LTN 17 - Levels Of Dependence
Love Thy Neighbor Show
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show intro Colette Jane Fair as therapist co-host Colette Jane Fair book promotion and name spelling Easier book access at thecostofquiet.com Jokes about bad spelling and confidence Florida cold weather shock and routines Comedy song about being too cold Comparing Florida cold snaps to northern winters Liking New York but not winter weather Extreme Florida temp swings vs gradual cold Relationship awareness from doing the show Relationship content as emotional homework Keeping relationships top of mind Social media pushing relationship...
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LTN 16 - The Power of Self Talk
Love Thy Neighbor Show
* Love Thy Neighbor intro with Colette Fair and sold out book party in Maitland * Middle names used on air * Dan originally named Dan Lee before radio * Name came from college musician friend * Dan hated Dan Lee and changed it * Joke about Daniel Day Lewis * Colette knowing little about the hosts * Bear suit embarrassment story * Sudden shift from jokes to tragedy * Local therapist murder suicide case * Therapist client boundary risks * Story appearing in social feeds * Avoiding news for mental health * Garbage in garbage out media rule * Balance between news and sanity * After hours therapy...
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LTN 15 - Handling Aging
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor and Colette Fair as recurring relationship expert • Casual emotional check-in with Colette and jokes about free advice and “private” episodes • Shift to self-esteem, confidence, and how aging impacts desirability • Aging anxiety framed as more intense for women and tied to social pressure • Fear of no longer being attractive to a partner despite reassurance • Difference between venting emotions and partners trying to “fix” feelings • Logical acceptance of aging versus emotional resistance • Dermatologist visit and Botox history...
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LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair • Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch • Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz • Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book • Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering • Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue • Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships • Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time • Phones and constant distraction...
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LTN 13 - 20Thousand Dollar Day
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Love Thy Neighbor introduced as a relationship show focused on growth • Financial stress framed with humor about offering creative services • New year positioned as a moment for relationship reflection, not reinvention • Focus on small, attainable changes over drastic relationship overhauls • Comparison between extreme diet resolutions and unrealistic relationship goals • Small, consistent actions compounding over time • All-or-nothing resolutions setting people up for failure • Behavior change compared to habit-building and voting • New year not magically changing real...
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LTN 12 - You Can Stay Home
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Debate over repeating the show title and old-school radio presentation • Traditional radio habits versus modern podcast structure • Adjusting how hosts and guests are introduced on-air • Colette’s media tour to Atlanta, Washington D.C., and Phoenix/Scottsdale • Delayed release of holiday-related media segments • Balancing work travel with mother–daughter time • Family relocation from New York to California and reduced closeness • Ease of travel between Florida and New York influencing migration • Jokes about people “invading” Florida • Media stereotypes about...
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LTN 11 - Communicate
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Holiday stress, polarized feelings, and relationship strain • Simplifying expectations and focusing on connection • Intentional family time and low-effort activities like games and puzzles • Screen overstimulation making simple activities feel boring • Relearning enjoyment away from devices • Emotional lift after spending real time with family • Effort required to engage in shared activities • Easy entry games and “adult parallel play” options like pottery, climbing, walking • Bonding without constant conversation; Florida weather enabling outdoor time • Casual family...
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LTN 10 - The Gray-Divorce
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Low-effort vs. high-effort Thanksgiving experiences • Colette’s relaxed holiday without her kids • Daniel’s stressful Thanksgiving towing multiple vehicles • Different family traditions and conflicting holiday desires • Two opposing feelings about an experience both being valid • Giants’ struggles, game mishaps, and kicker issues • Annoyance at Kansas City’s continued success and Cowboys rivalry • Social media comparison culture affecting relationships • Pressure from idealized online portrayals vs. real life • Comparison in the past (holiday cards) vs. constant...
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LTN 9 - The Bird Theory
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Audience enjoying the relationship show • Reminder to leave reviews on Apple Podcasts and Spotify • More relationship content appearing in social media feeds • Noting that consuming relationship content can boost awareness • Contrast between relationship-focused and random algorithm feeds • Brief joke about Hezbollah/Hezzy and Mike Tyson’s age confusion • Introduction of the online “Bird Theory” test • Example of a staged bird video illustrating the concept • Gottman’s “bids for connection” explained • Turning toward bids linked to long-term satisfaction •...
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LTN 8 - Cutoffs
Love Thy Neighbor Show
• Live launch of “A Corporate Time with Tom and Dan” on Twitch and YouTube • Promotion of free Bad at Business Beerfest (Nov 22) and Sofas and Suds couch races (Nov 23) in Sanford • Both events are free, family-friendly, and include unlimited beer samples for 21+ • “Weird Job Wednesday” debuts with guest Amy Kaufeldt from Fox 35 • Amy shares her childhood dream of spaceflight and how the Challenger disaster changed her goals • Found passion for writing, studied journalism at Miami University of Ohio • Early unpaid radio work at NPR station WMUB; enjoyed radio’s relaxed...
info_outline• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair
• Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch
• Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz
• Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book
• Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering
• Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue
• Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships
• Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time
• Phones and constant distraction worsening disconnection
• Live podcast recording planned at the launch event
• Meet-and-greet with hosts and attendees
• Food, drinks, and relaxed, low-pressure atmosphere emphasized
• Event positioned as an easy entry point to relationship work
• Participation from local therapists and community voices
• Focus on improving connection and reducing loneliness
• Communication breakdowns linked to phones and social media
• Ticket info shared via website, show notes, and live chat
• Giveaway of 10 free tickets with email entry instructions
• Encouragement for longtime listeners and newcomers alike
• Listener email praising the show and a long, happy marriage
• Discussion of attraction and intimacy growing over time
• Question of whether partners value being praised publicly
• Importance of expressing appreciation beyond generic compliments
• Hosts affirm appreciation as rare and essential for relationship health
• Daily emotional check-ins encouraged over routine small talk
• Using specific appreciation during check-ins
• Small household efforts as meaningful signs of care
• Feeling “seen” through acknowledgment of little things
• Research showing many positives needed to outweigh negatives
• Couples overfocusing on complaints under stress
• Balancing grievances with gratitude and affirmation
• Limits of love languages and pressure to self-label
• Most people still enjoying praise even if they claim otherwise
• Compliments about effort, attraction, and appearance matter
• Men and women both valuing being told they look good
• Compliments boosting confidence in partners and children
• Kids learning affirmation through modeled behavior
• Discussion of whether too much praise can feel smothering
• Difference between healthy appreciation and unhealthy overdoing it
• Encouragement to ask partners how they prefer to feel loved
• Public praise versus private appreciation preferences
• Teasing and joking as long-term bonding dynamics
• Humor, hazing, and exaggeration as signs of emotional security
• Reinforcing that genuine appreciation is usually welcomed
• Introduction of purpose anxiety and pressure to “find your purpose”
• Reframing purpose as small, evolving, and practical
• Careers often developing without a clear master plan
• Feeling trapped in unfulfilling work contributing to loneliness
• Advice to seek small joys instead of drastic life changes
• Accepting that even meaningful work still includes stress
• Finding meaning outside of work when necessary
• Hobbies and side interests potentially growing into fulfillment
• Parenting parallels about finding positives in disliked activities
• Ballet discipline example showing delayed appreciation
• Love languages explained as tools, not science
• Overview of quality time, acts of service, touch, words, and gifts
• Emphasis on asking directly what makes a partner feel loved
• Alone time recognized as a valid emotional need
• Mental load carried by women in families highlighted
• Importance of noticing invisible planning and emotional labor
• Encouraging proactive support rather than assumptions
• Transition to dating after divorce in your 40s
• Anxiety about modern dating norms and apps
• Dating apps described as discouraging and dehumanizing
• Encouragement toward low-pressure, in-person dates
• Digital chemistry often failing to translate in real life
• Normalizing awkwardness when reentering dating
• Rebuilding social confidence through friendships
• Reassurance that kind, stable partners are in demand
• Emphasis on human need for real connection over technology
• Invitation to the book launch as a social, organic meet opportunity
• Reminder of free ticket giveaway and confirmation process
• Lighthearted humor, optimism, and closing thanks
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