LTN 17 - Levels Of Dependence
Love Thy Neighbor Show
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show intro Colette Jane Fair as therapist co-host Colette Jane Fair book promotion and name spelling Easier book access at thecostofquiet.com Jokes about bad spelling and confidence Florida cold weather shock and routines Comedy song about being too cold Comparing Florida cold snaps to northern winters Liking New York but not winter weather Extreme Florida temp swings vs gradual cold Relationship awareness from doing the show Relationship content as emotional homework Keeping relationships top of mind Social media pushing relationship...
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LTN 16 - The Power of Self Talk
Love Thy Neighbor Show
* Love Thy Neighbor intro with Colette Fair and sold out book party in Maitland * Middle names used on air * Dan originally named Dan Lee before radio * Name came from college musician friend * Dan hated Dan Lee and changed it * Joke about Daniel Day Lewis * Colette knowing little about the hosts * Bear suit embarrassment story * Sudden shift from jokes to tragedy * Local therapist murder suicide case * Therapist client boundary risks * Story appearing in social feeds * Avoiding news for mental health * Garbage in garbage out media rule * Balance between news and sanity * After hours therapy...
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LTN 15 - Handling Aging
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor and Colette Fair as recurring relationship expert • Casual emotional check-in with Colette and jokes about free advice and “private” episodes • Shift to self-esteem, confidence, and how aging impacts desirability • Aging anxiety framed as more intense for women and tied to social pressure • Fear of no longer being attractive to a partner despite reassurance • Difference between venting emotions and partners trying to “fix” feelings • Logical acceptance of aging versus emotional resistance • Dermatologist visit and Botox history...
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LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair • Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch • Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz • Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book • Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering • Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue • Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships • Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time • Phones and constant distraction...
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LTN 13 - 20Thousand Dollar Day
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Love Thy Neighbor introduced as a relationship show focused on growth • Financial stress framed with humor about offering creative services • New year positioned as a moment for relationship reflection, not reinvention • Focus on small, attainable changes over drastic relationship overhauls • Comparison between extreme diet resolutions and unrealistic relationship goals • Small, consistent actions compounding over time • All-or-nothing resolutions setting people up for failure • Behavior change compared to habit-building and voting • New year not magically changing real...
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LTN 12 - You Can Stay Home
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Debate over repeating the show title and old-school radio presentation • Traditional radio habits versus modern podcast structure • Adjusting how hosts and guests are introduced on-air • Colette’s media tour to Atlanta, Washington D.C., and Phoenix/Scottsdale • Delayed release of holiday-related media segments • Balancing work travel with mother–daughter time • Family relocation from New York to California and reduced closeness • Ease of travel between Florida and New York influencing migration • Jokes about people “invading” Florida • Media stereotypes about...
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LTN 11 - Communicate
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Holiday stress, polarized feelings, and relationship strain • Simplifying expectations and focusing on connection • Intentional family time and low-effort activities like games and puzzles • Screen overstimulation making simple activities feel boring • Relearning enjoyment away from devices • Emotional lift after spending real time with family • Effort required to engage in shared activities • Easy entry games and “adult parallel play” options like pottery, climbing, walking • Bonding without constant conversation; Florida weather enabling outdoor time • Casual family...
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LTN 10 - The Gray-Divorce
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Low-effort vs. high-effort Thanksgiving experiences • Colette’s relaxed holiday without her kids • Daniel’s stressful Thanksgiving towing multiple vehicles • Different family traditions and conflicting holiday desires • Two opposing feelings about an experience both being valid • Giants’ struggles, game mishaps, and kicker issues • Annoyance at Kansas City’s continued success and Cowboys rivalry • Social media comparison culture affecting relationships • Pressure from idealized online portrayals vs. real life • Comparison in the past (holiday cards) vs. constant...
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LTN 9 - The Bird Theory
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Audience enjoying the relationship show • Reminder to leave reviews on Apple Podcasts and Spotify • More relationship content appearing in social media feeds • Noting that consuming relationship content can boost awareness • Contrast between relationship-focused and random algorithm feeds • Brief joke about Hezbollah/Hezzy and Mike Tyson’s age confusion • Introduction of the online “Bird Theory” test • Example of a staged bird video illustrating the concept • Gottman’s “bids for connection” explained • Turning toward bids linked to long-term satisfaction •...
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LTN 8 - Cutoffs
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Live launch of “A Corporate Time with Tom and Dan” on Twitch and YouTube • Promotion of free Bad at Business Beerfest (Nov 22) and Sofas and Suds couch races (Nov 23) in Sanford • Both events are free, family-friendly, and include unlimited beer samples for 21+ • “Weird Job Wednesday” debuts with guest Amy Kaufeldt from Fox 35 • Amy shares her childhood dream of spaceflight and how the Challenger disaster changed her goals • Found passion for writing, studied journalism at Miami University of Ohio • Early unpaid radio work at NPR station WMUB; enjoyed radio’s relaxed...
info_outline• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor and Colette Fair as recurring relationship expert
• Casual emotional check-in with Colette and jokes about free advice and “private” episodes
• Shift to self-esteem, confidence, and how aging impacts desirability
• Aging anxiety framed as more intense for women and tied to social pressure
• Fear of no longer being attractive to a partner despite reassurance
• Difference between venting emotions and partners trying to “fix” feelings
• Logical acceptance of aging versus emotional resistance
• Dermatologist visit and Botox history triggering aging realization
• Shock of being presented with plastic surgery as a next step
• Discomfort with crossing into an “old person” identity
• Social media comments and viral posts amplifying insecurity
• Double standard in how men vs women are judged for aging
• Media careers creating stronger appearance pressure for women
• Men aging seen as gaining credibility while women lose it
• Question of accepting aging versus cosmetic intervention
• Aging framed as a personal relationship with oneself
• Importance of self-approval over external validation
• Belief that long-term partner attraction is relatively stable
• Discussion of younger men dating older women
• Attraction framed as confidence, intelligence, presence, and power
• MILF/older-woman attraction discussed with humor
• Confidence repeatedly identified as the most attractive trait
• Increased self-scrutiny from frequent media appearances
• Anxiety distorting self-perception while others don’t notice changes
• Partners often indifferent to appearance fluctuations
• Tension between preaching acceptance and living it
• Men’s aging insecurity expressed through health and career
• Hip replacement and medical procedures as aging milestones
• Humor used to cope with vulnerability
• Fear of drastic cosmetic changes; openness to subtle intervention
• Social media filters and celebrity comparisons warping standards
• Celebrities’ resources creating unrealistic comparisons
• Pamela Anderson cited for embracing no-makeup aging
• Cultural discomfort with women aging publicly
• Confidence reframed as more attractive than perfection
• Shift to divorce and Annie Duke’s Quit concept
• Challenging “never quit” messaging in marriage
• Quitting sometimes healthier than staying
• Therapist as guide, not decision-maker
• No one-size-fits-all relationship advice
• Acceptance that either staying or leaving can turn out okay
• Emotional difficulty accepting uncertainty
• Rejection of soulmate mythology; marriage as ongoing choices
• Critique of praising endurance as moral superiority
• Amicable divorce reframed as not a failure
• Harm to kids tied to conflict, not divorce itself
• Social stigma and pressure keeping people stuck
• Listener email about praising a spouse publicly
• Genuine vs performative appreciation discussed
• Wife’s follow-up email praising consistent effort over decades
• Takeaway: small, consistent actions matter more than grand gestures
• Relationship compared to a tire that needs regular “air”
• Daily or weekly intentional connection suggested
• “Bids for connection” like watching a partner’s shows
• Choosing partner needs over personal comfort builds closeness
• Core self-check: are you doing what matters to your partner?
• Promotion of Colette’s book launch, The Cost of Quiet
• Event details: Thursday the 29th, 5:30–7:30 PM, Maitland Mercedes-Benz
• Live podcast, food, drinks, community vibe, limited tickets
• Book theme: avoiding hard conversations damages relationships
• Growth framed as choosing hard effort over easy avoidance
• Closing remarks and sign-off
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