Episode 119: Mental Beauty Segments

As we continue to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 119 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on Abuse and Red Flags, finding courage, dealing with Narcissism. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 61 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 61, titled “Relationship Toxicity, Red Flags, Abuse and the Impact of not Even Knowing it”, with guest, Dr. Shelley Morgan. Her journey is a powerful example of what it means to reclaim oneself after enduring emotional, verbal, and financial abuse. Her story sheds light on the insidious nature of toxic relationships and the transformational power of self-rediscovery. Dr. Shelley’s open sharing serves as a reminder that abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of intelligence, success, or background. It's a call to recognize the red flags, break free from the cycles of manipulation, and embrace the healing process of finding oneself again. She reflects on how her mental health impacted her physical appearance, it reminds us of the intricate connection between our inner and outer selves. As she says, when you're happy on the inside, it can't help but show on the outside. Good mental health radiates beauty. This idea aligns beautifully with the concept of Mental Beauty—the consistency between what we feel internally and what we project externally. When we prioritize our mental well-being, it reflects in every aspect of our lives, from our relationships to our self-expression. Dr. Shelley's headline, "Woman Finds Herself Again," encapsulates the heart of her journey. It's about rediscovering the vibrant, active person she once was, before nearly losing herself in a toxic relationship. It's a story of resilience, of coming back to life after facing mental and emotional death.

3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 119:

1. Cultivate a Daily Self-Connection Ritual

Abuse often disconnects you from your own feelings, needs, and desires. Re-establishing this connection is crucial:

• Set aside 10–15 minutes daily for a grounding practice such as journaling, mindfulness, or deep breathing.
• This ritual reminds you that your emotions and needs matter and creates a space where your voice is heard—by you.

2. Create a Financial and Emotional Safety Plan

Abusers often use financial and emotional control to keep you trapped. Reclaiming even small amounts of independence can help you stay anchored to your sense of self:

• Open a private bank account and begin saving discreetly, even in small amounts. Build a support network of trusted friends, family, or a therapist to validate your feelings and remind you of your worth.
• These small steps toward independence reinforces your ability to make choices and gives you a foundation for reclaiming control over your life.

3. Reaffirm Your Identity Outside the Relationship

Abuse can make you lose sight of who you are outside of the relationship. Reconnecting with your values and interests strengthens your sense of self.

• Make a list of things you once loved doing or were passionate about before the relationship. Choose one activity to reintroduce into your life, like reading, taking a class, or reconnecting with old friends.
• Exploring your personal interests reminds you that your identity is multifaceted and not defined by the abuse or the relationship.

Episode 119 Takeaway:

A self-care technique called ‘The Love Letter to Self’:

• Grab a Notepad or Phone:
  Set a timer for 5 minutes to keep it short and intentional.
• Write as if to Someone You Deeply Love:
  Imagine you’re writing to someone you care about unconditionally—except this time, it’s you. Use loving, kind, and affirming language. For example:
• “Dear Self, I just want you to know how proud I am of you.”
• “You are enough exactly as you are, even on hard days.”
•  “No matter what happens, I’m here for you. I’ll always be on your side.”
• Reflect on One Strength or Victory:
  End the letter by naming something you admire about yourself or a small win, like:
•  “I’m amazed at how resilient you are, even when things feel tough.”
•   “Thank you for being so kind to others and for showing up for yourself today.”
• Close With an Affirmation:
  Wrap up with a loving affirmation:
• “I love you, no matter what.”
• “You are my safe place, and I’ll always have your back.”

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