How We Develop Our Self Narrative In The Context Of Regret

Mark starts off with some context about what our podcast is all about. Sharing opinions and experiences with men to help them live a more fulfilled life

He introduces the topics of self-regret and self narrative and hopes for some humorous angles

Jim brings up the wheel and how we always start with self awareness

He talks about the power of reading the definitions. He says if you don’t have regrets you aren’t very self aware “the most important conversation you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself”

Mark says regret and a bad narrative can eat you alive if you aren’t aware of it’s power. He says seeking blame is regressive

Jim talks about learning from regrets and mistakes.  It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you respond to what happens to you. I’d rather die trying than live with the regret of not trying

Mark says it’s a balancing act between self awareness and misery. Your inner voice is powerful…one way or another

Jim shares how he is often angry at himself and tries to be careful not protecting that on others

Mark shares the work he’s doing on his own narrative around his future self and how at ease he feels. His friends have noticed

Mark shares his regret about not firing his divorce attorney sooner

Jim asks to break it down and offers his own story…helping someone else instead of himself

Mark gives his example about multiple choice quizzes in school

Mark shares how scared and angry he was during his divorce and how it clouded his judgement

Jim calls it trauma - flight, fight or freeze

Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better

Jim cites opportunities exist in the learning from the regret or mistake

Mark shares some sports related regrets and how easy it would have been to hang on.

Jim shares his opinion about sports in his life

They both share the cultures they were around. Jim’s as winning and Mark’s was losing

Jim talks about asking for help, not asking, asking the wrong people…

Mark puts his divorce in perspective and see’s the wonderful side of it - his three kids

Mark shares his formula for a solid self narrative

If you want to be successful, notice your successes

The guys agree that we have a hard time noticing our success

Jim talks about gratitude

Meditation and living in the present

Mark share his morning meditation today and he was all over the place but able to come back to present

Mark shares a conversation with his younger brother about his divorce regarding how well he handled it

Jim quotes - All comparison leads to misery

Mark talks about how comparison is in your face now all day thru social m media. You have to be careful

Jim talks about being cautious about putting yourself out there on social media

Nobody really wants to know how good you’re doing

Mark talks about observations and assessment not what you’ve done

Jim says people remember how you make them feel and Reminds us that it’s better to be kind than nice

Jim tells a story about his friend regarding…has the world changed or is it the stage of life we are at. We’re running out of time and you don’t want to waste it on people with bad energy…or politics

Mark agrees it’s both. What he sees missing today is accountability

People are doing things wrong today and not getting in trouble

Mark ends with “I don’t know waaayyy more than I know”