Paul Noiles on, The Malevolent Nature of Emotional Abuse
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. How do smart, accomplished people end up in emotionally abusive relationships without realizing it? As both a trauma coach and former victim, Paul illuminates how emotional abuse operates through fear, manipulation, and control—and why it's so difficult to recognize and name. He also touches on common signs; chronic invalidation, gaslighting, control disguised as concern, walking on eggshells, confusion, toxic shame, and how our earliest attachments can create susceptibility. In this...
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Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist
The Gifts of Trauma
Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if traditional fluency-focused approaches designed to "fix" stuttering cause more harm than healing? In this conversation, speech therapists Mandy Rodstrom and Debbie Mason share personal and clinical insights that reveal how trauma, nervous system dysregulation and social stigma profoundly impact those who stammer. They highlight the critical importance of connecting people who stutter with supportive communities where stuttering is welcomed and...
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Cat McCarthy on Emergent Authenticity & Rewriting Scripts
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What happens when we stop performing and start being? Cat guides us through her transformational journey from codependent conditioning to embodied authenticity. With wisdom drawn from 30+ years of yoga practice, plant medicine journeys, and navigating her own healing from Breast Cancer, Cat reveals why the answers we seek aren't outside ourselves, but waiting to be uncovered within. Cat reflects on: - How shedding her protective layers enabled her to access her true strength - Her expanded her capacity to be present, hold space for others...
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Zach Bush, MD & Eva Dalak on Relating to Our Original Imprint: Nature & Collective Healing.
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard & Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if the path to inner and outer peace—and to the survival of our species—runs through our biology, not just our psychology? In this bonus finale to our Relating Series, Eva and Zach guide us beyond the familiar terrain of human-to-human relating to the new ground of relating to our original imprint. This conversation weaves hard science with systems thinking and spiritual wisdom to show that rather than transcending our humanity, healing our separation wound is about fully embracing our original...
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Unsafe! Navigating Domestic, Public and Systemic Violence, with Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This vulnerable conversation continues exploring relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, as Vimalasara and Jordan share insights rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. Jordan reflects on the inner work required to create safety for others—unpacking his own trauma so he can hold space for someone else's. Vimalasara addresses the harsh realities of domestic violence in LGBTQ+ communities, highlighting the barriers to seeking help—being subjected to transphobia, homophobia, or violence in...
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Gender & Identity, From Unconscious to Conscious with Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This thought provoking conversation explores relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, but not only presented to that community. Instead it is a vulnerable and honest sharing in which Vimalarara and Jordan offer insights and perspectives rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. In this inclusive episode they touch on the: - Use of pronouns can create a sense of safety and inclusion - Perspective of gender as a social construct rather than a personal identity - Historical impact of religious and...
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Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles. We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can...
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Polyamory: Attachment, Trauma & Relational Growth Unpacked, with Jessica Fern, David Cooley & JP Bolhuis
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive ‘cheating’) and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David...
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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Trauma, Shame & Compulsive Sexuality, with Diana Safta & Silva Neves
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar...
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Healing Northern Ireland: From Personal Trauma to Societal Change, with Dr Paul Gallagher
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, Kevin introduces us to Dr Paul Gallagher, a lecturer in trauma studies at Cork University who started his formal education at age 40, after a significant "gap" in his life. Born in Belfast in 1972 at the height of "The Troubles," Paul recounts growing up in a war zone, where at 21, his home was invaded and his family held hostage. During this attack, he was shot and paralysed, and while physical and medical care were provided, psychological support was not. Paul highlights: - The crucial roles of...
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Listen to hear a powerful and playful discourse that flows from racial anger to curiosity, skepticism, critical thinking, surrender and stroke recovery. Reggie speaks about how his unwavering self-care practices unleashed the transformative alchemy of inner peace. He also describes teaching peace and mindfulness practices to political activists and US Congress members, supporting their need for grounding in chaotic times.
He also invites us to:
- Express our grief and connect with our emotions rather than avoiding difficult feelings
- Consider suffering as a collective experience of shared understanding and support
- Embrace our vulnerability and surrender ego to open deeper connections and healing
- Replace our need for results with non-attachment to enhance our peace and presence
- Welcome life's dark moments as paths to deeper understanding and authenticity
Throughout this conversation, Reggie demonstrates his use of sound bowls and gongs to facilitate emotional release and healing.
About Reggie Hubbard, Founder and
Chief Serving Officer, Active Peace LLC
Despite his many accomplishments, Reggie is most proud of being a caring human. His lived experience includes being a stroke survivor, a teacher and wisdom steward, a strategist, organizer, spiritual advisor, minister of sound, philosopher and devoted seeker of truth, compassion, health, wellbeing and justice for all. Through Active Peace, he teaches people from all walks of life to cultivate wisdom and grow strong foundations of well-being through dedicated practices involving movement, meditation and sound.
Reggie's life work sits at the intersection of community building; bringing peace and balance to activists, guiding the wellness community toward greater engagement; and shifting the world toward justice for all.
Through meditation, wisdom talks, sound healing and spiritual guidance he helps people find the space and grace to navigate life with more perspective, ease and humor.
Reggie’s personal wellness journey was born of curiosity and forged in the adversity of toxic work. It begat lessons in surrendering to the miracles that exist and focusing on what he could control, with grit, grace and curiosity. His spiritual practice helps him bear witness to complicated emotions and life situations with ease and discernment.
A featured speaker and thought leader on healing, new consciousness, wellbeing, social justice, and civic engagement for leading publications, podcasts and platforms, Reggie considers himself a global citizen, but spends most of his time in the Maryland/Washington DC area. He holds a BA in Philosophy from Yale University, a MBA from the Vlerick Business School and has logged hundreds of hours in yoga and meditation training.
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Related Links:
Kripalu’s Permission and Refuge Healing Retreat for Men of Colour
John Lewis, Congressman and Civil Rights Icon
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TedX São Paulo: The Power of a Purposeful Pause
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Quotes:
“To be black and conscious in America is to be in a constant state of rage.” - James Baldwin
“I grew up in a land that saw me as a threat when all I wanted to do was be a blessing.”
- Reggie Hubbard
“Anger, if left unchecked, transitions from fuel source to destructor.” - Reggie Hubbard
“I found peace with racism by seeing how it benefited me.” - Reggie Hubbard
“...the wings of imagination cannot soar from the mind of burnout or the mind of exhaustion.”
- Reggie Hubbard
“I'm here for a reason. And it is not to trifle with the fickle imaginings of short sighted people.”
- Reggie Hubbard
“I specialize in teaching skeptics, having been one my damn self.” - Reggie Hubbard
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