The Science of Self-Talk: How Thoughts Shape Our Reality
Release Date: 04/03/2025
Imperfect Mens Club
Mark introduces the topic of the power of the mind and self-talk The idea that we now have science and data to support the value of positive talk, visualization and vibration in influencing our happiness and peace of mind Jim got the idea from Billy Carson’s appearance on Lewis Howe’s Greatness podcast Jim shares the story of how we met. He was struggling mentally and emotionally and had some evidence that concussions might be part of his challenge. In his research, he found me. He flew out to Orlando and we met. Jim tells his concussion story and the details of his journey toward a...
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We just started talking. No Intro! Mark brings up human nature. He suggests that men and women have unique natures as well He says recognizing and acknowledging human nature is necessary as part of any discussion of behavior Jim asks Mark his opinion about homosexuality Mark shares his ignorance and his opinion as well as his curiosity Mark brings up the Catholic Church Jim shares his significant skepticism about the Catholic church, but he doesn’t want to go any deeper So Mark shifts the topic to “standing”. Who has it, how we give it to people and how it impedes our progress He say...
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Mark introduces the topic of agency. Jim thinks Mark is a great example of what an agent is He reads a definition and adds some context to what an agent is and how he may, in fact, be one The value of having an objective third party negotiating on your behalf Jim thinks AI will make being an agent much more valuable He discusses the agents he uses. His patent agent, for example. Agents are not as close as we are to our capabilities and competencies Agents can be particularly helpful negotiating your price. What you’re worth He talks about his most recent projects to operate as an agent Jim...
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Mark leads with the definition of “fortitude” and “self fortitude” He suggests the one is more internal and the other more external Jim shares his recent difficult week due to 4 or 5 people he is close to are experiencing hardship. From illness to the loss of a young man to suicide Jim puts his experiences in the context of our “Flywheel of Life” “When you’re healthy you have hundreds of things on your mind. When you’re ill, you have one” Jim shares some of the challenges his friends have. His mom is in pain, his cousin has cancer and another has upcoming surgery. Finally...
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Mark introduces the topic of serving others and connects it to the flywheel of life in the category of relationships/others. Jim brings up the wheel and discusses each of the 5 areas - Money, worldview, relationships, health and career/profession This episode is about others. Men and women He says there are two types of service and then shares his recent event KBIS in Las Vegas. He was selected as #1 membership chair in the country Two types of service are paid and unpaid He talks about the unpaid type - how different it is to serve for pay and to serve simply to serve “Unconditional”...
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Jim - the most important conversation you’ll ever have is with yourself…and that person is a crazy person Jim frames service in the context of bringing a product or service to the market to help people in some ways He frames this in the context of his most recent project that he asked Mark for help with - his talk about the kitchen and bath industry Jim asks. If it’s not just money, why do we seek to serve. What’s the bigger picture Both guys feel strongly that they have something to offer the world and the world has things to offer them Our experience leaves us with knowledge and...
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Mark introduces the topic and both guys have personal accounts of dealing with making themselves vulnerable Jim thinks that most of us don’t put ourselves out there Jim brings in our flywheel and the 5 areas of life and then uses his 5 W’s approach (Why, who, when, where and what) Mark reads the definition of self-vulnerability that Jim provides from his online searches about the topic Jim says acknowledging your strengths is easy, but sharing your weaknesses is much harder Jim shares his fear he experienced getting ready for a recent webinar presentation. He wonders why he put himself out...
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Today Jim and I welcome a special guest. Paul Carroll was my mentor in the start-up staffing space at the beginning of my career and he joins us today to talk about his latest work volunteering with young men in the foster care system We started recording before my introduction:). It sounded good so we decided to keep rolling. Sorry for any confusion Pauls shares his sense of urgency and the “signs” that showed up for him that got him interested in this work initially He shares how the work went from theoretical to practical Jim asks Paul if this is similar to the problem/solution approach...
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Episode 3 Bygone Era Mark introduces the topic for this episode. The notion of there being a bygone era. Jim suggested the topic given the current political landscape and the guys explore other applications of the notion in life Mark reads the Google definition Jim comes in and suggests that we have entered a new era. He brings of his 5 W framework and the concept of self awareness (Who,what,when,where and why) Jim cites The Biden administration and his cronies being part of this “bygone era” He claims everyone wants to remain relevant Mark recalls his start in recruiting and how...
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Mark introduces the episode about belief systems in the context of the fires in Southern California Remember…Jim is a California native still living in the Bay Area and Mark has lived in Florida since 1990 Two very different perspectives and responses to natural disasters! Jim says it’s personal because he has friends and family in the fire zone He brings in our tag line and framework. He says we’ll try and find some good in all of it. He cites our 5 areas with focus on worldview Jim share some of his preparation for the episode. He asks Mark to read the definition of “belief...
info_outlineMark introduces the topic of the power of the mind and self-talk
The idea that we now have science and data to support the value of positive talk, visualization and vibration in influencing our happiness and peace of mind
Jim got the idea from Billy Carson’s appearance on Lewis Howe’s Greatness podcast
Jim shares the story of how we met. He was struggling mentally and emotionally and had some evidence that concussions might be part of his challenge. In his research, he found me. He flew out to Orlando and we met. Jim tells his concussion story and the details of his journey toward a solution
Jim sought a mixture of traditional medicine and alternative approaches (me)
When Jim got to a point of resolution, he thought his journey was over
It wasn’t. He then continued investigating. This podcast was part of it. He then share his take aways from the episode
Mark ties himself in by sharing his own routine. Mark brings out the wheel and points to the self, self-awareness and self-reflection
Mark shares his memory of sports psychology all the way back to little league and high school
Jim talks about this…the “zone” and how Michael Jordan functioned at a different frequency than everyone else. He played in the zone
Jim goes deeper into the science. Frequency and vibration
Mark shares his routine, which includes, breath, visualization, meditation and pryer
Small progress daily over time
Jim talks about hi being an inventor. How no-one actually invents anything new…they pull stuff from the universe and calibrate and align it to make it unique and novel
Mark jokes about how he used to doubt this stuff and how this stuff is mainstream now - external influences
He now exercises his mind with routines daily. He is excited about having control over his own well being
Jim gives an example of how our vibrations can be felt by others. We can vibrate to get others to shine
Jim brings politics He shares what the leader of Iran said about Israel…it’s a mindset…an ideology and mindset
He transitions into how these things come from past trauma unresolved
Einstein - Life is an illusion
Mark goes back to Jim’s statement about control. We can control our thoughts by doing the work. Self awareness and overcoming/surrendering our limiting beliefs
Jim share his podcast guests reflection on how he changed his own life with affirmations and overcoming his own limiting beliefs
Mark brings up Sam Harris - If we talked to others like we talk to ourselves, we’d get into a lot of fights. Because we are so mean to ourselves
Jim brings in the power of self forgiveness thru affirmations
Mark thinks history shows this work being done as far back as history is written
Mark talks about the notion of control and how he didn’t feel he had control over his thoughts for most of his young life
Jim feels like we are held back until we resolve these past traumas.
Mark talks about how his kids started holding him accountable to his unconscious behaviors and limiting beliefs
Jim also feels that objective 3rd parties are also very helpful with this stuff
Jim shares the connection between stress and physical illness
Mark talks about his dad’s health and emotional balance based on his faith and the absence of stress in his life based on a Higher Power
Jim is somewhat envious of people that have true faith and he appreciates it more now
Mark shares how important it has been for him to maintain his mental/emotional routine
Mark shares his Oh God movie story
Mark reminds us that we now have science to back all this stuff up
Jim concludes with how our brains develop as kids through our 20’s. The guys joke about the stupidity of young men whose brains aren’t yet fully developed
The clean slate of young mens brains
Mark suggests that because there are so many credible sources of info on this, that we should all investigate this stuff more