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Delight Your Marriage

Release Date: 07/05/2024

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Delight Your Marriage

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In honor of Darcy's anniversary this week, I wanted to re-release this episode! I’m excited to share that my wonderful friend Darcy is here to share her story and advice for you!

She is actually our wonderful Office Manager, and she reads all of your emails and prays for all of those who are suffering and in such difficulty in their marriages. She often weeps for you, listeners, and she truly, truly cares about you and feels your pain for those of you who are in need of hope.

Her conversation today reflects what God has done in her and what she prays He does in you. The rest of this message are from Darcy:

Thank you, Belah, for giving me this opportunity.

 

God is doing and has done so many amazing things and what an honor to testify of His power, love, and goodness!

*“Because your steadfast love is better than life, my lips will praise you. So I will bless you as long as I live; in your name, I will lift up my hands.” Ps. 63:3-4

 

I pray that God speaks to and encourages many weary hearts through this podcast.

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” Prov. 13:12

 

This is my prayer for you:

Father, thank You for the one listening to this podcast. Thank You that You know them…intimately! You know how many hairs are on their head. You know their hurts, desires, and joys.

You desire good for them and desire them to know and experience You and Your love in ways that will reveal to them the abundant life that You have offered to any who will come to You in faith in Jesus and walk in the power of the Spirit of God.

Father, you see the tears. You see the brokenness. Even more incredibly, You care about them and have the power to do something good with them.

God, You know that we so often want to run from hurt and pain! Teach us to trust You…to take You at Your word…

 

I encourage you to read this scripture as though you’ve never read it before:

*”For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.

Likewise, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Rom. 8:18-28

 

Thank You, Father, that You NEVER lie! Thank You that we can cling to You and Your promises through every storm, every hurt, every disappointment, and everything that we face on this planet! People may fail us, but You NEVER do! 

You use the trials and pain to teach us greater things. You may seem far off at times, yet You are more interested in the details of our lives than we could ever imagine! Teach us to relinquish everything we hold onto to You, trusting that You will never disappoint…we wait on You.

…in Jesus’ name, I ask this, amen.

 

So, dear listener, remember:

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Ps. 34:18

* ”Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Ps. 37:4 

 

And let me ask you:

How long was Joseph a slave and a prisoner?

How long did David wait for the throne or Abraham and Sarah wait for a son?

How long were the Jews in captivity?

Hebrews 11 tells us that some died not yet having received the promise, yet they looked forward in faith and believed what God said.

God asked Abraham to sacrifice the fulfillment of His promise – Isaac. Abraham was willing. He even got up early the next morning to do so. Likely not because he felt like it or wanted to, but because he believed God.

 

Husband…wife…are you willing to believe God? Are you willing to sacrifice what you hold dear and trust God to deliver on His promises regardless of how bad things look and regardless of how long it takes?

 

Faith fleshes out in obedience. Because Abraham believed God, he acted like he believed God.

What does that look like for you in your situation today?

 

He is worthy! He is faithful! You and I can bank on it!

 

Grateful for His presence and His great and precious promises,

Darcy

Office Manager

*(All verses are in the ESV Bible version – emphasis mine)

 

PS If you would like to grow in your walk with God in many various ways, and particularly how that relates to your marriage, we invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with our very caring Clarity Call advisor – click here to schedule

 

A testimonial from a course graduate:

“I was very, very nervous to try this program out. My wife still doesn’t know about my involvement and I was very nervous about doing this without her knowledge.

But it has really exceeded any expectations I had about what might happen in my marriage.

I do believe I will talk with my wife about MR, in the right time, and I think it will go just fine. But if that is the reason you are hesitating, I can tell you…it really can work!”