest strength is our listening skills. So introverts are curious. And because we're not looking to contribute the whole time, what we're very good at is listening and listening with our eyes as well as our ears. So we notice what's not being said, we notice the little kind of changes in body language. You know, for the poker players, we noticed the tails that give people away when what they're saying doesn't quite match with their body language. And because we are so good at listening, that means that we're fantastic at assimilating ideas at summarising at bringing forward something that was touched on, and then almost dismissed just to make sure that the, the meeting or whatever, doesn't want to reconsider that. And, you know, gosh, the world needs more of that listening. If we go back and think about maybe Freud, or even Newton who said, you know, man's failure to communicate is often down to his failure to listen. And, you know, we really do need to think about, how would our team be, how would our businesses be, how would our relationships benefit, if we listened better if we listened more. So listening, for me is typically the number one” 19:43 “What that enables me to do is to use either one of my quick brilliant battery boosters, which can be something as simple as a quick meditation, I might be using acupressure points like on my third eye or the one just above my top lip, I may use essential oils like lemon which is very helps with focus or lavender, which helps relax movement is really good. So if I'm in the office, then just going up and down the stairs will help if I'm on my own or a quick dance break will help and getting out in nature. You know, all of those things are really important in order to recharge batteries.” 23:45 “Ambiverts technically do exist and they are people who are equally recharged by the quiet solo things and by the busy, clubbing and being within a big in a busy mall and you know, with a crowd of friends, all that sort of stuff. But more often than not what we have are people who are extroverted introverts or introverted extroverts. And I'm an extroverted introvert.” 31:18 With up to 47% of people in the UK identifying as an introvert, that's a massive amount potentially, of our employees, of our workforce, who are not being able to be themselves. So going home at the end of every day completely wrung out, and probably not being the best person at home, then for those that they live with and love, ready to come back and do it all again the next day just in order to fit whatever society or whatever the business has deemed is best. And, you know, my big question is, who is it that decided that introversion was neurodiverse?” 32:32 “We only have to look at some of the biggest leaders in the world and in business, who are, you know, male introverts, Warren Buffett, you know, one of the most successful investors and business leaders, introvert Bill Gates, Steve Jobs was Barack Obama all identify as introverts. And, you know, if you just think about that calm presence that he had, you know, no bionics, no drama, but just his real solid calmness, you knew exactly what you were getting. And, and so it's not that there's a lack of, you know, leadership role models for introverts out there. But somehow there's this, I don't know that there's this strange thing that happens in organisations that says, but you have to be pushy, you have to be aggressive. You have to be this, you have to be that. No, you don't, not at all, I think some of the best qualities of leaders are things like humility, you know, when a leader can actually say, I got it wrong, or to use Amy Edmondson phrase, you know, that situation or humility, where I don't have all the answers. And you know, nobody says I should. And, you know, I think it's much easier for introverts to fall into that camp than perhaps it is for extroverts.” 35:46 “Purpose plus passion Trumps fear. So some of the introverts I work with will use their introversion as an excuse, they'll almost hide inside and say, Oh, I can't do that, because I'm an introvert. And actually, you know, that's, that's poppycock, really, because I can do anything I put my mind to, provided I've got enough charge in my mental batteries. So all I need to do is really kind of access my purpose and my passion. And then I am unstoppable, I can do anything I put my mind to. So that's the thing I remind myself of pretty much every day, because these days, pretty much every day, I'm doing things that even two years ago would have been outside my comfort zone. And as introverts, one of the things I encourage us to do is always to work at the outer edge, it doesn't work to say you have to get out of your comfort zone. Again, I think that's a very extroverted thing to say and do. So you know, there are people who say the only learning that happens outside your comfort zone. Actually, I know that not to be true. But what we encourage my clients to do is to work at that outer edge of their comfort zone. Because by doing that, we enlarge our comfort zone the whole time. And all of a sudden, we can do the things that a week ago, a month ago, a year ago, we thought were impossible to do. And that's the kind of fear that I'm talking about- access your passion, access your purpose, and then we become unstoppable.” 43:56 “People say you can't put me in a box. It's just a label. It's actually a useful categorisation that helps us with self-awareness. So let's not tie ourselves up in knots about it. Let's just use it for self-awareness.” RECOMMENDATIONS Flourishing introverts podcast - Watch Joanna’s TEDx talk Susan Caine's TED Talk - . Quiet by Susan Caine ABOUT JOANNA Joanna Rawbone (MSc) founded Flourishing Introverts to shift this extraversion bias in business using a simple but robust approach and to enable individuals to recognise their natural strengths so they can fulfill their potential without pretending to be something they are not. This starts with enabling introverts to identify and own their strengths, something Joanna does in her group coaching programs and 1:1 with clients. With her clear purpose and unshakable passion, she works with companies and organisations to help them recognise and encourage the contribution introverts can make to their business. This is Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in action. CONNECT WITH JOANNA ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week. She is a #1 best selling author on Amazon CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST If would like to find out how you can improve your wellbeing and results in your business or personally book a call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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019 Everybody Is Deserving Of Good Things, Including Me With Colette Stevenson
08/24/2021
019 Everybody Is Deserving Of Good Things, Including Me With Colette Stevenson
Colette Stevenson talks about how sometimes our reboot stories are interlinked, and they help us with our next reboot and how we often have to reboot to get to the next level of our lives. She doesn’t believe it's a journey that's finished. Some of the episode may be triggering for some listeners so please read the show notes if that could be you. She shares a significant time in her life, where she was sexually assaulted by four guys on a crowded street and nobody helped her. Following this Collette struggled to process what had happened, got involved in unhealthy relationships because of a sense of undeserving and worthlessness, and then when she hit rock bottom, she had a dream that meant she woke up and knew she had to make a change. She left the UK and built a hugely successful life in Japan, met and married her husband, and had their son, but there came a point after her father's death when she thought that her Autistic son, aged 3 would be better supported back in the UK. Her husband wasn't permitted a visa into the UK and this is when poverty struck and those feelings of worthlessness came back, causing her to pivot her business many times. Things have become much clearer since she realised she is ADHD and is starting to believe that she too is deserving of good things. There are key people that have been there at the right time, one of those being Helen Pritchard who Colette is now in business with. How Colette has navigated challenge and change is truly inspirational and there is something that everyone can take away from this episode. KEY LEARNS 8:50 “I feel like I'm at the stage of my life where I have to own those dark times. And I have to talk about them openly. Because when I have heard other people talking about their stories, I have felt like I have permission to find healing and move through it myself.” “Even though you know that you might be able to do something different. You don't know how to move from that point of being, especially when being mistreated, being undervalued, or being less than worthy in other people's eyes is normal. When that feels normal. You can't imagine ever stepping out of it or doing something different at all.” “I don't know why. But I knew I couldn't go back. And then I was stuck against this cliff. And I didn't know where to go in the dream. And then I looked up right at the top, there was this sliver of sky. And in the dream, I knew that I just needed to get to the top of the cliff, and I'd be free. And I woke up that morning. And I thought I've got to make a change. It wasn't really a thought in words, it was a feeling or a hope or a realisation that I didn't have to stay stuck. Surrounded by this darkness, I could get to the top of the cliff, it was the first time I saw the light. But I did, I saw the light. And I'm not saying it was easy to get from that point to changing things. But that was, I suppose, the beginning of a reboot that I didn't know was about to happen.” 13:02 We didn't qualify for any financial assistance at all. And at one point, I got a letter from the Department of Work and Pensions, telling me to move back to Japan. One day, I'm going to find that, hold it up and say, This is shameful. My mental health deteriorated rapidly. And I did not know how to feed my child. “It felt like when I was in the UK, my life was dark. Because I then associated all this pain and all this darkness with when I lived in the UK before I left for Japan. I left for Japan and my life flourished. And I came back to the UK. And within a year, I was back in this dark space where I felt trapped with no way out. But in my mind, because of what had gone on before. I also knew that the sky existed. So even though things were really dark, and even though things felt really hopeless. And even though I didn't know what was going to happen, or how it was going to unfold, I knew that it wasn't forever, and things would improve. So I had this mantra, this ongoing mantra, it's not forever, it's not forever, it's not forever, things change, things change. And just keep taking one step forward, just keep moving through it one step forward, and things will change. And they did, that was three years ago. And things have changed. And it's got nothing to do with, you know, any help from being in the UK. But I also realise now that the darkness is not related to geography at all.” 18:03 “It was what I could do next, that mattered not what had happened before” 19:05 “ I had to find a way to generate an income. So I thought, Well, okay, I can make stuff because I used to make flyers and brochures and posters and logos for my own businesses. I can make stuff. So that was one thing I thought I could do. So at that time, my cousin said, Have you heard of Helen Pritchard? And I was like, No, never heard of her. Right? And my cousin's like, She does this LinkedIn training stuff, you should have a look. So it was a five-day free challenge coming up. So I did that five-day challenge and was like, right, okay, I'll use LinkedIn and try and get customers. So I went on LinkedIn and started advertising that I could help educators build, make resources, I got a client, and I was like, Oh, my God, this is magic. Right. So that was kind of my first set of income, it was a good contract I got from LinkedIn from that. And, I used that money to feed my son for the next couple of months, but also to then invest in my business so that I could take payments more easily online” 24:48 “So I got on a call with this woman. And I talked to her. And I was like, Oh, yeah, and she made some good points. And she explained to me a little bit more about ADHD and how it's different in women and girls. And I was like, okay, maybe I'll look into it. And then I sat on it again for a few more months. But I told my husband and he said, you know what it makes sense. So I started looking into it and reading about it. And then I read Janet Murray's blog about when she'd been diagnosed at 45 with ADHD. And she had listed all these different points. And I was like, Oh, my God. “ “I joined ADHD groups, I spoke to women who were diagnosed with ADHD and when I talked about the connection that I felt when I joined the autistic groups, It was that magnified by 100,000. I didn't have to explain myself anymore. I didn't have to justify anything. I didn't have to. I didn't have to do anything. It was okay.“ “So it was probably around a year ago that I realised conclusively that I'm going to say I am ADHD because it's the way my brain is, it's not a condition that I have to just, it's just an is, so I am ADHD. And when I discovered that and realised that I was not alone, and realised that I was not flawed, and there was something wrong with me, it made this massive, massive leap, in terms of that sense of not feeling like I deserve anything, it stepped me up, it gave me perspective, and it's helped me to help me, it's just helped me understand what I can do. And also set limits on what I can't and just say, I can't do that, and not feel bad about it.” 33:29 “Yeah, I think the last 12 months have been, I don't think there's a word for it. To be honest, I think I was set free. I'm not gonna lie, I still am going through a lot of discomfort right now. And a lot of you know, those old kind of blocks and those old kind of ideas of not being worthy and not feeling like I deserve great things are coming back and I'm having to work constantly to remind myself to actually ever if, if I was talking to anybody else, so of course you're worthy what you're talking about, everybody is deserving of good things, everybody, including me.” 39:19 “I wanted to ask about how I could sell my Instagram grid. Right. So that was my question. I was like, I've got this thing, but I don't know how I can sell it to people, or what price I should sell it out was basically my question. And Helen Pritchard was in there, and I was really nervous. And I was the second person to ask the question, and also I can't recall. And I was like, all shaky and nervous. But because of this self-hypnosis thing, I believed I could ask that question, and that my question had value in a way that I'd never believed before. So I asked that question. And a week later, I was in business with Helen Prichard. So yeah, I don't necessarily switch off. But I do think that self-hypnosis is quite a powerful way to control my alertness, if that makes sense or to manage the way my thoughts are ordered.” 44:14 “With meditation, it's quite passive. You're following the instructions and you relax your body and you relax your mind. That's the bit that I've always struggled with. 'Relax my mind", what does that even mean? But with self-hypnosis, you are consciously thinking about what you're doing, and what you're saying, and what you're thinking. It means you don't switch off you stay on, which puts me to sleep. Helps you switch off. It's magic.” “Just keep going, when things are great, don't get complacent, when things aren't great - Keep going. And even if you can only take a tiny step” “Because like you said earlier in the podcast, things will change, things do change, always change, they always change, and we can have an impact on what kind of change is gonna happen, we can impact the change that we want to see, we can't change circumstances.” RECOMMENDATIONS Helen Pritchard - Vicki Jakes How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie ABOUT COLETTE Colette Stevenson is a graphic designer. She is a feminist, anti-racist, neurodivergent sis woman, a staunch LGBTQ plus ally, and a committed advocate for childhood and children's rights. At 45. She learned that she is ADHD, Colette is an enthusiastic wonky thinker who loves good coffee and chocolate. She is determined to do things differently and make the world a happier place. Over the years, Colette has flourished and crashed multiple times but she remains steadfast in her belief that there is joy in every day and all things are attainable - especially a better life. She is the founder of Postagrid, a simple and impactful way to manage your Instagram grid. CONNECT WITH COLETTE FREE Masterclass Tuesday, 31 August 10 am BST: 20 Content Ideas to Make Money From Your Grid ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST If would like to find out how you can improve your well-being and results in your business or personally book a call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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018 - Why you should be a human leader with Gary Parsons
08/18/2021
018 - Why you should be a human leader with Gary Parsons
Gary Parsons talks about his big reboot of starting his recruitment business 12 years ago in a global recession as the best and craziest thing he has ever done by moving one hundred miles, leaving his mum and his stable job all to set up his business with his friend David. It wasn’t easy working day and night, he had to work in a hotel part-time in the evenings to give him the chance to grow and fund his business in the day. He talks about how they nearly gave up and how 12 years on after a number of reboots, learnings or changes in direction they have built a successful business. That not only made it through a recession but through a pandemic. We talk about how he has put their people first and this has been key to their success both internally and with their clients. We discuss having a specialism over niching, humility, leaders being able to be more vulnerable about their mental health and wellbeing, people over profit, culture over strategy and ‘life work ‘ balance, and leaving the mark on the world that you want to. #humanleadership #peoplefirst #peoplefocus #cultureeatsstrategyforbreakfast If you like this episode try listening to: Noticing and responding to our feelings with Tim Carr Or Shining a light on purpose with Amy Rowlinson KEY LEARNS “We used to go into meetings and apologise at the start of a meeting because we would challenge them. There are things that we're going to ask you today that are really going to push you out of your comfort zone. So I apologise if I offend you in a meeting, and then remind them of that halfway through. I think that's because we are so honest. And we are, we are human. And we don't pretend, we want to get the best result for everybody because we care. And that's come up time and time again when we've asked the team what, why do you do what you do? What makes you proud? And it's because we care about what we do. “ “As directors, as owners, as leaders, as managers, there's a huge expectation around us to wrongly show strength at all costs at all times. And we're not allowed to show any level of the human that is inside us.. And I think that's really sad. I am a big believer in mental health and the well-being of employees. Because the message that is for me missing is that the leaders matter as much as the employees, the managers matter too. And please don't get me wrong, employees are a huge part of that. I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing now if I didn't believe it. “ “Why do we always say, you need to focus on your employees, your focus and your employees and just miss out the truly obvious statement in that saying, if we help those managers and directors open up more, and those leaders open up more and have more honest conversations, then your employees will open up more, and they will see it's okay to be not okay, that phrase that's out there. And I'm sitting here really frustrated because it just isn't out there. And then you see people like Kate Spade, a huge fashion entrepreneur with what she did with handbags and fashion, hugely successful, and suddenly took her own life. Because, and certainly had her own reasons. But I just, I just think it's awful from that point of view that we're not allowed to struggle as owners and directors are the roller coaster journeys that we go on.” “Sadly, I've seen people where they've lost their parents through cancer or through these horrible things that exist in their lives. And they've still got to keep on running their business, not allowing themselves to have time off, or you've had a baby, well, tough, you've got to go and carry on running your business. And, yeah, I just don't, I don't think it's where it needs to be. And I'd love to push that further. And stop that from happening. And the ultimate burnout that comes from that business burnout that is created on the back of that is sad. And it's so unfair.” “The link between people and profit -you can't have one without the other. And if you treat people as humans, and treat them with the respect and humility that you would expect to be treated with yourself, then you will unlock that profit, it will happen. And I think that's maybe why. And I've heard this phrase over the last couple of weeks, actually. And it's that time and time again, culture eats strategy for breakfast.” “I think it's on every bit of my social media, your most important asset of your business is your people.” “I've seen companies make more money through the last year we took a decision as a business to focus on purpose over profit” “The ACE model is what you're achieving, what you connect with, what you enjoy. And I realised when I wrote it down on a piece of paper, it was all work” “I've used this so consciously now, that work-life balance is such a horrible phrase, It just really just grinds on me. Because actually, I completely turn it on its head and call it a life-work balance.” “Absolutely. I think we've got a duty as well, as leaders, as friends, colleagues, mums, dads, brothers, sisters, we've got a duty to make sure that the people around us don't get lost in that journey. Because when you lose that sight of what your purpose is, what you love, what you enjoy, connect, as I said earlier, it can be quite overwhelming and can be quite a scary place to be in. And Crikey over the last 12 years I've, I've dipped in and out of that place as you would entirely expect that to happen, whether we choose to admit it as leaders or not.” “How often do we sit there and talk about our employees and talk about where they want to be in five years and their career plans? but very rarely do we say what matters to you? What values have you got as an individual outside of work that matters to you? How can we support you on that journey? And how do you talk about that with your friends, your family, your husband, your wives, partners, etc? And I think we have a duty to be able to do that. “ RECOMMENDATIONS Happy Place with Fearne Cotton Chick Peeps Vegan Podcast with Evanna Lynch ABOUT GARY Co-Founder and Managing Director of Talk Staff; Gary Parsons demonstrates how good things can come out of a recession and has scaled his multi-award-winning people consultancy from the back bedroom of his shared flat to a major player in the Midlands Region of the UK. Working with employers to focus on their biggest asset - their people, Gary, and his team know just how important it is to find the balance between life and work. He is extremely passionate about the role we all play in mental health and overall wellbeing, not only for employees for the leaders too. CONNECT WITH GARY Twitter – Instagram – LinkedIn – Facebook – Clubhouse – People Focus Podcast- https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/people-focus-podcast/id1571653377 ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST If would like to find out how you can improve your well-being and results in your business or personally book a call DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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017 From Domestic Abuse to Freedom in Love, Freedom in Money and Freedom in Mind with Anna Davidson
08/10/2021
017 From Domestic Abuse to Freedom in Love, Freedom in Money and Freedom in Mind with Anna Davidson
The subjects we touch on in the episode are difficult and may be hard for some to listen to. Anna has years of experience in e-commerce and digital marketing and is a highly successful female leader recently featured in Forbes, which has given her financial freedom. However, she has spent a number of years of her life freeing herself from an abusive marriage, freeing herself from domestic violence. She talks about her journey from fear and shame to wanting to get help for her partner, to finding safety, then working on her and her children’s healing, her self care and how she has truly found her freedom - Freedom in love, freedom in money and freedom in mind. KEY LEARNS “I lived for six months with a bag in the back of my car that had like a spare pair of clothes for me, a spare pair close for the boys and our passports. Again, when I look back on that, I think it is absolutely crazy. Because why didn't I just go? I think I had that because whenever there was a drama, then you can't suddenly start packing things, you need to just leave. And at least I knew I had that confidence. I had everything in the car” “I do believe that he had some kind of mental health imbalance because it wasn't always the way it was. So I think that's why I stayed so long. But leaving that and also going through that whole thing of you are a failure because your marriage hasn't worked out, having mixed-race children, which seems silly to say, but I really did feel that I didn't want to be a single parent with two children. And that took me a lot to get over. And I don't know why I think it's because society put you in a box. And I didn't want to be put in that box by other people.” “So it's finding someone that you can confide in, initially. But I do think it's all about facing your situation, not running away from it.” “I just felt like I was going around in circles and just couldn't get out. So you've got to, you've got to speak to someone, and you've also got to not be in denial, you've got to own up to the fact that you are in this abusive marriage. And you then have to think about how you're going to get out of it. What is going to be your exit strategy out of this, because you need a plan to get out. And you need to follow through on that plan and face that fear. it's not until then afterward, then he can do all the healing and recovery part of that to work on your confidence and work on self-care and all that kind of stuff. But initially, it is a bit like 999 is an emergency, isn't it and you need to get out. “I think I actually think everyone should have a counsellor, or a coach or a mentor or something like that because I think we're always growing. And we can't always see things ourselves and everyone needs some kind of support, especially with what's happened in the last 12 months with the pandemic.” RECOMMENDATIONS The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson ABOUT ANNA Anna is a female Leader with years of experience in the eCommerce & Digital Marketing space. Anna is an Author of She Made It Happen, Speaker, and Founder of Amazon 101 Academy and Your Freedom Podcast. Having become an Amazon seller in 2013 in the USA Market followed by Europe her skills lie with understanding Amazon, Building Brands, and creating eCommerce stores. She has taught over 2000 students to build successful businesses through on and offline training programs, and has a passion for branding and turning seemingly ordinary products into unique lines. Learning how to rank quickly on Amazon or drive traffic through Facebook & Instagram she has built multiple brands from scratch with 10+ years of online marketing experience. She has a knack for being able to rank quickly on Amazon and outsmarting the competition. She was featured in Forbes Magazine in April 2020. She is on a mission to empower other women to build successful businesses online having left an abusive marriage. CONNECT WITH ANNA ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week Emma invites you to join her Practical Stress and Pressure Strategies Training on August 17th CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Emma invites you to join her Practical Stress and Pressure Strategies Training on August 17th DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. 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016 Rejection Gave Me The Redirection To Find My Strengths With Valerie Fischer
08/03/2021
016 Rejection Gave Me The Redirection To Find My Strengths With Valerie Fischer
VALERIE FISCHER Valerie is a high achiever and has worked all her life to get to her dream job as a chief marketing officer. It was at the start of the pandemic when she wasn't seeing eye to eye with her boss. She believed they could shift the business online, but she was being asked to carry on selling face to face when it was a worldwide lockdown. So when she got a message saying we need to talk she knew what was up. She went from huge feelings of wanting to hide away, being scared and embarrassed. But then those around her needed her e-commerce/ marketing/ advertising skills and were asking for her help to transition their businesses and work online. She wiped away her tears and saw there was a superhero costume she could put on. This is where her journey of self-discovery started, where she followed a direction she hadn't even thought about because she was programmed to be in the corporate world. But when it was taken away from her it was actually that rejection that was a redirection, leading her to where she feels she is supposed to be. She revisited her findings from Gallup's Strengthsfinder book. Then it all slotted into place why and how she should be helping others. And that all she had to do was follow and embrace whatever paths she was given. She talks about how her being poor and being bullied for the colour of her skin and for the curliness of her hair, her survival instinct meant that she channeled all her efforts in becoming a high achiever in her life, how she lives in authenticity and the importance of purpose. KEY LEARNS “We grew up poor. And ever since I started studying, I knew I had to be a valedictorian to get a scholarship. Because if I didn't, if I did not reach that level, my parents would have to pay for tuition. And we didn't have that money. So it was programmed in my head. I programmed it within myself that I have to be the number one all the time because if not I will not be able to afford things. So that's how all of this started. So, for example, right now, subconsciously, I'm thinking, if I stop working, I will not be able to afford this lifestyle. If I stop and rest, I will not be able to afford that dream that we have, like a house in the mountains. That's, you know, and I'm conscious, I'm aware, I'm aware of these thoughts. And this programming, that's why I don't let go of being a high achiever” “Live life in authenticity. I believe that when you're because it takes so much energy to be pretentious.” “It's the acceptance of who I really am. And I think that when it happens to you, so many more doors that are really meant for you will open - your path. The things that are meant for you will show themselves because you're more open to them. “ “When I read ‘start with why' it took me two years but I now have a formula and I use it to guide me, to inspire courage to create change.” “Because when you know your purpose, then you reserve your energy for the things that really matter to you.” RECOMMENDATIONS Strengthsfinder 2.0 by Tom Rath Start with Why: How great leaders inspire everyone to take action by Simon Sinek https://amzn.to/3fsRIyd ABOUT VALERIE Valerie Fischer is a Neuro Linguistic Programming practitioner. She has over 20 years of experience in advertising and marketing, and co-founded an e-commerce site for locally made products. She was a Chief Marketing Officer in a real estate company in 2019 but, along with millions of Filipinos last year, she was let go during the pandemic. And, as her story goes, this unfortunate incident actually led her to her purpose. She now helps new online business owners and entrepreneurs grow their revenue with Brain Science Selling. CONNECT WITH VALERIE Facebook: Instagram: Linkedin: YouTube: Website: ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week Emma invites you to join her Practical Stress and Pressure Strategies Training on August 17th CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Emma invites you to join her Practical Stress and Pressure Strategies Training on August 17th DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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015 1 in 20 Women Suffer From My Hormone Disorder PMDD With Becky Holmes
07/27/2021
015 1 in 20 Women Suffer From My Hormone Disorder PMDD With Becky Holmes
BECKY HOLMES Becky’s mission is to help small business owners gain the skills and confidence to rock being on and using video in their business. However, in this episode, Becky talks about her condition called Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), something 1/20 women suffer from, where every month she becomes quite ill. She talks about how even though she is a high achiever, she has learned to slow down and accept what she needs to do to support herself through her illness each month. She shares how her brain reacts differently to the fluctuation of hormones. It is sometimes mistaken as Bipolar disorder but the difference is that although Becky gets lowness/ apathy and a level of dysphoria and then suddenly feels she wakes up to the world. The lowness is for a period of 4 days, much shorter than bipolar, and is in conjunction with her cycles. She talks about how she has to rest and replenish herself each month so she can be the best version of herself. KEY LEARNS “My mind is very dark. Very dark, literally four days. And I'm a scientist and I find it crazy that my body will just turn off for four days and then as bright as a button four days later, it’s right back again.. “ “Accepting the things that having these timeframes of feelings of worth give me, they are a gift, because I'm a much more empathetic person. I'm much more understanding of what other people are going through means it has given me gifts as well. I would be a different person if I didn't have it. So it's accepting that as well. Instead of putting it like there's one Becky and that horrible bit about Becky. No, it is all me, and to embrace that” RECOMMENDATIONS Facebook group PMDD pod wales - it's not just for people in Wales Connect and co-work community - ABOUT BECKY Becky’s mission is to help women gain the skills and confidence to rock being on and using video, in their business. She is able to explain tech in a way you will immediately be able to grasp, find fun, and be itching to go out and post videos. She stands for it being possible to create engaging videos with ease and have fun doing it! Becky wants to show that videos don't have to be difficult, super professional, or expensive and in fact, are a powerful tool for connecting on another level. To attract, serve and grow your audience and free up your time. Her unique mix of presenter training and experience, mixed with her coaching and personal development background can get you exactly where you need to be without the stuffy jargon. She is able to explain tech in a way you will immediately be able to grasp, find fun, and be itching to go out and post videos. CONNECT WITH BECKY Becky Holmes on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook. ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week Emma invites you to join her Practical Stress and Pressure Strategies Training on August 17th CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence.
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014 Laughing For 10 Minutes A Day Is My Secret Weapon
07/20/2021
014 Laughing For 10 Minutes A Day Is My Secret Weapon
Pete Cann Pete Cann is on a mission to bring laughter to a million people. In this episode, he shares how he discovered laughter yoga and how he knew he wanted more of it in his life. He talks about two reboots in his life, one in 2017 where he had made a mistake in his business. A mistake that could have lost him everything, including his family home. At one point when he was considering his options and his way out of the situation he had thoughts to finish it all - He had never thought like that before. He highlights how his network of support, talking or writing about his challenges, and how affirming what he was doing through video diaries helped him hugely. Then how his successful Chef recruitment business took a battering with COVID and how they have weathered the storm, how laughing for 10 minutes a day is his secret weapon. KEY LEARNS “After doing four days of laughing every day, I felt amazing. I felt really energised, I felt really focused. I felt really creative. I just knew that I wanted to do more of this in my life.” “ I was laughing every day with a group of people for 10 minutes. And it was my secret weapon.” “Just be childlike, give yourself permission to be childlike” RECOMMENDATIONS The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod ABOUT PETE The Laughter Man, Pete Cann is on a fun filled mission to bring the positive benefits of laughter to the world. Since discovering Laughter Yoga, company owner Pete has transformed his business and family life and now wants to share his infectious secrets and get the planet laughing along with him. CONNECT WITH PETE [email protected] https://www.tiktok.com/@petecannthelaughterman ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week Emma invites you to join her 2 hr Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 27th plus 5 days implementation support. You can find more details at Emma invites you to join her Practical Stress and Pressure Strategies Training on August 17th CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Emma invites you to join her Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 27th plus 5 days implementation support. You can find more details at DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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013 My 2020 Our Stories Of Strength and Resilience With Jo Howarth
07/13/2021
013 My 2020 Our Stories Of Strength and Resilience With Jo Howarth
Jo Howarth and Myself Myself and Jo Howarth are both co-authors of the #1 Amazon bestselling book launched this week called My 2020. Sharing our stories of strength and resilience in the pandemic. You can find it here. Jo Howarth is an advanced hypnotherapist, mindfulness practitioner and she runs The Happiness Club. Jo’s mission is to spread happiness. As far and wide as humanly possible. Jo talks about her own reboot after losing her father at the age of 25, how therapy was a total revelation and set her on her path to the work she now does. She shares how when she was training as a hypnotherapist she discovered mindfulness and how it blew her mind. She then shares her ‘2020’ reboot - her chapter of the book, she recalls the struggles she faced when Coronavirus almost crushed her 90% face to face business, the help she got from where she never expected, rebuilding her business and the positive perspectives that came as a result of focusing on what was truly important . I also share about my chapter, how it is my journal entries which allow you as the reader to experience the year alongside me as Ijuggle home-life, family, parenting, home learning, business, financial worries, mental health and wellbeing and that I didn't realise that I'd written so much last year, and how much it had helped me. KEY LEARNS “But when my dad passed away, it really made me look at what I was doing, how I was living, what I wanted to do, how I wanted to live, and I realised that I was just drifting along, aimlessly. His death sent me to therapy, which up to that point, I thought was the biggest load of bunkum you could ever have. I just thought you just needed to pull your socks up and get on with whatever life threw at you and you know it was gonna throw stuff at you and tough bananas kind of thing. Get on with it. Bury whatever you need to bury, ignore the emotions and you know, carry on. Therapy completely transformed my life, showed me what was possible, showed me that it was possible to think good things about yourself. Not just rubbish things about yourself, not just rubbish things about the world either good things about the world was possible to. There was a total revelation to me and set me on the path to the work that I do.” “I discovered mindfulness, which sounded like the simplest thing that was ever created. I couldn't understand why everyone was so excited about it. Because for me, I was like, well, surely that's just what I do already. It's just about awareness. I studied it out of pure curiosity, because I couldn't understand why everyone was making such a big fuss about it. And it blew my mind. I genuinely felt like someone had found a second pair of eyelids and opened them. And I suddenly went, Oh, I get it now. Okay, this is what it's all about. This is what life is, this is how you can be. And this is how you can see things.” “ I have a catchphrase that I use, where I say to people, for me, awareness is the key to life, the universe, and everything. The more aware you are of all of those things, the more you are aware of your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, your behaviours, your responses, your reactions, the world around you, the people around you, your place in that world, the more aware you are of all of those things, the more in charge, you can be of all of those things, the more choices you give yourself, the more opportunities you open up for yourself, the more understanding you gain, the more growth you experience, just simply through that starting point of being more aware.” ‘We've given the word selfish, this huge negative connotation, but actually, if you look at it as a word, self ish, it just means of the self. In and of itself, it doesn't have a negative connotation, we've given it one, we've said that being selfish is wrong. But actually, it's absolutely right. And we should all be more self ish, we need to start with ourselves. When you put yourself first, when you look after your needs, your boundaries, your values, when you adhere to what you believe is important in life. And what you need as a human being to live, the life you want to live, then that spreads out from you to everybody around you. It gives you the energy and the headspace and the care and the love to take care of the other people around you. But when you start with the other people around you, what you do is drain your energy, drain your headspace drain your love, it has to start with you. That's absolutely where it needs to start.” “Meditation is an altered state of mind, where it's possible to achieve a deep state of relaxation, where you wait for something to happen. Hypnosis is an altered state of mind, where it's possible to achieve a deep state of relaxation, where you make something happen. And that's the difference for me”. RECOMMENDATIONS The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle Ask & it is given by Esther and Jerry Hicks. ABOUT JO Jo is an inspirational speaker, advanced hypnotherapist, mindfulness practitioner and bestselling author of four books. In 2017 she won 2 national awards for her work in The Happiness Club and in 2020 she was Runner Up for North West Entrepreneur of the Year, the only female finalist. The Happiness Club is a monthly membership club where members receive daily support from, and 24/7 access, to qualified therapists. Jo also works with corporate organisations that are committed to supporting their employees. And she works within schools to teach students techniques to develop their own resilience and she has a team of Happiness Club Trainers that deliver her training to corporates and schools across the world. CONNECT WITH JO Website: Email: [email protected] Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheHappinessClubLtd Facebook Group: ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week Emma invites you to join her Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 27th plus 5 days additional implementation support. You can find more details at CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Emma invites you to join her Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 12th plus 5 days additional implementation support. You can find more details at DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. 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012 Let's Play Bigger Ladies with Emma Clayton
07/06/2021
012 Let's Play Bigger Ladies with Emma Clayton
EMMA CLAYTON Emma is an expert marketeer, has worked in corporate and has grown her own Million Pound Marketing Agency. She is a feminist, has stood in politics, is all about girl power and helping women develop and grow their businesses. In this episode she talks about how she built her Million Pound Business and how last year she ended up working incredibly hard to keep all of the plates spinning, looking after her clients, the women that worked for her agency and her daughter, but she just carried on and carried on and then came to a point where she knew she had to re-evaluate her life. #leadership #femaleleadership #feminism #femaleentrepreneur #humanreboot KEY LEARNS “We rolled all the way back into the 1930s, where a lot of women had to put their businesses on hold and play a bit smaller or a lot smaller, in some cases, to be able to support their family and to get the kids through the homeschooling that we had to do last year.” “In 2019 in the Rose report, only 17% of businesses in the UK were female owned, thankfully, now, there has just been an update. And it's 34%. So we've doubled where we came from. There is a big gap. And it's not that women don't have the skills and the ability, but she found that, even when we do have a female owned business, we are still playing really small. And we'll only ever get to sort of two or three maximum people in that business. And generally, it's about 40%, the size of a man's business. And I read this report, and coming from this huge feminist ideal that I have in my head, I just thought this is bonkers.” RECOMMENDATIONS Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown ABOUT EMMA CLAYTON Emma Clayton believe’s everyone has a million pound idea. Emma supports female founders and entrepreneurs to ignite and accelerate theirs, creating high impact and high income as they build their business. Emma wants to see more women think and play big in their business and is on a mission to create a new playing field for women where they don’t have to abide by the patriarchal systems that currently lead business, and where they can get comfortable with wealth. As a CIM trained marketer Emma launched and managed multi-million pound brands and after 22 years left her big corporate job to create her marketing and communications agency Grey Bear. She is now working with female owned business to take their message out to the world. CONNECT WITH EMMA C: arketing.club Insta @millionpoundmarketer Facebook: TheMillionPoundMarketingClub ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week Emma invites you to join her Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 12th plus 5 days additional implementation support. You can find more details at CONNECT WITH EMMA LAST Emma invites you to join her Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 12th plus 5 days additional implementation support. You can find more details at DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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011 Wellbeing In Your Pocket With Emma Last
06/29/2021
011 Wellbeing In Your Pocket With Emma Last
In this Episode, Emma Last the host shares her key learns over the last 10 episodes, picks out some tips for #worldwellbeingweek and shares why you should have someone like Emma on hand and in your pocket. She gives one key learn from each episode, shares some tips on the NHS 5 ways or 5 steps to wellbeing to support you in world wellbeing week ( you can find a free downloadable resource at ). Emma shares a review on the first episodes of the podcast and talks about how healthy boundaries have been a constant theme across the episodes and invites you to join her Healthy Boundaries Masterclass - Stop Burnout and Start Bossing it in business on July 12th plus 5 days additional implementation support. You can find more details at #healthyboundaries #humanreboot #worldwellbeingweek ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week CONNECT WITH EMMA DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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010 Noticing and Responding To Our Feelings With Tim Carr
06/22/2021
010 Noticing and Responding To Our Feelings With Tim Carr
Tim Carr Tim shares how his life has been very different since his partner died of cancer about 11 years ago. It was at the point that he died that he realised that he had continued to work flat out. It was a stark realisation that he'd not really kept things in perspective. Tim talks about really understanding yourself, and knowing what your own habits are, and taking time to notice your feelings. He chats about when he had a bone disease as a child and couldn’t walk for a couple of years, how he felt different to the other kids and was bullied ‘called a Puff’ way before he realised he was gay. We cover so much in this podcast -how Tim now identifies as white cis-male and queer, feminine attributes, human connection and leadership, genuinely caring for employees, female leadership, self reflection versus self absorption, competence, behaviours, values, buddhism, our feelings and emotions and being in the moment. #leadership #feelings #lgbtqia+ #takenotice #female leadership #thebigshift KEY LEARNS “I think that my journey of life has been filled with all sorts of times when I have felt very vulnerable. But I don't think that makes me special. I think that makes me insightful’ “I'm very strongly of the opinion that all that's wrong with society is that women are derided consistently. So if I have these attributes that are associated with being feminine, then I stand up absolutely as a queer. And I will be counted amongst other queers because we need to change society” “The work that you're doing is really important, because we've had a global reboot, but what I'm noticing in businesses and organisations is that most people are desperate to get back to how things used to be. And if people in business, leaders and managers don't understand that being able to form a powerful human connection, to be able to form trust. If you don't get that, that's your priority, you're going to have a huge number of very disenfranchised and angry people who are no longer willing to put up with that status quo that they might have done before COVID. We're going to say no your behaviour, your attitude. Your politics and the culture that you've created Mr. And Mrs. Leader -This isn't what I want.” “I had to catch up with somebody that I worked with in 1992. We've remained friends for years. And we were both in agreement that the biggest tragedy of our society is that perimenopausal women with all of that IP, all of that knowledge, unplug from corporate organisations because they’ve had enough and they go and set up on their own, which is fantastic for them. And it's fantastic for their clients. But it's an absolute tragedy for the hundreds of 1000s of employees in organisations that are crying out for the types of cultures that senior female executives will create, because women create a very different type of culture in a business” “ no one can make another person feel anything. What you're feeling is yours alone. And it's a choice. So when we learn that, and we can start by using a tool like the emotions wheel, and we can go right, what's the feeling? Where do I feel it in my body? On a scale of one to 10? How, how powerful is that feeling? And if I'm feeling overwhelmed by that feeling, what could what one small thing could I do to reduce that feeling” RECOMMENDATIONS The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R.Covey Living like you mean it by Ronald j.Frederick The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman Self Compassion by Kristin Neff Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend If you like this episode listen to bullied to breathing for the first time at age 25 ABOUT TIM Tim lives in Leeds in the UK identifies as white, cis male and queer. Tim is a trained Hospital Manager and FM Professional and co-founder of multiple Social Enterprise initiatives. He became a coach and leadership consultant in 2015 and has spent the last 6 years devoting his time to condensing all he has learnt about psychology, neuroscience and managing people into meaningful tools that help others understand what might be getting in the way of their influence. His passion is translating what he has learnt from over 30 years of Buddhism and Business Leadership which he has used to up-skill some 2000 executives within EMEIA and the North Atlantic and Central Europe CONNECT WITH TIM: You can follow him on instagram @boss_like_a_buddha Twitter @CSRCarr LinkedIn - Tim Carr 07967662698 ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week CONNECT WITH EMMA DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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009 My Smear Test Saved My Life With Tania Taylor
06/15/2021
009 My Smear Test Saved My Life With Tania Taylor
This year Tania Taylor, a multi- award winning hypnotherapist, mum of two teenagers was looking forward to her Wedding to her wonderful Fiance. In January she went for her routine cervical screening test or as many of us know it as a smear test. She had always gone for her smear tests on time and didn’t think much about it, as she had never had any problems. She then got a letter through the post that told her that her smear result had indicated high grade severe dyskaryosis. In this episode she talks about her journey since January and how she was diagnosed with Cervical Cancer seven weeks ago. This episode may be difficult for some to listen to. She highlights the amazing support she has received from Jo's Cervical Cancer Trust and those around her. We dispel some of the myths about HPV and cervical cancer and how you can prepare for your cervical screening (smear test) so that you can feel as relaxed as possible. There is even a link below to a relaxation audio that Tania has prepared. At the time of recording Tania was still waiting to see if the results following her second operation had been successful, this episode was extremely hard emotionally for Tania, not that you will be able to tell, as she did amazingly well. She is on a mission to help save lives this week in #CervicalScreeningAwarenessWeek and she is trying to reduce smear fear anxiety using her knowledge and experience as a clinical Hypnotherapist. We are literally over the moon (well I was blubbing when I found out) that on June 11th Tania was told that her margins were clear of cancer and pre-cancerous cells. She is officially cancer free and able to say “My Smear test saved my life”. Please remember to go for your smear! #JosCervicalCancerTrust #CervicalScreeningAwarenessWeek #cervicalcancersurvivor #CervicalCancerAwarenessMonth KEY LEARNS “98.8% of cervical cancers can be prevented just by going for your cervical smear” “Of those diagnosed at an early stage, more than 96% of those people will go on to survive and live a normal healthy life. So, that really really shows that if you go for your cervical screening, even if you are like me and get diagnosed with cervical cancer, you will survive more than likely for the rest of your life” “99% of cervical cancers are caused by the HPV virus. And we were talking earlier about the before we started recording about the HPV vaccine that is now given to 12 and 13 year old girls across the UK and boys now too” “We had some training called resilience training. And one of the things they taught us that I wish everybody in the world knew about was your ability to have a switch off routine when you finish work. And I think particularly as a therapist, and a therapist who works from home, that has been really significant for me in leaving what happens in the clinic room in the clinic room and not taking it into the house with me. So for me, my switch off routine is really, really simple. I have three lamps in my clinic room, and a door that locks and I switch off each lamp in turn lock the door. And that's it. That's me done.” “A goal can never be too big. And you don't have to know how you're going to get there when you make it. But when you do make a goal, make sure that if you want to make that a goal that you are going to achieve that you break it down into small, achievable steps. You know, it doesn't have to be an overnight magic wand situation. breaking things down, thinking about, what could I do today, that would make me feel like I had made some progression. That's a really, really helpful way for me to move forwards. And my mantra is, ‘I can I will’”. RECOMMENDATIONS The Chimp Paradox by Professor Steve Peters Take my hair (but not my humour) by Emma Davies, . Jo’s Cervical Cancer Trust - ABOUT TANIA Tania is an international multi-award winning Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist and Mentor. She provides 1:1 support via video link worldwide, supporting people with anxiety and related conditions such as IBS, OCD, Depression and Insomnia. Alongside this role Tania is an international lecturer at three worldwide training schools for therapists and a #1 bestselling author of three books. Tania is on a mission to help save lives this #CervicalScreeningAwarenessWeek by reducing smear fear anxiety using her knowledge and experience as a clinical Hypnotherapist and media volunteer with #JosCervicalCancerTrust . CONNECT WITH TANIA: Free relaxation to help prepare for a smear test: Contact details [email protected] 07442169033 ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week CONNECT WITH EMMA If you like this episode you may like Broken by the pandemic and Injustice https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/human-reboot/id1567430905?i=1000521676987 DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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008 The Road Back To Brilliance With Jenny Gordon
06/08/2021
008 The Road Back To Brilliance With Jenny Gordon
JENNY GORDON Jenny went from feeling like she had it all - 3 teenage sons, a husband, a successful career in the NHS studying a PHD, a wide circle of friends, living in Scotland in a beautiful place to a life in tatters to a broken marriage and about to lose her home. So when the world as she knew it fell to pieces, what was she to do? jenny had to keep going for her children and for herself but it was hard. She started a new life down South and started to find her way back to brilliance. She remembers how personality profiling in particular Myers Briggs helped her on her way back to happiness and her steps towards finding her brilliance. She talks about how there are lots of different jewels and precious stones. They're different shapes. They're different sizes, they sparkle differently. pearls have a very different lustre to a diamond doesn't make them better or worse. It just makes them different. All bring a unique gift to the world. KEY LEARNS “I remember waking up one morning in my tiny, little Oxford flat, and I was experiencing this really unfamiliar feeling. And I kind of lay there a bit, and, you know, sat with it. And I realised that what I was feeling was actually happiness. And guess what, the next day, it happened again, and it came back on a regular basis. And that's when I realised that even the darkest, most horrible times are transient, we can get out the other side, even when it feels like somebody keeps moving the end of the tunnel. But I did get out of the tunnel and back into the daylight.” “I think quite often as a culture, particularly in the UK. We're not encouraged to blow our own trumpet. There's a lot of sayings, that certainly I grew up with things like all pride comes before a fall, and you know, getting too big for your boots, and all of those kinds of things that are designed to stop people from sparkling and saying, I'm really good at this. This is a talent that I have, and I want to share it and I want to make the most of it. It doesn't make me better than anybody else. But it certainly is a talent that I have, that maybe not everybody else has. “Brilliance needs polishing. So get your jewels out regularly. Don't keep those diamonds in a cupboard, waiting for best, waiting for a special occasion. Because although they sparkle in the dark, nobody gets to see them. So I practice getting my jewels out regularly, and letting people see the brilliance.” RECOMMENDATIONS Podcast - Unlocking us with Brene Brown The Infinite Game: How great Businesses Achieve Long -Lasting Success By Simon Sinek The 5 Levels of Leadership: Proven Steps to Maximize Your Potential By John C. Maxwell Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success by John C. Maxwell Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes ABOUT JENNY Jenny is the Founder & Brilliance Coach at Jenuine Consulting Ltd, who specialise in leadership, personality profiling & team effectiveness. I love being able to combine my passion for people, self-awareness and self- development with creativity to work with businesses who want to stimulate brilliance in their workforce by designing and delivering bespoke innovative solutions that have the power to transform. I use my considerable life experience, scientific background together with my doctoral expertise that brings a wealth of insight that I use in a variety of sectors including engineering, finance, healthcare, retail and education every day to stimulate my own and others thinking. I prefer to use collaborative approaches to translate vision into reality, helping people to rediscover, reconnect with and develop their potential and their influence by understanding themselves so that they can share their unique brilliance in all spheres of their lives. CONNECT WITH JENNY: Website: LinkedIn: Facebook: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenuineconsulting ABOUT THE HOST Emma Last is a qualified Mental Health and Wellbeing Trainer and Coach. She has co-written both the First Aid Industry body’s accredited First Aid for Mental Health and Wellbeing training for Adults in the workplace and those working with children. Emma also has over 20-years, experience in leading teams and developing strategies for change. She worked in Senior leadership for a large corporate until early 2018, when she came to a turning point in her career due to being on the brink of burnout and wanted to gain more of a balance in her life. She then rebooted her life and founded her company Progressive Minds. Emma also works with workplaces and schools on their Mental Health and Wellbeing strategies and provides training and coaching to support employees through challenging and changing times. Emma also works with individuals to help them to perform at their best by working on their mental fitness, which incorporates stress/burnout prevention and resilience and agility development through her Human Reboot Movement Coaching Programme. Her clients say they have become more mentally fit, happier and gain the results they want in their lives. Her Human Reboot podcast achieved number 22 in the Mental Health category in Mental Health Awareness week CONNECT WITH EMMA DISCLAIMER The views, thoughts and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to the host and guest speakers. Please conduct your own due diligence. *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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