Healing Ruptured Connections to Self, Land and Culture with Sanjog Kaur
Release Date: 08/07/2025
Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles. We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can...
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Polyamory: Attachment, Trauma & Relational Growth Unpacked, with Jessica Fern, David Cooley & JP Bolhuis
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive ‘cheating’) and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David...
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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Trauma, Shame & Compulsive Sexuality, with Diana Safta & Silva Neves
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar...
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Healing Northern Ireland: From Personal Trauma to Societal Change, with Dr Paul Gallagher
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, Kevin introduces us to Dr Paul Gallagher, a lecturer in trauma studies at Cork University who started his formal education at age 40, after a significant "gap" in his life. Born in Belfast in 1972 at the height of "The Troubles," Paul recounts growing up in a war zone, where at 21, his home was invaded and his family held hostage. During this attack, he was shot and paralysed, and while physical and medical care were provided, psychological support was not. Paul highlights: - The crucial roles of...
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Psychedelics, Hakomi, and the Gift of Self-Discovery, with Tony Hoare
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Tony shares his personal journey, from growing up gay in the 60s, to experiencing sexual trauma and seeking healing in his 50s. He views safety, kindness, and gentleness as essential for healing, as they invite us to lower our shields and ‘just be.’ Having worked in the psychedelic world for 2 decades, Tony stresses that profound psychedelic experiences are only valuable if they lead to a greater sense of ease and conscious awareness with which we can navigate our challenging world. He also recounts: - The development of gentler, more...
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The Trauma of Infertility, with Leila Bahri-Lucas
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this gentle, heart-felt conversation, Leila guides us through the emotional landscape of infertility debunking common myths and misconceptions. She also shares her personal story, from 11 rounds of IVF to complete emotional collapse, which led her to agency, freedom, a new beginning and a baby. Leila also addresses: - How Infertility, as a trauma in its own right can unearth feelings of shame and worthlessness - Why trauma-informed support can ease the emotional toll of infertility medical interventions...
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Menopause: From Estrogen Washing to Social Silence, with Dr Aisling Quiery & Rati Roberta Riccardi
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, our guests forge a link between childhood trauma and the severity of menopausal symptoms. Aisling, a GP who is herself experiencing perimenopause, notes that the menopausal women who consult her often carry immense stress from being "sandwiched" between their peak career responsibilities and caring for children, grandchildren and aging parents. Together Aisling and Rati contrast: - "Estrogen Washing" a term Aisling coined to suggest that HRT often serves as a "wash" which may offer temporary relief but is...
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Menopause: From Multitasking Queen to Second Girlhood, with Dr Priya Duggal and Rosio Fuentes
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard Join us for this wide ranging conversation between a Menopausal Naturopathic doctor and a Therapist who lives with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome while mothering a neurodivergent family and experiencing Menopause. Together, Rosie and Priya address the many physiological, emotional and practical implications of Menopause "tipping points" for women’s health. They highlight that: - Living an inauthentic life (always "doing" for others) can create physical symptoms, likewise addiction patterns may emerge or intensify if unmet...
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Menopause Pruning: Clearing Space for Authenticity, with Inés Zabalaga & Kate Hazlitt, ND
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard This conversation moves from the medicalization of menopause to reclaiming it as a natural process; an important, transformative life stage marked by growth, development, and renewal, not an illness or pathology. Kate and Inés advocate for shifting from symptom management to trusting the body's innate capacity and involving the entire community in understanding this transition. Inés and Kate highlight:: - Brain Pruning which "chops away" old ways of thinking and being, making way for authenticity, new identity, and a...
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Unveiling Indian Cultural Trauma, with Mansi Poddar
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation exposes the impact of cultural trauma on Indian mental and emotional well-being and the conflicts these cultural pressures can cause. After outlining how therapeutic approaches can ease the pain, transform lives and begin to shift cultural norms, expectations and beliefs, Mansi asserts that having dreams, desires, and boundaries is an expression of one's wholeness, not a betrayal of others. Cultural dynamics explored include: - The expectation that women will sacrifice their personal happiness for family...
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Sanjog’s spiritual name means ‘connection.’ In this flowing, deeply connected conversation, Sanjog describes how ‘longing’ helped her heal her eating disorder. She also explains how heartfelt intentions (as opposed to external goals) helped her navigate obstacles in her addiction recovery. In addition to attuning to our innate ‘longings’ and ‘intentions’, Sanjog highlights the importance of trusting our own intuition, and accepting that we inherently know what we need.
Join us to hear Sanjog describe how:
- A trip to the US, unspoken grief, and early bullying led to her develop Bulimia, at age 13
- She overcame her reluctance to seek help through Kundalini Yoga, her relationship, community and her own longing to free herself from a coping strategy that served her well…but at great cost.
- Her professional focus shifted from anthropology to therapy
- Her emerging personal and professional aspirations might evolve her life and work
Sanjog also paints a beautiful picture of her upbringing in the Andes Mountains, the influences of her land’s unique geography, languages and cultures, and how, after initially dismissing what Ecuador offered, and wanting to leave, she has come to deeply appreciate its culture, land and diversity.
About Sanjog Kaur:
Somatic Therapist & Eating Psychology Coach
Born and raised in Ecuador’s Andes Mountains, Sanjog studied Anthropology at New York University and earned her Master’s Degree in Gender Studies at FLACSO-Ecuador.
She was introduced to the field of mental health in 2008, when she began her recovery process from an eating disorder she had lived with since childhood. A few years later, she trained as a Kundalini Yoga Teacher, an Eating Psychology Coach and various therapeutic models, including Gestalt Therapy, Art Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Brainspotting.
In 2012, Sanjog met Dr. Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur through the Beyond Addiction Program and began practicing compassionate self-inquiry. As a Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) Practitioner, Founding Facilitator, Mentor, and Circles Leader, Sanjog led the translation of the CI programs into Spanish and is currently the Director of the CI Spanish Programs.
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Resources:
Websites:
Sanjog’s Compassionate Inquiry Profile
Books:
The Five People You Meet in Heaven, by Mitch Albom
Quotes:
“Our hunger to belong is the longing to bridge the gulf that exists between isolation and intimacy.”
- John O'Donoghue
“Can you be fearless and compassionate?” - Sanjog Kaur
“I really want to be thin and have this type of body. I wouldn't describe that as a longing that came
from the connection with myself. I would say that’s someone else's voice telling me who I needed to
be in order to be accepted or to belong or to be safe in the world. But the longing would have been,
yes, I want to belong and I want to be safe in my body and I want to connect with people. And then,
I want to be accepted and loved and live with dignity. That's what I really wanted for myself in my
life. And the idea that thinness will bring you there was just a distraction.” - Sanjog Kaur
Training:
Compassionate Inquiry (English)
Compassionate Inquiry (Spanish)
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