Sat Dharam Kaur, ND, on 'Bridging the Gap'
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard, Kevin Young and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if the chaos we're witnessing is humanity's collective trauma playing out on a global scale? Sat Dharam Kaur invites us to "mind the gap"—the space between our tumultuous present and unknown future—by mindfully pausing our reactivity and leaning into collective wisdom. Our guest and hosts reflect on: - How powerful peoples’ unhealed childhood wounds have and are impacting entire populations and ecosystems - The potential for men to heal their trauma, with healed ‘wise’...
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Paul Noiles on, The Malevolent Nature of Emotional Abuse
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. How do smart, accomplished people end up in emotionally abusive relationships without realizing it? As both a trauma coach and former victim, Paul illuminates how emotional abuse operates through fear, manipulation, and control—and why it's so difficult to recognize and name. He also touches on common signs; chronic invalidation, gaslighting, control disguised as concern, walking on eggshells, confusion, toxic shame, and how our earliest attachments can create susceptibility. In this...
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Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist
The Gifts of Trauma
Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if traditional fluency-focused approaches designed to "fix" stuttering cause more harm than healing? In this conversation, speech therapists Mandy Rodstrom and Debbie Mason share personal and clinical insights that reveal how trauma, nervous system dysregulation and social stigma profoundly impact those who stammer. They highlight the critical importance of connecting people who stutter with supportive communities where stuttering is welcomed and...
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Cat McCarthy on Emergent Authenticity & Rewriting Scripts
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What happens when we stop performing and start being? Cat guides us through her transformational journey from codependent conditioning to embodied authenticity. With wisdom drawn from 30+ years of yoga practice, plant medicine journeys, and navigating her own healing from Breast Cancer, Cat reveals why the answers we seek aren't outside ourselves, but waiting to be uncovered within. Cat reflects on: - How shedding her protective layers enabled her to access her true strength - Her expanded her capacity to be present, hold space for others...
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Zach Bush, MD & Eva Dalak on Relating to Our Original Imprint: Nature & Collective Healing.
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard & Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if the path to inner and outer peace—and to the survival of our species—runs through our biology, not just our psychology? In this bonus finale to our Relating Series, Eva and Zach guide us beyond the familiar terrain of human-to-human relating to the new ground of relating to our original imprint. This conversation weaves hard science with systems thinking and spiritual wisdom to show that rather than transcending our humanity, healing our separation wound is about fully embracing our original...
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Unsafe! Navigating Domestic, Public and Systemic Violence, with Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This vulnerable conversation continues exploring relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, as Vimalasara and Jordan share insights rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. Jordan reflects on the inner work required to create safety for others—unpacking his own trauma so he can hold space for someone else's. Vimalasara addresses the harsh realities of domestic violence in LGBTQ+ communities, highlighting the barriers to seeking help—being subjected to transphobia, homophobia, or violence in...
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Gender & Identity, From Unconscious to Conscious with Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This thought provoking conversation explores relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, but not only presented to that community. Instead it is a vulnerable and honest sharing in which Vimalarara and Jordan offer insights and perspectives rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. In this inclusive episode they touch on the: - Use of pronouns can create a sense of safety and inclusion - Perspective of gender as a social construct rather than a personal identity - Historical impact of religious and...
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Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles. We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can...
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Polyamory: Attachment, Trauma & Relational Growth Unpacked, with Jessica Fern, David Cooley & JP Bolhuis
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive ‘cheating’) and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David...
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Rethinking Sex Addiction: Trauma, Shame & Compulsive Sexuality, with Diana Safta & Silva Neves
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by J’aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar...
info_outlineHosted by J’aime Rothbard, Kevin Young and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard.
What if the chaos we're witnessing is humanity's collective trauma playing out on a global scale? Sat Dharam Kaur invites us to "mind the gap"—the space between our tumultuous present and unknown future—by mindfully pausing our reactivity and leaning into collective wisdom.
Our guest and hosts reflect on:
- How powerful peoples’ unhealed childhood wounds have and are impacting entire populations and ecosystems
- The potential for men to heal their trauma, with healed ‘wise’ feminine support
- How providing healing support from preconception through early childhood could end ‘inherited’ trauma
- Shifting towards a "culture of care" inspired by communities in nature
Sat Dharam concludes by inviting us toL “Step up. Go inside and feel…discern… What's my role, my passion, my destiny? What can I do? How can I be of service? it's [already] in our hearts. Then follow the thread, let it unfold. We're all unfolding together, it’s this synergy between us that's creating this profound shift."
About Sat Dharam Kaur, ND
Compassionate Inquiry® Co-Director, Training Facilitator, Circle Leader, Certified Practitioner
A practicing naturopathic doctor (since 1989) with a focus on women’s health, cancer and mind-body approaches to healing, since 2012, Sat Dharam has been studying, hosting, working and teaching with Dr. Gabor Maté. She structured his work in a teachable format; the Compassionate Inquiry® Professional Online Training, and since 2019, she has incorporated it into her naturopathic practice.
Sat Dharam holds a BA (Psychology & English Literature) and a BSc (Biology). She completed her postgraduate studies at the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine where she also taught stress management and women’s health for 10 years.
The author of multiple *books on women’s health, Sat Dharam also presents at global events, including Oxford 2025, Europe's largest trauma, mental health and wellbeing conference.
An expert instructor in Kundalini Yoga, which she has practiced and taught for over 45 years, Sat Dharam has developed yoga-based curricula in addiction recovery, trauma, and breast health; specialties in which she offers training to teachers around the world.
Sat Dharam and her husband live in an off-grid home on 105 acres of beautiful land where she nurtures fruit trees and a large garden. She enjoys hiking, cycling, and communing with plants. She has three adult children and two grandchildren.
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*The Complete Natural Medicine Guide to Women’s Health
*A Call to Women: The Healthy Breast Program & Workbook
*A Naturopathic Guide to Preventing Breast Cancer
*The Complete Natural Medicine Guide to Breast Cancer
Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst
Podcasts:
Sat Dharam, Your Addiction Reveals Your Hidden Pain
Zach Bush, MD & Eva Dalak, Relating to Our Original Imprint
Quotes:
“An infant who's held well enough is quite a different thing from one who has not been held well enough…in the early stages of emotional development, before the senses have been organized…very severe anxieties are experienced…The order of infant distress at this stage being of the same order as that which lies behind panic…a defence against the agony that makes people commit suicide rather than remember. You see two infants, one is being held …not just physically held but emotionally.... And there is nothing to prevent the rapid emotional growth according to inborn tendencies. The other has not had the experience of being held well and growth has had to be distorted and delayed, and some degree of primitive agony has to be carried into life and living."
- DW Winnicott
“...this idea of allomothering, for the parenting not to be solely by one person, [as] what happens if that one person has a crisis…becomes ill or… is exhausted. And to recognize that in our human history as well as in the history of other species, like elephants and whales and cows, there can be an interdependency of mothering.” - Sat Dharam Kaur
“...look at the [prevalent] models of the divine masculine. They're the abandoned elephant models. …We're talking about creating a culture of nurturance whether it's through the father's older brothers or uncles that have wisdom, or whether it's through the matriarchal side and the mothers.”
- Sat Dharam Kaur
“You are what your deep driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As is your will, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny. - The Upanishads
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