LTN 17 - Levels Of Dependence
Love Thy Neighbor Show
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show intro Colette Jane Fair as therapist co-host Colette Jane Fair book promotion and name spelling Easier book access at thecostofquiet.com Jokes about bad spelling and confidence Florida cold weather shock and routines Comedy song about being too cold Comparing Florida cold snaps to northern winters Liking New York but not winter weather Extreme Florida temp swings vs gradual cold Relationship awareness from doing the show Relationship content as emotional homework Keeping relationships top of mind Social media pushing relationship...
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LTN 16 - The Power of Self Talk
Love Thy Neighbor Show
* Love Thy Neighbor intro with Colette Fair and sold out book party in Maitland * Middle names used on air * Dan originally named Dan Lee before radio * Name came from college musician friend * Dan hated Dan Lee and changed it * Joke about Daniel Day Lewis * Colette knowing little about the hosts * Bear suit embarrassment story * Sudden shift from jokes to tragedy * Local therapist murder suicide case * Therapist client boundary risks * Story appearing in social feeds * Avoiding news for mental health * Garbage in garbage out media rule * Balance between news and sanity * After hours therapy...
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LTN 15 - Handling Aging
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor and Colette Fair as recurring relationship expert • Casual emotional check-in with Colette and jokes about free advice and “private” episodes • Shift to self-esteem, confidence, and how aging impacts desirability • Aging anxiety framed as more intense for women and tied to social pressure • Fear of no longer being attractive to a partner despite reassurance • Difference between venting emotions and partners trying to “fix” feelings • Logical acceptance of aging versus emotional resistance • Dermatologist visit and Botox history...
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LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair • Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch • Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz • Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book • Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering • Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue • Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships • Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time • Phones and constant distraction...
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LTN 13 - 20Thousand Dollar Day
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Love Thy Neighbor introduced as a relationship show focused on growth • Financial stress framed with humor about offering creative services • New year positioned as a moment for relationship reflection, not reinvention • Focus on small, attainable changes over drastic relationship overhauls • Comparison between extreme diet resolutions and unrealistic relationship goals • Small, consistent actions compounding over time • All-or-nothing resolutions setting people up for failure • Behavior change compared to habit-building and voting • New year not magically changing real...
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LTN 12 - You Can Stay Home
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Debate over repeating the show title and old-school radio presentation • Traditional radio habits versus modern podcast structure • Adjusting how hosts and guests are introduced on-air • Colette’s media tour to Atlanta, Washington D.C., and Phoenix/Scottsdale • Delayed release of holiday-related media segments • Balancing work travel with mother–daughter time • Family relocation from New York to California and reduced closeness • Ease of travel between Florida and New York influencing migration • Jokes about people “invading” Florida • Media stereotypes about...
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LTN 11 - Communicate
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Holiday stress, polarized feelings, and relationship strain • Simplifying expectations and focusing on connection • Intentional family time and low-effort activities like games and puzzles • Screen overstimulation making simple activities feel boring • Relearning enjoyment away from devices • Emotional lift after spending real time with family • Effort required to engage in shared activities • Easy entry games and “adult parallel play” options like pottery, climbing, walking • Bonding without constant conversation; Florida weather enabling outdoor time • Casual family...
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LTN 10 - The Gray-Divorce
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Low-effort vs. high-effort Thanksgiving experiences • Colette’s relaxed holiday without her kids • Daniel’s stressful Thanksgiving towing multiple vehicles • Different family traditions and conflicting holiday desires • Two opposing feelings about an experience both being valid • Giants’ struggles, game mishaps, and kicker issues • Annoyance at Kansas City’s continued success and Cowboys rivalry • Social media comparison culture affecting relationships • Pressure from idealized online portrayals vs. real life • Comparison in the past (holiday cards) vs. constant...
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LTN 9 - The Bird Theory
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Audience enjoying the relationship show • Reminder to leave reviews on Apple Podcasts and Spotify • More relationship content appearing in social media feeds • Noting that consuming relationship content can boost awareness • Contrast between relationship-focused and random algorithm feeds • Brief joke about Hezbollah/Hezzy and Mike Tyson’s age confusion • Introduction of the online “Bird Theory” test • Example of a staged bird video illustrating the concept • Gottman’s “bids for connection” explained • Turning toward bids linked to long-term satisfaction •...
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LTN 8 - Cutoffs
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Live launch of “A Corporate Time with Tom and Dan” on Twitch and YouTube • Promotion of free Bad at Business Beerfest (Nov 22) and Sofas and Suds couch races (Nov 23) in Sanford • Both events are free, family-friendly, and include unlimited beer samples for 21+ • “Weird Job Wednesday” debuts with guest Amy Kaufeldt from Fox 35 • Amy shares her childhood dream of spaceflight and how the Challenger disaster changed her goals • Found passion for writing, studied journalism at Miami University of Ohio • Early unpaid radio work at NPR station WMUB; enjoyed radio’s relaxed...
info_outline• “Love Thy Neighbor” with Dan, Tom, and therapist Colette
• Colette’s California media tour for her book
• Colette appears on the controversial “Whatever” podcast
• “Whatever” framed as alpha/anti-woke male genre
• Critique of toxic masculinity and “men under attack” tropes
• Other shows mock/analyze these alpha podcasts
• Past “Whatever” guests include Charlie Kirk, Candace Owens
• Secretive taping: last-minute address, security, metal detector
• Overloaded studio: 9–16 mics; strict mic rules enforced
• Tom’s old-school gripe: too many open mics
• OnlyFans model spotlighted; show leans on visual appeal
• Colette cast as the feminist voice on the panel
• Her therapist stance: note rare valid points, reject nonsense
• Rage-baiting for clicks; deliberate provocation
• Dan learned rage-bait radio with Ed Till; ethical doubts
• Colette dragged for going on four dates in one day
• Chivalry debate: who pays and for how long
• Defense of casual “coffee dates” amid app fatigue
• Host claims chivalry burdens men while demanding submission
• Child-support and dating-expectations attacks on Colette
• Narrative: young white men victimized and owed obedience
• Popularity driven by true fans, not just hate-listeners
• Red-pill framing; younger male pushback culture
• “80% of women want 20% of men” stat challenged
• “666” trope (six figures/feet/inches) reactions
• Men’s anger tied to rejection vs personal responsibility
• Politics baked in; red/blue pill props on set
• Show prints money; Colette still gets online backlash
• Preference for real help over grievance-weaponizing
• Why the audience is large: loneliness and resentment
• Claims denying wage gap/minimizing violence deemed absurd
• Panel self-ratings; no “7” rule; some rate very low
• Colette self-rates: 9 for her age; 6 vs 20-year-olds
• ’90s shock-jock comparisons without the wit
• Colette vs Alex Stein’s “confidence = sex bait” jab
• Rebuttal: confidence from life experience, not sex hunting
• Call-out of sexism tying older women’s value to desirability
• Hosts profit from outrage and controversy
• Howard Stern contrast: provocative yet self-aware/comedic
• Red-pill appeal to disillusioned young men explained
• Empathy for average men squeezed by online ideals
• Men judged to be tall/rich/successful; women also objectified
• Apps amplify superficiality, comparison, and loneliness
• Both genders warped by algorithmic expectations
• Real attraction grows via shared humor and real-world contact
• Screen time erodes social skills and confidence
• Many alpha hosts read as insecure/inexperienced
• Brian Atlas cited as projecting frustration
• Submissiveness/obedience rejected as outdated
• If chivalry demands submission, decline it
• Strong women valued; confident men welcome equals
• Hosts’ wives as assertive, capable partners
• Balance independence with care-taking; avoid dependency
• Strong partners still want to feel cared for
• Healthy dynamic = mutual giving and receiving
• Is oppression of women ongoing? Colette: yes; others: no
• Sex work: agency vs oppression debated
• “Men must protect women” expectation questioned under equality
• Traditional roles still shape modern instincts
• Beliefs formed by societal conditioning and generation
• Manners vs obligation: kindness without transaction
• Some men now demand trades for gestures—criticized
• Example: fake “submissive ex” video to sway viewers
• Jealousy fueling resentment toward non-submissive partners
• Submission vs genuine care distinguished
• Acts should come from love, not hierarchy
• Mutual care ≠ loss of voice; submission does
• Colette jokes her husband might prefer more “traditional”
• 1950s domestic role bit (slippers, whiskey, pipe)
• Do men secretly want traditional again? Depends
• Global and personal preferences vary widely
• Respect for independent, confident women who lead
• Relationships should rest on choice and mutual respect
• Nostalgia for the 1950s called unrealistic, media-made
• Real mid-century marriages weren’t TV fantasies
• Grandfather’s orphanage/WWII story: hardship breeds empathy
• Past resilience vs today’s victim mindsets in men’s movements
• Relief that Colette’s appearance ended safely
• Plug: The Cost of Quiet — preorder info
• Contact: ColetteJaneFair.com; anonymous questions welcome
• Like/subscribe; plan to tackle listener emails next episode
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