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Finding Strength in Adversity: Navigating Suicide and the Power of Self Fortitude

Imperfect Mens Club

Release Date: 03/13/2025

Your Self-Narrative: Hero or Hostage? show art Your Self-Narrative: Hero or Hostage?

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Mark introduces the topic of one’s self narrative. He says you either take personal responsibility or seek blame. Mark reads the definition. He says it’s important to know what you can and can’t control. Jim relates the topic to the wheel. The self’s in the center. Jim says he’s been more aware of the self narratives of other people he’s encountered. He thinks conflict in this country is at an all time high. Jim brings up a recent encounter where trust was lost. He feels like he’s being judged as a white man. He said that this encounter was unnecessary. Mark thinks we’ve made...

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Mark introduces the deep dive Jim took into the writing of Carl Jung and the specific topic he writes about - self talk Mark thinks most us have more negative self talk than positive Jim adds context - Jim likes stuff related to our podcast and our wheel. Particularly the self. He goes around our flywheel. When you’re challenging yourself, self talk can creep in Mark says this voice is powerful and not always positive. It’s also often subconscious. Mark reads the definition Mark reads Jung’s 5 archetypes The Good Student The Silent Healer The Starving Artist The Invisible One The Over...

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Navigating Our Response To Trauma With Grace show art Navigating Our Response To Trauma With Grace

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Mark introduces the topic of trauma and how we respond to trauma This topic came up from some family events and aging and how people respond to trauma Jim brings a framework to the discussion…The 5 “F’s” Jim fits trauma into our flywheel framework. He breaks down the 5 areas and we decide to focus on relationships and The Self We can’t seem to discuss anything without coming back to self awareness Jim got this framework from a podcast he listened to about trauma. The 5 F’s of trauma response are Fight Freeze Fawn Flop Flight Jim thinks most people opt for flight. They run Mark says...

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Self Alignment Toward That Self Alignment Toward That "One Thing"

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Mark brings in the topic in the context of our Wheel. The concept of focusing one only one thing until you momentum and can diversify with only the cash flow from that one thing. Simplicity Jim brings up the idea of focus and how that is bolstered with simplicity. He expands on our wheel and the five areas of life and the center of the wheel, the self Jim and Mark share their experience with the mainstream news. Both guys share that they have tried life with it and without it…and the impact is real. It’s a massive distraction Jim brings in self alignment in the context of being self...

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Self Identity - It's Hard To Look In The Mirror show art Self Identity - It's Hard To Look In The Mirror

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Mark introduces the topic of self identity The guys joke about their lack of Biblical knowledge around God’s statement to Moses “I am who I am” Jim refers to a podcast he heard that mentioned the we’re never ready and you just have to face your fears Mark reflects on his career and how he speaks with everyone he helps about their self identity. It’s the most important part of his work. You have to be able to tell your own story. He thinks most people cannot tell their own story. Jim agrees Mark reads the definition of self identity Mark reflects on the 1000’s of people he’s...

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Mark introduces the topic of reinventing yourself in the context of a personal brand. Both guys have been working on their brands. Jim is finishing up a formal effort with his brand Mark puts his career up as a reinvention experience Jim shares his view of how stories and brands have evolved over time and explains why he has made his recent investment of time and money working out his brand and messaging. Contextually he explains this journey as one with three parts. The past, present and future. He talks about the work and the advisor he hired. He brings our 5 key areas of life framework Mark...

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Worldview: Politics, Perspectives & People Who Still Talk to Each Other show art Worldview: Politics, Perspectives & People Who Still Talk to Each Other

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“You cannot kill a thought. It needs to die of old age or natural causes” Mark introduces the topic of worldview and the different belief systems we all have…and where we get them Jim adds the influence of the political distress specifically in LA and brings in the flywheel Mark clarifies the politics of it all and both guys laugh at how everything is about politics Jim says most of us don’t like to have our belief systems challenged, but agree it’s important to do so Mark reads Jim’s 5w’s assessment…What, why, where, when and who Jim brings up self awareness and Mark agrees...

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Mark introduces the topic by reading the definition and symptoms As much as the guys believe it to be real, it’s also funny Jim asks Mark what “Psychic pathology” means and he takes a shot Jim shares his opinion about friends and family that seem to struggle with this Jim talks about his mom. She exhibits physical manifestations Mark thinks this physical reaction indicates a pretty severe condition Jim calls it impulsive Mark calls Trump insensitive and crass. He’s a fighter and not a politician Mark talks about one friend who is very smart, but can’t remain objective when Trump’s...

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Mark introduces the topic and frames it in the context of his recent experience with having a plumber show up at his home to do some work He shares how gratitude plays a part in the discussion. He expresses a concern that the topic is so rich that staying on topic might be tough Jim reflects on the story Mark has already told him Jim expands on the “Showing up” concept Jim shares his perspective having been a tradesman and having gone into many homes and being treated poorly, more often than not. He applauds Marks treatment of the plumber Jim expands on the notion of appreciation and gives...

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The Disingenuous Epidemic - Cowards, Clowns, and Characters show art The Disingenuous Epidemic - Cowards, Clowns, and Characters

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Mark introduces the topic of disingenuous people. Both guys have had recent experiences with people who were being disingenuous. Mark asks whether he thinks people are born this way or do become this way based on environment or circumstance. Jim says he’s been using that word more often lately Mark reads the legal definition of the word Jim shares his definition. He clarifies the nuance of this activity being intentional Mark says there are different levels of it, but that some people are just stupid Jim shares his recent encounter with a disingenuous neighbor Deception from the get go. Jim...

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Mark leads with the definition of “fortitude” and “self fortitude”

He suggests the one is more internal and the other more external

Jim shares his recent difficult week due to 4 or 5 people he is close to are experiencing hardship. From illness to the loss of a young man to suicide

Jim puts his experiences in the context of our “Flywheel of Life”

“When you’re healthy you have hundreds of things on your mind. When you’re ill, you have one”

Jim shares some of the challenges his friends have. His mom is in pain, his cousin has cancer and another has upcoming surgery. Finally his colleague who just lost a son to suicide

Upon hearing the news, Jim thought he was seeing/hearing things…hoping it wasn’t true

He shares how he responded “forgive me for what I say”…He’s in a better place…it’s difficult to be a man today…”

Jim has 3 friends who have lost sons

Mental illness becomes a topic of discussion

Mark agrees how difficult it is to respond to such a tragedy

Apologizing for the cliche, Mark reminds us that life is about how you respond…not what happens to you

Jim - this is where fortitude comes in…you gotta reach deep  Jim seems to feel he was helpful based on his friends response

The guys discuss suicide. Is it selfish or unselfish?  Mark talks a bit about his mom’s suicide. He tries to put it in perspective. How the emotional experience evolved from anger to relief to sadness to loss

Jim chimes in about Mark’s story and gets perspective from it

Then Mark talks about settling his mom’s estate. Prolonging the loss…

Jim expounds on his comment - “It’s difficult to be a male”

Mark agrees that society has challenged the notion of masculinity

Mark shares that he has 4 generations to sample experience from

He condemns the phrase “toxic masculinity. He talks about human nature and his experience as a man. It’s harder to be a man than it’s ever been

Jim asks Mark to share some suicide stats. Biggest killer of men under 45

60 men every minute of every day 365 days a year

He quotes Gabor Mate and suffering

He mentions the Harvard study of men

Jim brings up depression as a root cause of suffering and suicide

Jim shares his own experience with depression

Mark says his experience with mental illness is mostly second hand. His experience in context. How his position on mental illness has evolved and how he thinks we need to bring it more out into the open

Jim says we have also lost our sense of humor and that doesn’t help. How being around people who can laugh at life is so important

Mark and Jim laugh about Jim just turning 60. He says he’s thinking about doing a roast and both guys have fun with that. We can laugh at life

Mark - the funeral is not for the dead. It’s for the people left behind…he attaches that to the young mans suicide. Celebrating their life and not living in sadness about the loss of

Fortitude can get your through and past tragedy

Mark applauds Jim’s choice of words. “Please forgive me for what I’m about to say”. How hard it is to express your sadness

“he didn’t want to be here. he’s in a better place”

Mark shares some perspective on how the living need to be considered. Also how sad people to present as sad

Nobody

Mark hopes people can take away something helpful