Unconditional Service: Navigating the Complexities of Helping Others
Imperfect Mens Club
Mark introduces the topic of serving others and connects it to the flywheel of life in the category of relationships/others. Jim brings up the wheel and discusses each of the 5 areas - Money, worldview, relationships, health and career/profession This episode is about others. Men and women He says there are two types of service and then shares his recent event KBIS in Las Vegas. He was selected as #1 membership chair in the country Two types of service are paid and unpaid He talks about the unpaid type - how different it is to serve for pay and to serve simply to serve “Unconditional”...
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How Are You Serving Others? What Does That Look Like?
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Jim - the most important conversation you’ll ever have is with yourself…and that person is a crazy person Jim frames service in the context of bringing a product or service to the market to help people in some ways He frames this in the context of his most recent project that he asked Mark for help with - his talk about the kitchen and bath industry Jim asks. If it’s not just money, why do we seek to serve. What’s the bigger picture Both guys feel strongly that they have something to offer the world and the world has things to offer them Our experience leaves us with knowledge and...
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Growth Is On The Other Side Of Resistance
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Mark introduces the topic and both guys have personal accounts of dealing with making themselves vulnerable Jim thinks that most of us don’t put ourselves out there Jim brings in our flywheel and the 5 areas of life and then uses his 5 W’s approach (Why, who, when, where and what) Mark reads the definition of self-vulnerability that Jim provides from his online searches about the topic Jim says acknowledging your strengths is easy, but sharing your weaknesses is much harder Jim shares his fear he experienced getting ready for a recent webinar presentation. He wonders why he put himself out...
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Mentorship and Volunteer Work - Just A Nudge
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Today Jim and I welcome a special guest. Paul Carroll was my mentor in the start-up staffing space at the beginning of my career and he joins us today to talk about his latest work volunteering with young men in the foster care system We started recording before my introduction:). It sounded good so we decided to keep rolling. Sorry for any confusion Pauls shares his sense of urgency and the “signs” that showed up for him that got him interested in this work initially He shares how the work went from theoretical to practical Jim asks Paul if this is similar to the problem/solution approach...
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Have We Just Left A "Bygone Era"?
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Episode 3 Bygone Era Mark introduces the topic for this episode. The notion of there being a bygone era. Jim suggested the topic given the current political landscape and the guys explore other applications of the notion in life Mark reads the Google definition Jim comes in and suggests that we have entered a new era. He brings of his 5 W framework and the concept of self awareness (Who,what,when,where and why) Jim cites The Biden administration and his cronies being part of this “bygone era” He claims everyone wants to remain relevant Mark recalls his start in recruiting and how...
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Where Our Belief Systems Come From
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Mark introduces the episode about belief systems in the context of the fires in Southern California Remember…Jim is a California native still living in the Bay Area and Mark has lived in Florida since 1990 Two very different perspectives and responses to natural disasters! Jim says it’s personal because he has friends and family in the fire zone He brings in our tag line and framework. He says we’ll try and find some good in all of it. He cites our 5 areas with focus on worldview Jim share some of his preparation for the episode. He asks Mark to read the definition of “belief...
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The Post Election Paradigm Shift
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Mark introduces Episode 1 of Season 4 with the topic of a paradigm shift. A shift in the way the country is moving with the election of Donald Trump and the push back against “woke” Jim introduces the wheel and worldview as a likely connection to the topic. He believes the shift is well on it’s way and we can see and hear evidence of it as more people open up post election Jim has some examples and topics he wants to discuss The first one is COVID What did covid change - communication Second is BLM/DEI. Neither were sustainable Third is The 2024 election 4th is Artificial Intelligence...
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AI...What The Hell Do We Know?
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We recorded this Dec 23, 2024. We decided to sneak one in during Christmas week and when we connected for the pre game, neither of us had any ideas about what might make a good topic Then we shared a couple of real "what just happened" stories and AI was a common theme. So we decided to share our genius I didn't edit or listen to this episode for the first time in 3 years. I think it'll be good Learn how to make fun of yourself and recognize how little you know Mark & Jim
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Planning For What's Next - What Would Jim Rohn Do?
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Hey all. We began with a New Years, year-end, goal setting theme within the context of some JIm Rohn quotes What we ended up with is an in depth reflection on Jim Rohn's wisdom and how much of it might be very helpful as we plan for what's next ---------------- Mark leads with year-end, new year and goal setting as topics. The context is the wisdom of Jim Rohn. Our Jim loves Rohn and brought some quotes as foundations for our episode Jim says it’s the past, present and future approach He reflects on being in sales and the goal setting and metrics of sales Jim shares his opinion of Jim Rohn...
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Know Thyself - The Magic Of Self Awareness
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Mark introduces the topic of self awareness. He shares that their “pregame” discussion was very self reflective. He suggests that the time of year, as well as some other personal events from Jim’s life and Mark’s have the guys a bit mired in self reflection and self awareness Mark reads a couple of quotes Jim brought to the recording. One secular (Stoic) and one Biblical (Thomas) Jim shares some context for his quotes and shares his position on self awareness and what’s going on in his life Jim reflects on yesterday being the 5 year anniversary of his father’s death. He says to...
info_outlineJim - the most important conversation you’ll ever have is with yourself…and that person is a crazy person
Jim frames service in the context of bringing a product or service to the market to help people in some ways
He frames this in the context of his most recent project that he asked Mark for help with - his talk about the kitchen and bath industry
Jim asks. If it’s not just money, why do we seek to serve. What’s the bigger picture
Both guys feel strongly that they have something to offer the world and the world has things to offer them
Our experience leaves us with knowledge and wisdom that come from that unique experience
Mark brings up his faith. “God, help me out. What do you want me to be doing again?”
Jim brings up his summary doc (which he creates for each episode) on which mentions God’s greater design
Are you going to die with your art in you or are you committed to putting it out in the world
What have you overcome and how can you share that to help others
Mark talks about obstacles and how we all find ourselves in a particular seat at a particular time for some reason
Mark shares his journey into the recruiting world and how he evolved into an expert in that specific space - career development
Jim shares how important he thinks Mark’s work is
Mark says it’s top 5 for people. He takes that responsibility very seriously
Mark shares his story about helping his friend with confidence
Jim says confidence is everything and it’s hard to maintain over the course of a lifetime
Mark mentions his divorce in the context of confidence and how he lost it and the trip to get it back. Validation from the outside
Jim “You are most able to help the person you once were”
He talks about resistance - fear is self centered
Why wouldn’t you share? Because you’re scared
Mark shares a few stories about helping a few people overcome their fears
Enough confidence to overcome his fear - to take action
Mark shares how fear is now a trigger for him to keep going. It doesn’t stop him, it encourages him
Jim talks about the value of solving one specific problem. What is it and why is it a problem
Mark says do we help them rid themselves of the fear or do we simply help them push past it
Jim reads a few more quotes. Solutions versus problems
Mark asks, “if my deliverable is confidence, what does that look like?”
Messaging in a noisy world
What specific problem are we solving?
You have to frame the problem well. Specifically and powerfully
Without the problem…what does life look like…specifically. Pain and pleasure
Mark shares his opinion of the SNL auditions he watched during the 50th anniversary celebration - vulnerability, fear, risk…with everything on the line
Jim talks about the value of a third party testimonial/referral/recommendation
Mark laughs about the irony for me teaching about this and yet having a hard time doing it himself
JIm’s three “E’s”
Educate, Entertain and Encourage
Mark says he’s going to steal the 3 E’s
Mark’s tip from a coach “tell them something they’ve never heard before that they know to be true”
Jim - “Enter the conversation they’re already having with themselves”
Mark shares some takeaways - specifically about asking for help
Mark commits to delivering confidence
Jims speaks about being known and being clear
Mark agrees that most people are unclear
Mark wraps up with how happy he was to help Jim
“Stick your neck out there man”