Episode 35 | Colors for Community
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore the intersections of fashion, identity, and race, discussing how personal expression through clothing can challenge societal norms. They delve into the complexities of navigating whiteness in diverse spaces, the cultural disconnect evident in social interactions, and the significance of color as a form of resistance. The discussion also touches on the importance of critiquing whiteness, understanding cult dynamics through the Byte model, and the value of personal narratives in shaping identity. They emphasize the role of community in fostering...
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Episode 34 | Boom Boom Beige
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the complexities of platform building, the evolution of ideas, and the impact of cultural narratives on personal identity. They discuss the importance of vulnerability in leadership, the tenets of white supremacy, and the challenges of navigating capitalism and professionalism. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of shared experiences and the need to reopen historical conversations while addressing the dehumanization inherent in capitalist systems. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore the intersections of capitalism,...
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Episode 33 | Protest or Parade?
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the complexities of race, activism, and the impact of online criticism, particularly on black women. They discuss the intersection of political identity and extremism, the role of white women in social movements, and the importance of listening to marginalized voices. The conversation delves into the dynamics of whiteness in society, the power of storytelling, and the journey of self-discovery in the context of anti-racism. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for community support and the role of women in driving social change. In this...
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Episode 32 | "Lickies and Chewies?"
Hey White Women
This conversation delves into the complexities of race, privilege, and activism, particularly focusing on the experiences of black women and the reactions of white women in the context of social justice. The speakers discuss the historical and current realities of systemic oppression, the implications of language, and the importance of listening and learning from marginalized voices. They also explore the nature of groupthink, the illusion of safety, and the responsibilities of individuals in activism. In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the complexities of group dynamics, the...
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Episode 31 | Defensiveness and White Identity
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore the complexities of race, identity, and the dynamics of power within societal structures. They discuss the defensiveness often exhibited by white women in conversations about race, the impact of language, and the role of white women in perpetuating systems of oppression. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of acknowledgment, healing, and the responsibility that comes with privilege. They also touch on the significance of community and the need for open, honest discussions about race and identity. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella...
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Episode 30 | Speaking equitably with confidence
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca delve into the complexities of cult dynamics, particularly focusing on the Nation of Islam. They explore personal experiences with cults, the intersection of race and cults, and the societal responses to these groups. The discussion highlights the role of white women in these conversations, the importance of listening and learning from diverse experiences, and the manipulative tactics employed by cults. The speakers emphasize that conflict can be a necessary part of understanding and navigating these topics, and they advocate for a more nuanced...
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Episode 29 | Faces on mountains and people in streets
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore various themes including creativity during the COVID pandemic, the rehumanization of historical figures, the dynamics of cults and community, the complexities of whiteness and feminism, parenting approaches, and the military's cult-like nature. They also discuss cultural perspectives on purity, trauma, and binge drinking, providing a critical examination of societal norms and personal experiences. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore various themes surrounding control, access, and the societal constructs that shape our...
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Episode 28 | Appropriation or Appropriate
Hey White Women
This conversation explores the intersections of capitalism, cultural identity, and the dynamics of power in relationships. The speakers discuss the gig economy as a potential alternative to traditional capitalism, the complexities of cultural appropriation, and the challenges of navigating identity as white individuals in diverse cultural spaces. They delve into the illusions of saving and the societal constructs surrounding consent and autonomy, while also addressing the role of women in patriarchal systems. The discussion highlights the importance of language, the romanticization of history,...
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Episode 27 | The "Making" Money Myth
Hey White Women
In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the intersection of music, cult experiences, and cultural identity. They discuss how growing up in a cult influenced their music preferences, particularly the emotional suppression associated with it. The conversation delves into the complexities of cultural appropriation in the music industry, the impact of fame, and the challenges of navigating cultural identities. They reflect on their personal journeys of understanding music and the importance of community and cultural exchange in shaping their experiences. In this conversation, Rebecca...
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Episode 26 | You Don't Have to "Get" Kendrick Lamar
Hey White Women
This conversation explores the cultural significance of Kendrick Lamar's Super Bowl performance, delving into themes of resistance, identity, and the complexities of race and gender in America. The speakers discuss the symbolism in music and dance as forms of cultural expression and resistance, the role of white women in social change, and the importance of resilience in the face of societal challenges. They also reflect on the dynamics of privilege and the need for a deeper understanding of identity and humanity in the context of systemic oppression. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella...
info_outlineIn this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca discuss the concept of deconstruction and how it relates to body size and white supremacy. They share personal stories and insights about the control and manipulation of appearance in cults and society. They explore the impact of body size on self-worth and the harmful effects of societal beauty standards. The conversation highlights the need for self-reflection and the ongoing work required to challenge and dismantle these harmful ideologies. The conversation explores various aspects of control and coercion, particularly in relation to body size, bathroom control, and workplace dynamics. It delves into the ways in which control is exerted in different contexts, such as cults, corporate America, and educational environments. The discussion also touches on the weaponization of compliments and the societal pressure to conform to certain body standards. The importance of reclaiming agency and challenging societal norms is emphasized throughout the conversation.
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Uncultured by Daniella Mestyanek Young
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Takeaways
Deconstruction involves tearing things apart to create new solutions and solve problems.
Body size is often used as a tool for control and manipulation in cults and society.
Societal beauty standards perpetuate harmful ideologies and negatively impact self-worth.
Challenging and dismantling white supremacy requires ongoing self-reflection and work.
Emotional labor and the control of appearance are interconnected aspects of oppressive systems. Control and coercion can manifest in various aspects of life, including body size, bathroom control, and workplace dynamics.
Societal norms and expectations around body size and appearance can be oppressive and contribute to fatphobia and body shaming.
Compliments can be used as a form of control and can perpetuate harmful beauty standards.
Reclaiming agency and challenging societal norms is essential for personal empowerment and dismantling oppressive systems.
Recognizing and questioning systems of control and coercion is crucial for creating a more equitable and inclusive society.
Sound Bites
"When you tear things apart, when you spend the time deconstructing things, you come up with ways to create new things and to solve problems."
"It's not like you have good intention and all of a sudden, boom, we are not racist anymore."
"The idea of fat became inherently a negative word... unless you believe we're all supposed to look and be the same."
"Bathroom control is another thing that we always see in coercive control."
"This woman's a cult leader."
"Kids are the new slaves that we just treat."
Chapters
00:00 Deconstructing and Creating
05:40 The Control of Appearance
13:38 Bathroom Control and Emotional Labor
20:04 The Dehumanization of Children
43:38 The Value of Physical Presence in the Workplace
46:05 The Pressure to Conform to Body Size Ideals
52:28 The Role of Compliments and Jokes in Body Control
54:32 Valuing People Beyond Their Physical Appearance