231 Autism Identification Should Come with a Warning Label (Including Autistic Burnout)
Release Date: 02/20/2024
241 Attachment Wounds: When You Can't Work it out in the Moment
Unapologetically Sensitive
Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries. ...
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240 Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC...
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239 Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined
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Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined Summary Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways The wound of feeling like...
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238 Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
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Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ...
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237 Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth. ...
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236 Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives
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Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss. CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways Staying...
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235 Red & Green Flags in Relationships
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Red & Green Flags in Relationships Patricia discusses red flags and ideal qualities in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of honoring rhythms and self-care, as well as effective communication and conflict resolution. Patricia also addresses gaslighting, setting boundaries, and the significance of trust, honesty, and similar values in a relationship. She explores the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. The episode concludes with a reminder to embrace sensitivity and prioritize self-care. HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ...
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234 Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding
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Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment. ...
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233 Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real
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Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real I talk about the challenges and complexities of friendships for neurodivergent folks, and the changing nature of friendships, the importance of reciprocity and communication. I discuss navigating difficult conversations, recognizing and addressing needs, and setting boundaries. I talk about the tendency to feel central in someone's life, and the challenges of accepting neurodivergence in relationships. I explore the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and honoring one's own needs in relationships. HIGHLIGHTS ...
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232 The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help
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The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help Patricia and Jen discuss their health updates and the challenges they have faced. They also delve into the pressure to be productive and the fear of not functioning. The conversation shifts to vulnerability and insecurity in relationships, as well as the process of learning to receive and ask for help. They reflect on the growth and healing that comes from navigating attachment wounds. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of not always having to do deep work in therapy. CO-HOST ...
info_outlineAutism Identification Should Come with a Warning Label (Including Autistic Burnout)
There are things that happen to most autistic people once they identify as autistic, and there should be a warning label! If you’re late diagnosed, and high masking, there’s a good chance you are, or will be in autistic burnout. There’s also skill regression, and not being able to push through anymore. This can be confusing and distressing. I bring you up to date on my health journey, and where I’m at with autistic burnout, and I provide a few resources.
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Summary
In this episode, Patricia provides a personal update on her health and discusses the challenges of identifying as autistic. She shares her experiences with navigating the healthcare system and dealing with health issues such as vestibular neuritis. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and trauma, as well as the need for positive male archetypes in her life. She discusses the lack of reciprocity in relationships and the importance of self-compassion and rest. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to embrace all parts of themselves and share the podcast with others.
Autistic Burnout
- Autistic burnout is a phenomenon experienced by many individuals, characterized by extreme exhaustion, mental fatigue, and sensory overload.
- It often results from prolonged periods of masking, camouflaging, and trying to fit into neurotypical expectations, leading to a depletion of cognitive and emotional resources.
- Autistic burnout can manifest as difficulty in functioning, heightened sensory sensitivities, emotional meltdowns, and a sense of overwhelm.
- Recognizing the signs of autistic burnout is crucial for individuals to prioritize self-care, seek support, and make necessary adjustments to prevent further exhaustion.
- Strategies to manage autistic burnout may include setting boundaries, practicing sensory regulation techniques, engaging in self-soothing activities, and seeking therapy or counseling.
- Creating a supportive environment that accommodates sensory needs, communication preferences, and individual differences can help prevent and alleviate autistic burnout.
- Educating employers, educators, and healthcare providers about autistic burnout can lead to more inclusive and accommodating environments for autistic individuals.
- Understanding one's neurodivergent traits can help individuals recognize their limits, advocate for their needs, and navigate challenges related to autistic burnout.
- Building a support network of understanding friends, family members, therapists, and fellow neurodivergent individuals can provide emotional support and validation during periods of autistic burnout.
Benefits of having an autism diagnosis (either self-diagnosis or formal diagnosis) for myself
- Self-identification and diagnosis in the autistic community are helpful in understanding one's unique neurodivergent traits and needs.
- It helps individuals access appropriate support, accommodations, and resources tailored to their specific differences and strengths.
- Self-identification empowers individuals to embrace their identity and connect with a supportive community of like-minded individuals.
- Diagnosis provides validation and a sense of relief for many individuals who have long struggled with feeling different or misunderstood.
- Understanding one's autism can lead to better self-awareness and self-acceptance, promoting mental well-being and confidence.
- It allows individuals to advocate for themselves in various settings, such as education, employment, and healthcare, ensuring their needs are met.
- Diagnosis can help individuals navigate social interactions, sensory sensitivities, and other aspects of daily life more effectively.
- Early diagnosis in children can lead to early intervention and support, improving long-term outcomes and quality of life.
- It helps dispel misconceptions and stigma surrounding autism, promoting acceptance and inclusion in society.
- Self-identification and diagnosis contribute to a more accurate representation of the diverse autistic community, highlighting the spectrum of experiences and challenges individuals may face.
Takeaways
Identifying as autistic can come with challenges and a range of emotions, including anger, grief, and frustration.
Navigating the healthcare system can be difficult, especially when seeking a diagnosis or specialized care.
Autistic burnout is a real phenomenon that can lead to skill regression and a decreased ability to function.
Self-compassion and rest are essential for managing autistic burnout and maintaining overall well-being.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Update
01:15 The Challenges of Identifying as Autistic
02:08 Struggling with Health Issues
03:32 Navigating the Healthcare System
04:36 The Impact of Vestibular Neuritis
05:59 Autistic Burnout and Trauma
07:15 Grief and Anger in the Autism Journey
08:31 Childhood Experiences and Identity
09:50 The Need for Male Archetypes
11:19 Seeking Support and Advocacy
12:42 The Lack of Reciprocity in Relationships
13:54 Navigating Small World and Limited Energy
15:14 Accepting Where You Are
16:33 The Impact of Autism Diagnosis
17:54 The Complexity of Autism Presentation
19:46 The Validity of Self-Diagnosis
20:21 The Illusion of Neurotypical Functioning
21:31 Embracing Autism as a Disability
22:35 Understanding Autistic Burnout
23:46 The Impact of Medical Appointments
25:17 The Harsh Inner Critic and Self-Compassion
26:12 Fear of Not Functioning
27:05 The Lack of Recognition for Autistic Experiences
28:11 Observing Reciprocity in Relationships
29:07 The Importance of Rest and Self-Care
30:00 The Impact of Autistic Burnout on Work
31:06 Embracing All Parts of Yourself
32:20 Conclusion and Call to Share the Podcast
Additional Takeaways
Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations.
Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others.
Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks.
Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals.
Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members.
Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations.
Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits.
Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs.
Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships
04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships
07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care
10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion
11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs
16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation
20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression
22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment
25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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