484-Love Jesus More Than Your Pain: Jennifer's Story

Sometimes, God answers your prayers in a way you don’t expect. That’s how Jennifer’s journey began.

She and her husband had been married for 30 years, with three beautiful daughters. On the outside, everything seemed steady—but inside, Jennifer was silently struggling.

Depression, anxiety, deep wounds from trauma, and the weight of parenting adult children had left her feeling exhausted and emotionally distant from her husband. She was in a dark place.

But God.

Her husband was the first to find Delight Your Marriage. Quietly, he joined our men's program. At first, he didn’t even tell Jennifer. She just started to notice something changing. A peace in him. A gentleness. A stronger connection to God.

Moved by what she saw, Jennifer said yes to his invitation to explore the women’s program. What followed was a spiritual discipleship journey that would not only transform her marriage—it would transform her heart.

How Christian Marriage Coaching Transformed Her Heart

One line within the program touched Jennifer’s heart: “I needed to love Jesus more than my pain.”

It wasn’t even directed at her during the call, but something about it resonated so deeply with her. She realized that in her grief and disconnection, she had allowed pain to take a front seat in her heart.

But Jesus wanted her whole heart.

She confronted lies she had believed about herself, her marriage, and her role as a mother and wife—and let God’s truth replace them. She allowed God to break the chains of shame and fear, and instead chose freedom and forgiveness.

Emotional and Physical Intimacy in Marriage Restored

One of the most beautiful outcomes of Jennifer’s story is the transformation in her intimacy with her husband!

“It wasn’t about frequency,” she said. “It was about connection. And now we’re truly connecting—emotionally, spiritually, physically. We’re more vulnerable, more united, and more in love.”

That emotional and spiritual shift opened a door to true intimacy—something both of them had longed for but never fully accessed.

And it all started when she began to let God love her—and let herself believe it.

How Christian Marriage Help Can Impact Parenting

Jennifer is a mother to three adult daughters. And though parenting adults has its own challenges, her healing began to spill over into her family life.

With newfound clarity on how women are designed by God to be loved—safe, known, and whole-heartedly cherished—Jennifer began to understand how to mother her adult daughters in a way that honors their hearts. She started recognizing what they needed emotionally, just like she had discovered in herself.

Even though parenting adult children can be complicated and painful, she now walks in hope—not shame. God is restoring what was broken.

Handling Conflict in Marriage Without Spiraling

Jennifer and her husband also found a new way to approach emotional triggers. They call it “spiraling.”

This emotional awareness and God-centered communication brought a new peace to their marriage. They don’t fight the way they used to. Now, they support each other through those low moments and move forward with unity.

A Message to the Wife Who Feels Hopeless in Her Marriage

When I asked Jennifer what she’d say to a woman in the same spot she once was, her answer was so honest and full of faith:

“There’s hope in Jesus. Be brave. Even if your husband is the problem, you can still change your heart—and it can change your marriage.”

She continued:

“This program has figured out how to help you out of crisis. Even if you’re emotionally shut down, even if you feel like things can’t get better—they absolutely can. God is in the business of healing, and He uses this process to restore hearts and homes.”

The Power of a Women’s Christian Coaching Community

Jennifer also found healing through the community of women she met through the program.

“It was such a gift to talk about things we never could talk about with friends—especially around sex and intimacy. The support, the prayer, the connection... it’s unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. Women need this.”

She felt seen, supported, and strengthened by walking this journey with other women in a safe, faith-filled environment.

Christian Marriage Healing: A Beautiful New Chapter

Today, Jennifer says her marriage is more joyful, more tender, and more united than ever before. They’ve always been best friends—but now they’re more emotionally connected, spiritually aligned, and fully present for one another.

“There’s nothing I can’t share with him now,” she said. “God gave us a beautiful marriage—but now we’re living it with freedom, honesty, and deep love.”

Final Thoughts

We are so thankful for work that God did in this marriage and the way it not only impacted Jennifer and her spouse, but their children and future generations. He truly is a God of redemption. 

With love,

The DYM Team

PS - If you're ready to take the next step and join a community of like-minded people wanting to build their marriages God's way, we would love to hear from you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc

PPS - Here is a quote from (another) recent graduate:

"I was on the verge of separating from my husband. Things had taken such a turn for the worse between us that life was not sustainable for me as things were going. My husband joined the program and I noticed some changes in him. Things started improving but we had a lot of healing to do; I had a lot of healing to do...We've been to several counselors before this point and my husband wasn't interested in finding another one. He had asked me to join the Delighted Wife program before but things were too broken and I was not willing to do a program that I thought was only about getting me to have more sex with him...But, after seeing him change some and knowing we needed help, I agreed to the program. While sex was a part of Delighted Wife, there were so many other areas for me to focus on first. It laid the foundation for a better and healthier relationship overall. The intimacy part follows."