Expanding Masculinity : From Adrenaline to Authenticity with Steve Borloz
Release Date: 08/15/2024
Moving from “What’s Wrong?” To “What’s Right?” with Dr Shawn Ginwright
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. Young peoples' transformational stories advocate for an expansion of the current Trauma-Informed approach to include the Healing-Centered focus on empowerment, agency & holistic well-being. In this paradigm shifting conversation, Shawn shares stories of young people who transformed their lives through community support and aspirational goals. Their experiences demonstrate how being recognized as agents in their own healing process, empowered young people to dream and envision futures beyond their trauma. To support this...
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Gift Episode with Sat Dharam Kaur
The Gifts of Trauma
Sat Dharam Kaur offers these simple practices you can use to help you connect with your body and create a space in which you can deepen your experience of your own bodily, nature and spiritual connection, through presence, truth, love and divinity. Subscribe so you don’t miss an episode or a gift, as over the next few months our guests have created some beautiful gifts for us to share with you! Our wish is that you may use these simple practices to deepen your integration of what was shared by Sat Dharam on The Gifts of Trauma Podcast.
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I’m All I Wanted to Be. Now What? With Sat Dharam Kaur
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation opens with Sat Dharam sharing her realization that her original life goals have been achieved, and asking herself, “What’s next?” She goes on to look forward and explore the possibilities. A therapist’s state is known to influence the client's experience and expand the potential for healing. That’s why Compassionate Inquiry® brings empathetic presence into therapeutic contexts. But if current psychological and spiritual understandings were expanded to include environmental consciousness and creative expression,...
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What Happens in Women’s Circles with Tanya Lynn
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted and Produced by J’aime Rothbard In this lively conversation, Tanya reveals why women gather in Circles and the personal growth that can happen when they do. She shares her long Circling history and what recently motivated her to train in Somatic Experiencing and integrate it into her Circle Work. Tanya also demystifies: - Sisterhood - The Mother Wound, Sister Wound and Witch Wounds - The Role of Circles - The Roles of Perimenopause and Menopause - The Wild Woman - The Council of Queens - The Grandmother Clan Join us to learn what happens in Woman’s Circles. You might...
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Longing to Belong with Cristina Bâra
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted and Produced by J’aime Rothbard The gentle conversation flows from Cristina’s personal journey to her professional role within the Compassionate Inquiry® organization to the approach’s impact on individual and group development. She highlights how Compassionate Inquiry® groups foster a sense of community and mutual support by inviting individuals to explore their emotions and experiences in the safe facilitated spaces that are essential for meaningful personal exploration. Cristina also explains: - Why the self-discovery and healing path often require us to experience our...
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Bonus Song: U.K. Blessed with Jacob Kishere AKA Culture Pilgrim
The Gifts of Trauma
In our most recent episode, host Kevin Young sat down with the multi-faceted and multi-talented Jacob Kishere in . If you missed it, you can find the conversation . If you've already listened, you'll be pleased to hear that we didn't let Jacob get away without offering a taste of this artform he fully produces and performs independently under his stage name, Culture Pilgrim. U.K. Blessed is a hiphop testament of Jacob's enduring pursuit of mining hope from within when the exterior world is perceivably void of it -- and coming up with glistening things born of weathering the pressures of such...
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Evoking the Resonant Man with Jacob Kishere
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This deep, esoteric and practical conversation addresses the lack of positive role models and meaningful traditions for men, today. Jacob introduces the "Resonant Man," an archetype that aims to evolve masculinity into a sacred form that addresses current societal contexts and the importance of male identity. After recognizing the need for a communal space that fosters growth and understanding in relation to masculinity, Jacob encourages men to connect with supportive communities, engage in dialogues, explore their emotional...
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Enhancing Bodywork & EFT (Tapping) with Compassionate Inquiry with Pam Sommer
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this intimate, flowing conversation, Pam unravels the interconnections of emotions and physical sensations, particularly pain, in therapeutic settings including Massage Therapy, RMT, Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT (tapping), and Compassionate Inquiry® CI. She shares the therapeutic effects on her anxiety and physical pain she experienced while training in EFT and CI, highlighting that while both issues are still present, she now has the tools to manage them. Pam also touches on: - Generational trauma and how earlier...
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Awakening from Shutdown, Numbness & Not-Enoughness with Irina Sadakova
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard In this revealing conversation, Irina shares her experience as a child growing up in Soviet Russia, the impact of generational trauma and her journey of personal transformation. She weaves in repeating ancestral themes, highlights the abandonment trauma that impacted three consecutive generations in her maternal line, and explains how grief can fuel growth and healing. In this interview Irina also emphasizes the significance of: - Compassionate Inquiry in the expansion of her understanding of trauma - Personal experiences in...
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Multicultural & Ancestral Healing Perspectives with Soraya Romao-Inglis
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This gentle conversation explores Soraya’s multifaceted approach to therapy which acknowledges personal, cultural, and systemic factors. She shares her personal trauma experiences as a BIPOC female immigrant in Canada, her ancestors' influence in her life and work, and the multicultural compassionate lens she uses to support her clients’ healing. Soraya also explains: Trauma’s roots and manifestations in human behavior - Emotional eating as a coping mechanism for unaddressed trauma. - How nervous system...
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Steve’s story demonstrates the transformative power of radical change as he shares how he risked all to shed false identities, confront his inner demons, and embrace his inner truth, strength and wisdom.
In his unwavering pursuit of his truth, Steve's epic journey took him from loneliness, disconnection, adrenaline and porn addictions, to authenticity, deep inner peace and connectedness. With raw vulnerability he shares the deep fear he felt when making radical life changes, leaping from a safe, successful lifestyle into uncharted territory, to recreate his life on his own terms.
He delves deep into the harsh realities of overwhelming emotional pain, social isolation, self-doubt and his intense longing for genuine connection, as well as the internal conflicts that arose when old patterns confronted his newfound authenticity.
Steve’s struggle with risk-taking behaviors and self-judgment will resonate with anyone who's ever felt at war with themselves. Amidst these challenges, Steve leaned into the transformative powers of self-compassion and acceptance, and the strength that came from embracing his vulnerabilities.
Join us to hear how Steve worked through his:
• Overwhelming emotional pain, which was both a source of struggle and a catalyst for change.
• Fear of not knowing who he would be, after making radical life changes; letting go of his previous identities, his successful career (risking his financial stability and self-sufficiency) moving to a new country and entering a completely different field of work.
• Social isolation, arising from his extreme sensitivity and the intensity of his emotions, for even as he was seeking community and connection, he often felt alone and disconnected.
• Risk-taking and adrenaline-seeking behaviors, as he recognized they were not aligned with his authentic self.
• Harsh self-judgment which led him to accept his vulnerabilities, and accept the challenge of practicing self-compassion, a practice that was integral to his journey, as it ultimately shaped his understanding of authenticity, intimacy and true connection.
For anyone feeling lost, disconnected, or trapped in a life that no longer serves them, Steve’s story will inspire you to:
• Question social expectations & ingrained beliefs • Face your fears & embrace change
• Seek genuine connections & live authentically • Cultivate self-compassion & inner peace
• Embrace your true self, even parts you've rejected • Build meaningful connections with others
• Examine addictions & destructive behaviors • Utilize curiosity as a personal growth tool
Steve’s powerful story will challenge you to examine your own life through a lens of fulfillment and authenticity. For anyone struggling to uncover their own truth, let his experiences inspire you to embrace self compassion and vulnerability, challenge your perceptions, and dare to live authentically.
About Steve Borloz:
Compassionate Inquiry® Training Facilitator, Circle Leader, Certified Practitioner
In 2012, Steve embarked on a profound journey of self-discovery in Cape Town, South Africa. His path, deeply influenced by Gabor Maté’s book, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, led him to a new understanding of compassion's role in healing.
As a Marketing Director, Steve experienced the pressures of corporate life, which ignited his commitment to self-regulation and compassionate care in the workplace. His journey through addiction, recovery and personal growth has further deepened his understanding of compassion's transformative power.
Being a passionate Kundalini Yoga Instructor became a significant role in Steve’s journey. He taught yoga with the Prison Freedom Project in South Africa. He also co-developed a mindfulness-based routine at an Addiction Treatment Centre in Cape Town, demonstrating his practical experience and expertise in mindfulness, addiction, and yoga.
Inspired by Gabor’s psychotherapeutic approach, Steve recognized the importance of Compassionate Inquiry® in overcoming various coping mechanisms and fostering long-lasting personal change.
Since 2019, Steve has been involved in the Compassionate Inquiry® community, progressing from a training participant to an intern supporting training Facilitators, to a mentee, and eventually certifying as a Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner. Since 2022, he has been a Compassionate Inquiry® professional training Facilitator and a Compassionate Inquiry® group therapy Circle Leader.
Steve’s journey is a testament to his dedication to personal and professional growth, He continues to explore his attachment patterns with alternative healing methods such as shamanism, energy healing, men’s groups, and plant medicine. His commitment to supporting others in recognizing their own gifts is unwavering, as he pursues a MA in Counseling Psychology at Webster University in Geneva.
Resources:
Compassionate Inquiry Profile
Professional Website
Relevant Links:
The Presence Process Portal
ManKind Project
Webster Counseling Center
Book:
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction