Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles. We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can...
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Polyamory: Attachment, Trauma & Relational Growth Unpacked, with Jessica Fern, David Cooley & JP Bolhuis
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive ‘cheating’) and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David...
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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Trauma, Shame & Compulsive Sexuality, with Diana Safta & Silva Neves
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar...
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Healing Northern Ireland: From Personal Trauma to Societal Change, with Dr Paul Gallagher
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, Kevin introduces us to Dr Paul Gallagher, a lecturer in trauma studies at Cork University who started his formal education at age 40, after a significant "gap" in his life. Born in Belfast in 1972 at the height of "The Troubles," Paul recounts growing up in a war zone, where at 21, his home was invaded and his family held hostage. During this attack, he was shot and paralysed, and while physical and medical care were provided, psychological support was not. Paul highlights: - The crucial roles of...
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Psychedelics, Hakomi, and the Gift of Self-Discovery, with Tony Hoare
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Tony shares his personal journey, from growing up gay in the 60s, to experiencing sexual trauma and seeking healing in his 50s. He views safety, kindness, and gentleness as essential for healing, as they invite us to lower our shields and ‘just be.’ Having worked in the psychedelic world for 2 decades, Tony stresses that profound psychedelic experiences are only valuable if they lead to a greater sense of ease and conscious awareness with which we can navigate our challenging world. He also recounts: - The development of gentler, more...
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The Trauma of Infertility, with Leila Bahri-Lucas
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this gentle, heart-felt conversation, Leila guides us through the emotional landscape of infertility debunking common myths and misconceptions. She also shares her personal story, from 11 rounds of IVF to complete emotional collapse, which led her to agency, freedom, a new beginning and a baby. Leila also addresses: - How Infertility, as a trauma in its own right can unearth feelings of shame and worthlessness - Why trauma-informed support can ease the emotional toll of infertility medical interventions...
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Menopause: From Estrogen Washing to Social Silence, with Dr Aisling Quiery & Rati Roberta Riccardi
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, our guests forge a link between childhood trauma and the severity of menopausal symptoms. Aisling, a GP who is herself experiencing perimenopause, notes that the menopausal women who consult her often carry immense stress from being "sandwiched" between their peak career responsibilities and caring for children, grandchildren and aging parents. Together Aisling and Rati contrast: - "Estrogen Washing" a term Aisling coined to suggest that HRT often serves as a "wash" which may offer temporary relief but is...
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Menopause: From Multitasking Queen to Second Girlhood, with Dr Priya Duggal and Rosio Fuentes
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard Join us for this wide ranging conversation between a Menopausal Naturopathic doctor and a Therapist who lives with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome while mothering a neurodivergent family and experiencing Menopause. Together, Rosie and Priya address the many physiological, emotional and practical implications of Menopause "tipping points" for women’s health. They highlight that: - Living an inauthentic life (always "doing" for others) can create physical symptoms, likewise addiction patterns may emerge or intensify if unmet...
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Menopause Pruning: Clearing Space for Authenticity, with Inés Zabalaga & Kate Hazlitt, ND
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard This conversation moves from the medicalization of menopause to reclaiming it as a natural process; an important, transformative life stage marked by growth, development, and renewal, not an illness or pathology. Kate and Inés advocate for shifting from symptom management to trusting the body's innate capacity and involving the entire community in understanding this transition. Inés and Kate highlight:: - Brain Pruning which "chops away" old ways of thinking and being, making way for authenticity, new identity, and a...
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Unveiling Indian Cultural Trauma, with Mansi Poddar
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation exposes the impact of cultural trauma on Indian mental and emotional well-being and the conflicts these cultural pressures can cause. After outlining how therapeutic approaches can ease the pain, transform lives and begin to shift cultural norms, expectations and beliefs, Mansi asserts that having dreams, desires, and boundaries is an expression of one's wholeness, not a betrayal of others. Cultural dynamics explored include: - The expectation that women will sacrifice their personal happiness for family...
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Listen to hear a powerful and playful discourse that flows from racial anger to curiosity, skepticism, critical thinking, surrender and stroke recovery. Reggie speaks about how his unwavering self-care practices unleashed the transformative alchemy of inner peace. He also describes teaching peace and mindfulness practices to political activists and US Congress members, supporting their need for grounding in chaotic times.
He also invites us to:
- Express our grief and connect with our emotions rather than avoiding difficult feelings
- Consider suffering as a collective experience of shared understanding and support
- Embrace our vulnerability and surrender ego to open deeper connections and healing
- Replace our need for results with non-attachment to enhance our peace and presence
- Welcome life's dark moments as paths to deeper understanding and authenticity
Throughout this conversation, Reggie demonstrates his use of sound bowls and gongs to facilitate emotional release and healing.
About Reggie Hubbard, Founder and
Chief Serving Officer, Active Peace LLC
Despite his many accomplishments, Reggie is most proud of being a caring human. His lived experience includes being a stroke survivor, a teacher and wisdom steward, a strategist, organizer, spiritual advisor, minister of sound, philosopher and devoted seeker of truth, compassion, health, wellbeing and justice for all. Through Active Peace, he teaches people from all walks of life to cultivate wisdom and grow strong foundations of well-being through dedicated practices involving movement, meditation and sound.
Reggie's life work sits at the intersection of community building; bringing peace and balance to activists, guiding the wellness community toward greater engagement; and shifting the world toward justice for all.
Through meditation, wisdom talks, sound healing and spiritual guidance he helps people find the space and grace to navigate life with more perspective, ease and humor.
Reggie’s personal wellness journey was born of curiosity and forged in the adversity of toxic work. It begat lessons in surrendering to the miracles that exist and focusing on what he could control, with grit, grace and curiosity. His spiritual practice helps him bear witness to complicated emotions and life situations with ease and discernment.
A featured speaker and thought leader on healing, new consciousness, wellbeing, social justice, and civic engagement for leading publications, podcasts and platforms, Reggie considers himself a global citizen, but spends most of his time in the Maryland/Washington DC area. He holds a BA in Philosophy from Yale University, a MBA from the Vlerick Business School and has logged hundreds of hours in yoga and meditation training.
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Kripalu’s Permission and Refuge Healing Retreat for Men of Colour
John Lewis, Congressman and Civil Rights Icon
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Quotes:
“To be black and conscious in America is to be in a constant state of rage.” - James Baldwin
“I grew up in a land that saw me as a threat when all I wanted to do was be a blessing.”
- Reggie Hubbard
“Anger, if left unchecked, transitions from fuel source to destructor.” - Reggie Hubbard
“I found peace with racism by seeing how it benefited me.” - Reggie Hubbard
“...the wings of imagination cannot soar from the mind of burnout or the mind of exhaustion.”
- Reggie Hubbard
“I'm here for a reason. And it is not to trifle with the fickle imaginings of short sighted people.”
- Reggie Hubbard
“I specialize in teaching skeptics, having been one my damn self.” - Reggie Hubbard
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