531-Do We Call What is Holy "Sin" (and What is Sin "Holy")
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Do We Call What is Holy "Sin" (and What is Sin "Holy") When I was first a believer, I had a very strong view of what was right and what was wrong. I had a sense that anything I was uncomfortable with was definitely wrong. After a lot of of life…and sadly time away from Jesus…and God healing and redeeming my journey, I’ve come to realize that there are things I am uncomfortable with, but are not necessarily sin. And there are things I am comfortable with that aren't sin necessarily. -- Quote from a recent graduate: The program is great! I love the focus on self-growth, personal...
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530-Zero Intimacy for Almost a Decade, Husband & Wife Share Their Miracle
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Zero Intimacy for Almost a Decade, Husband & Wife Share Their Miracle Ten years of no physical intimacy. That is where husband & wife, Jim & Willa, found themselves. For 38 years of marriage, Willa described her husband as a "my way or the highway" kind of guy. And up until recently, Jim felt so frustrated and angry in his marriage that he wanted to leave. They were sleeping in separate bedrooms, had busy lives, he left before she woke up just to avoid her most days. Jim shared they literally hadn’t touched in years. -- Quote from a recent graduate: "Week by week in this...
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529-Driven? But Fulfilled? Interview with Brad Rhoads
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You might be one who can work all day and feel great. And maybe you struggle to take a vacation. Maybe if you're really honest with yourself, you think productivity is next to godliness. If you're like Brad and I -- that's us nodding our heads. We're just wired that way. That's not the end of the story... But Brad had a mentor that wouldn't let go of him until he could see that drivenness is ruining his life. Not the fact that he is driven (Brad didn't give that up), but the fact that he felt he wasn't enough unless he achieved X, Y, and Z. Brad's marriage...
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528-Good Friday: The way you treat your spouse reveals what you really believe
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Today marks the day that God stooped so low to live a perfect life and die a gruesome sinner's death -- to save you. And save me. Why? Not because we were perfect. Not because we could earn His love. Who could earn that? But because He decided we were worth it. We aren't deserving of His sacrifice because we're so great -- it's because HE'S so great. He's so good, kind, and gracious that He decided we were priceless to come and rescue. And if you are priceless -- a prized treasure Jesus came to save... Is your spouse? If the answer is yes... Are you...
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527-If Your Wife Puts the Kids First, This Is the Leadership Problem You Need to Fix
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Become the man your wife respects and desires again—before prices increase -------------------------------------------- I'm speaking to a man who wants to fix things. He is not a whiner, complainer, or blamer. He's interested in taking responsibility and making things better. But if he's really honest with himself, sometimes he feels that his wife prioritizes the kids above him. If you're in that category, I'd like to speak to you directly. You're right, it's not ok. This isn't a good dynamic. And if she's a Jesus-follower, it's also not biblical. Ok. ...
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526-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On) [Re-Release]
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526-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On) [Re-Release] I think all the wives will want their husbands to listen to this one. Because I have the good fortune of working with men every (work) day and hearing their unfiltered thoughts about intimacy… I can help you understand why your wife often rejects you. One of the major truths is that it’s SCARY to initiate sex with your wife. So, you probably do… But in general, it’s a half-invested way, in hopes that her rejection won’t feel so painful. Because from experience it has been rejected, even your...
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525-Simple Ways to Have Intimacy More Often
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[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] As silly as it may seem, something as sacred and biblical as marital intimacy comes right down to the practical of "hey, it's just too quiet in the house for intimacy". So, how do you solve for the biggest reasons a couple doesn't connect in this God-honoring way? Well, that's what today's conversation is all about. In this episode, we do a lot less philosophy and theology and get into the specific tools that can help you no matter how busy your life is right now. Even if other things...
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524-A Pastor Didn’t Expect Marriage Help to Come This Way
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[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] Sometimes I have been asked if I, as a woman, should be teaching men. When it comes up, I really appreciate that question because it shows a level of maturity and commitment to scripture. The truth is, I never intended to be coaching or training men. That, in fact, is something I was against, at first. I intended to just follow Titus 2 by inviting women to learn to love their husbands well. As I wrote the book and started the podcast and coaching women with this end in mind, men started reaching out to me. It was...
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523-My Pain > Victim > Rebel > Repentance Journey
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[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] I have grown in my journey of processing pain. But I still slip up. Today, I want to share with you a recent insight I've received on what I still need God's help to work through. I hope we can walk together, looking at our Savior, first and foremost to discover His purposes for our suffering. Your suffering matters. It matters to God. It matters in His will. There is comfort in knowing He has a purpose for it. I'd love to share what God is teaching me through His word and what I hope will be...
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522-A Marriage Transformation 5 Years in the Making: Dan's Story
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A Marriage Transformation 5 Years in the Making: Dan’s Story There are transformations that happen fast—like a spark, a breakthrough, a moment where everything shifts.And then there are transformations that happen patiently, steadily, layer by layer… over years. Dan’s story is that second kind. Because five years ago, Dan wasn’t walking around thinking his marriage was “bad.” He actually wrote on his intake form that their marriage was probably a six or seven—a good marriage. A steady marriage. A marriage with history and shared life and inside jokes. But there was one ache...
info_outlineThere’s a profound truth that can often be overlooked: love, in its truest form, is sustainably sacrificial. This means loving your spouse in a way that endures, even when it's challenging.
If you're a spouse who is tempted towards apathy—losing hope and withdrawing—it can feel like a deep, unending chasm. This apathy might stem from various sources: exhaustion from the relentless demands of daily life, pride that blocks genuine connection, unforgiveness that creates barriers, or perhaps a combination of all these factors. Whatever the reason, it’s crucial to recognize these signs before they evolve into a dangerous pattern that jeopardizes your relationship.
There may be times when your spouse’s attempts to reach out (or lack thereof) seem ineffective or even hurtful. I encourage you to see beyond the surface and engage with the deeper purpose of marriage -- to make God proud of you.
Remember, you’re not loving your spouse for a specific result; you’re doing it because you love God. That love for God will sustain you when you’re not seeing the fruit of your efforts. He CAN fill us with all joy and peace, irrespective of our circumstances or the immediate outcomes of our actions.
Even amidst the temptation to lose hope and become apathetic. Don't. Instead, look to the Lord. Rejoice in Him, and trust that God is a God of hope. Your perseverance is not in vain, even when it feels like you’re giving more than your fair share in loving and meeting your partner’s needs.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you are wanting to fight apathy, fight for your marriage, or just even get some clarity for your marriage... we would love to talk with you. Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.
PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
“My biggest celebrations have been: Forgiveness- I had no idea how much resentment I had towards my wife. There is no doubt in my mind that she felt that… I learned to not only forgive her, but look at some of those things as a strength for her… Replacing bad habits with good daily habits of first thanking God for my blessings. praying for my wife, shouting my faith statement and focusing on making my marriage the best it can be. I learned that it is all up to me. I know God is with me every step of the way, but I have to be the leader of my life and my marriage.”