227 Attachment Injuries, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Self-Care
Release Date: 01/23/2024
241 Attachment Wounds: When You Can't Work it out in the Moment
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Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries. ...
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240 Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC...
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239 Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined
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Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined Summary Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways The wound of feeling like...
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238 Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
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Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ...
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237 Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth. ...
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236 Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives
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Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss. CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways Staying...
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235 Red & Green Flags in Relationships
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Red & Green Flags in Relationships Patricia discusses red flags and ideal qualities in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of honoring rhythms and self-care, as well as effective communication and conflict resolution. Patricia also addresses gaslighting, setting boundaries, and the significance of trust, honesty, and similar values in a relationship. She explores the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. The episode concludes with a reminder to embrace sensitivity and prioritize self-care. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ...
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234 Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding
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Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment. ...
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233 Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real
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Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real I talk about the challenges and complexities of friendships for neurodivergent folks, and the changing nature of friendships, the importance of reciprocity and communication. I discuss navigating difficult conversations, recognizing and addressing needs, and setting boundaries. I talk about the tendency to feel central in someone's life, and the challenges of accepting neurodivergence in relationships. I explore the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and honoring one's own needs in relationships. HIGHLIGHTS ...
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232 The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help
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The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help Patricia and Jen discuss their health updates and the challenges they have faced. They also delve into the pressure to be productive and the fear of not functioning. The conversation shifts to vulnerability and insecurity in relationships, as well as the process of learning to receive and ask for help. They reflect on the growth and healing that comes from navigating attachment wounds. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of not always having to do deep work in therapy. CO-HOST ...
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Jen and I discuss attachment wounds and using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework. We talk about the difference of speaking for our parts vs. speaking from our parts. We talk about overperformance, the pressure to show up and masking, and the importance of feeling seen and heard in relationships. We talk about unpacking an autism diagnosis and reviewing life through the lens of autism. We also emphasize embracing imperfection and practicing self-care and self-compassion.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current states and challenges, including the impact of attachment injuries and autism. They explore the importance of reframing and unpacking an autism diagnoses. They also discuss the significance of embracing imperfection and practicing self-compassion. The conversation delves into the difference between speaking for parts and speaking from parts, as well as the challenges of feeling seen and heard in relationships. They also touch on the role of technology in communication and the connection between self-worth and expressing love. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the pressure to show up and overperform, particularly in relation to masking and societal expectations. They explore the idea of letting go of perfection in expressing self-worth and the impact it has on relationships. They also delve into managing expectations and self-pressure, recognizing that others often have different expectations than we do for ourselves. Finally, they touch on the importance of embracing different parts of ourselves and being in relationship with them.
Takeaways
The pressure to show up and overperform can be overwhelming, especially for individuals who feel the need to mask their true selves.
Letting go of the idea of perfection in expressing self-worth can lead to greater ease and authenticity in relationships.
Managing expectations and self-pressure is crucial for maintaining mental well-being, as others often have different expectations than we do for ourselves.
Embracing different parts of ourselves and being in relationship with them allows for a more integrated and balanced sense of self.
Summary
· Navigating life with autism and managing attachment injuries.
· The impact of autism on daily routines and family dynamics.
· Understanding the challenges of having food, routines, and independence,
· Embracing imperfection and letting go of perfectionism,
· Recognizing the need for gentleness and self-compassion, especially with the inner critic.
· Exploring the concept of "autistic burnout" and its impact on daily life and mental health.
· Reflecting on the journey of self-discovery and acceptance after receiving an autism diagnosis.
· Embracing the process of reframing past experiences through the lens of autism.
· Navigating the complexities of showing love and care.
· Understanding the diverse ways individuals express love and support within the neurodivergent community.
· Addressing the challenges of communication and maintaining connections
· Exploring the impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on memory, attention, and maintaining social patterns.
· Recognizing the importance of open communication and managing expectations in relationships.
· Embracing vulnerability and acknowledging the impact of attachment wounds in personal interactions.
· Insights into the journey of self-discovery, self-care, and personal growth as a neurodivergent person
Chapters (will need to be adjusted with the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Current State
01:07 Exploring Attachment Injuries and Autism
04:04 Accepting the Autism Diagnosis
09:26 Leaning into Challenges and Reframing
12:26 Navigating Self-Criticism and Self-Judgment
15:19 Embracing Imperfection and Self-Compassion
19:01 Speaking for Parts vs. Speaking from Parts
23:28 Being Fully Present in Life
28:02 Feeling Seen and Heard in Relationships
30:03 Navigating Technology and Communication
34:26 Self-Worth and Expressing Love
36:15 Hustling for Self-Worth and Activation
37:02 The Pressure to Show Up and Overperform
38:06 Letting Go of Perfection in Expressing Self-Worth
39:11 Managing Expectations and Self-Pressure
39:27 Embracing Different Parts of Ourselves
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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