Episode 32 | "Lickies and Chewies?"
Hey White Women
This conversation delves into the complexities of race, privilege, and activism, particularly focusing on the experiences of black women and the reactions of white women in the context of social justice. The speakers discuss the historical and current realities of systemic oppression, the implications of language, and the importance of listening and learning from marginalized voices. They also explore the nature of groupthink, the illusion of safety, and the responsibilities of individuals in activism. In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the complexities of group dynamics, the...
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Episode 31 | Defensiveness and White Identity
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore the complexities of race, identity, and the dynamics of power within societal structures. They discuss the defensiveness often exhibited by white women in conversations about race, the impact of language, and the role of white women in perpetuating systems of oppression. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of acknowledgment, healing, and the responsibility that comes with privilege. They also touch on the significance of community and the need for open, honest discussions about race and identity. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella...
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Episode 30 | Speaking equitably with confidence
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca delve into the complexities of cult dynamics, particularly focusing on the Nation of Islam. They explore personal experiences with cults, the intersection of race and cults, and the societal responses to these groups. The discussion highlights the role of white women in these conversations, the importance of listening and learning from diverse experiences, and the manipulative tactics employed by cults. The speakers emphasize that conflict can be a necessary part of understanding and navigating these topics, and they advocate for a more nuanced...
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Episode 29 | Faces on mountains and people in streets
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore various themes including creativity during the COVID pandemic, the rehumanization of historical figures, the dynamics of cults and community, the complexities of whiteness and feminism, parenting approaches, and the military's cult-like nature. They also discuss cultural perspectives on purity, trauma, and binge drinking, providing a critical examination of societal norms and personal experiences. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore various themes surrounding control, access, and the societal constructs that shape our...
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Episode 28 | Appropriation or Appropriate
Hey White Women
This conversation explores the intersections of capitalism, cultural identity, and the dynamics of power in relationships. The speakers discuss the gig economy as a potential alternative to traditional capitalism, the complexities of cultural appropriation, and the challenges of navigating identity as white individuals in diverse cultural spaces. They delve into the illusions of saving and the societal constructs surrounding consent and autonomy, while also addressing the role of women in patriarchal systems. The discussion highlights the importance of language, the romanticization of history,...
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Episode 27 | The "Making" Money Myth
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the intersection of music, cult experiences, and cultural identity. They discuss how growing up in a cult influenced their music preferences, particularly the emotional suppression associated with it. The conversation delves into the complexities of cultural appropriation in the music industry, the impact of fame, and the challenges of navigating cultural identities. They reflect on their personal journeys of understanding music and the importance of community and cultural exchange in shaping their experiences. In this conversation, Rebecca...
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Episode 26 | You Don't Have to "Get" Kendrick Lamar
Hey White Women
This conversation explores the cultural significance of Kendrick Lamar's Super Bowl performance, delving into themes of resistance, identity, and the complexities of race and gender in America. The speakers discuss the symbolism in music and dance as forms of cultural expression and resistance, the role of white women in social change, and the importance of resilience in the face of societal challenges. They also reflect on the dynamics of privilege and the need for a deeper understanding of identity and humanity in the context of systemic oppression. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella...
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Episode 25 | Quit Playing Monopoly
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore themes of empowerment, self-expression, and the societal narratives that shape our identities. They discuss the impact of fashion on self-perception, the dangers of conspiracy theories, and the importance of community and networking. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of motherhood, parenting, and the influence of cult-like structures on family life. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for individuals, particularly white women, to take action against oppression and challenge the narratives that confine them. In this engaging...
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Episode 24 | Grindset is Gross
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the complexities of living in a society influenced by Donald Trump, the rise of online cultures, and the misogyny that permeates social interactions. They discuss the role of white women in society, the importance of community and self-care, and the impact of societal expectations on individual identity. The conversation delves into the dangers of conformity, the need for transparency in work, and the importance of listening to marginalized voices. They emphasize the power of collective action and the necessity of understanding history to...
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Episode 23 | Hillmantok University
Hey White Women
This conversation delves into the complexities of therapy, race, and community dynamics, particularly focusing on the experiences of individuals navigating these spaces. The speakers discuss the challenges of finding appropriate therapeutic support, the importance of community in healing, and the role of white women in social movements. They also explore military dynamics, the impact of social media on awareness, and the necessity of acknowledging trauma while navigating conversations about race and identity. In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the complexities of race, gender,...
info_outlineIn this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella discuss the concept of body coverage as a form of appearance control in cults and white supremacy. They explore the loaded language and thought-stopping cliches used to enforce modesty and control women's bodies. They also touch on the intersection of race and body coverage, highlighting the policing of black women's bodies and the privileging of white beauty standards. The conversation delves into the influence of cult language and the importance of challenging and deconstructing these harmful ideologies. The conversation explores the limitations placed on professional women in terms of appearance, the power of language, and the impact of beauty standards. It delves into the intersectionality of race and gender, the control and behavior prescriptions imposed by appearance standards, and the need for representation and diverse perspectives in positions of power. The discussion also touches on the troubled teen industry, the importance of storytelling and language, and the potential for change in the political landscape. The conversation explores the themes of identity, white supremacy, misogyny, and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. It delves into the experiences of being a woman and the challenges faced in navigating patriarchal systems. The speakers discuss the importance of self-acceptance and finding one's own mission in life. They also touch on the power dynamics within cults and the need to redefine success on one's own terms.
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Uncultured by Daniella Mestyanek Young
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Takeaways
- Body coverage is a form of appearance control used in cults and white supremacy to enforce modesty and control women's bodies.
- Loaded language and thought-stopping cliches are used to shut down critical discussion and maintain the status quo.
- The policing of black women's bodies and the privileging of white beauty standards are examples of how body coverage intersects with race.
- Challenging and deconstructing harmful ideologies is essential for dismantling systems of oppression. Appearance standards for professional women can be limiting and reinforce patriarchal norms.
- Language is a powerful tool that can be used to attack or empower.
Beauty standards are often about controlling women and prescribing behavior. - Intersectionality is important in understanding the experiences of different groups.
- Representation and diverse perspectives are crucial in positions of power.
- The troubled teen industry and its impact on individuals' lives is a significant issue.
- Storytelling and language play a role in shaping our understanding of the world.
- Change is possible, and it requires challenging existing systems and norms. Identity is complex and can be defined by both what it is and what it is not.
- White identity is often defined by not being black, while black identity is not defined by not being white.
- Societal pressure often leads to black people being marginalized and white people feeling the need to defend their identity.
- Misogyny and sexism are not the same as hating men; they are about opposing harmful beliefs and behaviors.
- Criticism and judgment from others should not dictate one's self-worth or define their mission in life.
- The pursuit of success should be redefined on one's own terms, rather than relying on external validation or societal expectations.
Sound Bites
"Body coverage is a big thing in cults, right?"
"White privilege is such a loaded term"
"White privilege is a thought-stopping cliche"
"So often the first response is just to attack because language is so primal and fundamental to us as humans."
"People have no clue what I'm doing. And you could tell, because they're just so upset that I would name myself White Woman Whisperer, that I would even address white women and not be one because then they're so confused."
"People say Swifties are a cult. I'm like, what are they against?"
"Whiteness has always been, we can't live with you and we can't live without you."
"What I hate is misogyny and sexism, and I love men that aren't that."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Yarn Discussion
01:18 Deconstructing White Supremacy and Cults
05:15 The Power of Language and Loaded Terms
10:34 Thought-Stopping Cliches and White Privilege
14:16 Questioning and Challenging Language
16:16 Creating Spaces for Marginalized Voices
17:59 The Art of Knitting: Patience and Practice
18:25 Body Coverage in Cults: Appearance Control and Conformity
25:46 Policing Black Women's Sexuality: Stereotypes and Double Standards
31:58 The Evolution of Beauty Standards: Tools for Control
36:04 Self-Acceptance and Challenging Societal Norms
39:57 The Intersectionality of Identity and Appearance Control
41:45 Challenging Stereotypes and Expectations in the Military
46:20 The Power Dynamics of White Supremacy and Patriarchy
48:58 The Importance of Diverse Perspectives in Positions of Power
52:13 Valuing Lived Experiences alongside Formal Qualifications
57:58 Rethinking Traditional Games and Systems
01:07:11 Reevaluating Goals and Finding New Missions
01:07:57 The Importance of Self-Care and Self-Acceptance
01:11:30 Defining Success on Your Own Terms