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How Sensitivity And Unconscious Bias Shape Us As Men

Imperfect Mens Club

Release Date: 03/28/2025

Confidence Isn’t a Trait, It’s a Practice show art Confidence Isn’t a Trait, It’s a Practice

Imperfect Mens Club

Mark introduces the topic of confidence.  Self-confidence The topic originated with Jim’s interest in elitism - entitlement - self-accountability - confidence In order to be self accountable, one must be confident Jim ties in the current news events and his recent book as he frames his view of confidence. Particularly sports and business He distinguishes between confidence and the competence required to be confident Jim brings up academia. See civically Harvard…and entitlements/elitism He shares the academic idea that perfection is attainable. We both support the reality of...

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Frameworks: The Invisible Structures Behind A Well Lived Life show art Frameworks: The Invisible Structures Behind A Well Lived Life

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Mark shares the value of the “pregame” the guys use to prepare for the podcast He introduces the topic of frameworks How they can be good or harmful Jim shares how frameworks evolve and how ours did. Our tagline “The Imperfection Is The Perfection” Jim used this with his kids when they got frustrated with him He thinks imperfections and failures make us who we are Jim shares how when we started the podcast, we were thinking of “Civill Discourse” as a theme. Then we came upon our Wheel Of Life Jim takes us around the wheel and digs into all 5 areas of life and then some deeper...

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The Freedom of Solitude: Evolving Beyond Our Old Personas show art The Freedom of Solitude: Evolving Beyond Our Old Personas

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Mark introduces the topics of solitude and one’s persona Jim jumps in to help contextualize this discussion Mark reads the definitions of  “Persona” and “Solitude” Mark asks Jim about his trip Jim separates being alone for a few minutes from the very different version of a 7 day solo trip Jim has chosen solo trips in the last few years He reflects on how his roles and personas have changed as he’s aged He talks about not caring what others think and how freeing that is Mark reflects on the solitude that can from his divorce. He didn’t choose that but did choose how to...

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The Science of Self-Talk: How Thoughts Shape Our Reality show art The Science of Self-Talk: How Thoughts Shape Our Reality

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Mark introduces the topic of the power of the mind and self-talk The idea that we now have science and data to support the value of positive talk, visualization and vibration in influencing our happiness and peace of mind Jim got the idea from Billy Carson’s appearance on Lewis Howe’s Greatness podcast Jim shares the story of how we met. He was struggling mentally and emotionally and had some evidence that concussions might be part of his challenge. In his research, he found me. He flew out to Orlando and we met. Jim tells his concussion story and the details of his journey toward a...

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How Sensitivity And Unconscious Bias Shape Us As Men show art How Sensitivity And Unconscious Bias Shape Us As Men

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We just started talking. No Intro! Mark brings up human nature. He suggests that men and women have unique natures as well He says recognizing and acknowledging human nature is necessary as part of any discussion of behavior Jim asks Mark his opinion about homosexuality Mark shares his ignorance and his opinion as well as his curiosity Mark brings up the Catholic Church Jim shares his significant skepticism about the Catholic church, but he doesn’t want to go any deeper So Mark shifts the topic to “standing”. Who has it, how we give it to people and how it impedes our progress He say...

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The Power of Agency: How Writing a Book Can Build Trust and Elevate Your Brand show art The Power of Agency: How Writing a Book Can Build Trust and Elevate Your Brand

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Mark introduces the topic of agency. Jim thinks Mark is a great example of what an agent is He reads a definition and adds some context to what an agent is and how he may, in fact, be one The value of having an objective third party negotiating on your behalf Jim thinks AI will make being an agent much more valuable He discusses the agents he uses. His patent agent, for example. Agents are not as close as we are to our capabilities and competencies Agents can be particularly helpful negotiating your price. What you’re worth He talks about his most recent projects to operate as an agent Jim...

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Finding Strength in Adversity: Navigating Suicide and the Power of Self Fortitude show art Finding Strength in Adversity: Navigating Suicide and the Power of Self Fortitude

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Mark leads with the definition of “fortitude” and “self fortitude” He suggests the one is more internal and the other more external Jim shares his recent difficult week due to 4 or 5 people he is close to are experiencing hardship. From illness to the loss of a young man to suicide Jim puts his experiences in the context of our “Flywheel of Life” “When you’re healthy you have hundreds of things on your mind. When you’re ill, you have one” Jim shares some of the challenges his friends have. His mom is in pain, his cousin has cancer and another has upcoming surgery. Finally...

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Unconditional Service: Navigating the Complexities of Helping Others show art Unconditional Service: Navigating the Complexities of Helping Others

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Mark introduces the topic of serving others and connects it to the flywheel of life in the category of relationships/others. Jim brings up the wheel and discusses each of the 5 areas - Money, worldview, relationships, health and career/profession This episode is about others. Men and women He says there are two types of service and then shares his recent event KBIS in Las Vegas. He was selected as #1 membership chair in the country Two types of service are paid and unpaid He talks about the unpaid type - how different it is to serve for pay and to serve simply to serve “Unconditional”...

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How Are You Serving Others? What Does That Look Like? show art How Are You Serving Others? What Does That Look Like?

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Jim - the most important conversation you’ll ever have is with yourself…and that person is a crazy person Jim frames service in the context of bringing a product or service to the market to help people in some ways He frames this in the context of his most recent project that he asked Mark for help with - his talk about the kitchen and bath industry Jim asks. If it’s not just money, why do we seek to serve. What’s the bigger picture Both guys feel strongly that they have something to offer the world and the world has things to offer them Our experience leaves us with knowledge and...

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Growth Is On The Other Side Of Resistance show art Growth Is On The Other Side Of Resistance

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Mark introduces the topic and both guys have personal accounts of dealing with making themselves vulnerable Jim thinks that most of us don’t put ourselves out there Jim brings in our flywheel and the 5 areas of life and then uses his 5 W’s approach (Why, who, when, where and what) Mark reads the definition of self-vulnerability that Jim provides from his online searches about the topic Jim says acknowledging your strengths is easy, but sharing your weaknesses is much harder Jim shares his fear he experienced getting ready for a recent webinar presentation. He wonders why he put himself out...

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We just started talking. No Intro!

Mark brings up human nature. He suggests that men and women have unique natures as well

He says recognizing and acknowledging human nature is necessary as part of any discussion of behavior

Jim asks Mark his opinion about homosexuality

Mark shares his ignorance and his opinion as well as his curiosity

Mark brings up the Catholic Church

Jim shares his significant skepticism about the Catholic church, but he doesn’t want to go any deeper

So Mark shifts the topic to “standing”. Who has it, how we give it to people and how it impedes our progress

He say we’re all judgmental and that it’s also part of human nature

He brings up toxic bosses and personal accountability

Jim brings up unconscious bias and the evolution of the podcast from a point of self awareness

Jim shares his recent experience at a “Green build” event

How did we all become “activists”?

Mark says he thinks it comes from a need to belong and how human nature produces this need to belong to something

Jim brings back up agency and specifically writing a book. He thinks all men have a story/book in them. Jim thinks this “contribution” need is also part of our nature

Jim thinks it’s more a male than female need

Mark thinks this is an interesting conversation

Jim thinks men do things “in silence” and he ties that into one of the purposes of the Imperfect Mens Club

Mark reflects on his own sensitivity. The disadvantages and the advantages. Jim looks for clarity about his sensitivity and Mark shares how his sensitivity has been a double edged sword

Jim identifies what he thinks is the important part of being sensitive. It’s good, unless it keeps you from being functional

Sensitivity and weakness are NOT the same

Jim shares a story - about conversation with a woman, “don’t take it so personal”…”I take everything personal”

Jim challenged her and she got a bit defensive and awkward

Jim says he thinks we get softer as we age and Mark suggests some people do and some don’t

You get bitter or you get better

Mark loves the topic of sensitivity

Jim says to be good at something you have to be sensitive to feedback

Jim quotes about being respected versus liked

Mark shares his experience seeing a quote from Al Capone about weakness

Mark goes back to Jim’s point about being functional. Weakness is a problem when it keeps you from functioning

Jim calls this “hypersensitivity”

Mark shares his perspective on the different “stages” or “chapters” in his life and how he needed to adjust as life evolved

He moved around a bit confused about his sensitivity

Mark observes how he’s seen Jim evolve too

“A good human is going to evolve”

The other choice is misery. Bitter and better

Jim. “We are all actors in the theater of life”

Jim agrees - different roles at different stages

Mark shifts to his recent “Out of body experience with a sound healing session”

Both guys appreciate the topic and share their respective opinions about it

Mark had 4 out of body experiences at 4 different ages of his life. He likens it to dreaming

Mark was inclined to share his experience with certain friends, including Jim

Mark talks about how this kind of event can be really great…or much less so

Jim talks about Steve Job’s experience with meditative reflection and success

Mark talks about his different reflections on different protocols of self reflection, like his breath work. He reflects on the time he went looking for a church and a yoga studio and the importance of resonating with instructors

Jim shares more quotes

Fast - alone. Far - go together

“Don’t become addicted to your own struggles”

“Everything is hard. If it’s not hard, you’re not trying hard enough

Mark - “It’s the Cool thing about wisdom”. Anyone can be wise and say wise things in different ways

Mark talks about getting advice from friends. Nice versus kind

Jim cautions about getting advice from friends and family…”some of the worst advice you can get”

Mark agrees but takes a slightly different approach. His father’s opinion about starting his own company