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The Myth of White Supremacy and the Process of Deprogramming

Hey White Women

Release Date: 07/23/2024

Episode 13 | There Are No Easy Answers show art Episode 13 | There Are No Easy Answers

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In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the intersections of entertainment, identity, and societal structures. They discuss the role of whiteness in shaping experiences, the burdens of perfectionism and productivity, and the implications of the cult of entrepreneurship. The conversation delves into the dynamics of social media, the weaponization of secrets, and the importance of community versus group dynamics. They also reflect on the impact of capitalism on human value, the complexities of international relations, and the need for transparency in systems. Ultimately, they...

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Episode 12 | Education and Total Institutions (Surprise producer appearance) show art Episode 12 | Education and Total Institutions (Surprise producer appearance)

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In this suprise guest episode, the speakers explore the challenges of traditional education, particularly for neurodivergent individuals. They discuss the concept of total institutions and how societal norms can impact personal identity and acceptance. The dialogue shifts to the importance of navigating life beyond conventional paths, embracing change, and redefining expertise. The speakers also touch on the dangers of cult-like structures and apocalyptic thinking in society, emphasizing the need for personal narrative and the evolution of tools in human adaptation. In this conversation, the...

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Episode 11 | The Popular Girls Aren't Happy show art Episode 11 | The Popular Girls Aren't Happy

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This conversation explores the complexities of ageism, objectivity, and bias, particularly in relation to race and gender. The speakers discuss the societal perceptions of age, the historical context of bias, and the reinterpretation of myths through feminist lenses. They delve into the impact of gender in combat and leadership roles, the illusion of popularity and happiness, and the flaws of objectivity in society. The discussion also touches on cognitive dissonance, indoctrination, and the intersection of whiteness and objectivity, emphasizing the dangers of extremism and the importance of...

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Episode 10 | Sunk Cost Fallacy show art Episode 10 | Sunk Cost Fallacy

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In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore the complexities of content creation, the importance of flexibility, and the challenges of navigating societal expectations. They discuss the value of redefining success, the impact of branding on perception, and the role of secrecy in both corporate and cult environments. The conversation also delves into the sunk cost fallacy, the dangers of objectivity in data interpretation, and the intersection of gender and power dynamics, ultimately highlighting how cults can appeal to individuals during times of social turmoil. In this conversation,...

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Episode 9 | Language of White Supremacy show art Episode 9 | Language of White Supremacy

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In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the intersections of cult dynamics, whiteness, and gender, discussing how personal experiences shape broader societal issues. They delve into the importance of language, the exit costs of leaving cults, and the power of storytelling. The discussion emphasizes the need for community support, the role of silence in conversations, and the challenges of navigating identity and intersectionality. They also reflect on the impact of personal narratives on societal change and the importance of inclusivity and representation in various spaces. Books: ...

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Episode 8 | White Supremacy in the Cult of Corporate America show art Episode 8 | White Supremacy in the Cult of Corporate America

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The conversation explores the themes of color, PowerPoint culture, repetitiveness of work, cult-like aspects of organizations, the need for individuality, the impact of white supremacy, and the power of democratized knowledge. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella discuss the loaded language around the word 'racist' and the fragility and volatility that white people often exhibit when confronted with accusations of racism. They emphasize the importance of deconstructing belief systems and actively working to dismantle white supremacy. They also explore the concept of traumalages, the...

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Episode 7 | The Undergarments of Control show art Episode 7 | The Undergarments of Control

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  The conversation explores the topic of underwear and its role in control and oppression. It delves into the societal expectations and policing of women's bodies, the arbitrary nature of professionalism, and the intersection of underwear with race and gender. The discussion also touches on the history of underwear, the influence of capitalism and consumerism, and the connection between underwear and abuse in cults. Overall, the conversation highlights the ways in which underwear is used as a tool for control and the need to challenge societal norms and expectations. The conversation...

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Episode 6 | Body Coverage show art Episode 6 | Body Coverage

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In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella discuss the concept of body coverage as a form of appearance control in cults and white supremacy. They explore the loaded language and thought-stopping cliches used to enforce modesty and control women's bodies. They also touch on the intersection of race and body coverage, highlighting the policing of black women's bodies and the privileging of white beauty standards. The conversation delves into the influence of cult language and the importance of challenging and deconstructing these harmful ideologies. The conversation explores the limitations...

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Episode 5 | Kamala Harris and The Glass Cliff show art Episode 5 | Kamala Harris and The Glass Cliff

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In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca discuss the representation of women and people of color in politics, particularly focusing on Kamala Harris. They explore the excitement and hope that Harris's candidacy brings, while also acknowledging the challenges and limitations that come with being a Black woman in a position of power. They emphasize the importance of not expecting one person to represent an entire demographic and the need to address anti-Blackness and white feminism. The conversation also touches on the concept of the glass cliff and the ongoing process of deconstructing white...

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Episode 4 | Body Size Control show art Episode 4 | Body Size Control

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In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca discuss the concept of deconstruction and how it relates to body size and white supremacy. They share personal stories and insights about the control and manipulation of appearance in cults and society. They explore the impact of body size on self-worth and the harmful effects of societal beauty standards. The conversation highlights the need for self-reflection and the ongoing work required to challenge and dismantle these harmful ideologies. The conversation explores various aspects of control and coercion, particularly in relation to body size,...

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In this conversation, Daniella Mestyanek Young and Rebecca discuss their experiences with cults and the deconstruction of white supremacy. They explore the stages of leaving a cult and the process of deprogramming from the myth of white supremacy. They also touch on topics such as privilege, racism, and the impact of cult dynamics on society. The conversation highlights the need for self-reflection, questioning societal norms, and working towards equality. In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca discuss the importance of self-reflection and deconstructing the systems of white supremacy and patriarchy. They emphasize the need for white women to recognize their privilege and actively work to dismantle oppressive systems. They also discuss the power of vulnerability and the role of social media in spreading awareness and creating change. The conversation touches on topics such as the cult-like nature of societal systems, the challenges of living authentically within capitalism, and the role of art and creativity in personal growth.
 

 

 

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Takeaways
  • There are three stages of leaving a cult: waking up, cracking the brainwashing, and physically and mentally leaving the cult.
  • Deconstructing from the myth of white supremacy requires a process of deprogramming that can take years.
  • White supremacy is like a cult, and deconstructing it involves questioning societal norms and recognizing the impact of privilege and racism.
  • Cult dynamics, such as the need to defend the good intentions of the group, can be observed in white supremacy and other systems of oppression.
  • Recognizing and challenging the sacred assumptions of white supremacy is essential for dismantling the system and creating equality. Recognize and reflect on your own privilege and the systems of white supremacy and patriarchy that perpetuate inequality.
  • Challenge and dismantle oppressive systems by actively working to create change.
  • Embrace vulnerability and use your voice to spread awareness and inspire others to take action.
  • Question and deconstruct your own beliefs and behaviors to ensure they align with your values and promote equality.
  • Find ways to live authentically and resist the pressures of capitalism and societal expectations.
  • Use art and creativity as a means of personal growth and self-expression.
Sound Bites
  • "White supremacy is like a booger"
  • "White supremacy starts radicalizing you the second you set foot here"
  • "Deconstructing white supremacy is a process of self-reflection and questioning"
  • "Hey, black women, if you're alone in a conference room and someone's about to walk in and it's gonna be a white person, would you rather be a white man or a white woman?"
  • "White women are the men of women."
  • "Once you can name it, you can fix it."
Chapters
00:00Introduction and Background
02:32Growing Up in Diverse Communities and Discovering Cult Dynamics
05:22Creating Safe Spaces for Black People to Share with White People
07:49Leaving Seattle and Deconstructing White Supremacy
10:11White Supremacy as a Booger and Challenging Sacred Assumptions
13:07The Radicalization of White Supremacy and Deconstructing Beauty Standards
20:49The Interconnectedness of Patriarchy and White Supremacy
25:01The Need to Stack Rank and the Impact of White Supremacy
28:18Questioning the Cult of Capitalism and Valuing Humanization
31:04The Con of White Supremacy and the Benefits of Equality
37:02The Power of Vulnerability and Spreading Awareness
48:56Living Authentically and Resisting Capitalism
53:28Art and Creativity as Tools for Personal Growth